Best/Worse/What did I learn/chat about our day!Just Gab'n

Joyce, let's just hope the mass isn't something you all have to worry about, will it take long for you to find the results?? Don't you think when they are dealing with the older population they don't give as good a care than younger patients? Can imagine how mom/dad must be worried..

Bev, no overdoing either..know it will be hard sitting there doing little when you need to be busy once getting of smoking starts to bother you..maybe play with your photo's organize them and post some for us, that we may enjoy..

What an evening and morning...

Last night I called Grace, George's wife and she couldn't stop crying, as hard as she tried she just broke down, she misses him terribly but did tell me she joined indoor shuffleboard and a few other activities so that she'd get out..

then, spoke with Geraldine, she's trying to be brave as well, great believer in the Lord, this is keeping her sanity...

Just talked to Ann, keeping Mike in until they get results back from cultures, doesn't think he'll be well for his second chemo treatment Tuesday;

No sooner hung up that Dianne called me to tell me about Hose, her MIL, just passed away..

Got to tell you, lot of sadness out there..no wonder I'm feeling overwhelmed, it's the seeing my friends going through rough times.

Gonna try to remember everyone, but please understand if I don't....
Betty - "you have the tools"? LOL
Debbie - glad you're not having surgery
Bev - thanks for the update - geeze you're having a tough time of it
Cookie - hope it's not the "C" word, but I know you'll be prepared should it be.......
St Anthony would have a hey-day here - always losing things.....
LK - Take care and drive safely - wave "HI" when you pass over Montana - we're to the North of you.....

If I forgot anyone - I'm sorry.....

What are you up to today Susan, keeping out of mischief?

(((((((((Betty)))))))))))) sorry, cross posted
so sorry to hear about the sadness in your neck of the woods. Poor Geraldine - having lost 3 husbands, she must be really sad/down.....

Just on my way to Bible Study - have Choir practice tonight
In between I'm sewing the applique block for Crafty Christmas block for "the other room".

Hard time to lose someone you love, think when you get to the 3rd. you are numb and don't feel it.

How's the weather in your neck of the woods...overcast and high winds here..hopefully by the weekend it will have passed us all over..

Crissy, I'm sure that I'm what every man needs, a woman with 'tools' NOT..lol

So you are busy, enjoy your day...

very cool here - snow's gone again thank goodness .... +2C and foggy - will be +13 on Tuesday apparently.
It's been very foggy here the past day or so, all night, etc.
almost all of Canada & US has cloud cover, according to TheWeatherNetwork.com - one big cloud, they say!!

Well it certainly is here as well, temps are droping can feel it even inside the office

brrrrrrrrr It's cool inside as well - my hands are cold!

Just heard from my surgeons nurse and I am going to have another carotid operation to take out scare tissue and put a patch in next week. They are afraid if I don't I will have a stroke soon. BEV

It's 10 here, calling for same all weekend..glad I'll be playing inside..
ordered all the wood for the 4th Annual DG Christmas workshop, so between that and trying to work on my placemats I'll be busy, won't matter that it's cold outside

At lunch went back and got 6 more of those lights, managed to get all my pop so now let the Halloween kiddies come..

Got an e-mail from ex daughter-in-law this morning:

Hi Betty
We got the awesome costumes! They are just great! Caleb I think is going to sleep in his it fits great and has not taken it off yet! Logan is great he is a little freak out about the whole costume thing but will be the cutest monster ever!
Thank you so much for your time and love you put into making these costumes!
Love Lisa xo

Always nice to get a thank you note...

Starting to rain again, be glad to get back home

OMG Bev, not very knowledgeable about the proceedure, will you have to spend time in the hospital..does sound as though they are keeping on top of things..how's it going today, resting, not smoking??? what questions to ask right?

I trust this doc and his nurse so will be ok. That is another three days is hospital. Hopefully after this I can get back to normal what ever that is. Resting and not smoking. I am tired of not being able to do anything. Will work on my pictures as you say Betty Love.

