Best/Worse/what did I learn today?chat with friends..

I have never been more angry than I am now..
Fed up would be putting it lightly. Always saying I'll send you Mom Debbie, wouldn't do that to my worse enemy!!!

On msn Sharon told me this morning that my mother called my SIL Kim, who calls her every day, who takes her everywhere and gave her the whatfore for calling me and telling me how mean she is to Jim..AT NO TIME did I ever mention Kim calling. She called Kim f *&^% B*&^%, told her off and hung up on her. About an hour or so later she called, Kim did not answer, left a 'I'm so sorry!' Kim is just so fed up..but on the bad side Mom told her I told her Kim called me with this info..liar/liar pants on fire!!!

I tell Sharon I will call Kim, noooo don't do that, you will only make things worse!!! tell Sharon I'm tired of all this drama, want no more to do with it and will tell Fran so when next she calls..Sharon tells me if I do it will put her over the edge as she is suicidal..I'm being mean when I tell Sharon, then let her do it, she doesn't want to be here, not happy to be on earth, doesn't have a kind or nice work for anyone so we each make our path in life, if that's what she picks then so be it..aren't I terrible but this has been 4 longs years, you cannot NOT say something in fear she will go over the edge. She is right out of it, how I thought she was on a level base yesterday is beyond me. As well she fought with Brian, saying he was telling all the neighbors that she is crazy, that she takes drugs, that he's telling everyone her business, paranoid for sure..

Ended up on bad terms when I stopped gabbing to my sister who only reads key words and missed half of what is said...tired of my mom..called Greg to ask him my brother Mike's (Kim's husband) cel number? Greg wants to know what is going on because I'm so stressed, says Kim called him the other day for my work number, now I want Mike's number what is going on..tell him I'm not about to talk about it, he's mad because I don't confide..drats/drats/more drats..

Don't want to talk to mom, will let my phone go to voice mail and call everyone else back..at work I'm not so lucky, I just want to tell her 'if you don't go get help then forget my number' is that wrong??? a crazy lady all wrapped up in charm..

Now can you tell I'm soooo very angry and upset...all I want is my simple quiet life, everything on same level, rarely an up and a down...shaking my head...I don't drink but if I could find something right now I think I might down a bottle... then watch out

You know my pet peave...is someone who does these things, upsets the applecart and then telephones and says 'I'm sorry' Well sometimes sorry just doesn't do it!

Crissy if I lived closer 'd go with you..enjoy those type of shows!

((((Betty)))) Sending peaceful thoughts and warm hugs. Your DM's behaviour, atrocious as it is , is not worth you making yourself ill over.
We're all here Betty. You know you can count on us.
Dianne

This message was edited Feb 23, 2012 1:17 PM

Wiping a tear with shaking hand

tks Dianne

((((Betty)))) All I can say, besides I love you lady, is that your DM is truly sick....her behavior is a true sign of that. She needs help beyond what you and your family can provide. Sharon, Kim and everyone else....should understand she is playing everyone against each other....to make herself NOT SICK. It is everyone elses fault but hers. Another sign she needs help.

Pick up the phone, and call Kim. YOU have done nothing wrong...and you are going to be the "fall guy" if your DM keeps this up.

BIG hugs, deep breath....and remember, it is an illness...it is nothing personal to anyone. She is just way off balance and something is very wrong.

Well said Debbie. Betty, our Debbie has said a lot in a few words. Remember YOU have done nothing wrong. Right here beside you Betty.
Dianne

Hey Betty, popping in to let you know that Sistah Judy's pc crashed! So that's why she's been quiet. She's finally over her crud. So now she's back to doing normal stuffs burning all that pent up energy!

Betty, so sorry you are having such unhappiness with your Mother...I agree, call Kim and let her know what you actually said and did...leave nothing to happenstance, that is how feelings get hurt and relationships damaged. And, I would tell your Mother her behaviour is totally unacceptable and she needs to see a doctor...no excuses.

