Rm 295 "Sweet Interruptions" Hotel

That will make you so relax, LK and put a big smile to your face! You need the shot!

I hope it kicks in soon.

Jayegirl.

My heart hurts for YOU and what you are going through with Kel. If only you could take a little vacation so that Kel will realize YOU are what he needs!!!! Men and their mothers are horrible to deal with!!! LOL I pray he wakes up and smells the roses fast!!!

Oh Cindy thank you. I know I should be wishing he step on some GIANT thorns first.. to wake him up.. but the Lord has better ways to deal with evil and confusion.

Dear Jaye - just got back from a few days away to read all this!!!! I'm so sorry that things are in such an upheaval and you are getting the brunt of all of it. I send my prayers to you always but also some for the Lord to show her the error of her ways. She is truly evil and I wish there were some way for me to help. I would not leave either. If she wants a battle - give it to her. Sorry but I think Kel needs a good swift kick in the rear end. I can't believe he expected you to just walk away...

Ask Kel if he's ever heard the saying: Cheaper to keep her?

Good day sisters, I'm here with eyes wide open.

Thank you Barb for your prayers. You're another faithful warrior. I'm so lucky to be in the midst of supportive sisters and brother.

Kel who wouldn't open up, did so to my sister yesterday.
He told her that for 7 years he had taken care of bed ridden middle brother Leslie, and after Leslie died, there was a year's rest before it's his father's turn. As usual, his mother got rid of extra help, even the nurse aides that come to bathe him, saying Kel can do all that. Worst part is when his older brother came down so said to help.. his mother insisted that Kel don't take a break.
For three and a half years he took care of his father, and he's bigger than Kel. Doctor's visits, hospital stay.. home care.. all Kel.
When his father died, I had privately said to myself the wrong person died.. maybe you all felt that too since I had opened myself up here with MIL's shenanigans.
Kel thought maybe finally now, he'll get a break.. but no.. he's beholden to his promise to his father that he'd look after MIL. He thought too that James will step in, take her once in a while as he had planned.. but no.. the "F. Off" came and here's Kel again, stuck 24/7 with her.
Kel admitted he's too weak to tell her off..
So this man is broken.

I can be selfish and leave.. but I honestly cannot leave him to his mental anguish. It's all about him now, he won't seek professional help, won't cut that birth cord, and so it's all up to me. Whether to stay angry, or watch this man hurt and knowing his mother will keep on tormenting him.

Lord puts me here for him, I guess. I had lived alone, seen the world, have great family and friends.. poor guy has only one friend.. never knew what's like to have loving family.. until Dallas.
His six foot 4 frame belies the fact that he's still a child. Cookie, you recall how he can be so childlike?
Marion, that's why you love him because he hasn't shown any guiles.

So... with God's help.. I will remember that now it's all about his mental health. Because I love him, Jaye will step back and do whatever possible. I'm not in competition with his mother, I don't want to be. I don't want the devil to throw him over the edge, have a nervous breakdown and left me with regrets.

Today, I thank God for using my sister to get through him.

I thank God for all of you here, your prayers, calls and deep affection for me, have helped the tears to subside.

Here I am literally a stranger, and Karen, what can I say... thank you.
Marion, again, thank you.

I felt the hugs, the anguish in you when you read my posts.
Again, thank you. Kel is now my ministry. I am much more stronger than him. If I failed, at least there will be no regrets. God be with us all always. Love you back thousand fold!!

NO matter what happens, no matter where you are and no matter what happens with Kel, YOU are in my heart and prayers every day and here you will stay. I offer you refuge when you need it, an ear to listen if you need it and all the hugs and love you can stand........

I can feel sorry for Kel as my own dear hubby went through much of the same. His dad said I was white trash and his mother and sister tried every time I was pregnant to talk me into an abortion, even offered to pay for it. This before it was legal which made no difference as it was never something I would consider. His brother and brothers children were living off his mother until she had a stroke and the money disappeared...so did they. Just this morning I got yet another call from a prosecutors office looking for a nephew for check forgery. I tell them over and over we have no contact and haven't for years and yet they continue to call. Makes me wish we had a more common name.

On the other hand I could kick Kel's tookus for not realizing what he has in you. I took my hubby many years to realize what poison his mom was. Then in the end it was still us who had to care for her. We made the mistake of bringing her to our home (my idea). but it became unbearable and finally he put her in a home.

The only solace I had all those years was that most likely I would out live her. Took longer than I thought but finally, peace in our lives.

