Best/Worse/What did I learn today?Chat with friends....

Moring everyone. Thanks for the coffee and lemon cake Dianne. But I will have to wait for a few hours, as I have my yearly lab work this morning. Dianne, please know we are sending lots of thoughts and prayers your way.

Betty, your going to be nice and comfy for a week, working from home! And what a nice gift from Darlene!

Good morning everyone... I'm sorry I didn't post last night. I have a lot to think about and I'm still trying to get my head around it all. The reason my surgery was cancelled here at the community hospital is because the doctor doesn't feel the hospital has the right equipment to care for me properly. I guess when I said I flunked the breathing test I was not wrong. My breathing is far worse than I had thought. At least from an operation standpoint. He told me I would need to be on a respirator for anywhere from one week to months.... I need to be in a hospital with full cardio and pulmonary staff which the community hosp does not have. They can stabilize a patient in an emergency situation for that patient to be transported somewhere else but not equipped for any long term care. So he is getting my records together and making an appointment with a pulmonary specialist and a surgeon for me at Dartmouth/Hitchcock Med Center. It's about 60 miles from here and is where Norm has all his cancer treatments and checkups. It's a wonderful hospital. I will keep the appts he sets up and then will make a decision whether to have this done or not based on their input. So I guess it's more testing for now. I'm trying hard to stay positive about all of this but I must admit the thoughts of months on a respirator is frightening to me. I thank all of you for all your prayers and thoughtfulness. At least I know I can express those fears here and not worry about scaring my kids. I haven't told any of them yet just how things are - only that the hospital isn't equiipped for my needs. I will need to tell them but I'm not ready.
I'm going to be away from here for a couple of days while Norm and I escape. We are getting away for the weekend - just the two of us. Don't even know where yet but we are going.....
So if I don't post, please don't worry....Love to you all
Barb

Holding you close to my heart Barb. So very glad that you and Norm will be spending time together this weekend with the only interruptions being what you want to let interrupt you. Have a blast together!

Looks like if the Weather Liars are correct the storm will hit us on Friday. Oh joy! Going out today to get all supplies ie milk, juice, so I won't worry. Warren drinks a lot of juice as 1 of his meds is dissolved in it

Betty how wonderful to work from home for a whole week. Maybe you will be able to get some well needed rest fit into your bust schedule. A week without having to drive on any of the 400's be it to work or for pleasure must make you feel so good. I know it would me!! Hard to imagine Betty that you and I drove that 401 circuit for so many years and thought nothing of it.

