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Brrrr, -15 without wind factor so thought I'd move us to a new room, lordy can it be one of your Florida rooms, although beautiful, much tooo cold for me.

We moved from here:

http://davesgarden.com/community/forums/t/1293404/

Don't know how I did it, left the bag with my fabric/paints at home so nothing here at the office to work on. Going to be a long/long day for sure unless I go to the craft store on my lunch lol

What do you all have planned for the day?

Morning everyone!
Sorry you left your paints at home, I hate it when I forget something!
I have never seen that movie inception. I will have to check it out.
Look what's blooming in the spare bedroom! Pink and yellow angel trumpets! it smells so good in there at night!

Good morning,

Linda Kay that is just beautiful!!! Thinking of your dad this morning, hope it is a good day for all of you.

Betty, that sounds like what I do. Make a bag and a plan and leave it on the table! lol

Critters are fed, coffee brewing and I need to trudge through the snow to fill feeders. I have a beautiful set of cardinals out there in the tree. Might make
them some peanut butter seed toast! lol

No plans for the day but cleaning up after the weekend.

Shannon is exhausted. Targets power went out very early yesterday morning, and as of Noon all food was inedible. They have a process that all
food has to be accounted for, before it is dumped....and even their storage coolers in the back rooms have to be "counted" and then thrown out. She
wasn't supposed to work today but got called in to help empty and clean all these coolers. As of 8:30 p.m. last night, still didn't know what caused
the outage.

Good morning

Betty, Inception is a movie about stealing thoughts/ideas directly from someone's mind while they sleep. And in this particular case, Planting an idea rather than stealing one. You may find this link helpful...I love it for finding anything about movies...International Movie Data Base

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1375666/

Debbie, hope you and Paul had a lovely anniversary. Hope his back is healing well.

LK...good thoughts for your Dad. How cool on the brugs.

Mary....hugs to you...take a deep breath and concentrate on the joys you have.....the rest will pass, you just have to make sure it doesn't run over you when it does. GRIN

Hope you all have a lovely day

Jean

Debbie, do they donate some of that food, before it is a total,loss? It sure would help the homeless shelters, churches, or nursing homes?

They can't Linda. Health department says if the power is out more than so many hours...it has to go as inedible. That was one thing she asked them
but because of legalities and such, they are not allowed too. There are many shelters up in that area, so maybe someone from the store called and asked
but Shannon was told not allowed.

One of the problems she said is that although the freezers were not working....the lights were generator powered, and that made the heat in there even
worse.

Such a waste of food!

Which goes back to nearly half the world's food production going to waste. There should be a way that says if the food still has ice crystals it can be donated and the company get a tax credit/loss write off. What a shame.

Opening the coolers it is smelling NASTY. These kids are gagging on the smell. No one knew the power was out til they came into work yesterday morning,
it went out "sometime" during the night.

Trust me, Buffalo and that area is one of the biggest in food donations and helping others, if there was a way to donate it...they would have. Maybe they have, I just don't know.

Brrr still can't warm up, fingers are numb..think they turn the mall heat down at night then up in the morning, takes 1/2 the day to get the chill off..almost at 1/2 the day and still no go..thank goodness I brought another micro heater into the office last week as they other bit the dust..need a warm bath.

Paul was in for an hour this morning, in a good mood..told me a story thought that made my blood boil..actually cooked it..

Not sure if I get explain the situation without you guess shaking your heat and not understanding but I will try..

Roger's sister Marguerite has a son, about 46, not a boy but boy mentality. When Marguerite got divorced when the children were young she married a man only to find out he molested many family members..Suzanne being one, Marguerites son and daughter, my SIL/Cousin Linda's young lad and some that we never found out about I'm sure.

Well Marguerite always blames herself for what happened, always goes beyong what a mom should do when she knows her son needs help. For a few years things seem to go ok for Allan, he himself had a boy and a girl..about 4 years ago he divorced, wife living up north in Parry Sound and he (Allan) came to live with his mom..

More than a few times he puts the blame on her, she moved him in with her, pays his child support and bills, his upkeep and goes without. He is mentally abusive to her, Marguerite is 65 and although she comes to all family for help/guidance, she takes it but for a second and then it's poor Allan.

