Best/Worse/What did I Learn today?chat with friends old/new

LindaK .. usually it's 2 weeks after the surgical consult .. you are having a replacement, or, is it still the 'click hip' Dx ..?
Either way, you will be so happy having NO PAIN!! ..

I keep saying, if I smoked, I would quite likely be in the hospital in a heck of a jam with my chest .. but .. I'll be OK once this coughing goes .. since I take the shots, it's keeping it longer ..

Good luck on your outing Betty .. if possible, I am staying PUT ..
Feel bad for Lorna .. her young boss has gone on his honeymoon to NY, and, the growly groughy 'boss man' from down east is filling in, and he is (pardon me) a mean S O B .. talks down to Lorna, and makes cozy with the other staff member who is a guy ..
Sure sets her back ..

Waving hiya to everyone

~M~

Tell Lorna to keep thinking of her award every time she deals with him. Tell her to talk softly and kill him with kindness. He won't know what to think!!!!!

LK stay safe with all the rain headed your way. Hope it won't affect your travels.....

Yeah Lorna, kill the SOB with kindness, just keep smiling. Make him wonder what you're up to.

Hard to believe there are still a few men out there who think we are second best..think I'd take a few photo copies of the award and post it in the office or a few places he can't miss and of course kill him with kindness!

Sun is shinning and omg the Rays on the trees gives the leaves a translucent look, beautiful
Aren't many left on the branches, so hope Ray can fit me in for my first pass at sucking them up, calling for rain so might not be this weekend.

We were talking about our trip stateside on the 13th, Janice is also going same weekend..hard to believe when she said it is a week earlier than last year when she went and was stipulated in Hamburg for 5 days because of that Monster Snow fall, yikes, didn't realize it was so early.

Thanks Barb. They are predicting maybe2 inches for us, but 3 hours east, San Antonio is supposed to get 12 Inches.

Mason, Lorna's boss, LOVES her .. and, well he should, she makes him, and the property look amazing ..
When Lorna won the award, he had it framed along with the other one she had won 6years ago .. they are hung on the wall in not only the cemetery office, but, the sales team also has one on their desks .. Ken HAS to look at them ..
And, Lorna is doing the 'killing him with kindness' thing ..
Will just be glad when Mason returns, and, Ken returns to St Catherines .. all will be back to normal on Monday..

Promised to go to bed, but, the hampers called to me ..
SAY .. do any of you use TIDE PODS ? I do, but, I won't use them with dark clothes as I think they cause 'staining' .. so far just a couple of pair of panties and a work shirt, but, I think the stuff in it is pretty potent !

Off to find some trouble to get into, need a drill, don't know how to use one, but want to hang a new toilet paper holder ..

TOODLES ..

Wavin to Katie, Sharon, Dianne, Sue ... everyone

~M~

Hard to do work, when you know you have a boss like that!

I have never used tide pods. We use a liquid detergent.

Katie, please be careful of the hurricane in your area. The news says it is the strongest to ever hit that part of the west coast.

http://www.kens5.com/story/weather/2015/10/22/first-alert-serious-weather-expected-weekend/74384246/

Don't use pods in wash either, in fact, I've been using $$ store liquid soap and find its as good if not better than name brands. Mom bought me two large containers, hard to even fit so I'll have to save the containers I have now that are manageable for me and start using it up.

Hope storm passes you all by

Time to get dressed

Some of my grands are allergic to tide so have never used it.

Thank you, Linda. I will warn Tony, too. So far it looks like the worst of it will be south of us but we might get some rain. Possibly lots of rain. Hoping for no strong winds.

I seem to have a bug of some kind. Anita was here and worked yesterday. I went out to say hello, thank her profusely, and give her money. Otherwise stayed in room. Was sick last night. Better this morning but still under the weather.

I think Lorna needs a sweatshirt with her award printed on both front and back. Men like that boss are so hard to deal with.

hugs, katie

Dag nabbit .. just had a call .. my cousin Tom and wife Carol, are living in a home between Puerto Vallarta and Guadalhara .. totally spelled incorrectly ..
They have rented a home for the winter .. sheesh .. their pool man has told them not to worry as the mountains will keep them safe ?
Katie, do you know much about this area ?


~M~

No. They need to watch the news and ask locals about shelter. We had a bad one two days after I moved into this house which ws not a house then. The tempory roof that was over my bedroom blew off and I spent the night hugging my Amma doll and getting rained on. We both survived. Lost some "stuff". That happens.

Forgot to tell you "thanks" for understanding how hard it is to just let go of the hasslews with the IRS caused by my retirement association. Twenty five years, ten surgeries, family disintegration, and all they do is say it was my fault. Given a chance, I have to wonder if I could kll one or two of them. Maybe I've watched too much "Dexter." Anyway, I could never be that neat.

hugs, katie

I hope you get rid of that bug soon Katie.

"M" I pray your cousins are safe where they are.

Might look in on the weather channel for latest developments. Just read this is the largest hurricane in recorded history, the equivilent of a huge F5 tornado.