Going out for breakfast LK after your blood draw? The one place I go for a blood draw gives each patient a $3.00 off coupon for a diner restaurant just down the street from the lab. The catch is you have to use it that day or it is invalid. Breakfast is very, very good there - nothing is greasy.

~~~~ to everyone.
Dianne

Barb, I feel so badly for you (and Norm)..you so wanted this behind you. Lord is standing next to your surgeon, making sure that all the i's are dotted and t's are crossed so the outcome will be a healthy Barb! Relieved that you posted, was worried. Go enjoy yourself, after all of this you need some downtime (make sure you find a fabric shop) that always gives you cause to smile. Will look forward to hearing where you decided to go.

LindaKay, you got your mamogram done?? how long do you wait before results!
Yes, it will be so nice to be home, lots of unfinished projects that I can play with..am sure you have some storeed away as well..

Dianne, must be because we travelled 401 in our youth that it didn't bother us ..mind you for 2 years travelled to Toronto every day, were hair raising rides got to tell you, add that to finding ourselves under tractor trailer wheels you just got to know the 45 minutes I now spend travelling the back roads gives me some relief.. could make it 1/2 hr. drive on the 400 but nope, taking the long way..lol

Yes, watched Breakfast Television this morning and saw were the storm moving through..not calling for much in my neck of the woods but know it could be in yours...Toronto will get some as well, part of the reason for my putting off my trip to meet up with Debbie till next weekend..who knows, you know me, one minute I decide something and the next jump into something else..have your shoes on Debbie, you never know when I'm coming over lol

Drive safely to town Dianne...

No mamogram Betty, just blood work. I stopped at a donut shop and got a yummy ham and cheese croissant. having that with coffee.

Barb, sending you lots of prayers! Praying that your test come out good, and you can finally have your surgery.

I don't know where to start...... so much going on with you, my friends!
Barb - I pray that the Lord is watching over your surgeon, to make the best decision for you and Norm!
Betty - glad you're staying home to get some rest! (even though you'll still be working). How are your headaches?
Debbie - good that your DS is cooking - sure the rest will appreciate that lol
Dianne - keeping you and your DH in my thoughts - would be great to know just what exactly is going on, I know......

I pray for all in need, and all of you are always in my thoughts.........!!

((((((((((((((((DIANNE, WARREN, BARB, AND NORM)))))))))))))))))

Susan so glad you and Dimitri got to have a chat, that should help relieve the tension between you two.
Betty lucky lucky you getting all those days you don't have to drive in, what a relief!!
Debbie that sounds like a nice dorm! He'll get settled in pretty quick, I hope him and his roommates get along!

I'm wiped out, Dave kept me up all night hacking and he was on the complete other side of the house! He went to the doc yesterday and he has CAP so got some antibiotics.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Community-acquired_pneumonia

Ohh Crissy, is he at work? Read the article, something to be warry of for sure. You'll be tired by the time afternoon comes.

Suzanne is trying to get me to work tomorrow, leave at noon, go see the new Toronto office and then I could leave from there and go over to Buffalo..will see if anyone is around who might like to take the ride before I decide..regardless, putting phones to my house tonight!

Good idea Betty re phones if the Weather Liars are correct you could be in for a wild ride.

Betty, the doc gave him yesterday and today off, so no he's not at work but I am and I already want my bed lol If it's nasty weather don't drive, that's just not safe at all.

Dianne and Barb ..... I have you, your DH and all of the ladies and their friends/families in my prayers for whatever they may be going through right now.

Well lets hope the meds work quickly. Crissy how is Dave liking his new job?

Drats, hadn't heard from my mom since last Thursday..wasn't a call I should have made!

Crying, almost in hysterics..her dog that had all the cancer treatment now has it in the brain..several thousands spend to update on his progress did not bring good news. I'm kind of ashamed of myself for not having more compassion for her but I just feel cold about the entire situation..know that Rocky is her baby but to lay in bed with the dog and not want to get up, only wanting to cry and die is a bit too much (for me) especially when some have lost loved ones and are dealing with so much. Told me that she will go somewhere once the dog passes on and none of us will know where..that put the hairs on my neck up..told her she had lots to live for, she has a good life, lordy money in the bank, owns a home, owns a cottage, nice hubby, family is ok too (lol) but that is not good enough for her, said no reason for her to be here, might as well be dead..so just told her then that's the thing to do!! now won't I feel badly if she did something...deep breath