Bev Many prayers are going out to you that this operation works! My goodness don't need you having a stroke!! I bet you are bored out of your gourd (that's what mom always says lol)

Lol that is for sure. Thanks
Land Of Promise

((((((((((Bev))))))))))))) Thank you for trusting your Dr and Nurse, and taking care of yourself. You've given me a gift of YOU, and I greatly appreciate it. Keep taking care of yourself "the gift that keeps on giving"..........

wow long day . everyone has been so busy.
Bev glad to hear you will do surgery. Prayers and hugs.
Betty it sounds like you are running around and very busy. What is the temp? Here it is 79 have airconditioning on.
Need some food and rest. Hello to everyone have a good evening will chat later.

Always busy Laura, how did YOU make out with your daughter at the doctors??? been praying that it was good news!

It's probably about 43 here, want to change??? you'll have to put the heat on..

Susan, you certainly said it well...you've a way with words..

Sometimes I do, Betty - but there are times when I'm at a loss. Sometimes it's best just to say "I have no idea what you're going through, but you will always be in my thoughts and prayers". At least then they know you're being honest (cuz you Haven't gone through what they have and Can't Possibly know..... ) but you Can love them enough to help them bring their troubles to God.

Hello To All;

Hugs to Laura - Keep us posted...

Dianne - let me know if you've found a good candidate for Deb & I to review (Betty's Beau) and we'll send over the 10 page Application... ROFLOL ! Right Deb !?

Prayers to Joyce and to Bev....

Hugs to all... I've read all... a bit overwhelmed.... Judy - trust Skittles to protect you all LOL!

Tomorrow night is Senior night. Last year DH and I walked DS across the field. I've NOT been asked to walk with DSD1.....tomorrow night across the field...will be interesting if Bio-mom walks with them..

(Been her DSM since age 9.. .paid for insurance, DR bills, therapy, acne meds, household bills.... NO Child support from dear bio-mom... DH out of work MUCH... I've picked her up when sick, dance mom, dance lessons, flowers after recitals, first days of school...Disney vacas, Wash DC Vaca, snow Vaca, Beach Vacas, LAUNDRY, Dinners, Birthdays Pool Parties, sleepovers, halloween parties... I'm sure I've forgotten many things. ) I'm really really okay with it... Really I am... for many reasons....it just seems ludicrous to me....

at least MIL and FIL will be there.. I can sit with them....

Hugs,
Mary

Mary - you've been her MOM in more ways than her bio-mom, but that's a "ticklish" situation, if she doesn't ask you......
I'm a bio-mom, but would never take over as my adopted-out son's primary mom.......... After all, as you said... she did all that, and more - she was there when he was teething, took his first step, etc, so she is his primary mom!

Mary here is a big hug for you.
Susan that was put very well. If you have not been through a situation that a friend is going through you may not know how they are feeling. But just to be there and show support (and pray) .
Betty not ready for those temps yet. That is cold.
Bev are those your flowers? Just beautiful. like a ray of sunshine.
Shirley and Tubby.... Hugs .... Who has coffee?
Oh a piece of good news......well remember the basement flood..Well the carpet is being delivered today.We went with what is called carpet tiles. So if one gets wet or soiled take just that one out and put in new. Pretty cool.. I will take pictures to let all see......

Morning all, lordy it's raining so hard out there even the furries don't want to go outside!

Mary it's a hearbreaking situation, takes a lot of courage to go and be supportive, but you dear friend are the kind of lady who will, you'll be there for her just as you have been through her childhood years. Am sure that one year, when she's grown and children of her own, more mature, she'll thank you for being the 'real mom' in her childhood; know it seems impossible to think this will ever happen, but it will!

Laura, my girlfriend Bernice across the road who had the B&B had tiles similar to what you are getting, they were large tiles, perhaps 18" square, you could pick an individual tile up and wash it and set it down again..she had it in her home for about 15 years but with aging and finding it difficult to work the vacuum she decided to have it replaced!!
Am sure you'll love it.

