Best/ worse/ ? did you learn today? #92visit with friends..

I am thinking pink, green and yellow-Judy wanna see a pic of what I am doing-one I did B4-just have to image some differences??

LOL, Of Course i do...
hurry up and d-mail me!
glad to see you.

Hello To All;

Terry - You have earned many points with those posts! Just have to figure out how many! :)

Betty - Thank you for your kind words. I was in your position 6 months ago...DH would point out the "signs" but then right after....Indy would have a "Puppy day" and I would have hope again. But I am okay. And Thank you all for your encouraging words. Everything is helping me through this...

Julie - That was SO SPECIAL! I copy pasted it to email....going to send it to friends and family that knew Indy. THANK YOU !!!

Sharran- You are special to me.....I thank you for your thoughts.....Still remember you were there for me with the past drama....Gosh - it seems "There's always something"......

Trisha - THANK you for the hugs.....Very much appreciated.....

Laura - I'm learning more the family tree...if you are Sage's Step Mom we have a lot in common. I knew you previously as Trisha's Daughter, but haven't yet put 2 & 2 together....
Wonderful idea - a Sage garden. I've planted Basil, Marjoram, Greek Oregano, Lavendar, Rosemary, Chives. I've killed Thyme for 2 years in my back yard. ( :) ) until recently being told it won't grow here due to the humidity.

Crissy - Thank you for the update on American Idol....it's been such a crazy week - I missed most of the Wednesday show.... Know you're glad Lil is okay.... :)

G/ B/ Learned later...just catching up with the NIght Shift. :)

Hugs to all,
Mary
Baton Rouge, LA

Mary, I've killed a lot of things, but my Thyme, Catnip, Common Sage, Chives and Marjoram I've had for about 7 years. I think I forgot to grab the chives though :o(

Don't worry about the Chives, mine are coming up and I can give you a new start....

The only reason I mind is those were the ones you gave me as a house warming present at the apartment.

These are still the same ones as that start came from...

I had such a nice surprise tonight. My son, who is an attorney in Chicago doesn't get to come home very often, but tonight there was a knock on my door, and there he stood with his hands full of take out. He was passing through the area, on his way elsewhere, but stopped to bring dinner for the two of us. We had a great visit. He does patent law and travels so often. Anyway, while here, he called his son to tell him goodnight, when Ethan found out he was here, then he had to talk with me. Finally after son left, my phone was ringing when I came back in and it was Ethan (4 years old) who said he forgot some things he needed to tell me. So we talked, made plans for his April visit, said good night and hung up. Phone rang again, Ethan again...he forgot to tell me something else, oh, it was a joke about a dinosaur. Anyway, this went on for about 5 phone calls. He calls me about once a week normally, but tonight I think he had snuck the phone into his room, and his mom didn't know....So I have been on the phone all night, but it sure was fun.
And that is the best for today.

You all sure have been busy with all your moving and planting. I have not accomplished much, still in the middle of the work on the couch. Son loved it upside down on the floor, but more than that he loved the newly painted rooms. But...I got a little reprimand for having done it myself. I think he thought I also had cleaned up the yard by myself, but I assured him I had help with that. He would not have done any of it himself, he is way too busy, and I wouldn't ask, but he would have hired someone to do it...and then he would have had a fight on his hands, which he knew all too well.

When I am on my last legs is the day they can hire somebody to do something that I can do myself. Stubborn old woman, yes, I am. That comes with age, I think.

So glad you had a good day, Mary, I know it was tough. I looked at my Daisy cat tonight, and realized she will be 5 next month. That startled me because I still think of her as a kitten.
Hope you all have a good rest of the evening. Mary, do you have a curfew tonight? It's Friday.

Sounds like a great evening Sharon.....

My cat is now 10....doesn't seem that long.....

It was good Trisha, for many reasons. This is a rough time of year for me since it is very near the death dates of my husband 2 years ago, and my best friend last year. Sort of a double whammy in April. I would like to wipe April off the calendar.

My son knows this, as does my daughter, so it helps when they take notice and try to lift my spirits, even from a long distance.

Our month is May.....I know what you mean.

Guess we all have times like that.

I'm here all,

And I'm here Sharran... I suppose you are on your toes tonight with DS keeping you company....DGS sounds so great..

I'm Understanding the connection with the date and what has happened, How are you all holding up? I am mourning myself and trying to understand your mourning process.....it does take some time.......................