Oh Betty that sounds like the crap my grandmother used to say all the time, she was always going to run away, so unloved, blah blah blah. You're reacting just the way she wants you to, she's just looking for attention and negative attention is better than no attention. Your mom isn't going anywhere, first of all where is she going to go, other than the cottage, and she's not in any sort of health to just disappear. Don't believe that line of bs for two minutes.

I'm not, just feel badly that I act so 'coldly' with her..can't make sense of what she finds more important in life..
sometimes I think I don't persue reasons for headaches/lack of strength in my arm etc. because I don't want to be like her at the doctor's every daylooking for something wrong!

Don't feel bad for being cold, it will never make sense because you don't think like that. Half of what my mom does doesn't make any sense either, and it never will because I don't think like her, which is not a bad thing.

Betty you're not like her, the problem is, is you're too far the opposite direction. You are soooooooo afraid of being like her that you won't go get crap done that you need to do. You are aware that the arm thing and headaches are symptoms of a stroke, right???? I would love to know what Greg and Jeff think of it, but because of your fear of being like your mom I doubt you've even told them, which isn't very safe. If you have something wrong with you then for Heaven's sake go get a second opinion and don't take 'you're perfectly healthy' as an answer, blood work won't show blood clots and those types of things, you need MRI's and CT Scans and what-not done. If you were 'perfectly healthy' you wouldn't be having headaches and your arm would be fine. I'm not trying to yell at you or hurt your feelings or anything like that, I'm saying because I'm extremely worried about that and the 'ignore it, it will go away' factor obviously isn't working.

Hello!!

Thank you for Breenie and Jacob...

Barbara, I hope I'm not too late, I hope that you and Norm have a wonderful little get away! Sometime it's just what is needed.
I was really bummed for you not to have the operation last friday, but my goodness, thank God your Doctor realized the issues. I just wish they would have thought all that out prior to booking the surgery. But one has to be very grateful for the additional testing, Now i sure hope they can get you into the well equipped hospital very soon...in meantime, prayers and always huge but gentle ArmWraps!!

Dianne, Prayers continue for you and Warren. I am keeping you both in my prayers...Hope your trip to town for oj was good, I mean travel time.

Debbie and Paul!! Happy Belated Anniversary!!! Wow, what a day that was having to drop Shane, but also, how Proud you must be...
So nice they have a full kitchen too, lol at least you know he won't starve and his room mates are good too.

Crit!! How nice to see you posting over here! Awe, I just love your Babe, what a beauty!!

Thunder, Wow, congratulations on Sailor Boys engagement. Big Happy smiles...P.S. Love that picture of Melana and Grampa!! heheh, and the beard aint bad either!!

Susan, So glad you and Demitry are getting along better. Hope the days get busy for you. nothing like a long boring day at a place where theres nothing to do!
yikes, hated those kind of days! Glad you had fun yesterday.

OMG, I loved to read about everyone's weddings!! Great pictures Crissy, Thanks for sharing...DH and I had a small/large wedding, lol. I was only getting married one time so I wanted the full Church wedding...Mumma had a traditional Doe skin dress made. LOL entire thing, was done through the mail and phone, measurments, etc. lol, not once but twice because they lost my measurements! LOLOL, When Aunti May asked Mumma how tall I was, she raised her hand to about where i stood next to her. I tried my dress on one week before the wedding and it fit like a glove!! Carol made my mocs and beaded my head dress...And i even wore a veil, highly unheard of to wear with a head dress, but you know me, I am just uhh, different, lolol.

Mary, i am glad the Witchypoo is treating you nicely! Whatever her reason, just enjoy it, you deserve it.

Thea, was good to see you post!! i see you are still creating beautiful quilt pieces! Are you going to Betty's Gathering? Geeze I sure hope so!
I am really excited to see most everyone here is going to try and make it...

Laura, OMG, Such a wonderful thing to see you Lil man does not have heart issues!! Prayers answered for sure. Let's just hope the issue can be fixed right away.

Bev, Hope you are doing ok. Sorry things arn't going well for Scotty, sure hope he is feeling better.

Betty, wow, your stained glass is coming along beautifully!! love how you and Dianne have been working on it together!! Yikes, sorry to hear about mom. Yikes sure puts you through some unnecessary stress.

OMG, Hope you and Debbie have a wonderful visit!! Make sure to Hug each other up for all of us! And i do hope Ann, and or Darlene will join you. Might be great for all to get away!

Geeze, feel like I am missing someone...

Ah yes, Linda kay!! Glad that is is now behind you. Hope everything is well. How are you doing on your project?

So here is my project, excuse the horrible photo, my camera is the pits!!

This is the Corner butterfly. This was the best one.

Here is the whole piece...The gap you see is going to be a solid blue very thin, like 1/4 inch.