His parents and mine made us both cling to each other and our love and treat our kids better.

My wake up prayers start with you and Kel, everyday. Looks like part are answered, for now you know what he is struggling with. I know that you will get through to him and be his rock once again. Yes, I know the boy man...have seen and heard it from you many times....

Hello Jaye, I have been reading this thread a long time. I'm praying the Lord will touch your MIL's heart. No, I'll change that, hope the Lord will put a heavy hand on her heart and make her understand what she is doing. From what you have told us in the past. I would put her in a nursing home. If I acted like her, I would expect my children to put me in a home.

Now I am wondering if I should send this. I will keep you and your DH in my prayers.

Glad to hear you now know what the problem is Jaye, and you can now start working on making it better.
I too will keep you and Kel in my prayers!

Jaye - I am so glad you unburden yourself to us, and that Kel has unburdened himself......... so you may hear his side too.
You're both hurting, and you're right - you have strength to help Kel. Bless you, Jaye!

Lizh - only Jaye can truly say what she feels about what you've said - I'm not her.
I know we all feel that anything that's said in this room is a-ok as long as it's said with love & concern....
:-)

Jaye, you are in my thoughts so much during the day. Yesterday when I was trying to untangle the darn morning glories from around my rose bushes I said a short prayer that Kel can get untangled from around his mother. It was a tough job, but think I have most of them put in the green waste barrel.

My Sami isn't feeling good and has lost weight. She was too chubby to begin with. Can't afford a vet bill now. Someone in the family should have been a vet. I'm wondering if she is missing Darwin, he gave her lots of love.

Thank you for that vision, Pegi!!! As you saved the roses, so shall we save Kel from his mother! God hears you.
Sami is grieving for Darwin, I'm sure. You just need to spend more time, than usual, with her. Maybe I can send Lola up there, so she'll have a friend!

Hey there Liz, I am glad you chimed in. I don't know whether her two sons can put her in a nursing home as she's still independent, and only 65. She has her own place, but her estranged son has a lien on it so the bank which she owed 25 thousand, can't seize it. I don't think James will kick his mother out..
You can say anything you want, and I caught your jest!! Check the membership page to make sure your kids aren't members! Lol!

Thank you so much for heartfelt words sisters. You all are my angels.

Barb, Karen.. I have never encountered such a venomous MIL. My first was an angel.

Yes, LK, Cookie, Susan, I can now truly say, it ain't me!!

I am not ashamed to beg for prayers. Thank you for making it as part of your daily ritual. I am so ever grateful. We are united in prayers that God will take control of Kel again and heal his mind.

It's a bit better today. I bit my tongue, pampered his stomach and you can say it's training day 1.
God is with me always, and I have been extremely 'docile', remembering it's all about him now.
Some old friends don't understand my decision, but they supported me too. The old Jaye would have walked out, but again, it's no longer about me.
I have my release when doubts start playing in my head.. and that's reciting "Our Father". Got to redirect my mind on Him, only on Him.
It's amazing that the words that poured out of my mouth to him, aren't the familiar ones. All God's...the devil has a formidable foe!

Love you all!!

Jaye , I know that you know how deeply I love you and Kel both ..........There are very few moments that you both aren't on my mind and in my Prayers ! I know he is still in love with YOU ,he just fell out of love with life (when that happens you want nothing or no one) .It can happen ,as I know first hand !When too much is put upon the mind and heart they shut down emotionally and mentally.I know how devastated you have been ,but all this coming to the surface has been a blessing .Because now the fighting can ease and the healing begin.Sometimes we ,as the smarter, stronger sex (no offense Ernie) have to put our feelings and desires on a side burner for the greater good .We are the nurturers of our children ,fur babies and yes of our physically strong men .We kiss and fix ALL the boo boo's ,even the ones that our mates parents have inflected .

Sue,I can't believe that that WITCH could be free ......EVER !