Friday, how wonderful and a short day at that. Just before my going off to bed last night Rose asked if I could bring her to the bus terminal in Midland this afternoon..she gets off at 4:30 and needs to catch the bus at 4:45, touch and go situation..she's off with friends this weekend to look for accommodations for January schooling..

Told her I could, it would still give me time to get to the lumber yard to pick up the wood for that Christmas workshop on dong on another thread, glad a lot of you are joining in and then homward bound..

By tomorrow night I'm hoping to have all the kits cut and packed for shipping..

Imagine, last night I sat and painted Christmas balls, in a swap and it asked that we send a decorative christmas ball, either bought or handpainted, have about 1/2 hr. to finish the 4 of them..did scenes of Georgian Bay..I've all but got the package for this swap done and will mail it next Friday on your side of the border. lol

Mary, you are such a card, I started to laugh when you said you had pages for possible candidate to fill..maybe you should start a dating service part time..how on earth will you find me a 'gentleman friend' IF you have more questions than the government issued questionaire??lol

Called Geraldine last night, no answer, her son must have taken her visiting, she's off to Florida tomorrow morning so might not get to see her this time around. Susan you said it well, just like Geraldine I sat and listened and simply said, "I just don't know what to say!' all so very tragic..

Called Ann last night several times as well, line was busy, I finally went off to bed, will call her this morning to see how Mike is doing.

Well, time I stop typing, go get coffee on for all of you..didn't bake something sweet but see Aline left some sweets for me to enjoy and I'll share..

Gab when I get to the office

Sorry I didn't read through all the posts I missed-a bit tired and afraid that I will zone out into zombie land by reading this am....Maggie-that dog is jealous of anyone who gets attn from either my DH or I if it isn't her-and that includes the spouse!!LOL Debbie-what a cutie!!!

So last week we took Jonathan to the pumpkin patch (I think I told you all about that) and the next night he started getting a matted eye. I freaked of course and wanted to take him to the Dr the next am, mom said it was probably the wind and to just wash it out with a warm cloth every time he wakes for a feeding. After several times of that it got all better, so I was able to stop freaking out. That day we went to my grandparents 3 hrs away. It was an OK visit. My grandma is a bit hunched over and her hands are shaking and the strength in her arms wasn't good enough to feed Jonathan-she gave it a good try, but I had to help her a bit. My grandpa is the same jerk he's always been (told me I looked really fat and asked if I was pregnant again), but I think his mind is starting to go a little. He said he wouldn't recognize Chris if he saw him on the street that he looked so different (the only thing different is that he wears his hair a little shorter) and he didn't know who my cousin's kids were.....we stayed a couple of hrs then drove back so I wouldn't have to drive at night since I am always exhausted.

On Monday I went out and ran a few errands while Mom stayed here with Jonathan and one thing I got was fabric to make her a rag quilt for Xmas. She said she really liked mine and wanted something cheerful. See pic below for fabrics. I think that is my fave part of sewing-picking out fabrics!!LOL After I got home I called the Dr since Jonathan was still seeming to have digestion issues even if they weren't as bad as B4 and had to run back out to get Mylacon drops. Went to Walgreens first and they wanted $14.99 for them, so went to Kroger to Dark Caro Syrup to help him poop and their drops were only $3.98!! YEAH-I was soooo glad I didn't get the ones at Walgreens.

We finally got the disk in the mail with his professional pics and I played around with them to give them special effects like Sepia and such. Now I will have to email the family them to see which ones they want....I also got a box from Chris's brother with some clothes for Jonathan and some hand lotion stuff for me since my hands are getting so dry from washing bottles and such 3 times a day and washing them B4 feeding him. The clothes are adorable and I was floored with the gift receipt from Lord & Taylor-heck-I could probably cloth him for the next year with the $$ spent on the 2 outfits, sleepsack and 3 onesies!!

