Best/Worse/What did I learn today?Chat with friends

I don't know what is going on.....just got home from PT. Nobody was home when I left.

DS is up in his room, music blaring....and...this is the strange part. He is cleaning his room.
For some reason, and i am not meaning to be funny, this scares me.

We have some rain coming down.....and I just made coffee. Going to go have a cup and then I have some chores I am WAY behind on.

This is what has been occupying my mind lately....so I can escape whats going on with the kids.

There are about 8 of them out in my Rose of Sharon....this is the female

And this the male....

Off for coffee

Kids are precious aren't they? Shhh don't tell him they do it in a pool as well..you could tell him there is a big recycling plant that purifies it, he might go for that! Nope, not going to have Norm do my chores..have a few friends who always share their hubbies, I'll get Alex to come and do the bedboard tomorrow morning (ex-fireman who is always bored, got to laugh here, never too bored to do June's chores but if I've something to do he jumps) isn't that always the way with kids and hubbies! great friends...bought that beautiful photo the other day and the new bedboard is just a tad too high for me to hang my picture frame!

Crissy, your day seems to be like mine, looking for something to do..think I'll order lunch from the cafe downstairs, go pick it up and eat it before lunch..new home decor store opened across the street, if I do that then I've time to browse.

Thea, believe me our Crissy is quite a character..we've met up twice Debbie and I met her in Memphis, then a month or so ago I met up with her again in Memphis and we did Beall Street, outstanding!!! In 2010 she flew to Buffalo, I picked her up, we did the Cincinnatti reunion at Joycet then drove north to our country and she spent a few days with me, WE were not bored!

Maybe someone told him to straighten out!!! Maybe his friend got through to him. In any case, a clean room is a clean room!!!!!
Beautiful flowers Deb.

Oh Debbie you are going to laugh, before I opened the photo with Rose of Sharon, you said this is the female, sat here for a second and though female Rose of Sharon, maybe that's why mine isn't flowering, perhaps I don't have both species or the female..hmmmm will ask the nursery attendant, then opened the photo and wow, what a gorgeous photo of the bird amongst the blooms..do you have to sit for long to be able to capture such photo's or is it just by accident?

Only saw one hummer this year..maybe there are enough flowers for them to drink from and no need to come to my feeders...

Why does Shane being home and cleaning his room frighten you??? I'm with Barb, perhaps someone made him see how terrible he was treating you..let's hope his attitude will be different..clean room is nice..does the 'child' get into it with him much, do they get along fabulously?

Debbie maybe his friends dad said something???? I have a purple Rose of Sharon like that that's in full bloom and a white one too but mine has fluffy pedals in the center of it, don't know what I bought last year but it's pretty!! I took a couple of pics of them then forgot my camera! LOL DUH!!!!

Thea, yes I got the patterns...thought I'd posted that I did!!! so sorry if I did not....I just love them...no I have not made anything yet!! I am collecting fabrics, and ideas to create a quilt for her...and your patterns will most definitely be included!! ^_^ thanks again...

Betty, is that picture one of your boys when little?? or is it a grand?? cute fella

Thunder it's Debbie's little boy, unless I posted wrong photo..just wanted to remind her how adorable he was and still is..that there are good times and bad times..just wish the bad would intermix with the good to make things easier on her..

Debbie, this is Shane right? if not could the grandma/mom of this little one please speak up? lol

Ordered club sandwich with yam fries.. another 5 minutes and I can go pick them up..frees up my lunch hour..

got to tell you, it takes almost an hour to put one row of the afghan together..wonder if mom knows that?

Yes Betty, that was his pre-school picture at age 4.

This is a picture of him....and my BIL (DH's youngs brother) at the Benefit they did Sunday.


And...he didn't clean HIS room. Get this..and message was LOUD and clear...he cleaned out the "guest bedroom" and there is no longer a bed in there. Set up his guitars and spare computer......Think thats a message? I do

Well Debbie that sounds to me like he maybe a tad jealous of Brit staying there and he says No More Guests????

