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Whoa Betty .. I am so darned careful with what kind of info I give out over the phone, and, at 5am no less.
I sure hope the situation has been 'nipped in the bud' !!!

Jean .. feel bad for your MinL .. what a situation to be in .. poor woman .. and then there's the toll on the family trying to help and do what's right.
Is her cognition good enough to make important decisions?
Prayers for sure ..

Debbie, very warm here as well .. and, muggy .. DH is sitting outside, I'm in the house in the A/C
Hope you continue to feel better ..

Katie .. sounds like you've been time tripping .. me as well .. Lorna has had to deal with those corporate bums, all talk, NO ACTION .. which is why we are at least, like you, trying to make a STAND !!
No way was I ever taught to back down from bullies .. I may have a round about way of handling it, but, I usually get the issue figured out.

Have a paper due on Monday, think I'll start the outline, then, fill in the blanks ..

~M~

Nice article. I hope it gets someone's attention.

I'm back from Kaiser with lots of meds and supplies. Had a really nice young doctor and we talked a lot. I explained about dealing with the situation and not backing down. Mentioned Watergate. He doesn't remember it (he's maybe 40) but has heard of it. I told him it can be very inspiring.

All kinds of annoying problems the last two days - got lost several times, was an hour late for the Kaiser apt, almost ran out of gas, etc. Really frustrating but the kind of stuff that seems to happen when one is already stressed to the max. However, on the way home, I passed a wrecker that was picking up a car to be towed and it brought it right home to me that things aren't really that bad. Annoying but survivable.

Think I'm OK for a couple of days. Any trip of more than walking to Trader Joes seems to get overly complicated.

Nap time.

hugs, katie

Hope the article lights a fire and gets things going.

No, MIL is operating at the level of petulant, recalcitrant 3 year old. She refuses to listen and acts like she doesn't understand what is being explained to her. She is pouting and won't cooperate..says she hurts, needs her pain meds and is too tired and in too much pain to do anything.
The skilled care place Jim, his sister and brother talked to over a week ago suddenly can't take her along with its' 2 sister facilities...happened when they discovered That she was insured and would be private pay for skilled care....not Medicaid...which means everything they do is subject to very close scrutiny... Perhaps we can find some place close to us...the places they are recommending are further away from friends and family...no way will she be stuck off in a corner someplace...
As it is, we are 1.5 to 2 hours away from her and where they are talking about is and additional 25 to 45 miles from us. Thanks for the kind thoughts and prayers.

My prayers continue Jean....
Hope this works for Lorna "M". Very well written article. I feel bad for the gentleman who tries so hard....

It's sad the truly committed have as bad a time as the ones they are trying to help.

Kerry is both amazing, and, frustrating at the same time ..
When Lorna was first getting fitted for the prosthesis, Kerry was gung ho and wanted her to have everything, because he KNEW she was serious in her commitment to get back to work and DO something with her life ..
He promised her a lot of things he couldn't make good on, and, he felt bad ..
We have had 'HUG appts' where we all do group hugs, sounds hokey, but, it really works, kind of validates all of us and our feelings ..
We'll see where it goes from here ..

AKKKKKKKKKKKKkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk .. my granddaughter got her beginners (G1) today, pulled up in the driveway and was just wired she was so excited driving DS big 4x4 truck .. poor Murray was a tad nervous .. lol .. hmmm .. what is it they say .. paybacks are an itch :-)

Sleep well guys ..

Where's Betty?

~M~

I liked the article. Feels a lot like what I'm trying to do. Very frustrating most of the time.

The doctor I was today seemed to understand my telling my body that I am going to pursue this no matter how much it objects. He prescribed enough pain killers for a month. I asked about other options for dealing with pain and he helped. I really appreciated that he didn't try to suggest that I give up and go home. Sometimes you just have to stand up and fight. What was the line from "Network:" "I'm mad as hell and I'm not going to take it any more." Well, I'm not mad. I just feel it's time to point out the abuse for what it is.

Need to rest, then contact my IRS person tomorrow.

hugs, katie

Good for Lorna, doing the article. no, "limbs do not grow back" lol.......... wouldn't that be nice.....!!
Betty - good for you for being on the ball at 5am enough, to say you'd call your bank. Banks Do Not ask for certain information over the phone, when They Call You!!

