Best/Worse/What did I learn/chat about our day!Just Gab'n

Thanks, Crissy & Betty

LOL that's like my two bosses, they're both awesome though.

Good morning...

Thanks to you & St. Anthony! Found my blocks and off to post office I go.

OMG Gosh Stacey, How precious!! Thanks for sharing.
You hang tough lil sistah. Soon this phase f many feeding will be past you.

My prayers go out to Janice and Grandpa. I am sorry to hear the latest news.

Hugs to all of you.

Betty, my, so sorry to hear of all that is going on around you. Very hard, but i am so glad you are there to at least listen. That gesture alone is so important I think. Sometime there are no words, I think Susan said it best.

I had a friend who had lost her husband so suddenly, was quite the shock, and while people milled around wanting to know the details, All I could do was Wrap my arms around her...In a note she said it was the greatest gift of support she had received, I was stunned, but I guess sometime there just isn't words, support is given in so many other ways, giving your heart is one of them my friend.

Joyce, I wish I were there to wrap my arms around you...
Prayers continue.

Mary, Going to tell you a true story...Only so that you will gain some additional strength.
taking a deep breath and hear it goes.

I was raised by Many, Many people, some were not so nice, some tried to be nice and some gave as much love as they possible could.
During all of this, mumma was with a man who was obviously my "step father". When he first came into the picture, I did not like him, in fact I loathed his very person. #1, I was jealous, he had my mom and i didn't. # 2 I thought he was just mean and I was very afraid of him. # 3, Didn't think he cared about any of us kids...Until one day, I was on my own at the age 18, going through a lot of stuff, some not so good. This man whom I loathed, never judged me, never scolded what i was going through, Just listened...One time, I was home for a holiday visit and overheard him talking to someone, how i was home for a visit, told them so much of all the Good stuff I was doing and not only me but all of my sisters and brothers. Never let on about the Crap I/we put him through. That is not to say he didn't get things off his chest, because he did, as any parent would at the time was necessary! I went home and did some serious thinking about this man who was my step dad, up to that point, never called him dad always called him by his name.
The next visit...I watched him, I watched and listened how he was with my family...That night, I was home alone with him and do you know what we we did? We sat at the kitchen table and we talked for hours and hours, each getting little things off our chest that bothered us of each other...By the end of the night, The words came from the bottom of my heart, and rolled so easily from my tongue. "Thank you, Papa Jack, you have been more of a Dad to me then any other of the families I've lived with or even my own father" From that day forward, he was one of my Bestest friends. He was the Grandfather to my first Daughter, he was my Dad...It's now 25 years since he is gone, but i shall never ever forget that conversation, nor the smile that beamed across his face and long awaited words in return, Judy, I love you to.
We hugged and cried together for many minutes and then the laughter filled the room.

Moral of my story, Mary be your ever loving self. Those kids know, they see, they just have to come to terms with them. And I pray for you, one day VERY soon the light bulb will come on for them. I know you are hurting and i wish i could slap them silly for it. Hang tough and we are here to help you through the toughest of times...Call me if you need to. But most of all Know, that WE love you for all your hard work as a mom, You are doing fantastic. Big Giant Arm wraps to you.

LOL, now that I am blubbering away here..got to skip off to post office.
See you in a little while.

And Thanks for listening to my story, lol Betty, it just would be me if haven't tolad a story of the day huh?

Hope your all having a good day!
Sending smiles, and hugs to Tubby, Bev, Debbie..Liz, and Well All of you!

See you later.

Judy what a touching story, that one brought tears to my eyes. I have a step-dad too but mom didn't marry him until I was 28 and he has been a Godsend to her.

Judy, I just realized how far you've come in the what 3 or 4 years since we've started chatting, back then you would have read and never shared such private parts of your life, over time you've blossomed and impart such heart felt support to each who need them..you've been through much , perhaps the good Lord gave you that cross to bare just to you could help others as I'm sure you do..hugs and an I love you Babe!!!

See now, St. Anthony was on duty once again yesterday..you've got your blocks and now on their way..knowing you you've got 2 or 3 more projects on the go...hurry/hurry because your christmas kit will soon arrive and you must get them done..who knows, maybe with a scroll saw or jig saw you can make several to send out as Christmas gifts..

I've got a darling step-father as well, has been with mom for 41 years...

Betty Jim is a wonderful man and you are so lucky that your mom married such a nice guy. I'm so glad you took me over there to meet them!

I still think you need to share some of that energy though. LOL

Mary, there is no reason both of you can't walk her! What is the saying "It takes a village to raise a child?" These days it certainly does, especially with split families.

I have four children I gave birth too, and about 2 dozen others that call me "Mom, Ma, Llama, MommaG, MamaGoat" I mean the list goes on! You have done amazing with what you have been handed..and you didn't have too. There are many that just "let it be someone elses problem." Someday...most likely not until they have families of their own (kids) they will realize exactly what you did. And...you continue to do it all with a smile and big heart.

Got a solution to the dog problem! Woo Hoo!!! Diana's not working tonight so when I get home from work I'm going to go talk to her and see what she wants to do, from her statement last night she knows something has to happen, and maybe Saturday morning we can take the dog to the vet and I'll pay the $70.00 whatever it is.