While my MIL was alive, Marguerite lived with her, way of keeping her appartment with her son living there and staying to help with daily chores and looking after her mom. Now that her mom has passed on she went back to her apartment. At about the same time Allan decided as his ex was having problems with their 15 year old son to bring him to live with them..it's only a one bedroom apartment..because tv is in the bedroom, Marguerite sleeps on the courch and the two loafers in her bedroom, giving orders when and where they want their meals...grrrr

The last few weeks Marguerite has moved in with a friend who lives two floors above her apartment, her way of keeping an eye on what is going on in her apartment and helping her friend who just lost her husband..a few days ago she went back to her apartment and he was abusive, nobody knows if physical
but for sure it's mental abuse.

When marguerite was staying with her mom they (family) transferred my MIL's vehicle into her name so she would have wheels to take MIL to doctor's, shopping, visiting etc. well Marguerite found out some how he got a 2nd key made and with no permit drove and smashed the vehicle. another ggggrrrrr. I just heard that this isn't the first time he's taken her car and smashed it up, she took the blame for the last smash up and couldn't get insurance because she didn't want her son to go to jail..always the helping mother.

On Friday I guess Marguerite called Paul and wanted to know if he would help her out. He said 'absolutely NOT' he has tried week after week, month after month and year after year and when he tries it's always 'poor Allan' so Paul said I do not want to hear anything about this situation, it will be resolved when you are in a pine box because that is the ultimate ending to you and your son!

BIL Robert on the other hand, thought he would help her out, Marguerite didnt want to call the ex so Robert called Allan's ex, told her that her son was not going to school down here, was drinking/doing drugs and needed to be in her care. That evening the mom came and picked up the grandson..best thing that ever happened to him, going back with his mom.

Guess on Saturday Allan drank, took drugs and late evening called Robert and said he was going to kill him..knowing the rage Allan was in he decided to call 911..no sooner had he done so that Allan kicked Robert's door down, started to attack Robert, within minutes police arrived and charged Allan and Robert taken to the hospital.

Linda my SIL/cousin works for the courts, she called to say he hasn't been up in front of judge yet.

Paul said the Robert told Marguerite who was once again with the 'poor Allan' bit (she is her worse enemy) that should she decide to post bail and take him under her wind that they were through, he wanted no more contact from her because this has gone on far too long..Suzanne is tired of it, Paul, Robert and I'm sure several more of them in the family..playing time is over.

So I'm waiting now to hear from Linda..sure hope Marguerite isn't stupid enough to go against everyones wishes

Jean, thanks for the info..both times I watched it and didn't get the ending..was he still dreaming or was he back into reality??? will check out the link

LindaKay, love your pretties..you are so lucky to still have flowers opening..

Debbie, wouldn't have thought they would lose everything over just one night, guess thought with the heat it defrosted quickly..don't think I'd try to eat anything that came from there..

Guess it's a holiday for you all, Martin Luther King day. still think of my trip to Memphis and the Ann Hotel where we (Suzanne and I) were the minority and got name called..

Perhaps Marguerite's real problem is that she can not abide being in her eyes "a failure" as a Mother or being by herself.

It sounds as if Allan would be better off in a group home with regular supervision and a structured environment, or possibly even jail. Elder abuse is a big deal here. Robert needs to bite the bullet and press charges and stick to his guns....here in the states that would be considered at the very least "assault with intent". He has the 911 call to back him up, not to mention the trip to the hospital. It may well be the kindest thing Robert can do for Marguerite.

Just got off the telephone with Robert..says he's hurting today!

Story was slightly mixed up but not..

When all this was coming down on Friday and Allan called to say he was going to kill him he went to police station to report it and put a notice on him that he wasn't to come so many feet from Robert. Police then went and talked to Allan.

Then on Saturday about 5:30pm Robert saw Allan, all dazed heading towards his side door..it was locked, but guess Allan was kicking it enough and Robert pushing against the door to stop him from coming in that the lock let go..telephone was right next to the door so between trying to keep him out Robert was able to dial 911..then the fight started..guess with all the screeming, a few neighbors came over..Robert had his hands while a neighbor sat on him waiting for police.
Police laid charges as well, resisting arrest, and charges on behalf of Robert.

Robert said he was just talking to Marg, imagine, court called to see if she would sign for bail and take him under her wing until court date..Robert said she said no but I know Marg, it's no this minute, she will think about it and go sign..be very surprised if she stuck to her guns

What is the old saying? Sometimes you have to be "cruel" to be kind....Allan needs more help than Marguerite can give him.

That's for sure, experience over the years of helping and it getting further out of control should tell her something..it hasn't helped one bit.