Well, this being a Property Manager is beginning to suck with this particular tenant. He'd been told that we're the people to contact, and when he needed internet/tv until we moved in, we got it for him. When the washing machine stopped working, and our landlord said that wasn't part of what he paid for, we got a 2nd hand one that Mike was going to share the cost of (he didn't - total cost of $300). When we needed an exterminator, we contacted a company and paid for it (Ker will reimburse us). Now, we moved a bunch of Christmas deco & gardening stuff into the "shared" bonus room off the garage, and Mike first complained to me and when I said it would be getting moved he complained to Ker. When I moved it from the bonus room to the laundry room (I couldn't get it any further so had to wait for Bob to come home and move it upstairs) Mike called me at home to complain he couldn't use the washing machine (that he didn't even pay his portion of.....) because there were boxes on it.... like...... a 24 yo can't move boxes that a 61 yo can? I hung up on Mike. Then when I came home (new place) Mike & I had a shouting match with him saying that Ker said it was BS that we're property managers. This morning he had his radio/stereo blaring at 6am. Oh, he doesn't believe we can get him evicted? Btw - he's tossing stuff of our off the deck, if it's on HIS side (didn't realize there was a side?) and took some Christmas lights in a box and put them outside....he's going to find out that we ARE the property managers, as per Ker. Ker has said if we're not happy with Mike that we can evict him without saying anything to Ker. He doesn't care who we have in here as long as he gets his rent.
btw - Calgary has a 1% vacancy rate.......

Just got in, was out visiting old friends, a gathering for my visit, great time..I'll host the next one June 17th

Seems life is a challenge right now for all,glad we have each other to get through these difficult times

Did read, heart went out to all of you having to deal with issues..

Gab tomorrow

This message was edited May 28, 2015 5:59 AM

Hey there, hiya, hello :-)

The sun is shining, who knows if it'll rain later .. it's not muggy, it's plain lovely out ..

Heading into the city for some shopping with DH .. he and I get along well together, EXCEPT when out shopping .. grrr .. he loses himself in the store, can't find him, OR .. he buys silly things we do NOT need .. but .. we bumble through ..
He has an eye docs apt at 2pm .. hopefully his eye pressure is not up too much (prednisone does that)

Susan .. my goodness ,, going to change your name to 'STRESS' !! Evict that guy fer sure .. he is certainly NOT a good tenant !!

Katie .. when my Irish is up .. look out ... I will not give up if I feel I am being wronged, or someone I care for is .. put yer dukes up, I'm comin on through .. :-)

Best get some housework done before we leave ..

Hope y'all are well, have a stellar day !!

TOODLES

~M~

Marilynne - I thought my name was STRESS?!?! It's not? Then why am I taking on all this stress....... lol
y'know, we went from a house we owned (property & all) in Winnipeg, and we 2 years or less from being mortgage free, to a mobile we own but not the property (and pay more than our mortgage am't), to a rental unit (where we will pay even more rent than the mobile). Are we moving forward? I think not............

Morning

Sunshine day but wind is up

Just took a/c off to heat. Lol
Thought I'd reorganize my craft room today, so much I could throw out or should throw out.

Susan, I'm not so sure you aren't going backwards, seems the owner of the house hasn't clearly defined to other occupant what rules are and what position each play.....best get that cleared up soon with a visit to the house.

"m" lead Gord to something you feel is frivolous but would like and let him buy it for you..hope his appt goes well. Great article re Lorna, system sure is broken

Katie, praying its situation has better news for you.

Jean not so good news on MIL..kind do worrisome for those of us aging and might be needing good care..hope you find aa. Phone for her closer to yours, mega travelling you've been dong with you yourself not feeling the best

Debbie, been missing photo's, like beg they are so professional so garden photo's a must..all any of us can do 'one day at a time'

good thing is, we still own the mobile, so although we don't want to cause stress to our new tenant, we DO have that to "fall back on".
I am not giving up on my home (either one), because I have to have some equity, and the mobile is it.

Positive thinking Susan
How many more years do they believe the park will be open

Sept 2017

You might not be trying to stress the tenant but he is certainly trying to stress you. Sounds to me like he is deliberately messing with you, maybe he hopes you won't move in. Yes indeed, owner must let him know what the situation is and who is in charge.

Not long at all, then you lose your equity or must move the unit, another reason to be stressed

Bought door chimes yesterday, when I'm in craft room even without the sewing machines running a can't hear if anyone is at the doors..works well, then got a lazy on, laying on couch watching 'little women' but I'm sure a snooze is in order

Wish me luck everyone. I am in San Antonio at the pain clinic. I am going to demand that he does something for this leg and hip pain.

Get em, Linda. You are not alone. I've got my cane to beat him with so he knows what pain feels like!

I woke up and started writing. Two things which I will firm up for the Board of Supervisors. Here's the good news: they don't let us "undesirables" speak until the end of the meeting which can b an hour or two. However, a lot of that stuff is not very interesting for the Supervisors so they look over other papers they have. And those papers will include my writings. Once started, they will read them - I'm on fire and have some ability to write. This could get interesting. I keep getting clearer on what I want them to understand.

