♥Sweet Interruptions # 233♥

jaye, i am so sorry for you loss.

Jaye, heart goes out to you! Thank the Lord he went in your arms..

hugs

Wow, I don't know if Tiga had convulsions or not, I was at work, Dave was home watching TV and went in to check on her, she was asleep, then an hour later went to check on her and she was gone. I told him on Thanksgiving when she gets lethargic again it will be her last, I thought I was going to lose her then. I always wonder what happened, what went haywire, but I'm a curious soul like that lol. She was 14 also, 1 month shy of 15.

Jaye so sorry for the loss of your darling Rimau......I almost called you at about that time but thought twice that it may be too late.

Sending you lots of ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))))) Jaye!

Jaye, sending load of love and hugs--not easy!

Hugging you tight Jaye... so sorry for your loss. What a sweet picture I have in my mind's eye of you holding your precious boy, giving him permission to go with God now. You are one special lady to be able to do that... I'm afraid I'd just be a basket case.
I've only lost one pet to death... I was only 12, and grieved for weeks... but I couldn't bear being there when she died. Ginger was a Cocker Spaniel, 15 years old, and she raised me... only pet we had in those first years of my life.
We had 2 dogs a couple years ago... ran away, or stolen (not sure)... and that was bad enough.

Any way, my heart goes out to you Jaye... I'm so sorry you lost your baby.

Synda... my aunt had a husband like that... Spiteful SOB... gave my cousins all kinds of grief during her illness, and after she died. But, he did get paid back for all his hatefulness... within 6 months of her death, he was in a serious car accident and lived the rest of his life in a rest home... ALONE... God does tend to repay the bad deeds as well as the good ones.
Stay strong... sistah...

Jaye, so sorry for your loss, but yes he is waiting for you. Love my Furbabys too.
Rest in peace, sweet kitty...

Jaye - I just got on here and I'm so sorry for your loss. But there is joy in knowing he will suffer no more and that you will be reunited one day. Sending big hugs to you and Kel...

Jaye good idea on the jook LOL i always nag you to get some and i just need to have me some good ol mama nagging to get me to get some good warm jook in me . luvs you's and sending a T&P for your loss on the kitty.
well still sick and savannah needs a shower .
bbl

Well ,they decided NOT to move mom just yet ,maybe Friday (Fred wants her to go home after she gets out of the hosp instead of a nursing home) I know why ,all the land and mineral rights were signed over to HIM a few months ago and in Ohio there is a 5 year look back period so he would have to answer for the land (70 acres) and money from the sign on for the mineral rights and we are talking hundreds of thousands of $$$$$$......She still has too much fluid in her chest around her heart. Her heart is just so bad that I do know this is the being of the end .And truthfully I am so done with it all ...the lies from Step dad (Dale ) and my brother Fred (he's 4 years younger than I) ,trying to stand behind my youngest brother Shawn (he is 11 years younger than I) and his fight for justice ,I want to say "Mom you chose to marry this @$$ and have stood up for Fred our whole lives making whatever wrong he did just seem like it was OK........You ask for this now you've got it "!But dang, it is soooo hard to except that a mother can have 3 children and choose one over the other two. Are we not worthy of her love and for this to be so bluntly thrown in Shawn and I faces ,I am 49 years old and for your entire life to be shoved in your face as a lie is very hard to comprehend let alone to except....I am so sorry to just puck up all my frustrations on you sweet sistahs ,I have not slept in two nights and am quite emotional and so tired physically and emotionally ,I am in a full blown fibro attack and ridden with guilt that I am going to be 50 years old and want to live for myself for once in my life.All Of my life mom has laid a guilt trip one me that she needed me .....for what to make Fred's life a picnic !!!!!! Does anyone have a spare "ONE WAY " ticket to somewhere with no forwarding address ......LOL ......I want one badly !!! I am at a point that I don't even want to go to the funeral when she does die ! She always made me feel bad that she married my real dad because she was pregnant with me and stayed with him for us kids (believe me ,she did us no favors by staying married to his drunken run around @$$)....and dumb@$$ me did everything in my power to make her life more pleasant for the last 49 years because I felt bad for her and wanted HER to have a Full and Happy life. It is gut wrenching to be the blunt of a joke for your entire life ! Again I am so sorry to continue blubbering ,I know that you all have many burdens and heart aches in your lives and don't need me carrying on like a total psycho !!