Just talked to Linda who works at the court said she got the report, Allan will be in a cell until Wednesday..if by then nobody signs as assurers then he will stay in prison until his case comes up.That gives Marg pleanty of time to get calls from him re guilt trip and to change her mind.

Maybe the kindest thing she can do is to refuse his calls...kinder for them both. Sounds like the family needs to sit her down and lay it on the line...let the courts take care of him or she will be completely on her own with no further help from the family....and mean it.

Jean, if only you knew how many times the family stepped in, tried to make her see the harm she is doing but that nagging guilt reminds her on how many lives were changed due to her marriage to Rocky and the abuse not only sexually the kids in the family experienced...to this day Suzanne still has nightmares

Can someone disable Marguerite's phone for a few days? Or take her out of town.? katie

She is sixty-five and I think that to cut her off from the family is not realistic. It would leave her at the mercy of her son and if he is physically as well as mentally abusive this could end up with her dead or in some really horrible situation. If the family actually cuts her off I they willing to live with what could happen to her? If not, the best thing would seem to be to do what they can to see that he stays in jail. Take her on a road trip for a few days and don't let her near a phone. katie

Katie, 3 brothers in the city have tried to convince her to go live with them, one who has several lodgings offered her an apartment but she just won't go..believe it or not, only way she might and that is a big might is to think that is exactly what her family will do..the other side of the coin is she is putting her brothers, mostly Paul and Robert in harms way..I have no doubt that if he continues in this manner someone will end up losing their lives. my opinion only!!!

You said if he's not bailed out by Wednesday, he will have to stay in jail until his case comes up. Can her family keep her away from a phone until Wednesday? That's what I was thinking. If they could lock HER up until he is safely jailed they take away her option of bailing him out. katie

I'm sure they will be supporting her over the next few days...will talk to Suzanne when she comes in!

Quick trip to Fabricland,nothing much left in the Barrie one, bought 4 meters of green tones for binding of placemats..

picked up veggie tray seeing I've mega chicken/sliders left over from last night

not only did I forget my craft bag but my meds as well..will be a hot bath, into jammies and a relaxing evening for sure...Monday's aren't my favorite days of the week

Betty, what are sliders?

French say 'glissant' english 'sliders'

a dumpling of sorts..I take a cup of chicken broth from the pot in which chicken breasts/potatoes are cooking, put the cup of broth in the refrigerator to cool , when cool I add it to flour along with salt/pepper to form a ball.. I roll it out almost like pie crust..cut in 1" by 1" squares and when broth is boiling I add them..kids love it, think mainly because my grandmother would make it for them, their dad and now I from time to time

Sounds just like my Moms dumpling noodles for sure.

comfort food right?

Definitely was for her. I don't usually eat dumplings...but the smell brings back great pleasure

Sure got a blasting from Linda , a good what for..lol of course Suzanne told her about our adventure going to the casino..every time Linda is with us and she sees one (our girl loves to gamble) we pass right on by.

Promised once she has her hand operated on and feeling up to it I'll take her to Buffalo.

Did you and Paul finish the closet Debbie?

It is dry walled and sanded. He said he has to do another coat then we can paint and get the bar back up for hanging clothes.

won't take long to do that..but seconds to fill it up again..how is Paul's burns??

I'd sooo like to paint my craftroom, need some filler for the drywall and pick a color, lost my energy, rather play than work..maybe I should call a few of the girls and ask them to help..needs organizing, unused craft materials thrown away..

Checked in a bag my mom sent a few weeks ago..about 6 or 7 procelain heads (woman) and mini hands, just hate throwing these things way but should or I'll never get the room cleaned

He hasn't been complaining about them, and the bandages from tape caused more trouble. SO has it open to air except when working.

Well you could make me my very own Bessie Lou doll. O:)

lol I'm sure that would be a treasure.. big reason to dispose of them.

Glad he's none the worse for the burns, could really have been tragic.

Hello everyone. Boy you all have been busy.

Congratulations to our boy Jake! Boy oh boy Judy you must have been bursting with pride. Oh and to be the mother of the bride soon ......... that's exciting.

Betty I was concerned about you yesterday when I heard Hwy 11 was closed down because of a 30 car pile up. I was racking my brain trying to remember if you were staying put but then remembered Greg was coming to dinner. The sliders sounded wonderful. My mam used to make something like that too.You get right home, heat yourself up and get some meds into you.

Katie, I love the way you think - keeping Marg away from the phone is an excellent idea. Sure hope reason will prevail and she will realize how much the rest of her family loves her and wants her safe. Were you able to plant beets in the tires too?