Actually Mary, son didn't stay tonight, has to be at airport in nashville, leaving at midnight. But it was a nice surprise.

I try really hard to not let anniversary dates affect me. Usually I keep busy enough and am OK. I figure I am on this earth for a reason, so I might as well get on with it, whatever "it" is. Still, sometimes a memory hits, and just about knocks me to my knees. Anyway, I'll be OK when I can get outside every day. And it is nice to be able to simply say the words: " I'm havin' a rough time." For awhile I just tried to keep how I felt hidden from the world.

Sharran, I tried to hide how I felt for a long time or more specifically shove it down and pretend it didn't exist. It's way better to be open with yourself at least and if you have friends that you can let it out with that's even better. Hope you're doing better.

I just had one of those reminders myself. I just moved into a house right next to the high school I went to and I looked over at it and the memory of my best friend hit me. He committed suicide in 1995.

I'm sorry, Laura. It is truly horrible to lose a best friend, no matter the cause. I guess we have to learn to let go of the bad memories, and hold on to the good ones.

His ghost I'm pretty much at peace with, there are others that still haunt me, the memory just caught me out of the blue so I wasn't prepared for it like I am for the "anniversaries". It's not too bad, just a little melancholy.

As I said earlier, things happen for a reason, whether we can see the reason or not.

My favorite memory of him is we once went through the entire dictionary look for a word to base a zine on. We were going to get a bunch of people to write poems or stories with a single word as the basis and then compile them and see how many different ideas can come from one word. The project never came to fruition, though I still love the idea, but just those couple days were some of the best I had with him, even though it wasn't anything big.

It’s that stuff I have to hold onto to remind myself that how or when someone dies isn’t as important as how they lived.

Here’s a poem I really like

The Dash
by Linda Ellis
I read of a man who stood to speak
At the funeral of a friend.
He referred to the dates on her tombstone
From the beginning to the end.
He noted that first came the date of her birth
And spoke of the following date with tears,
But he said what mattered most of all
Was the dash between those years.
For that dash represents all the time
That she spent alive on earth
And now only those who loved her
Know what that little line is worth.
For it matters not, how much we own,
The cars, the house, the cash,
What matters is how we live and love
And how we spend our dash.
So think about this long and hard;
Are there things you’d like to change?
For you never know how much time is left
That can still be rearranged.
If we could just slow down enough
To consider what’s true and real
And always try to understand
The way other people feel.
And be less quick to anger
And show appreciation more
And love the people in our lives
Like we’ve never loved before.
If we treat each other with respect
And more often wear a smile,
Remembering that this special dash
Might only last a little while.
So when your eulogy is being read
With your life’s actions to rehash
Would you be proud of the things they say
About how you spent your dash?
© 1996 Linda Ellis

What a lovely post Laura..I just so enjoy seing you back with us..hoping that this weekend both you and Trisha can enjoy some much deserved rest..

Shar, how shocked you must have been opening the door to find your son not only surprising you but with dinner in hand..bet you were beaming from ear to ear...I can understand as well why he'd have a fit seeing those hight ceiling and YOU being the one to have painter...
So laughing, you and Ethan having all the calls, just wait until his mother get the telephone bill...until then, enjoy...

Jeff Shar says the same thing, much to busy with making a place in the world re job, committed and little time for much else, always says, 'mom, hire someone and I'll pay!' well that won't happen..

ooops here's Kyle to show me his new bike

Trisha, I've lost your thread about polymar clay. Could you post a link?

Morning Audrey, what do you have planned for today? Is the weather co-operating for you..I've been up since 5am..been to Walmart for scatter rug, tack-it for doing my sketching and of course had to stop at Tim Horton's for coffee and donuts..Kyled called me at 6:45am, scarred the beeejeeebers out of me, that early on a Saturday, but, he just had to tell me about getting a new bike..Noah got one at Christmas..

OMG whatever happened to bikes that cost $59.99???

Remember being a kid and getting a new bike in the spring...how excited Kyle is...more so that it's the bike he wanted..

They have an unusual vehicle, don't see many of them so yesterday when I was leaving work I saw them going up the street as I was pulling out of the plaze, they tooted the horn..Kyle said they were off to the bike show in Toronto..Noah needed some handlebars to decorate his and Kyle was in search of his...

I can't see any difference in this bike than any other lol but Kyle is telling me all about the features...so cute..remember cutting cardboard and attached them to spokes with clothespins to make the sound of speed....or was that just in my time..