New Orleans Ladies are a little bit Jezebel, a little bit naughty and a whole lot of fun....grin

On a brighter note for you....here is some tour info for your trip...

http://www.experienceneworleans.com/sights.html

http://www.bigeasytours.us/?event=offer.type&productType=GHOST&mpt=354&ctt_id=1734560&ctt_adnw=Google&ctt_ch=ps&ctt_entity=tc&ctt_cli=11x23045x69377x512405&ctt_kw=new%20orleans%20voodoo%20tours&ctt_adid=7428680532&ctt_nwtype=search&gclid=CN3i-c_XtK4CFS6FQAodnn_vPg

http://www.getyourguide.com/en/tours/united-states-new-orleans/?lid=370&sort=rd&partner_id=CD951&cmp=English_US&gclid=CM_VhfHYtK4CFdEDQAod9UV_RQ

http://www.tourneworleans.com/

anecdotal info on tours
http://www.tripadvisor.com/ShowTopic-g60864-i34-k4717616-Swamp_tour_and_voodoo-New_Orleans_Louisiana.html

thanks everyone..I know she is sick Debbie, the very high's, the low's, the self destructive manner in which she get's through her days is overwhelming to me..like others I've been through a lot, a death, a divorce, a seperation of family re Roger's death but each and every day you wake up trying to see beauty and kindness of others..trying to do kindness and just wanting to exisit without drama, know that's a bit unreasonable but to some degree no reason not to have it so to sit in an office or be at home minding my own business and this happen, well there is just no reason for it and I want to stay away from it..

All of us know she needs help but everyone just wants to pull away because you'd never convince her of getting help..maybe if we all stay away a lightbulb will go off and she will realize she has to do something..

headache city

Betty, I do know it is painful, but there are ways of taking care of it....conservatorship and medical intervention for her own safety (she did threaten suicide over the dog) are but a couple. If she poses any sort of threat, she needs to be dealt with in as straight-forward and caring manner as possible, not only for her own well-being, but also Jim's and for you and your siblings.

Loved the sites Jean..have to do some research of the area, bayou, graveyards etc that are not all full of tourist, the off the beaten path kind of places (I know, could get into mega trouble couldn't we) but those are the places I most enjoyed. Just looked at the cocktail tour, it sounds wonderful..the steamboat I've done but the other girls will not have .. we always have a meeting before heading out listing what we would like to see..for me it's the strange in New Orleans and the caves near Branson Missourri which I so loved the last time I was there on my way to Texas..wow, sure wish I could find the 'Million and one callico print' town I visited..quilting town, omg I just don't understand why I didn't make a note of it's location..know it was between Branson and St. Louis..with me taking off beaten path routes likely I'd never/ever find it..

I'm just rambling..trying to calm down..almost lunch

(((((((((Betty)))))))))) I'm here for you, hon - whatever you need!
Your mom is sick........ get her some help!

Hello to All !

Betty - I would be very upset too... agree with the others... call Kim.. .she probably already knows it didn't come from you... maybe time to have a meeting with everyone...withOUT mom there and take control of the situation....
LOL Jean beat me to it... everything I was going to post is covered on those sites. They also have swamp tours in Hammond, 45 minutes north of New Orleans... do you like the Plantation Homes ? Nottaway is pretty and it's on the Mississippi River. Maybe Jean & I can take you to Rosedown, which is North of Baton Rouge. Or the Myrtles - the most haunted antebellum home. Remember I have a family reunion in Destin (supposedly) 7/31-8/2.

I say supposedly because dsis is suppose to be planning it and don't think it is getting a lot of interest.

Barb - Thanks for the kind words re: the girls. I should do as Betty reminds... go back a few years and read on my comments to see how far we've come.

My night shift has bee AWOL lately ! LOL... I'll pop back in a bit (HUGS)
Mary

I may have a Grandson tonight! Andy just called and said she is having contractions every 3-4 minutes. They are on the way to the hospital, and as soon as I know she is in real labor, and dilated, I am on the way! I will keep you posted.

Drive safe LK. This is exciting! Heather got that quilt done just in time.

Was looking for some shrimp etouffe at your MIL's last night Mary while DH watched Son of Gun. Actually I quite like parts of the show too.Is everyone so dang polite and respectful in Baton Rouge Mary? No one was waving at me though saying "come on down" for dinner.lol

Don't know how it happens but I need to wash my upstairs floor again - grrrrr - actually I do know, the dogs are coming in with wet, muddy feet. Storm warning tonight so the snow could cover up all the mud by tomorrow.

Time to wake DH to get him ready to go to sleep.lol Vicious circle here some days trying to keep him awake. Know it is just his body taking care of him so of course I would never say a word. Actually I am glad he can sleep through some of this.

Like Mary, will BBL
Dianne

OH LK ! What fabulous News ! You are THERE...aren't you? Or you came back home.... ???

Dianne! Yes Ma'am we are SO respectful and polite in the "Red Stick" LOL.... You didn't see me waving this time either? I really need to watch that show... DH out of town 3 nights so TV hasn't really been on....

Sounds like the pups need to learn to wipe their feet!