Sending good thoughts for your family M. They are pretty close to ground zero and need to take all precautions advised.


http://www.foxnews.com/world/2015/10/23/tropical-storm-patricia-could-become-major-hurricane-warning-issued-for-mexico/

Holy wah, not good news at all, please be careful everyone, seems to travel doesn't it
Just don't send us Canadians the snow clouds

Suzanne came to visit, she looks tired!
Going to have a roast beef sandwhich, last of the roast beef and get readily for town, decided midland will be as far as I will go

Jean how did you make out with the health care providers?

Same old BS...if MIL doesn't want to do ROM exercises then they can't force her, but can let her muscles atrophy...blah blah blah. Her left hand is becoming a claw and I can no longer straighten her fingers. Had to cut her nails and when I commented on that, they started yowling that that had to be done by a nurse because MIL is diabetic...blah blah blah...then don't let her nails get 3/4 inch long!

Going to have to return to going every day for hours to see she gets what she needs, I guess.

Thanks for asking, Betty.

Terrible Jean, Lordy for what you pay she should have the very best of care..frustrating for sure!

Oh happy days, lawn maintenance guy just got here, hard at work
Says he'll be back once or twice a week till no more leaves..just think you won't hear me cry come spring re all the leaves that need raking

Tom says he and Carol have gone for provisions and are ready for whatever happens .. like me .. he always sees the cup half full ..
All I can do is wait like them, and pray all turns out ok ..

Jean .. I feel so bad for you having to have to babysit caregivers ..getting rid of professional staff, ie RNs and LPNs, has not been a good thing ..

Betty .. Lorna mulches the leaves into the grass, says the leaves act as fertilizer for next year ..
That fella has a handy little machine there ..

Going to go and look at Jean's link ..

~M~

Marilynne - Here's praying that the weather where your cousins are isn't damaging...... scary for sure....
Glad Lorna's boss loves her - too bad the "fill in" is such an SOB.
Did you get into trouble with the drill? lol

Jean - that's terrible care of your MIL - they shouldn't rely on her to say what the best care for her is. That's what their job is, to care for her, and they're obviously not doing a good job.

Katie - we're always thinking of you - what the Retirement Association did was unforgivable. Glad it's finally settled, even if you don't get retroactive $$. NONE of it is Your Fault. Glad there are no more hassles with the IRS

Betty - hope Suzanne gets some rest....

LK - 2 weeks for surgery will be good, if seeing the surgeon means that, as Marilynne suggests...


I'm off to get some more cleaning done, then more knitting :-)

Jean if you haven't already, be sure to check her toenails too. It seems to be something that is neglected. My aunts got over an inch long, plus she had a glass eye which needed regular cleaning, nope didn't happen either.

Sorry to hear you have to go and do the nurses job Jean! Seems like most nursing homes are like that.

"M", if you can, call your cousins, and tell them to get to higher, safer ground. This news says 10 foot waves are possible with string winds.

http://www.nbcnews.com/news/weather/hurricane-patricia-races-mexicos-pacific-coast-potential-monster-n449731?cid=sm_fb

The tourist magnets of Puerto Vallarta and Manzanillo were directly in the Category 5 storm's projected path, and Puerto Vallarta's airport was closed Friday out of precaution as some stranded vacationers described their inability to fly out a "nightmare."

Elder Care is not our finest hour by any means...families have become scattered and disconnected. Elderly relatives are shunted into care facilities and in many cases forgotten or ignored. Every day the news has reports of folks taking advantage, scamming, stealing or otherwise abusing the elderly whether in their homes as care givers or offering services that are not honest.

The original plan was for MIL to enter a facility close to her home so friends could keep in touch. I had a serious problem with that. We are a 70 to 90 minute drive from her home and the facility they were discussing is an additional 30 minutes from there. That meant no family member could get to her in under 2hours.

This one was chosen because at the peak of traffic, it would only take 20-30 minutes at most for one of us to reach her. Unfortunately, the bottom line/profit is a top consideration with facilities, so most days, for 100+/- patients (4 halls), you have 2 RNs, 2 or 3 LPNs. 1 LPN for wound care, and 6 CNAs per shift. Plus nutrition, admin. and PT on days.

The care is not bad, but there is a disconnect between job description for CNAs and what I have seen some of them actually do. There is a daily care sheet for each patient detailing what they need ie getting up, baths, diaper care, therapy, etc. Half the time if you mention what may be on that list, you get a blank look.....

Thanks Karen, MIL had surgery so I check every visit...she must wear socks all the time as she has a tendency to tuck her right foot under her left leg (stroke paralyzed) and when she moves her right leg, she gouges the left and causes skin tears. That is not a matter of choice, it is required. happens 3 or 4 times a month because someone neglects to put her socks on..

