Rm 301 "Sweet Interruptions" Hotel

Good Morning Friends,

So I was on my FB account and Doug's step-sister (the one he let move in) sends me a message that Doug can't get on FB. So I told her that they are in violation of our rental agreement and had better stop smoking in the house and her being there with her dogs!!! The guy that wants to buy the house, his partner wants to do a walk through so I told her they had better make it look like her and Frankie are not living there. She says we are just visiting...Really??? How stupid do you think that guy is, duh!!!! I'm at the point where I don't want to buy this house now. I have a feeling that my relationship with Doug is coming to an end!!! I'm not a bit upset over it either, lol. So I think it's best I get the rest of my stuff out of there...OMG!! I have so much stuff down there, lol

I am sick of tired of being taken for granted and getting stabbed in the back. He made a comment the other day about me not wanting to take care of him. Are you kidding me!!! Whenever he got sick with a cold I would ask him What can I do for you? he always told me nothing! next thing I know here comes mommy dearest bringing him meds and soda, grrrrrrrrrrrr For the last two years I was the one that did everything around that house. Even clean up the dog poop! Well, I quit picking it up so the side yard and back yard is full of poop!!! He would let the litter box go for weeks even as long as a month without emptying it. Not my cat so I am NOT emptying it! He keeps telling people that I don't cook for him! He is so picky and allergic to just about everything I just gave up!!! All he wants is that processed crap, I want good healthy food so I can lose weight and keep it off, and stay healthy!

Another cold foggy day, never saw the sun at all yesterday and that's unusual for us in the Foothills. I hate fog it makes my joints hurt :(

Hope YOU all have a blessed day, going to work in craftroom again I can hardly move around in there, lol

Hard to believe he is allergic to good food, and not the processed stuff with all the additives.
Follow your heart, and do what you think is right Cindy! There are more fish in the sea!

But if your name is on the lease, I would go to the landlord, and explain to him, you have to move out to take care of your Mom, maybe get your name off the lease?

Yes, don't just move out if your name is on the lease, you will be heald responsible for everything he does, married or not.

Years ago I had a roommate who let her Bull Mastiff poo in the house and she wouldn't clean it up, then the dog got sick and had the runs, she wouldn't clean that up either. I let that go for about 2 days, my name was on the rental agreement so I called the landlord and let him know she created a health hazard in his home, he came over when she was at work, took a look, let me out of the rental agreement and not only evicted her and sued her for all of the damages, we threw her boyfriend in the slammer for bringing drugs into the house. If I hadn't have called him I would have been held responsible for all of it.

Oh I plan on letting them know as soon as I get my stuff out. I'm also going to send property management a notarized letter stating I will NOT be responsible for anything!!!!

DGS & wife are both working and finally contributing financially. She works night and he works days. He works 3 12 hour shifts and she works 5 nights. When she is up, which isn't much, she sits on the couch with her phone. Dad is very good about playing with Amelia. He also does the laundry and helps hubby with outside chores. He will spend time on the computer but usually only when Amelia is in bed for nap or the night. He does have a lazy streak too but no where near as bad as hers. She knows if she loses this job, she will be in deep dodo. she's a CNA and asked for the night shift so there would be less to do. They are getting on her about sitting around and moving so slow too. Was the same on her last job too. She keeps saying she lost 50 lbs. working. Well guess what? Her size in clothing never changed.

That's too bad for her, she's missing out on life and is too lazy to notice it! I'm lazy too, I admit, but my goodness get out and move!! She didn't lose anything, she's just talking a big talk. She's in the wrong profession if she wants to sit all day.

Cindy that may not work, you have to prove to them that you are not at fault, and writing a letter like that may not get you anywhere. They're going to look at the fact that you and Doug are married and therefore it's your fault as much as his, because married couples communicate.
Go back home, call them, make your landlord come out, tell them face to face you went away for a bit to help your mom and came home to this, he never told you anything about it and you need out because your mom needs to be taken care of, full time, and there is no money for live in senior care. Is Doug's name on the lease at all?