To fix the doggie or ???? Crissy?

Yep, I am with Debbie!! meant to add too, lol, Don't even think about it, just get up and go when her name is called.
You are just as proud of her so why not continue showing your support.

Betty, Thank you...I Love you too.

LOL, Crissy, Papa Jack and Mumma got married after they were together 25 years!! Steve and i were already married like 8 years.
But the cool thing is they were Married on Oct. 12, which is Our anniversary of meeting, lol that you all know we still celebrate.

Yikes Crissy on the dog, We had a neighborhood cat, LOL the "Polish one" that did the same right out our window.grrr, glad you found a solution! (for any lurkers, I say Polish, because it's the only language that animal understands!!) Yuk, he still comes to terrorize my birds.

You are too funny Judy, so is tomorrow night your big halloween shindig??? everything ready?

Drats, had to take one of those Ott-lites back, didn't work, one of the girls will be disappointed, he did say though that from time to time to get more in so Lydia will have to wait..almost offered her the one I bought mom but thought better of it..

This morning hmmm could have given it to Lydia..

Mom phones me, wants to know if I can stay in Barrie until 4:30-5:00 to meet up with her..she has 4 large boxes of books, lots hard covered and all for her Debbie,lol, and some $$$ for me to pick up 3 sets of shams at $29.99 each from Cracker Barrell because HER plans changed for next week and she'll not stay up at the cottage, told her that I couldn't because Rose needs to catch the bus at 4:45 this aft. and I promised to drive her..she's off to look at accommodations where her college is..WELL, off she went on a tangent that she had 28 skeins of wool for me, books for Debbie and the bag with afghan squares for me to put together and she might as well just give them to a stranger if I couldn't wait an extra hour or so...told her because her plans changed it didn't mean I had to change mine because I couldn't, promise is a promise, right? then she went on that seeing as I'd spend the money I was taking with me on Christmas gifts and craft stuff she supposed I wouldn't have any left to get the shams that she really wanted..got to tell you, getting awfully tired of all of this, call the other 3 I wanted to say, but I was a good girl and didn't...I'll leave that for another time..lol

Betty if she didn't have all the tumors I would fix her in a heartbeat, but the surgery costs between $2000 and $3000 to remove the ones we can see, and I can't afford that, I know she can't afford that and the dog would just get more tumors as Rotties are prone to have them, so I would have her put down because I know she's suffering, she has two of them on her butt where she sits and one in her leg. The tumors are taking most of the nutrition away from the animal and she's not going to live but maybe another year like that anyway.

Betty she wants you to be at her beck and call no matter what, guess she's going to be mad a lot huh, you can't cancel taking Rose to the bus stop for Pete's sake, she's reminding me of my grandmother (mom's mom) now.

Just got to tell myself she sick and on drugs..
Nope, just going to not feel badly..

Yes, you would be doing the correct thing about putting her down even though it will be difficult..make sure though she's the one who is agreeing without any hesitation, would just hate to see you end your friendship..

Another hour and homeward bound..can't wait..not sure if it's because it's weekend time or I get to play with my TOOLS, now Dianne where is that man who does woodworking when I need him..lol

Betty did you read your dmail yet?

Betty - what to say to her? I don't know as I could say anything if she were my mom.......
Guess she's forgotten the spirit of Christmas - don't tell the giver what you wanted Instead of what they've already planned on giving, and Do Not forget that you have other children, and put everything on one!!

LOL..great points..

I'm still sitting here Susan waiting to see if you get your call..must not forget the difference in time, you are just lunch hour so still a long afternoon ahead of you.

Me too Susan, I've had everything crossed that is crossable for you all day!

that would be quite a sight Crissy..lol

Thought it was time to move us into a new room

One filled with hope, friendship and understanding..

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Thank you so much Susan, Laura, Betty, Dianne... etc... for hearing me vent...

Teen girls can be a handful (I suppose) even when they aren't "Steps"..

Carpet tiles sound like a good solution... Hopefully you won't have to go through FLoods again though !

Stacey - Shame on mean old Grandpa ! Jonathan is adorable... should be a "Gerber" baby... you may be too young to know the posterchild for Gerber....

Bev & Joyce -- Many ((HUGS)) I can't imagine life without my mom also... She passed at age 64.... in 2004... Still don't know what the heck I'm doing... without her... (Her name was BETTY !) what a Great name...

Betty - wish I knew you needed something from Hobby Lobby.... we have TWO here...one is 10 minutes from the house... just let m e know what you need and I'll have them "HOLD" it till you get here... ROFLOL! (Just kidding - I CAN pick it up and mail !)

Crissy - If it were here... and not sure if you have those same groups... but you can call the 'no kill organizations and they will take her... one of them is YELP! maybe you can google and see if they have one there...so as to find her (and potential puppies) a home...

Oh Geez Judy ! I am in tears... I just wish I could feel as though I had handled everything better than I have.... (the past years) ... I mean I feel.. they get mad at me because I am NOT their Mom... AND I feel they feel that if they are mean to me... then they are being loyal to their mom.. who will do and say anything

Yes Deb - wait till you hear what happened... (((HUGS)))

Mary I just posted on the new thread. Overjoyed someone is up and awake!!!