Well it could also be he is acknowledging that he may not have accommodations for school in the fall so he's making the most of it, cleaning out the room, putting his music instruments and computer so he has his 'home schooling' accommodations..

Lordy , Paul's brother doesn't look much older than Shane...good looking guys.

Rob is 32....and has two boys, which are a handful. When I look at Shane, I see Rob 14 years ago. Rob was actually pretty upset in this shot.....he realized Shane is now taller than him. haha

Shane has said "I miss the critter" which is what he called the baby. SO, no, do not think he misses that part. However, he has assured his two "friends" won't be coming back for visits also. Not happy he did it without asking....as that is my room to "crash" when DH is snoring horribly or one of us has a bug and coughing, etc. Regardless his reasoning....he can't just take over things without asking.

Ouch that's going to be a battle to get that through to him Debbie..he's hurting for some reason, not like Shane to be acting in such a manner!! The two young men who you have taken under your wing must be in shock, you are a second mom to them...shaking my head, don't know what the answer is..

You're right Deb, he shouldn't be changing the house like that. It's not his house to change, it's your house to change, pretty disrespectful actually. Hasn't he been sort of acting up since he graduated high school?

I'm having a very weird day. On a thread where I spent a lot of time until recently we were recently joined by a DG person who once told me I was too sick to be here (I dared to ask her to stop giiving me advice). Today another person from there told me that I am not warrenting of any attention. A mutual acquaintance who is friends with the advice giver asked me to go read some of her old posts sos's to "understand" her better. I also have a touch of stomach flu. All this has combined to give me the weepiest morning I've had in several years. Fortunately, Tony has seen me through a couple of these and he knows I survive which reminds me that I survie even if I don't feel like I want to in the moment. Tony also repackaged a big box of chicken legs and did some of the dishes. He has some very nice ways of letting me know he cares about me.

Soon I will go lie down and probably sleep. And some of all od the dogs will coome in to cuddle. I hesitated even to write this as I"m feeling like very time I speak up someone screams at me to shut up. So I'm talking. I'm in pain and I'm talking. So there.

Enough about that. It will pass.

Here's my wicked thought for the day for Debbie: Wait un the next time Shane stays away overnight and while he is gone paint his room pink and put up heavily ruffled curtains. Tell him some of my ideas and ask if he'd rather have a mother like me?

I'm actually not without sympathy for Shane it's just that right now I have more for Debbie.

Thannk you all for not making me justify my desire for some compassion. All this crap has knocked me into a bad old place. But i will come out of it. I have stopped watching both the thread and the forum where all this nonsense happened. There are reasons why I might have seen it coming. I will remind myself to be more cautious another time and let it go.

Thanks to all of you for being here and I promise I'm not usually this weepy. This has really been a hard wekk. And not just for me.

hugs, katie

Katie, sorry your being treated this way! Your welcome here always! ((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))) Hope your feeling better soon!

Katie, if someone were to say those things to you....like said on the other thread...they definately are NOT a friend. Many people have an "illness" that you can't see with the eye....that has some very great depths to it....and even we may not understand it ourselves.
SO, just because they do not understand your "problem' does not give them the right to treat you in such a manner! Be it anything from Lupus...fibro....depression...cancer...or a stomach bug....its just not right! SO, consider the source over there....and you can borrow some of my new favorite phrases. "Well, bless your heart" and "I'll pray for you". NOW, the first is from a Miranda Lambert song....and the second is from Jaron and the Long Road to love. You can watch both on YouTube....and...prepare to laugh.

Now, regarding Shane. I have made excuses for him the last three months...its high school, its senioritis, its Graduation, it's college, its his sisters......well....it's HIM. AND, as I have said about "the child" aka his sister....just because you are having a rough time....does NOT give you the right to take it out on the rest of the world....or your Mom!