Linda, let them see your in pain. This is not a time to be strong. If you feel like crying, do so. don't fake it, but don't hide it.

hugs, katie

I cried because of pain. One Dr. wanted to send me to a psychiatrist. The other just said I was depressed and wanted me to take yet more drugs. I even wrote one a letter once because I'm not good at expressing myself. He just proceeded to tell me how good he was at what he did.

Hope you get the help you need Linda.

God bless the doctors who listen and believe. Sometimes my doctor in San Diego takes notes when I talk about pain. He also tells me that he has used some of my descriptions with other patients.

Finding the right doctor can be hard but finding the wrong one - disaster.

keep going,

hugs, katie

((((((Karen))))) I understand about Drs who Do Not Listen......

Karen - we're already moved in......... so he can't say we shouldn't. He just sees everything HIS way - he's a selfish little toe rag!! Everything we've done for him, he discounts as his just dues and deserves them........... like us making sure he has tv & internet in the interim, and getting an exterminator, and seeing his washing machine is replaced (other one's motor burned out). It just seems like it's his way ONLY, and that's why I call him selfish. He's going to find out, the hard way, that we are NOT easy marks............ We are Christian, but not stupid.

Well, I saw the Dr. and he gave me a double shot of toradol and something else I can't pronounce, and it is helping. I have to come back next week for a different kind of injection, deeper in the hip joint, but have to have Andy with me to drive me home. In the meantime, he gave me a range of motion test that didn't go to well. He is looking for an orthopedic surgeon for my hip replacement surgery. At least we are on the right track. Maybe I can have a new hip for my 60th birthday in June?

Hmmm .. perhaps Toradol and lidocaine?
Did he give you any toradol tablets to take .. bad on the tummy, but, a good drug.
Looking at a hip replacement is scary, but, I was BEGGING for one at the end .. 6 weeks of post op discomfort (if that) and I was home free ..
Best of luck to you LK.

Susan .. I guess all you can do is 'project' your thoughts and hopes into the future ..life certainly does have a way of playing funny games with us ..

NOT a good apt with the Ophthalmologist and DH today :-(
Pressure in his eyes is increasing .. new script for different drops and to see the doc again in 2 weeks ..
Gord is feeling quite upset .. don't blame him ..

VERY cool here today .. rain overnight (maybe) .. Lorna is off to the prosthetist tomorrow for an adjustment .. the new socket is up a bit high and chaffing her 'lady parts' .. kind of embarrassing for her, but, not something she hasn't had to deal with before ..

Time to crash ..

~M~

Marilynne - I project happy thoughts when I can, and that's most of the time. When someone does me wrong, I try hard to think "either I needed a lesson, or it's the Lord's will and after all, it's one of God's Kids" It's tough to take either way, but if it's something I have no control over, I just have to pull up my "big girl panties" and get on with life.
Prayers for Gord and for Lorna - pressure in his eyes is not a good thing........ and for Lorna - yes a delicate place and one the Dr needs to make sure isn't irritated by the prosthetic

Sorry to hear about the eye pressure building up. What is causing it?
I hope the Dr. can geteg adjusted properly. It can't be fun walking and getting irritated like that.

What ever was in that shot has worked wonders. I still have a good buzz from it. I sure hope it keeps workin5, at least for a few days.

so happy to hear that the shot worked wonders :-) Now, do we call you "buzzed LK"? new nickname to go with mine, of Stress lol

Morning all,

Its a sunshine day here, hoping you have the same in our neighborhood

Sneezing this morning, colds are easy to get with the extremes between cold and hot/humid, will nip it in the bud.

Lindakay, thank the Lord that you are getting some relief from pain..did the doc say why 2 apps got screwed up..if you've a buzz, stay where you are with the kiddies, no driving for you missy.

"m" it's not a wonder that Gord is upset, for a year now he has battled one thing after another another, poor soul..here is hoping this med helps

I've planned my day! Lots of to do's on it then why oh why am I here sitting, feet up, coffee in hand doing nothing? L a z y

Guess my list isn't that bad, mow lawn, helper will do weeding, decide about something for a red/white/blue item for the July 1st swap, think you give out the names shortly right lindakay?

Having trouble with tv upstairs blinking off/on all the time, have different unit on the other 3 tv' sand they work fine, called Rogers, said they would come next Wednesday, no thank won't do so the young lad told me to bring the box to midland and they would replace it..hoping its that and that I don't need a tv

Need plants and a few shrubs

Sooo, I won't be lonely

Kinda damp and misty here this morning .. not going to be warm that's for sure, BUT, NO SNOW LoL

Gord is looking kind of sad, makes me feel the same way .. here's hoping the new drops work and bring thr pressure down .. the prednisone increases the pressure, but, it takes weeks to get off it .. if you 'just stop' you throw your system into a real turmoil ..