Better to get it out than to keep it all pent up. You poor girl,So Vent!! Better than blowing up and having a stroke for someone not worthy of your love...
Hang in there, dear girl....

Thank You Charleen....sometimes the reality of life is just too much.........

Need to go and try to eat something other than drinking liquids ...........you'd think I would get skinny ......ROFLMBO

Synda, that is what we are here for. Please let it go, it will make you feel better!
((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))

Our shoulders are very wide and strong Synda and our hearts are always ready to listen. For most of us it is all we can do to help so we do it gladly with love for you.....

You all are so kind ......Thank You !!!

Hi Sistahs All...

Sistah Jaye, I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. A beautiful story of how he has been with you for all these years. Even though it's sad, it's still beautiful, It was with your loving arms around him , as Rimau passed...I know his spirit and beautiful memories will always be with you.
Feathers, is still with us.

Synda, Wow, All I can really say is that, We are here to listen. I am so sorry you are going though all of this...I hope that everything works and your mom will get the care she needs.

...I will tell you, I dont think you should feel guilt, you've done everything in heart and power to try and make things right. I do hope you know how much she loves you...
Sometimes I think it's just hard for Moms to express themselves to the "stronger" siblings and they forget how important it is for them to here I love you.
I DO, understand how you feel, been there in my own situation.

Anyway Sending you all tight Arm Wraps, you are always in my thoughts and prayers.

We are here for each other.......♥

Jaye still hugging you girl!

(((((((SYNDA)))))))) Big hugs for you too, get it out, better to vent here with us then go out and do some sort of physical damage to someone or something. Unfortunately there are many moms who pick one child out of many to favor, Dave's mom picked one out of 6 kids, my grandmother picked my evil aunt, maybe it's because they sense something wrong with that child somewhere, example evil, and they hone in to try to fix it (you know how women love fixing problems lol,) but the problem is, is that kids grow up and sometimes moms can't let go, so it just continues on and on and on. I don't know, just an analogy. I'm an only child and I was definitely not my mom's favorite.

I'm tired, my evening was very rough. Dave called me at work at 4:30pm saying that he's way way tired and doesn't want to cook so I should pick up something on the way home for myself, he was going to eat the leftover chicken and steak and go to bed. I decided on the way home that I just stocked the house with food so I'll just make some soup or something and not eat the fast food crap. I got home and he's in the kitchen cooking... Rice a Roni with chicken and steak in it... for HIMSELF, asked me why I was home so soon. Ok, I didn't make a deal out of it. One of his friends in Hot Springs text him and said he was at the bar. I looked at Dave, my best friend works there on Wednesdays, and we had an agreement that we weren't going this week. Dave told me he told his friend that he wouldn't be there until after 8, if at all, then told me "Honey I'm not going anywhere tonight." Well right after dinner he jumped in the shower, which isn't surprising as he showers every day after he gets home from work anyway. I felt a pack of lies coming on so I decided to read his text, he told his friend no such thing, just answered back, "K". I went to his bathroom to tell him something completely unrelated he had shaved, put a polo and jeans on, had his shoes on already, after shave on, I asked him where he was going. He got mad, or pretended to anyway, that I would even ask him and never really answered me. I told him I'm sick and tired of him not caring about how I feel, he said that was not his problem, and he grabbed his keys and LEFT! OMG I was mad!!

Me and my friend had been texting all day and she text me about 9 saying that he was there and he said I could come out if I want to. BS, by the time I got dressed and there it would be 9:45, I'd have to leave at 10 to come back home. I guess he was talking all this crap about me, saying how mean I am to him and what-not. Luckily she knows the history here and told him to shut up, who was he to come in and talk smack to her about me. He's still got that chip on his shoulder that he got when he turned 50, in May, I thought that it had fizzled but apparently not. When we were there over the weekend he was telling someone how he's the leader and I'm the follower and I can't live by myself, I didn't say anything but that's not true at all. My dad's girlfriend thinks that he feels cheated because I went out all the time when he was in CA training for his job for a month, and that I'm the one whose been cheated because he didn't work for 1 1/2 years and was able to do whatever he wanted whenever he wanted and I came to work every day. He finally got home at 12:30am and left for work his normal time, 6:30am, so I haven't seen him and I hate to say it but I really don't want to. He doesn't have to lie to me if he wants to go out by himself.