My mom got a job, so she is leaving a week early and driving back to Atl on Sunday. It is bottersweet-happy she got a job, but sad she is leaving and sad that I have to be alone with all the feedings for a few days;)

Chris's uncle died a couple weeks ago and now MIL is in St. Louis because grandpa is not doing well. They think that some of the plaque from his arteries has broken loose and went to his brain. He is in pain unless on muscle relaxers, his memory is nada and he doesn't want to eat or drink. We all think it is just a matter of time. He doesn't even know who Mom is a lot of the times. He did live a great 102 years though.....you all know that I do not prya, but if you do, please pray that he passes without pain and that he knows somewhere deep inside who we all are and that we love him dearly. Gotta go-my tears are blurring the screen..

Here is a Jonathan pic for you all-I loved this one from the professionals since he has that hilarious look on his face!!LOL I did a warmify effect to the pic and love the way it looks even more now!!

Sweet, sweet little Jonathan...

Bev, so sorry you have to have more surgery, and I'm praying that this will fix you up!

Sorry I didn't get back to you yesterday, but I just wasn't up to posting. The biopsy confirmed it is cancer. We won't know much until the catscan is done. So just have to wait for their scheduling person to call her.

Both Mom and Dad are in excellent spirits. (Better than I am....) and since Dad had a cancerous tumor on his colon many, many years ago that they removed and he has had no recurrance of, they're both hopeful that she will beat this as well. She asked me if I blamed her for not wanting Chemo at her age, and I of course, said that I understood that she didn't want to go through those awful side effects. She stated that she is 90 and has led a rich, full life. I just can't imagine my life without my mother.....

Praying for you all. I lost my mother at age 12. I still cry for her at my age of 66. Take care. BEV

Stacey, Jonathan is too adorable, what a great photo! It's hard on 1st time moms, really is, call the doctor/not call the doctor, what to do, when to do it??? all overwhelming..

It was wonderful that your mom was with you these past weeks..she sure did spoil you both and am sure she hates to leave but when you get a job you just have to take the opportunity of being in the work force again..OMG just love those fabrics, what a fantastic rag quilt it will make..I've the same light green fabric with the darker green leaves and it's for a rag quilt as well..looking forward to going to Joann's next Friday, got an e-mail with sales flyer and I need a bit more flannel for Jeff's girlfriends rag quilt..time's flying, best I soon start getting it done..

Prayers for all of you, I'm sure Janice is having a difficult time with it all...let her know we're praying for her..

Joyce, hugs coming your way as well, I think your mom has chosen not to have chemo and it's a wise decision. I'm seeing what has happened to Ann's Mike, you would never had know he was ill, really other than specialists telling him he had it, he's not believe it..all through the process drs couldn't believe he was so well, said his immune system was fighting it off..but several weeks ago after they said they cannot cure him but could possibly give him extra time he opted for 2 treatments of high dosage chemo only..had one a few weeks ago and is to have the other next Tuesday...well in a matter of weeks he no longer eats, lost mega weight, cold all the time and has to rest off and on all day, has been in the hospital since Tuesday, got to wonder, now that chemo has killed his immune system he's failing rather quickly, not even sure they'll do the chemo Tuesday...

My choice would be as your mother has chosen, enjoy what time you have left..why would you want to continue fighting, getting chemo and be bed ridden for the rest of yours days...

My thoughts ONLY, many may cherish each additional day you have regardless of the pain and being bedridden.

Joyce, they do say though that cancer moves very/very slowly in older people, let's hope you have many more years with her...hugs coming your way!

Joyce-((())))hugs to you sweetie:)

Betty-the green is almost a lime in color-photo doesn't do it justice-should have take one in better light. I got all 6 at Joann's, then got the backing at Hobby Lobby yesterday...