Mostly what she is missing out on is a darling little girl who wants her attention. Amelia is super smart and even tells her to put the phone away. Then she starts mis-behaving. She likes to dress her in stylish clothes...Oh yeah she's a brand name slave... and show her off but not willing to give of herself. She wants the best names brands and rejects anything she doesn't think is "cute". Ummm she weighs at least 260, really "cute" doesn't enter the picture. In the summer, I'm constantly telling her to take Amelia out to play and leave the phone in the house. I can & do love taking her out to play, but she is wanting mommy time.

Doug and I are NOT married Crissy ^_^ the lease is in both of our names...but the house is up for sale and the people who are going to buy it (if we can't which I don't want to now and I know deep down we won't qualify) said they had no intention of making us (me and Doug) move. So when the new people take over I am not putting my name on anything!!!!

Oh Cindy I thought you were married, I'm sorry! I've been gone so long I don't know what's going on anywhere, someone seriously needs to catch me up!! LOL!!

Well then shoot, if you're not out anything go to the house, call the landlord, tell them what you found when you got back and you don't want to be held responsible as Doug did not communicate anything with you. Wait, was any of this on text or on email?

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Karen sounds like you need to set up some ground rules for the child. She doesn't have any more business being a mother than I do. Of course she wants the best, brand name items, she never graduated beyond 13 years old. Yes, she's a child so she needs to be treated like a child, someone forgot to grow up. How was she raised?

Ummm she was an only of older parents. Ya know raised a princess.

Nope, when I got down there last week for the walk through she was there. She hasn't moved in yet, but is there all the time because she is dating Doug's room mate Frank that is when Doug informed me she was moving in so they could split rent 3 ways.I'm not going to call the property management, I don't want Doug to get evicted he has no place to go. I'm just not going to put my name on new rental agreement. It's all confusing right now, waiting to hear from the guy to call Doug about a lender, then will see what happens. But I do know deep in my heart I won't be going back there to live :( It will be at 3 years before I could move back. I do love the house and really want to go back but with 3 smokers and 3 dogs two that pee on pads instead of going outside, it will be a stinking mess! They knew about the walk through for two days and did NOTHING, it was filthy dirty ashes everywhere, toilets dirty etc. I did a quick cleaning when I got there. So if he wants me to come down for the 2nd walk through.......I am NOT going he needs to tell them the truth that I am not living there anymore that Frank moved in!!!

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Cindy, if your name is still on the lease, you can be held responsible, whether you are there or not. If they do a walk through and find others living there, that are not on the lease, he will be kicked out.

Tough decisions Cindy. I think your right about you and Dougs relationship. I think you may have just outgrown him ? if he thinks your not worth any respect, then i think it would be a very healthy move for you. I think your doing the right thing. You got this girl. We are here for you.
Oh why do men marry princesses ???? they are worthless women. IMHO.
I mean i don't need saving. i m not a princess. I m a QUEEN and i got my SH#$T together !!!!

I thought I would get some work done today, but it is gloomy, no sun at all and I do need a little sun every day to keep me moving.

It seems the more that some of us do for our men the more they expect. I'm so guilty of that! Did he think I could handle all this junk of his and get rid of it, but then he procrastinated just like I do.

I wish I had had a little girl to raise, but wasn't meant to be. It has to be harder today with all the new tech stuff coming out all the time. I don't even put my chores before turning on computer.

The cath lab said I should hear from them this week and if I don't to call them. Wish it was over and done with.

Pegi - I hear ya, on the waiting....... so, are they saying to call on Monday, if you don't hear this week?