Well, i have to run to the store, bbl.

Judy, I'm in awe of that blanket, what a treasure to be passed on for generations.. I'm sure it will be treasured.

Photo's from your wedding please?? ohh an indian lady from the reserve befriended me and taught me how tomake moccasins...made 2 pairs, not sure why I've still fingers left..talk about sore..yes, had the arrowhead needed to make them, tops were beaded..have to be the most comfortablest (?) pair of slippers/shoes I'd ever worn..who knows, one day with all the hide I have from the snowmobile dickies maybe I could make myself a pair.

Rama Indian tanning company have all the supplies so it wouldn't be difficult if I ran out of supplies.

Crissy, so love you, you always speak your mind and always in our best interest...when doctor says A - ok after so many tests, how can you go back and say I know there is something..will wait and see, perhaps the headaches are from cold/flu symptoms that I don't get full blown..we'll see.

Betty LOL you wouldn't have had the flu this long, this has been going on for a LOOOOOONNNNNGGGGGG time. Have you had CT/CAT and MRI's done? I don't it's been sooooooooo looooooonnnnnnnngggg ago I don't remember lol!
Maybe you need to go in and get a migraine shot like you used to have to do.

Just getting ready to leave the office

Crissy, it's not my regular migraines, its pain that comes from back of neck
Had mri ahh maybe it was summer, remember that I had problems having it..

Hey Judy, I have not started the project yet. it is not due till end of March. I have been working on applique cup blocks for another room, and a lap quilt for a friend.
Love your blocks Judy, your work is awesome!

Betty, don't let your Mom bring you down, that is what she is looking for, everyone else to be miserable too!

Betty, did the do an MRI on your neck/spine? Could be a pinched nerve?

YES Misery LOVES Company!

Betty I'm liking the chiropractor idea more and more, go get your neck cracked. LOL

Barb sounds like Dr. made the right decision in not doing the surgery. You and Norm enjoy the weekend. And one step at a time. Do the rest of the test and see what Doctor thinks....Iknow it means you will have to wait....
Betty please do not let your mother upset you so.....yup misery loves company.
Crissy sorry to hear Dave is sick and in turn no sleep for you.
Judy love love the butterfly......
Pizza for dinner....everything but kitchen sink.
Goodnight to all.

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Just finished my gab with Darlene, she is coming down with a cold poor thing!
Missed lunch today, boss needed me lol. So rare that he asks for extras that I felt I should do them .. Then I asked about his holidays, sais he was leaving next Friday and wouldn't be back until the 14th..said you'll be the boss sp it will be up to you if you want to drive in or stay home' bug decision right?

When talking to Darlene she said the girls made a comment we never really had our Christmas party, we're to have it tuesday after NewYears but with Mike dying it went by the wayside so the Tuesday I work from home we'll have it.

I'm rambling, means I'm tired..already in Jammie's.,soup waiting then bed

Waving to all

Betty - gonna CALL YOU!

Hello to All,

Love you Barb.... Safe Travels.... I know in my heart this is all for the best....as everyone else is saying....

Betty - It breaks my heart to hear the emotional abuse your DMom puts you through.....I think "being cold" like you say is TOTALLY APPROPRIATE....

You have put up with this for YEARS and it's your way of dealing with this behavior.... I mean if you let yourself get sucked up with all her emotional BS... where would that leave you?

((HUGS)))

Dianne and Warren... With you now.... and Many Prayers being said.....

Well, DH's plane is finally off the ground and on its way to Rochester. yet another delay tonight! Was supposed to leave Philly at 9:10. They just left at 10:40. Supposed to be landing now....but won't be home until close to Midnight with the delay. By the time they get their things, to the van....he drives them back to work to get their cars and takes one of them home (on his way here) he won't be home til close to 1`:30 or 2:00.

I went out for a bit today with a "list" of things I wanted and to get done. Didn't get anything done but bought a book to read. I have 200 books I haven't read, and my Nook. LOL I need therapy!

Debbie

LOL Deb... must have been a "Page turner"... what book did you get ?

New Nicholas Sparks...The best of me? As much as I wanted it, I haven't taken it out of the bag yet. DH has landed and transporting the guys to get their cars at work.

prayers and hugs Dianne/Warren Barb.

Hubs is home and doing pretty good. we got home late this afternoon.

Betty, don't let that Momma get to you, but listen to Crissy....go back to the Doctor !!! we grumble because we love you :)

Morning everyone!

May we soon have a new room to chatter away in?

Thunder so glad your DH is home and doing pretty good. How long are you taking off of work?

Freezing rain out there big time. I imagine Thea's area is too/ How about you Berry?

BBL
Dianne

Goodmorning to all.
Coffee is on.
Raining here but 65 degrees and that is kinda weird.

New thread everyone

http://davesgarden.com/community/forums/t/1239626/