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drats, ipad wouldn't let me post so back to laptop for now

Jean, don't think its just the USA who is having problems with senior healthcare, sad situation for sure, can't see it improving for when I need it.

very frightening for all waiting for this storm, hope everyone is taking mega precautions..the young man doing the leaves said likely tomorrow with the winds/rain we are expecting I'd not know he was here today but must say I'm more than impressed with what he's accomplished.
I left leaves in the gardens for mulch though..must go and check tomorrow's weather

actually thought I'd go on a few concession roads cutting greenery in the morning, looks as though it might have to wait until Sunday

Got all my chores done in town in record time, big sigh, tired
best I eat my Chinese food before I want a lay down

no, not just the US who has elder care "issues"
When my mom, in a Winnipeg hospital, was going to be panelled for a care home, their decision was to ask the family to take her into their homes. I'm the youngest at 60 then, living in Calgary one day drive from the rest of the family. Next in age was my brother who couldn't look after a falling senior (at his age of 64 then, and he is an alcoholic). Next was my sister Ruth (70 and her hubby), Alice (72, with cancer, and had trouble lifting herself, let alone our mom) and her hubby, Then the eldest, Evelyn (widowed ad living alone) at age 76. Yup, seniors should look after a senior? We all said a resounding "NO". For myself,I wouldn't take my mom to another city, and away from all the rest of the family.... that's just plain stupid, but the hospital thought it was a fine plan

To be quite honest, had MIL been at all kind or considerate or even just nice, I would have had no problem bringing her here. DH and I have been married for over 43 years and MIL has been to our home twice. Once at the house in Baton Rouge and once here in Prairieville. She did not like the fact that DH and I don't buy into the name-dropping social ladder and managed to say so.

It came as quite a surprise to her when she came to the nursing home and a number of our friends sent flowers and getwell cards to her. She kept saying "you didn't tell me you knew so and so" DH would just smile and say "why should we?' SIL called and said MIL was really upset because DH never told her who all we call friends....SIL and I both had a chuckle over that one.

She missed out on so much then Jean..how blessed she would have been closer and more living to you.

Was thinking of soaking in the tub for a bit then read a bit in bed..to do that I need some treats, bought licorice but left it in the car, thinking I'm too lazy to go get it.

Should though seeing the fixings for stuffed peppers is out there

LOL Jean - she expected you two to "name drop" like she would. So, you're a socialite? hahaha too funny. Your DH was right - why should he tell her?

Nope, not a socialite by any means, Susan. We have just made a lot of friends through the music festivals, soccer and volunteering over the years. DH attended LSU and we settled in Baton Rouge in 1975. You get to know a lot of folks over the years.

We did make the mistake of bringing hubby's mother to our home. Was awful, she had at that time fairly good mobility, could dress herself, prepare her own lunch, and even run the laundry equipment. However she refused to bathe, would soil herself and hide the evidence, refused most of what I cooked. She was a terrible liar and cooked up a scheme with his sister that she would say she was going for a visit but would stay there(Las Vegas) We paid for her ticket..she planned to cash in the return part...She was only there two days when they were calling us complaining about all the same problems we had. The next morning at 7 A.M. they called to tell us they had taken her to the air port and put her on the next flight and hung up. Hubby was calling all over to find out where she was. Turns out they had sent her to Milwaukee. Hubby managed to get her put on a flight home. When he picked her up at the airport, he told her not to unpack as she wasn't staying with us she was going into a care home.

His family never did have anything to do with me, called me white trash and refused to ever come for a meal unless they ate at home first. At the end we were the only ones who had anything to do with her.

I was teasing you, Jean :-)

Karen - that's horrible (both stories - re: care of your MIL, sending her to Milwaukee, and the family treating you so badly!) Glad you got her into a care home so quickly!!!
Amazing how some families will treat others in the family. Dysfunctional, to be sure!!

That entire family was dysfunctional. His dad was alcoholic, brother shot himself playing Russian Roulette while high on drugs. Sister claimed every male in family raped her and several celebrities did too. She also claimed at her brother's funeral that he was really her son...she was 10 ...not too likely.


I honestly don't know how hubby turned out to be such a good man, husband and father.

Perhaps because he knew there was something better out there and found you, Karen.

My MIL is a functioning alcoholic who deems herself better, smarter and of greater value than anyone else. She is sharp tongued, snide and arrogant and has played favorites with her children and grandchildren to suit her own means. The thing that angers her the most is that I am not afraid of her, nor do I kowtow to her and have never had a problem saying No, or speaking the truth. Has made for some fierce fireworks, but I have always stood my ground politely and made sure that she knew that my husband and children would always come first.

Friends have told me for years I should write a book. I knew eventually I would outlive them but I didn't know it would take so long. All water under the bridge now and guess what? I won.

I think you were a winner a long time ago. They just weren't astute enough to realize it. Congratulations. ((hugs)).

My Mom always said the best revenge is to live well and be happy.

Wasn't liked by my MIL either, became a war zone when Roger passed on.
Many of us have travelled difficult roads haven't we!
Life is difficult at times but we seem to have overcome much.
Hugs

I don't think there is truly a functional family...... most just muddle along, with a few quiet moments, and a lot of bickering, fights, and periods of cold war.....