Yea tough decision is right!!! On top of that I have to think of my future, come 3 yrs from now. I have to save $$$ and be prepared for:

1. My Brother does get out and comes home, we can not live together especially with mom. Plus I deserve to have a life before I croak, lol But do I want to stick it out with Doug??? IDK

2. If my mom should happen to pass before my Bro gets out, there is no way I can afford this house by myself :( House payments are $850 a month, then once a year property taxes $1800 and SSDI will NOT let you save money they check your bank accounts all the time. And I still have my brother to think about. He will need a place to live when he gets out, and again no way can we live together!!! I don't want to keep this house. It needs so much work done to it that, it would be better for me to sell it and move on, or I could try and get a loan and build a new one, but then again what about my brother??

Talk about decisions!!!! LOL No wonder I'm crazy lol So all I can really do is take one day at a time~~~~ At lease the outside will look nice it's the only thing that keeps me sane, lol. Been real foggie last two days and makes my arthritis flare up :( Hopefully it is going away as they said temps will get up to 68 :) And the snow is melting FAST........As much as I hate to say it but we need rain and SNOW real bad.....................Ok been chatty enough time to watch a chicky flick I recorded Saturday "Bridal Wave" on Hallmark :)

Cindy may i add something ?
Regarding your brother. I wouldn't worry to much, unless i m missing something ? he will have a PO and they are very helpful at finding these guys places to live ect.... I hate to see you worry about so many things going on with your life. Regarding Doug. I hope you can resolve something with the relationship. I think you would be happy not worrying about Doug and how he makes you feel. I know you now this. I hope i don't sound condesending ? don't mean for it.
just worry about you LOL i tell you not to worry and i m worrying about you LOL
your in my prayers girl. You got this. i have faith.

Sue, CA does not help the parolees at all. And Placer county quit funding half ways houses. We went through all this this past summer getting ready for him to be paroled in Nov. but they denied him another 3 yrs, believe me it really sucks!!! We found a couple of places but they could not promise him a spot. His counselor refuses to help him at all, she won't even make copies of meetings they have together. There is a group called Life Support Alliance I am going to contact as soon as I get transcripts from the hearing. They help parolees get a fair hearing and get released. He was not given a fair hearing at all. The two women on the board were horrible and said horrible things about us and his AA sponsor. he has a female sponsor she is one of my biker buddies and they accused him of taking advantage of her and wanting to "jump her bones" (their exact words)

I'm just sick and tired of taking care of someone who won't take care of themself. He refuses to go to the doctor, for what reason idk. He has medicare and does not have to pay for anything. Once I can move on from this house thing, I won't worry about him because his step-sister and his mom can deal with him!!! It's Amy, I'm worried about. Poor girl is not getting any exercise and she loves to be outside. My mom likes her and if it weren't for her cat, I would probably have her here too. I feel she will die from a broken heart, she has been with Harlee since she was 6 weeks old :( I keep Harlee busy, and we are always outside

You don't have to worry about me Sue, but it makes me feel good that you do. I've been through worse, a lot worse! :) HUGGS

CINDY NOT MY BUSINESS BUT oops sorry for petes sake figure out how the fur babes and the human types can all live together.

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Good Morning Friends,

Oh man, another foggie day grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr It's still dark out so I don't know just how bad it is here. I really want to work outside, I have so much to do to get the garden area ready. Plus waiting on someone to come cut down some trees.........I hate waiting on people. If I had a chain saw I'd do it myself!!!

eweed, You probably don't know my whole story. And I will NOT live with 3 people that smoke and have no respect for those around them fur babies included! Would you like your clothes and other things smelling like cig smoke? and inhale all that 2nd hand smoke?

Don't forget there are two swaps still open for sign ups. Come and check them out!



Julie has the interest thread for a rose swap open.
http://davesgarden.com/community/forums/t/1384505/


Linda has the PJ swap open.
http://davesgarden.com/community/forums/t/1384534/

Where is everyone today???? Had to go to Home Depot and get another pitch fork I broke mom's oopsie lol And of course I came back with 20 Purple Gladiolus and 5 Stargazer Lily bulbs.......Almost got all the weeds dug up, next I want to rototill the ground but Doug needs to work on the tiller and LORD knows when that will be. Might be best if I just go it and have one of mom's friends fix it for me....It will get done faster~~~~~~~~~~~

I'm here - enjoyed a lovely lunch with my friend Norma, at a Chinese restaurant I've seen before, but have never gone to. It was nice to spend time, she & I. We've had coffee together at their place, but it's not the same when "the husband" is around lol

I am here to. Getting things packed for my trip to San Antonio tomorrow for my follow up for my arthritis doc. Going to get new glasses while I am there. And of course stopping at joanns for fabric too.