Hope the shot lasts for you LK .. I never did go with the shots, I went straight to the wheelchair and then surgery ..

Both DS and DdinL are birthday babies this weekend, Alison (my FAVOURITE (not) person) is 40, and DS is 41 ..
Big bonfire and BBQ party at their property tomorrow, Gord and I will go and put in an appearance .. these older bones tend not to like sitting outside in the damp air ..neither of us drink .. so, I figure an hour spent is better than not going .. we're going for Murray

Have 2 classes this morning, then OFF .. was going to go to Kerry's with Lorna, but she said she's fine to go on her own .. .. the ONE bad thing about a new socket, the fitting in and tweaking to make it fit ..

Best slap on some slap, and brush my hair ..

Have a sooper dooper day everyone
TGIF

~M~

This message was edited May 29, 2015 7:35 AM

40 is a milestone birthday - I remember that one lol long time ago......... glad that Murray has such a great set of parents that will show at the BBQ party even though Allison is there ;-/

So sorry that Gord is having a tough time with this, but I sure understand his sadness - hope the drops work as quickly as possible.

Today I'm almost feeling ready for a wheelchair (not really, but damn close)........this is the first move I've made where I feel so incapable. It'll take me being in a wheelchair to stop me working on it though - not ready for one now lol

good morning.
Karen sorry to hear the Dr's are not listening. That is such a hard place to be in. sending you hugs.
Betty have a great lazy morning. :)
LK you must feel some great relief on the shot Dr gave you. I can feel your pain free joy. :)
not much going on here.
weeding . maybe LOL.

Good morning everyone,

Another nice day here. I need to get some yard work done and ready my van for my time with Amma. She will be in San Ramon starting next Wednesday for ten days. I won't want to come back here every night so I'll fix the van so I can sleep in it.

Wrote two drafts yesterday. There is a County Supervisors meeting next Tuesday and I plan to go and speak again. I am in a lot of pain and pain killers aren't helping much. My friends here are a large part of what keeps me going. So I send my thanks again for all of you.

Hope Gordon's eyes bet better. That's hard to deal with. Or to watch someone deal with.

Linda, enjoy the buzz. So glad the doctor finally did something - like be there for the appointment.

Must stop and wait for pain killer to work.

hugs, katie

Just a quick update. The nursing home/rehab center just a few minutes from us has gotten clearance from BC/BS Insurance to accept MIL. They are arranging transport today for her to be admitted. SIL and BIL can return to their respective homes knowing she will be well cared for.

Thanks again for your good thoughts and prayers on MIL's behalf. Hugs to you all. Jean

Wonderful news, Jean. katie

That is wonderful news, Jean! Now everyone can relax, knowing she'll be well cared for :-)

Afternoon everyone. I am back home. So far the injections are still working. :)

Wow Jean, what a load off !! So happy this turn of events happened for you ... is your MinL ok with it as well?

Katie .. I forget what Amma is about .. she's a person, guru sort of? Hope you are able to see her ..
Hope your pain meds worked for you.

Did you get any weeding done Sue? I did, in my mind LoL .. pouring here ..

Susan .. I know I will be happy when you are done and in your new digs .. then you can slow down a bit and take it easy on those knees ..
How's your Mom and your sister and her hubby?

Guess Betty is shopping ..

Debbie, feeling better //

Dianne, do you have this rain as well?? How's the herd? My pack send high paws :-)

Should do something, very deep thoughts kind of classes today .. may share a small video with y'all , but, later ..


BBL

~M~

This message was edited May 29, 2015 12:57 PM

Ohhh lots of good news, it's a sunshine day for sure

Jean, bet you feel 50lbs lighter hearing the news about your MIL, so close, is there more family near you to also drop in from time to time?

Katie you'll feel better mentally after spending time with Amma..you won't spend the entire 10 days there will you?

Lindakay, glad you are feeling better, now don't be out in the gardens trying to get done what you left undone past few weeks..easy does it!

"m" nothing worse than spending time where you don't really want to be..that's about all I do is make an appearance if that, get to comfy at home and yes, these old bones don't do well in the damp weather, nighttime always feels so cold

Helper didn't come, 😏
Just washed up, quick trip to midland then home
Didn't get a whole lot done, Greg dropped in, put up light fixture over the quilt frame, hung my quilt rack then left..I couldn't get energized after that.

I had sent you sunshine "M". Grrr thought it reached you

Sue, checking a few thing re dates then will email you

As I'm typing my head is nodding, think I'd best get moving