Sharron, This is so wierd!! I have this invention where one idea can turn into 12 differant products. I can't persue it because there is too much money involved and I don't know how to go about it anyway but I did look up and see that there were only two patent lawyers in the state of Illinois up by Chicago. One must be your son. LOL. HUGS BEV

So laughing, Kyle took a photo of me as I held my hand against my heart..kepts saying 'be still my heart/be still my heart' as he told me he got a good deal..was $898.99 and he got it for a bargooon lol of $699.99..imagine..shaking my head here, guess days of $100. dollar bikes is a thing of the past..old age I guess, keep thinking we're living in days of old Greg says..

Got 2 coats on my floorcloth..8 more to go, so figure is I do a coat every 1/2 hr. and let it dry overnight on the floor it will go tomorrow mornig..

After doing the tile in the washroom a few months ago I meant to take all the sylicone from around the tub enclosure and replace with new..so inbetween waiting for coating the matt I can work at taking old sylicone off..


Shar, how much more before you've completed the re-upholstering of couch? looking forward to seeing finished project..what color are you doing it?
I SO DO HOPE your day is more exciting than mine..

How interesting Bev, you mentioned your interest in doing a patent..must be a lot of work involved as well as money...will you have sunshine today..it's beaming in the front room right now, just don't want to sit and enjoy it or I'll never get anything done...nice to see though..when you are out in it, it's awfully cold, but, sun is strong..Kyle came in, had been riding for nearly 1 hr. he was frozen..cup of hot chocolate and Tim Horton donut did the trick..

Grandma making Kyle laugh at spending dollars JUST on a bike..

On more photo before I settle in to a work morning..

Received these Maltese Cross plant for my birthday..so pretty, leaves close at dark, the flower streamers fight for the sun..I turn it away from the sun and within 10 minutes they've worked their way back to sunshine...

Going to be in the high 50s for a week so I plan on getting some things done out side. All the spring flowers are up. Hugs to you all gotta run. BEV

Hi Bev, actually he might not be listed in that way, since he works exclusively for one company, and they do only government patents/contracts....which is why he travels so much. He goes to wherever the product is being built. I don't think he does individual patents, but might eventually. At the moment he particularly enjoys the travel. I keep telling him that the novelty of all that travel will fade in time.

Yes, Betty...same as Jeff. And interesting you should mention bicycles, he does mountain bike racing when he has time, just for fun. At one time he had 7 bikes, all for different purposes. Yesterday he had ridden 20 miles just for the fun of it. I doubt if I could ride a bike around my block without facing imminent death.

I have a meeting this morning, so I am out of here for awhile. Y'all have a good day.

And Trisha, thanks for the link to the story...Melissa will have the first installment to the new one done sometime today, and she is a great writer.

Thanks, Laura. That is beautiful.

Be well.

Shar, our boys sound very much alike, his love is music and motorcycles..

Amazing what one learns when you have a young one around..Kyle dropped in on his way to his friends, lol, he's doing the entire town I gather put miles on his bike..I said I talked to his dad who was on his way for a ride on the ice and then would be over after..well Kyle proceeded to tell me Greg waterized his snowmobile..the ice breaker had been through and of course water goes over the ice and with cold days freezes again, guess Greg was travelling and it hit the pocket, main ice underneath then several feet of water frozen on top..down he went..had to work like a *&^(& to get it back out..and this morning, what does he tell me, off again on that blasted lake..could just strangle him...he knew Kyle had been around, only way I could have know....

Back to chores..just passing computer as I put another coat..now '3'

SPRING IS ALMOST HERE, can you feel it???

moving us over....


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WEll, since I stayed up til 7am reading, I just got up about 30 mins ago:)LOL I was going to just get out of bed and not sleep today, but thought I would crash by about noon, so decided against it....I have a few things to do today, so not sure how much I will be on...

Laura-loved the poem:)

Betty-HOLY expensive bike-oh my!!

Sharran-how sweet-the visit from your son and the calls from DGS:)

Here it is Audrey http://davesgarden.com/community/forums/t/956807/

$699 to $1000 is Mid-range for a reasonably good bike....... we have bikes at the shop where DH works that sell for up to $9500.

No spring is not near....we are doing a Bike show right now in heated (I use the term loosely) large out door tents and is *^&%#%^& Cold Out here!!!

Running on battery, no plug in here so will catch up with you later!!

NEW THREAD 3 POSTS UP:)