Susan, that's right if cath lab doesn't call by Monday I'll be on the phone contacting them. You know, I've felt really good the last few days. Of course, I have been lazy and haven't done anything.

My friend who has been living with an ex-husband the last 18 years is finally going to marry him. They joined a church and she said the deacons said they should get married. Now he is a nice guy, but they love to argue and neither one will back done. Gets pretty noisy at their house at times. Tomorrow is their big day and she has had some young gals come in and give her house a major clean up job. Wish my DH had been able to stay here to see them marry. I just hope it works out this time.

Oh joy, they are putting in a 99 cent only store just a couple blocks from me. One of my favorite places to get bargains. Maybe I'll get in some walking which I haven't been doing.

Congrats on their marriage!



Cindy has the birdhouse swap open!
http://davesgarden.com/community/forums/t/1385160/

Here's a lovely YouTube from the other thread. Well worth watching!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9H9IojB9iYY&feature=youtu.be

Pegi - maybe being "lazy" is what you needed - getting some rest!
Congratulations on the wedding! After 18 years together, I suppose that legally they're already married, but the deacon's right - in the eyes of the church, they're not :-)
Oh joy, indeed! I want a 99cent store near home so I can walk to it, too - I need the walk lol

I haven't heard about the job yet - surely they would have phoned or emailed by now, if I got it?
The Board meeting was last night, and they said they would let me know the next day - it's almost 9:30.......

Anyone about?

Just wondering if Susan or Crissy heard anything about their jobs.

I've heard nothing.
I did email to Rita, who's been emailing me about the interviews, etc, but it's 5pm now and I haven't heard anything.
First day is to be Tuesday.
Doesn't sound as though I've got the job though. Well, things are, as things are.

Don't give up yet. I hope they call with good news and put you out of your misery!

yeah, I'm feeling miserable right now - when the job starts Tuesday, this is pretty late to be letting me know anyway.......

Cindy that sucks on the budgets and Ca unable to help a prisoner get out and learn how to get back in society. I don't blame you for not wanting to live with smokers. yuk !
Tom came and visited. We had a nice time. He will be back this weekend. I think ? . Tim said he was going to come in this weekend. Well not until saturday night ? uhg. what a PITA !!
So i guess both men are going to stay this weekend. So much fun.... not

Keeping my fingers and toes crossed Susan.... Waiting is such a PITB......

Still no word on the job.

And still no word on the heart cath. I'm not liking waiting games. Looks like I may be making that call on Monday. Also have to take some pills back to pharmacy. When I picked them up I didn't look at them and since I still had some at home I just put them up. Well, I think they might have gotten some pills mixed up. Much smaller and same manufacturer. Maybe tomorrow we can take them back. They really look like the water pills I take. Susan lazy is what I've always been, I keep telling everyone I was born with the lazy gene.

Haven't heard from the new bride. She was married to him for 10 years, had a son with him then divorced him for 20 years and got back with him again 18 years ago. I guess it did take joining a church to make them take that step. All these years she kept telling me there is no way she would every marry him again. Famous last words. LOL

Hope Jaye is doing better, sure do miss her.

Good Morning Ladies,

Hope you have a safe trip LK, living here with mom the good stores are 20 miles away :( However they did just open a Micheal's, but I haven't been there since before Christmas. Where I lived in Marysville all my fave stores were within walking distance. Looks like I'll be saving lots of money, lol

Hope everyone has great weekend!!!

Jayegirl!!! hope you are feeling better soon we MISS YOU!!!!

Just got the call - I did not get the job.