DH made a comment last night....and in some ways he is very right. THe movies/shows and such kids see these days....although called reality TV....are anything but. It really is NOT the real world...unless you are a Celeb. AND...the younger people in life....are really getting a bad "role model" from some of these. Even on Disney...the way some of them talk to parents and others....OMG, I would need a new set of teeth if I ever did that to my parents as a youngster/teen.

ANYWAY. When I need that bed set up in a hurry for a guest...regardless who....I will get his backside to do it!

Katie, hang in there!

Crissy, how is your day going? Any special lunch today?

Betty, did you find your Ipad?

Dh just got home, have to cook the pork chops.....

be back
Debbie

Katie I'm so sorry you're being treated like this, I'm sure you are in a funk, that's horrible. I would never tell anyone they were too sick to post anywhere, who does that???? If I didn't like what someone is saying I'd quit going to the thread, or just skip the person's posts. The person saying that is too sick to be on there. Good grief.

Shane's going through something and it's not funny, I don't get it.

Debbie!! I did have a special lunch today, with one of my Hot Check Coordinators Jeanenne, we walked across the street to the Mexican Restaurant and now I'm all zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

It's nice and slow today, I'm trying to sort some paperwork and zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

The easiest way out and thing to do is make excuses for someone, even if they are your kids, it's tough and it can't be tolerated. Yes, the only reality tv shows that are actual reality are like Survivor, and Deadliest Catch. Ice Road Truckers is another good one. Pawn Stars, American Pickers, lol all of those History Channel shows!

I've got it!! We rent a secluded cabin in the woods. We grab and blindfold Shane and Crissy's husband and transport them to the cabin. Leave them there for a year or two. By the end of that time at least one of them might be a person others could live with in peace.

katie

YES Katie!!!! That's EXCELLENT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Wait...wait...we have to send my DH too!

http://www.funnyordie.com/videos/ed64755ab1/her-first-period

funniest part is the reaction from the other men sitting there.

Need a good laugh? I copied this from facebook today!

Ok Debbie, we'll send him too!!!

Debbie, yes, had left the iPad at work, didn't forget it tonight though..I'm home till Tuesday or Wednesday and had I forgotten it I'd have driven back to get it!

Katie, what a terrible thing to have happened, no wonder you are in a kaflunk..there is a commercial I saw last night and it's one I hope I see again, a man is sitting there and he sees the smallest of thing that make him smile, voice comes on and says, depression hurts, you don't have to be pressured to get out of the black hole, but take a moment to see little things that will make you smile! Wipe those tears, these girls are some of the friendliest caring ladies you'll ever encounter..listen to their banter, even in pain they'll put whatever energy they have to make the other smile and feel good...here's hoping tomorrow will be a sunshine day for you! Thank goodness you have Tony and his family, we all can use earthly angels!!

Debbie, can you tell him Shane I'm coming for holidays..tell him thank you for cleaning the spare room for me, appreciate it but can't play the instruments so he can take them to his room!

Linkakay, going to check out that link

Laughing my head off, omg...cant you just picture it!

Wonder when Susan will be back and will be interesting to see if they made it Montana. Wouldn't it be grand if there was a message for each saying the have jobs?

Was out in the garden and think a dozen of Mosquitos hitched a ride inside..bites galore

One of my favorite Larson cartoons shows a despondant looking man sitting on the edge of a bed. Perched on the windowsill behind him is a fat yellow bird (the only color in the picture). Caption: "Having been abandoned by the bluebird of happiness Ned was visited by the chicken of depression."

kb

Great caption Katie!!
Think a tomato sandwich will hit the spot

I've written to my niece a couple of times lately and haven't heard back. I know she's very busy and it usually doesn't bother me. However, given the week I've had I just emaled her that I'd really like to know that she's OK - nothing more needed. Heard back within minutes. And she's fine, just busy. Love her.

hugs, katie

Where does she live Katie? Do you have any relatives inmexico?