Synda, I can't add more to what our other sistahs had eloquently posted.

This I can say, it takes a very brave sistah to share what's hurting her, especially from this group.
As we all began this journey of Sweet Interruptions, it started with light banter, making happy talk with each other and painting a happy world.
As time progresses, as with real relationships, the more we know each other, we realized that we all have crosses to bear.
It's a matter of who's willing to be honest and brave enough to ask for prayers or just unburden that yoke.
Like Barb said, even knowing all we can do is to just listen with our hearts, and offer you spiritual comfort.
This is real life, and in real life, we bleed, we cry and we need the validation that we're not alone.

A little true story here I want to share with my sistahs.
In our Indonesian culture, when a family member dies, the spirit will visit the one it misses the most, after 7 days. Or a sign is sent.
I strongly believe in that, as my dad 'visited' me in my dreams precisely 1 week later.
My siblings and my mum were not surprised as I was overseas when he was ill and never got to tell him goodbye.
I told mum that I cradled dad like a child.
Mum told me that was her biggest regret that she never cradled dad when he was dying, cause the nurses were around him. She had never before told this to anyone.

When my mum died, I couldn't make the trip to Singapore, as the Muslims bury their dead the next day. So, I chose to work.
One week later, a kitty around 4 weeks old out of nowhere was scratching at my front door.
Back in Breaux Bridge then, all I had were dogs, no cats. No neighbours had cats neither.
I took it as my mum's spirit wanting me to have a companion.
During that time too, I was going through a rough period with my ex.
Rimau did his job very well, and that's why Rimau will always be special.

It was a solemn house yesterday, and strangely, I had 4 folks plus my ex that knew Rimau very well from Louisiana called me. There's no coincidences, right?
It was very comforting.

Kel made a beautiful coffin yesterday from the best blonde pine. Papa Kel said hes not willing to put him in the ground yesterday, but later this afternoon, we'll hold a little ceremony.

Thank you sistahs for your hugs, thoughts and prayers.
Whether it be one or two furbabies, I know you sistahs will give the same support and not make light of it. Lol.. in my case.. I have 22 more to go. ^_^

Crissy, looks like Dave's trying to assert himself as an Alpha male. To me it's very selfish of a husband to say he doesn't care if you're ill.
You're the kind of woman who's not the clingy sort, so why must he lie? And cooking for himself? Kel knows I'll do a Lorena Bobbit on him right away and ask the Lord for forgiveness later.

Jaye I'm not sick, I'm fine, I just didn't want to go to Hot Springs and he had said he didn't either, now I know it was just to appease me because he didn't want me to go with him, so he should just tell me that, he doesn't have to lie, I don't lie to him about it. And for him to go to my best friend and talk smack about me just infuriates me to no end.

a little humor

You know men go thru Manapause??? When they hit a certain age something kicks in and they fight the fact that they are getting older. Surprise, we all do!!!
Hang in there Girls...
We all have problems, we are human. Blessings to all.

His alta male ego is going to cause me to show him some alta male ego! And male menopause!! LOL!!

☺ You go girl, just be careful....((()))

((((((Crissy ))))))

hugs to you all
synda i m sorry to hear of your family . that is not a good thing to be around. I can feel your pain.
Its hard to realize that we will never get the love and respect from a parent .
I have had to except the fact that i will never be loved by my oldest DD. not the same but similar. it took years . to finely have to let go of it .
i wish and pray for you the best .
jaye ((((hugs)))
crissy i think deep down you know what is going on with him... you will find it in you to come to terms with it.
i pray for you sistah to have the healing heart and strenght in you . or just use his toothbrush to scrub the toilet with and let a dog lick it too :0