SO GLAD tomorrow is friday ! what a crazy week !

Wish I could clone myself Saturday. I had planned a Disney Meet (dismeet) ...THEN the hibiscus club decides to have the Dupont Nursery excursion. Probably best I miss anyway... I can't spend $ on plants right now....

(HUGS)
Mary

I am home... Waiting so patiently! Only a 2 & 1/2 hour drive!

Yes LK - please post as soon as you hear!! Waiting patiently with you................

Well, i was going to go to bed...now we have a baby on the way! You expect me to sleep through this?

Been a rough day. DD The Child...was approved for the apartment and will be moving in next week. One of those on the fence situations.

Rumor has it through the weather liars we are supposed to get hit big time with snow. Some minor flurries tonight...from 1 to 4 inches. THEN...tomorrow night through Sunday night, snow with high winds. Some areas up to 1 ft....but the wind will make any amount of snow worse as up to 50 mph they say. Glad I have my new door and will make sure it is locked!

DH and I went grocery shopping and are stucked up pretty much, and DS is not coming home this weekend.

Linda Kay....should you start driving and have them call your cell phone? This baby isn't that big....and at 3 minutes apart...he could break all records. NOT that I am anxious or anything. LOL Long as he arrives safe and sound is all that matters.....and you stay safe too!

LOL... YES LK - please send us updates !

Deb... maybe this is all for the best ? if anything will make her grow up FAST !

((HUGS)) all...

Mary, I know I have said this before. But this isn't a normal situation. This is a child who went through 3 years of chemo, she had cranial radiation...and well, she suffered some long term problems from that. Her comprehension on certain things is just off. She is very very trusting of strangers and can be taken advantage of very easily before she knows what is happening. Its just not a cut and dry "she will learn and grow up situation" like with "normal" kids.

Well, I am turning in.....sweet dreams and hugs back

AH Deb... well you know best....

I was just hoping it was like my situation with DSD1....moves out and learns how good she has it... but you know the situation best... I do not...

Please forgive me if you have told me this before... I do tend to be "Pollyana" and hope for the best but that is a very different situation indeed....

Hope you get a good nights sleep and hope something happens to change that situation..... ((HUGS))

What is she going to do for furniture Debbie? Is it a 1 bedroom or a junior?

Guten Morgen everyone!!!

Oh LK how exciting...wonder if by now you are already a Grandma!!! Hope/pray that the delivery goes smooth and Mom and Baby are healthy. Waiting for news!!!

Oh Betty...I can not even imagine how you must feel with all the Drama your Mom has/is causing. I can only agree with the others...it is time to take action, have a family meeting (your sibblings, their spouses and Jim...but NOT your Mom) and put all the cards on the table, talk it out and try to come up with a plan of action (re. talking to her doctor).
As sad as it is Betty...things will NOT get better with your Mom and having an "ostrich" approach to it won`t make it any better or make it go away. If you all just sit and wait and heavens forbit she would go of the deep end and kill herself, you all will have deep regrets and will blame yourselves for the rest of your life. At least if you try to get her help and something would happen you can all say "at least we tried". That is just my thoughts about this all. Sending you lots of hugs and I pray for strength for you and your family.
Maybe this weekend you could go for a nice long walk, just by yourself to clear your head, take deep breaths and enjoy the Beauty that is around you. And if you feel like crying, then cry and if you feel like yelling then yell (just make sure you are alone out there...lol...don`t want to scare the bejibbers out of people...lol). We all will be walking right beside you all the way and giving you strength to get through this.

Laura...I am soooooooo happy that you like your bed!!! Hope your back issues improve greatly with the bed. How is little man doing? Did his tummy issues settle?

Barb...I soooooooooo wish you lived closer....hmmmm how about next door...lol...we would have Norm and Bernie dig is a Tunnel so that during wintertime we don`t have to go outside...lol...Can you imagine all the trouble with fabric shopping we could get into!!! How is Norm's leg...sure hope he follows doc's orders and takes it easy. I too love doing puzzles, I find it so relaxing...well unless you are looking for a darn piece and can`t find it!!! lol

Susan...I sure hope and pray that you and your DH find employment soon!!!

Debbie...is your DD moving far from you? When my son moved out last September to the City I told him that our door is always open and that if it doesn`t work out he is more then welcome to come back home (I think it was a reasuring for me then for him...lol). so far he is doing pretty good and he surprised me with his cooking skills!!! I thought for sure that this child will only live of frozen pizza and fast food, but he is actually cooking amazing meals!!! And all of a sudden he eats/ cooks things he NEVER ate at home...lol...He takes pictures of the meals he cooks and posts them on facebook and holy jumpens they look awesome (better then mine...lol). Makes me very proud for sure. I guess what I am trying to say is...as hard as it is to let them go and us worry if they are going to make it out in the world...they sure can surprise us of how capable they are on their own. Hope and pray it will work out for your daughter too!! Ohhhhhhhhhh and how are the new shoes??