Tomorrow Ryan and a coworker are throwing a retirement party for another coworker that is a very sweet man .So he worked his 12hrs shift last night came home this morning showered and then drove to Canton (an 1 1/2 away ) to finished up shopping for his part of the food .So the dutiful momma I am, told him to just go to bed as he had been up almost 24hrs ,and I'll take care of a few things tonight and then help him come tomorrow .
The menu is :
Pulled Pork
Corn on the Cob
Baked Beans
Macaroni Salad
Broccoli Soup
and Cake
Heck and I'm pooped already ,4 dozen ears of corn cleaned and bagged ,ready to steam and 7 bunches of broccoli cleaned and cut ready to make soup in the morning and get baked beans in the oven .......... He went to GFS and got the pulled pork pre-made .But Ryan is a very good cook and doesn't mind me setting and guiding him .I was so grateful when I had my surgery 2 years ago that he wasn't working and did ALL the cooking ,even Thanksgiving Dinner (his first one and was awesome).I am very blessed to have such a wonderful caring son! I never miss an opportunity to tell him how appreciated and loved he is !!!!!

Send My Love,Hugs and Prayers to You ALL ...........

good morning.
Jaye i m glad to hear your heart has reached a verdict :) Yes i think God put you and Kel together as he needs you. A loving woman . He needs that. I hope he has reached an area and see's that he can't continue his behaviour with you . I only hope the both of you can get some relief soon from this turmoil she gives. I m not a religious woman but i do send you both healing energy and think of you daily.
YOu know i sing a song when i feel that negative thoughts are running in my head and or people too. " im going to wash that devil right out of my hair , I m going to wash that devil right out of my hair " well its silly but it works for me LOLOLOL .
At Toms this weekend. Tim pulled another one of his stunts ! i m a bit overwhelmed so i m not going down that road. LOL
Had a great time at the club . We saw a band we enjoy. Tom danced the night away with me :)

Thank you for the support Synda and Sue T.
My heart is much more calm this morning, able to digest some solids.
I love you all for not condemning my decision. Never want to see this man whom I love so much, being abandoned emotionally.

Sue, I've never danced in public with Kel. He hates dancing, but will do a nice slow one in the privacy of our home.
Good thing anyway, now I'll be sliding on wheelchair on dance floor!! Lol!!

Nice cool day and usual Saturday for me, that is, get furbabies food at DG and yes, I'll treat Kel to Chinese food maybe... or Wendy's. His choice. Saves me some standing over the stove time!

Still haven't planted the DLs, been too wet.

Ernie, you can come out now. We need you to liven up the thread with man talk!!! Hello Linda!!

Bless everyone here, and have a good day.

I can tell you're much more at peace. So glad....

Jaye, did you send me this? Or maybe you, LK? I got it last year and over wintered it on my kitchen window sill.

So good to see your feeling better Jaye. Have a good day!

Cookie, that is so pretty! As far as I know I have never had one that color! Very pretty!

Good morning Ladies I woke to another day of rain. The plumber is coming to replace my throne , the Kitchen sink and the dishwasher. Maybe we can cook some real food now. I am tired of take out and meager meals. Maybe I should get a nice roast and salt and pepper it, lightly brown it and put it in the slow cooker with red and yellow potatoes, some carrots, a few sweet parsnips and a couple big sweet white onions quartered and spread out on top. Finish it off with a head of crushed garlic. Steam some broccoli and cauliflower florets and that pretty much covers it.

l to r 1. old dining area un changed. 2. wall to be removed. 3 wall went down easy. 4 old kitchen.

Synda just a dream just a dream.

Jaye hope this day finds you some relief

Well, got my avatar, but don't know why it is sideways. Maybe better practice again posting it.

Going to be a cooler day, according to weatherman. Could use a few now. Sept. heat was miserable.

My book is due at the library so I guess I'll have to take a short walk over there. I can take a peek at the neighbors who moved out and see if the flower pots are there. Saw a black SUV over there the other evening.

Wow, Ernie! That's going to be a huge kitchen!! Neat, really neat!

Well Ryan is off to get the party set up and rolling (this woman's arse is poop ,Ryan and I have been cooking since 8am) it starts at 4pm .Hope he has a good time with a nice turn out and no problems.I'm sure that there will be left overs ,so I won't have to cook any thing for a day or two .......fingers crossed .....LOL.
Rick is working three hours overtime today so he won't be home until 4ish .Usually he only works until noon on Saturdays .
Ernie the kitchen is Beautiful ........We love a nice tender ,juicy roast and all the fixins ,YUMMY !!!!!!
This woman is going to lay across the bed and rest her weary bones until Rick gets home .....

That black SUV was parked in the driveway by the empty house and a young woman came out and waved to me. OI course,. I had to go and talk to her and found out they had brought the house 3 weeks ago. Said it was a short sale and they have 2 boys one I think was 3 and the other was 8. So, there go the flower pots, but I guess I wasn't suppose to have them. Busy cleaning and painting and I know how that goes. All my rooms need new paint, but that isn't number one on my list.