Wish I knew you were going to Hobby Lobby, they have a book on 'scratch art' animals/birds I believe and can't find it anywhere here nor do I know where one is in Buffalo, might check that out again, really need/want one..lol

Was there a sale??? hopefully it will still be on next Friday

((((((((((Joyce))))))))) what a difficult time for you and your parents. I don't know what my choice would be, but if slow-moving cancer is usual for older people, I suppose I would not take the chemo......
What a adorable picture of Jonathan! Yeah for your mom getting a job!!! Now, I'm waiting to hear today if I have one.........
That quilt will be awesome with those colours!!

((((((((((Bev))))))))))) - you continue to be in my prayers I pray the surgery goes well for you.

Susan, today is Friday and they did say you'd know by Friday right?
Praying you hear and it's good news..I'll know when I hear you scream with joy!

Lordy, talk about heavy rain..should have brought the boat in today!

they said "by end of day, Friday"........ I'll hope, but I don't have my "rosy coloured glasses" on.

Stacey he is adorable!! Love the goofy face. You're going through a lot right now, too bad you mom has to leave but what are ya gonna do? So sorry to hear about Chris's uncle and grandpa, when it rains it pours. Lots of prayers going up for you and Chris and the family.

I have banned myself from Hobby Lobby, seems every time I go in there I spend at least $100.00, so I have to say no.

((((((((((((((((((COOKIE))))))))))))))))))))) Big big big hugs.

Well I'm dragging today, one of my next door neighbor's dogs is in heat and she keeps getting out, last night she wouldn't even come up to us and she had 5 dogs following her and decided to camp out beside my bedroom and bark, yelp, cry, growl, fight, and so on. This dog is full of tumors, my neighbor is 26 years old and going through a divorce and has to work two jobs now to keep up with the mortgage because her husband isn't sending his half of the money like his court order tells him to do, she can't afford to give the dog surgery, can't afford to fix her, can't afford to put her down, I don't know, I'm thinking about putting her down myself. She said last night at 10:30 as she was coming home from her second job that she can't take care of any more dogs and asked if we thought she was in heat. I said, YEAW!! Of course she screamed a few obscenities and said that she's too busy for puppies and who knows which dog got her. Us putting her down would help my neighbor out as the dog isn't going to live, she's as skinny as a rail because the tumors are taking all of the nourishment she's getting from her food, but is it wrong to put someone elses dog down, even if the situation would be better for everyone involved?

All I can say Crissy is, if your neighbour is OK with it, then it's OK to put the dog down!!

That's the problem, she's ok with it until I mention it, then she doesn't want to do it. I completely understand how she feels but when the dogs running loose she doesn't do anything to bring her back home because she doesn't want her in the first place. She's gotten out 4 times now so obviously the fence isn't being fixed to keep her inside. What's weird is the pup isn't getting out with her, the pup is staying home. She's absolutely right, she doesn't need the dogs, she's too busy dealing with divorce, getting her life back in order from being in complete chaos for 6 years, and working two jobs.

What my main complaints are 1. I'm losing sleep for a dog whose not mine, and 2. Tiga can't go out on her own property that we pay for because someone doesn't want to put the dog down but doesn't want to keep her home either, because it's too hard of a decision for her.

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I'd be a little cautious Crissy with you putting her down, as you say she's fine with it and agrees up to the point that you offer..me thinks it's a good way to end a friendship!!!

Nothing worse than a dog in heat, can you purchase those new panties for doggies in heat? won't stop the yelping but you might not have a slew of puppies running around.

Susan, it will be a long day for you...we're thinking positive thoughts and sending them to the individual making choices...

Oh yes there is something worse than a dog in heat.... a cat in heat lol

She's been in heat for at least a week now, has gotten out 4 times and there was a male pit bull inside her backyard the other day. I'd say what's done is done.

Susan this job thing has got to be driving you nuts. I feel for ya girl, lots of prayers that they call you.

It's 2 ladies making the choice, as I would report to both of them...... very different personalities, too!