Mary...sure hope you and Jean can meet up one day!!! If it is just halfway as great as me meeting up with Dianne and Barb you both will have an awesome time!!! It is amazing how it feels to meet a complete "stranger" (well not complete...but just know each other through online convos) and the incredible bond that is formed right away...like talking to a long lost friend/sister.

Dianne...I hope you won`t get pounded with the stupid snow we are supossed to be getting!!! I sure could get a job as a weather forcaster with this #%$%!#$ body of mine...any change in pressure or snow/thunderstorms it reacts with headaches and Fibro pain. Last few days I have been taking it easy...sewing a bit...watching TV and reading. Stay safe and biggggggggggg hugs for you and Warren!!!

Shirley, Suse, Bev and Judy...please drop a line so we all know you are ok!! Prayers and hugs coming your way as well!!

Hmmmmm...I hope I didn`t forget anybody...in case I did...bigggggggggggggg hugs for everyone. Have a wonderful day and stay safe and sound and enjoy the Beauty around you.

Love Thea

Good morning,

Dianne it is a one bedroom...very small kitchenette (4 X 10) and a living room that is about 8 X 12. I think the bedroom is probably about 12 X12 square. Its a good starter size. She can take her bed with her, I have a small kitchen table and some other excess furniture she can borrow. Need to get her a small set of pots and pans and dishes as she gave hers for college to DS. We will go up and shop in my attic first! lol

Cross posted Thea, Good morning!

DD will be about 25 miles west of us. And her big sis is right down the road within 4 to 5 miles. I find all of that reassuring. ALL of the kids know we have an open door if they ever need a port in the storm. This one just wants to be "normal" so much like her other friends, and she sadly judges what her sisters did and where she should be. IT doesn't work like that...and she won't listen. She works full time (leaves for work at 1:15 and gets home at 11:30 pm) and that is living here. THIS adds more than 20 miles to her commute...which she even struggled with living here. Remember the two deer incidents in November. At least spring is approaching and she will have nicer weather...but still...its a hard issue.

Still no baby! They kept her for a few hours, and told her it was a false alarm. She was not dilating, so they sent her home!

LK,my goodness that baby does not want to come out yet.lol Betcha he is waiting for March like Mary encourages him to do.

Snow storm was about 2 hours late getting here but it sure has hit. Thea, you and I could be a Weather Forecasting Team - my body is 99% probably 100% accurate - that's sure a heck of a lot better than the Weather Liars.

Back in a bit Santa Warren needs some help.
Dianne

This message was edited Feb 24, 2012 11:11 AM

Susan, I don't know if you have had the opportunity to hear Carlos Nunez....a Celt born and raised in Spain

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C1bffYZdRm0

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=grHOcHIhXr8&feature=related

Morning, storm did not materialize, but I am still working (playing) from home today! Dianne, did you get any of the bad weather? Listened to what is going on east of here seeing Greg left at 4am for Newfoundland..here is hoping he has food travels, storms near east coast!

Ooops, started this at 7:00

Had company, be back in a bit

Tadaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa...

Thought you all need a little cheering up today...

Just finished up the little chocolate Easterbunny Wallhanging (Barb you should recognize some of the fabric!!!)

Dianne so in about 2 hours give or take it should be here...YAY...NOT!!! lol

LK...guess the little one is not ready yet!!

Debbie...hugsssssssss Girlie...you'll see things will all work out...not much else you can do then pray and hope for the best.

And back to sewing...lol

((((((((((((BETTY))))))))))))) You all DO need to have a meeting. I was dating a guy whose elderly grandmother went off her rocker exactly like your mom is doing, they took her to the doc because it was far from normal behavior and it turns out she was having seizures because the medicine she was on was giving her a chemical imbalance in her brain!!! They switched her medicine immediately and she was back to normal by the next day.

ARGH LK, that poor girl, how annoying. I'm sure she's ready. When's her due date again?

Debbie I hope that works out with her, poor girl is trying so hard and I don't really blame her, I know I didn't want to live at home after I turned 16 but had to stay til I was 21.

Well I have a ton of work here that's not going to do itself so I guess I better hop to it.