Ernie, you are going to have a beautiful kitchen, mine right now needs a good cleaning.

Synda, hope the party is a good one.

I agree. The remodeling is wonderful.

Sorry you did not get the flower pots Pegi.

Oh man, Ernie, you will have the most beautiful kitchen in your town! Of course, the only decoration Linda would need is the tv :D Hey, it should be on football!
I had never tried parsnips. Maybe next week I'll look for some. Do you cook them like you do potatoes?

Might have to cross your toes too, since you're a good cook Synda.

Pegi, is that you?? The avatar that is?? Cute little girl with glasses. :)
Oh well Pegi.. you lose the flower pots but gained two boys!!! Lolol!!

When I first came here, the interior is WIP. That was 12 years ago. Today, it's hurricane central!

What are you up to LK? Going anywhere Sunday?

Again, thank you everyone for your continuous prayers.

not much going on here.
went to the bank. got my grape juice at the Farmers Market down over by Cookies. So i can make grape jelly. nice place but pricey !
went to eat at BBQ, got a free piece of cake woohoo. New bra worked !!!
Watching the Buckeye game. then we will eat dinner out.
When should i start a thread about the Sistah Gathering at my place ?
Ernie wow nice kitchen !

oh boy the buckeyes are getting a run for their money. Some nice touchdowns from the other team. Tom is a bit mad at me but you got to admit they had some awesome plays !
score is 33-28. ok i was just corrected by MR. Smarty pants TOm . High score goes first. LOL
oh hey Stanford won wooohoooo happy camper.
hopefully buckeyes will win. Tom gets cranky when his team looses LOL he is already yelling at the tv .

Sue, maybe after Christmas. You won't be harassed into planning and managing the thread.
Me watching LSU now. Takes the mind away.

Cookie, check your dmail. :D

Tell Tom that I'm happy Stanford won!!!!! Sorry.. but I can't stand Urban Meyer. HE's a traitor!

The Retirement Party was a hit ! They all tricked Bud .His wife even told him that they had to go to someones Anniversary Party ,he had NO clue it was for him until he walked in .....everyone got a big laugh out of that...........LOL.
Broccoli Cheese Soup 2 Gal left ,none came home ....Super Big Hit
Corn on the Cob 4 doz left and less than half came back ....Big Hit
Baked Beans 2gal left and 1gal came home ....Not too bad for beans
Pulled Pork 6lbs left and about 2lbs came home ....So So
Macaroni Salad 3lbs went ,not sure how much went home (Ryan said it wasn't very good) ,but not much was eaten
Ryan seemed exceptionally please at how things turned out !
But not bad for only about 20 or so people coming ,it's not a real big factory. Mostly was Bud's close family and then the guys that worked on Bud's shift .One of the Big Boss' came though ....

LOL
Tom laughed

Morning everyone. Coffee is ready!

Greetings from wet soggy Arcadia, Fl. We had 4" of rain last night and it has started all over again!!! Busy making plans and lists (if we can remember to check them :-) ) of things we need to do for the family reunion this coming weekend. Checked out the Wildlife Center yesterday and I think Sue made a great decision moving the location......rental was less than what we have paid in the past for Rent a potties!!!!!!!

Jaye, always in my thought and prayers. Kel is in a very difficult place but his first commitment is to the vows the 2 of you made on your marriage day. Humm, do you think the MIL could be declared incompetent?

Need to go, battery starting to run down.

Morning everyone!

Hey Marion, sounds like you are busy getting ready for the family reunion. Have fun and take pictures please? How many are coming to the party?

The most important thing in any big gatherings such as a family reunion, is RELIEF CENTRAL!! Yeah, the privies of port a potties!!!
Lol! Oh Marion, I'll be praying the weather co operates again. Old happy memories can balm our spirits, and after the weeks of tears, may laughter return rightfully to you.

Ryan must be strutting like a peacock now. Mum's a good cook, and his buddies will be singing in your praises to him, at work.
So Synda, when can I have my cheesecake?

Ernie, I looked at the pictures again, and wish it's MY kitchen!! No changes, maybe a bigger tv where I can follow my college football!

God is good, LK. I'm here to enjoy the love from everyone here, and He hasn't given me a death sentence.

Have a good week my family.

not much going on here.
worked at apple orchard.
savannah has volleyball tonight.
need more coffee !