Just called Cathy to thank her for cutting my grass, she cut Sunday while I was at Elvis festival and again today..nothing like freshly cut grass

She was born in Canada (father is Canadian). She now lives in Portland, Oregon with her husband. Only family in Mexico is Tony's. kb

Quite a distance from you Katie..yawning away, have my bath waiting, probably cold by now, Ann called, had a bad day (week) so chatted until she was ready to say bye! Keep going to check jeff/Julie's kayak blog, always feel better when I know they are off the water for the night... Know today a friend of Julie's was meeting up with them and will finish the trip with them..hmmm not sure its a female friend or male friend!,,guess I'll have to read up and see. Lol

8pm and no Kyle, seems odd he hasn't dropped in yet..has been every night in almost two weeks, miss the young lad when he's a no show!

Been a long week especially these last 2 days.
Howdy Katie and welcome.
The news for Warren was not what we wanted but you handle what you are given. Warren has 6 spots that are cancerous and all are Stage 4. Life expectancy is les than a year. We'll handle this and enjoy every second we have together.
Thea where exactly do you live near Ottawa? My apologies if you have already said I have just skimmed.
Dianne

Dianne will keep you both close to my heart..soft hugs coming your way carried by prayers! Can only hope that Warren is not in a lot of pain and that they have given him meds that will ease the pain and make it comfortable so you can indeed enjoy each day given to you! No other words Dianne, just know how much you are hurting..

Hanging baskets starting to droop..feels like rain, think after deadheaded I shoul have watered..here this morning it rained all the way work once I got a few miles out f town but no rain here!!!

Just got a call for the B&B for 2 rooms/3 days (this long weekend) but I mentioned the furies and he said his girls were highly allergic...oh well, not going to rid myself of my furies on the chance I book rooms!!

Dianne... I will hope and pray that Warren makes one of those miraculous recoveries that one hears of from time to time... I suppose keeping hope up is best. Don't know what else to say except that we love you and whether posting or lurking will be there for you anytime you need it.....

Dianne, sending you lots of thoughts and prayers. ((((((((HUGS)))))))))))

Thea - Love the hibiscus pic... you may know they are my favorite plants !

Betty - LOL re: the Mouse joke... I may borrow that when it's appropriate (or not LOL)....

Debbie- I love your rose of sharons more than mine.... just asked Hubs and he said our is a "double" so Crissy that is what you must have as well. I completely understand Shane's cleaning scaring you... Agree about the lack of good role models these days...said that very thing when Hubs was channel surfing and there was a John Wayne movie. Now THAT was a good role model....Shane is SO good looking... he and my DS would be 2 peas in a pod... Ds likes that rock band too.... (sevenfold or something)....
Katie - sounds like you need a leave of absence from those other folks.... they just aren't as awesome as we are LOL.... Love Larson... think that's the poster I bought my Mom.... a pic of the "Crisis Unit"..... it was a building on fire and going over a waterfall.... (Mom worked at a Crises unit which was why it was funny).

I LOVE your idea Katie.. but will take it to the next level. We also send my 3 teens over there to the cabin. We hook up cameras all over..... and we make it the next BIG "Reality Show".... make loads of MONEY... and Betty will use it to buy that little cottage Barb picked out for us.....and take us all to visit each other ! Now.. Hm... what will we call the reality show ? Crissy - ideas?
((HUGS)) Susan... missing her and you all...
LK - good thing teaching son the freebies can rack up costs too...
Back in a bit...
Mary

Oh Dianne I am so so so sorry to hear that news, you are in my thoughts and prayers sweetie.

Morning all,

Thunder/lightning and heavy rain, of course Sailor's panting and trying to find a corner to hide..so dark out there!!

Mary, going to have to think of a good name for this reality show..hmmm

Can't do the gardens outside as planned today so brought up my floorcloths books, think I'll run in to home depot in a bit, think the open at 7:30 to buy a roll of linoleum..need a new one for back deck, would fill in the non busy time, besides I could pick up a tim Horton coffee so I could start my day off right.

Not singing , rain/rain go away, come on back another day..nope, telling it to head to you my friends who aremin need of it..can just see the grass turning green as we speak!