This message was edited Feb 24, 2012 10:32 AM

Dr. told her she is due, early to mid March. She is 38 weeks today. I guess 40 weeks is the due date, and there is also a full moom in early March, so who knows???

Love that bunny Thea!

Love the bunny Thea. Just wait till you have grandkids = they will have the most delightful things to wear and hang on their walls.

Snow is falling heavily, sleet to follow.Oh joy! Glad you are working from home Betty.

Heather just posted on facebook, that after her ultra sounds last night that she is due 29 February. It should not be too long now!

Soft snow falling right now...if it were up to me it could stop right NOW...lol

Debbie how is your snow situation!!

DD is home sick...poor girl can barely speak, totally congested...gave her meds and send her back to bed.

We have no snow as yet, just lots of rain. A very heavy rain. It is 48 out there and by 6:00 p.m. is supposed to plummet to upper 20s and change to snow. This is an ice storm situation if all this rain freezes on the trees.

Helloooo.
From the land of LOST!!!

Can't even tell you how I've missed you all.
My computer is trashed and not just a little...Who trashed it will remain a secret, ROFLOL but I'm just glad it weren't me.
Thank you Sistah Jaye for getting word to all...

Alissa has saved the day and brought her laptop, said we can use it!! So Julia got up and running, woohoo and 100 cheers for my girls.

Sigh, i am still sick, but at least the worst is over, at least I hope. Yep finally got out and about yesterday...Yikes now both Breenie and Jake have it...

Betty, I am so sending you humungous ARMWRAPS!!! Sure hope things get "right" with your mom. Sure do agree with everyone about getting her to the Doc. and also, yes do call your Kim...But I think if everyone is aware of mom's recent condition then whatever she is telling people should be just words? I hope you will get it straightened out.
We love you! Your Christmas quilt is beautiful, big smiles, I found my block too!!

Oh Barbara!! What wonderful banquet you and Norm went to! How very, very proud you are of Grand Son!! Love the photos...I hope that Norms is doing much better with his knee? I vote, the larger of the puzzles, lol but be prepared it could take months to piece together. I love puzzles, they are a great way to get lost in so other things can be wisked away for a bit. Love you, Thank you too for keeping everyone informed on me...

Linda kay!! how exciting, time is approaching. So sweet that you and Heather got together and make that beautiful quilt. She must be proud of her first!! Love that you were able to go and help and Teach how to make her quilt, fun isn't it!

Waiving Hiya Moonie!! OMG, can't even tell you what memories Moondancer has brought on! That happens to be one of the first songs i really remember growing up. Also a favorite of mine too, back then, for me, it was a song to "help" me through. A funnything, it popped into my head not too long ago and I looked it up, seeing it this morning Just made me smile, sing along and i've not sang in ages!! So thank you.
Oh and i love the Celtic music too. The photo's to go along with the music are spectacular and I just wanted to disappear in all the glory of the earth! Sooo, my Gypsie, How the heck have you been?? Gotta tell you,I'm uh jealous of your grand weather!! How are all the grands, hope everyone is well...

Well, Well...So smiling at Seeing Dianne and Santa Warren and you too Thea and Bernie!!!
So glad you all had such a fantastic time together. Awe, such beautiful gifts to eachother...Thank you sooo much for sharing your photos Thea.
OMG, got to smile at your stunning view, yep...makes me miss home(the rez) all of my family lives on the lakes...It's so nice to see where your morning walks with Stormy and Mary go.

Thea, love your bunny!! Barb, love your scrap curtain too!!

ok, been typing a long time again...have to go back and read some more!
lol, I will be back, yayay, because I can today!!!

love you all and missing you terrible...OH speaking of which,
I talked with Thunder the other day, She misses you all too! Her computer also Crashed, bummer even her little one isn't working.
She isdoing well though, back to work and getting in sewing time.

Moon - Thanks for the Irish Celt "lift" this morning - had me tapping my toes, to be sure!!
although I'm a Scots Celt, I really appreciate the Irish Celt, and especially their different use of a different bag pipe! So strange Not to see them blowing in the chanter!
LK - well, likely better that Heather holds off on having the baby - longer in the womb means longer to develop!
JUDY - sooooooo good to see you back! Ok, won't ask Who trashed your 'puter! lol
Debbie - if this turns into an ice storm, Please be careful walking/driving in it!!
Thea - that bunny looks so cute!!!!!
Betty - re: your Mom - said it before............ siiiiiiiiiigh
(((((((((Everyone))))))))))))

Movie Night tonight - Dolphin's Tale (at our Church)