Mary how is it going girl? Work does not sound like a happy place for you still. Any chance this woman will be promoted out of your office??? That's usually what happens to a person like her up here.

LK, so glad your visit with Dylan got you lots of snuggles. How is your back? I am sorry to hear your dad is having problems. It is always hard to get older people motivated to exercise when pain is involved. I know we had a devil of a time with my mam after an operation. She was like your dad and just wanted the pain meds. It took her awhile to recoup because of that too.

Marian I am so sorry to read about the home care worker being dismissed but as you say there has to be more to the story. My dad had a male home care worker who he just loved be dismissed. Dad and several other people on this fellow's caseload were devastated. In the end it turned out 1 woman laid a fairly serious charge against the guy (which was later proven to be false) and the agency just fired him, not giving him a chance to prove himself not guilty of the charge.

Oh Debbie - plaster dust!!! My goodness I still am finding it in some crevices. Of course dumping the shop vac that I had used to clean it all up with didn't help the matter. Grrrr! I am still cleaning up from the mess I made.

Just was watching the Obamas do their walk and couldn't help but look at their protection service. Man these men do not look happy. They look so tense ya gotta wonder if they are paid enough to make it all worthwhile.

Okay need to clean out the ashes. I had hoped I could get another night out of the woodstove but seeing it is so cold here I think it would be wiser and safer for me to clean it out now.I really don't want to be cleaning the ashesa out at 3 am because I misjudged.

Susan congrats on the extension of your temp job. It sounds like they appreciate your talent.

Dianne

Betty, sure hope that he stays in jail for awhile, it will be better for all around!
Those sliders sure do sound good! I will pick up a chicken next time I am in town.

Dianne, so glad to finally popped in, we were worried about you.
My back is doing good, and that shot in the hip has helped a lot!

Katie, how are you feeling? Is it warming up for you down there?

White outs, not the nicest drive home...


Sneezing, just made cup of neocitrin, should help..

Glad you are playing it safe Dianne and cleaning the stoves/pipes before a few more cold nights of wood burning. How is diesel enjoying this weather? Must love to play in it. Saw my sister had photo's of 2 Doberman pups, too adorable, looking for a home for both...nope, no dog for me!

Greg was here and changed the furnace filter, omg, I think 1/2 the dust in the filter was from our Christmas project! Lol. Guess I had best changed it more often.

Listening to the news on my way home, a man charged and jailed for assault on his wife was released only days ago, you guessed it, he murdered her, stabbed then set on fire..somehow I think our judicial system is letting a lot of people down. Believe she was 27

Diesel is loving this weather Betty. Yesterday and today he had a playdate with another Rottie. My friend Steve and his family rehomed a 2 year old Rottie. The Rottie's dad is in the armed forces and was just reposted to Afghanistan. He and his wife have a 6 year old Rottie and a baby. The soldier was worried 2 dogs would be too much for hs wife with the baby. Thor is gorgeous and beautifully trained. Thor and Diesel played and played. It was great for both of them. They were both very gentle with Quill who wanted to get in on the fun. They seemed to realize how fragile she is and played very gently with her. Made my heaart sing!

Ahes emptied, stove stoked. I am heading for a lay down. Pounding headache, am hoping I can fall asleep and sleep through it. Dentist tomorrow - maybe that is what is making my head ache!

Keep warm everyone. Bitter cold here, just like Betty's. You too Debbie?

Yes, it is bitter here, they are opening shelters all over the place where possible. Up to a foot of snow expected between now and Wednesday evening.

Sure is nice to be all cozy, safely tucked in bed..best thing I did when I bought the electric fireplace for the bedroom was get one that crackled as though it was wood burning..makes you feel even warmer listening to it. Lol

Talk about stormy out there..weatherman got it wrong, said squall were hitting the Bruce and nothing here, wrong, sure wish I had transferred the phones when I lleft work.

Dianne isn't it amazing how dogs know when another dog is ailing and play with but not as hard as they do with younger dogs. Diesel must almost be full grown?

Diesel won't be full grown til he is 18 months old. I think he is about 8 months old now....large breeds need to grow slower and then fill out.

That fireplace sounds so so nice. Roads are bad here already.

Betty - hope the family gets Alan the help he needs, through the police! He at least needs to be in a care home, cuz he obviously can't handle himself, and Elder Abuse is terrible!!! They're the ones who enable the abusers, too............. keep forgiving them, etc.....