I've been MIA. Reading all the posts and all I can do is send a lot of hugs your way
((((( ))))). I feel I was so blessed with a very caring mom who ended up being my best friend. I was so blessed. I feel Crissyr's pain. Once the man in our lives lie to us you just can never believe them again, well it was so in my married life. He could outlie the best of them and I was so stupid to have believed him for many years. Never could figure out how you can lie with such a serious look on your face. And, sweet Jaye, so sad to hear your lost your wonderful kitty. Thank Kel for me for making such a wonderful resting place for Rimau, that is just so thoughtful..

good morning i hope you all had a good nights rest
snow day here brrrr its 9 outside
kids had a 2 hr delay
so nothing much else going on here but cold and snow.

Morning everyone! Coffee is ready!
Stay warm everyone!

It's in the 50s here and climbing. I can't imagine living where it snows most winter and having to put on layers of clothings and not to mention, finding a pair of boots wide enough to fit my legs!
Only your kids would enjoy playing with snow, right Sue?

Thanks Pegi. Rimau is buried underneath the Louisiana Bald cypress, next to my oldest dog, Ali.
Befitting as they were the best buddies... except when it's food time!!
When Ali was laid to the ground, Rimau sat on Ali's coffin, refusing to budge.
We had some rescues standing around, curious as usual... but it was the oldest rescue, Scrunchy, who chose to sniff at the box and sat on one corner. Guess he knew it was Rimau in there.
Strangely, Scrunchy who's a bully will not lay one paw on Rimau! Was he claiming his new crown? Lol!!

Drove around the countryside last night just to distract my mind.
Guess pain is pain in any degree, but I'm fortunate that I just have to deal with furbabies... when there are mothers out there who lost real babies.

Synda, I pray this day is good to you. You gave me the best insight as to what Kel goes through, as you're going through the same.
Come on Mamas, wouldn't you agree that only insecure parents want to keep a tight control on their kids?
I don't understand parents playing favorites. Mine did.. but blame it on the Asian culture where boys are much more 'valuable' than the girls.

Crissy, when Dave starts lying with a straight face and NOT feel guilt... I'd say start singing that playing cheating songs or ways to leave your lover!!! Maybe he'd get the message!
Guess his new job is giving him false courage?
Shame on him for seeking sympathy with your best friend. Maybe he can't unload to his male friends as they'd too be reminding him how wonderful you are for putting up with his unemployment!

Hi Charleen.. yep... we're only human. Prone to rocky days.

Thanks Sis Kathy. Where did you get that from? Ten Commandments Red Neck version? Kel laughed so hard.

(((((((((((Barb)))))))))) I strongly believe, you will be well taken care.
I know you'd ease your mind with your busy hands.
We love you Barb.

Time to get my behind off and fix coffee for all.

LK... Sistahs.. have a good day!!

i ran out of tea and forgot it again at the grocery store :(

Jaye funny you said that, he just wanted a guys night out, there were 7 guys and my best friend, the only reason she was there is because she was the bartender. He has me mistaken for someone else, apparently, because he doesn't have to lie to me when he wants a guys night out, I don't lie to him when I want a girls night out. He does feel guilt, he fixed me a very very nice Italian dinner last night, from scratch, with white wine. He can't make it without me and he knows it, just has to show his ass once in a while to show me whose boss, but we ALL know whose boss! And everyone praises me at the bar, saying I'm a saint for putting up with him and his quirkiness, he hears it, sees it, and knows it.

Sue I feel your pain, I hate it when I forget to get things at the store!!

Make a list Sue!

Crissy, put him in his place and let him know where you stand! Stay strong!

Sweet Marion I seen this and instantly thought of you .......... go get a pedicure and get pampered .....!!!!!!

Here is one of God's Miracles ................. http://home.myhughesnet.com/news/read.php?rip_id=%3CD9SCVQJO4%40news.ap.org%3E&ps=1018

LK if i make a list i will forget were i put it ROFLLLL
Go Girl Crissy. you get that man in line girl.
hmmm not much going on here

Love it Synda, just might have to consider doing that!!! Funny thing is, bright red is usually my color of choice.