Sweet Interruptions 79

Ooops, missed Roll Cal*** smile and a wink, I'm hear off and on throughout the day!

Oh Jaye, You are the sweetest friend. Thank you for the armwrap. Right back at you.((((((Jaye))))))
One day, that will be a real one!

Marion, 4, DH, DD2 Breenie, and DS, Jacob LOL=Plus me. We are waiting to hear from niece and nephew.
They probably won't be able to join us, but it was worth a try...Their dad, was suppose to check with his family visit.
No ansew when we call, so bumming about it but, usually means a no go....If they can we will be delighted.

Hi Deborah, Welcome back, give you a call in the evening. How are you doing?

Oh...I just love your Green room...What lovely flowers to wake to each day.

The Orchid(?) is gorgeous!!

Something warm to drink?

Stacy I really didnt post what happened as Im still trying to figure out how to tell Max.. The girls called me last night and Teara confided in me that a 17 year old boy had been very iaapropriate with her whle she was staying at a friends house. She said she was sleeping and awoke with his hands doing things that he shouldnt have been. This was in October and I just found out.. Their mom didnt call the police but said she called children services and filed a report. Max is going to be furious .. The twins are 10.. I talked to their mom and she acted like it was no big deal.. Im still so mad..

Have a friend in Ohio tracking the boy down as we speak.. I am gathering as much info as I can before Max wakes up and I have to tell him..

I want the girls out of Ohio and here with us so bad.. Their mom wont let them come though. They have 16 people living in their house.. failing in school, he doesnt take them to the doctors and now this.. Ugghhh We may not be able to offer a perfect home but at least they would be loved and safe.

So your daughters live with someone else, one was at a friends house and had an incident she is just now alerting you to and their stepmom called child services, and the mom of the boy acted like it was no big deal?? I am confuddled...but anyway it happened that is AWFUL!!!

These are my step daughters... We want custody but their mom wont let them come here.. The girls mom ( maxs ex) acted like no big deal
The boys om says she is lying

Teara was crying telling me last night.> She says everyone is calling her a liar and her life was over.. How can any mother allow their child to feel like that.. Makes me sick..

Just continue to tell her this was not her fault, that you believe her and will do what you can. I'm sure she knows the problems with her Mom, kids aren't dumb even at 10. Keep that line of communication open with her. Even if this is late at least feels free enough to talk to you about it. Make sure she know she can tell you anything, anytime.

I second what mom said...

I told her last night it wasnt her fault and not to be sad. Also told them both they can call anytime even if their dad isnt home I will always be here to talk to them.. I spent 2 hours last night on the phone between the two of them. I feel lucky they accept me and call me mom and even more important that they feel like they can trust me..

Just so hard I really wish their was more I could do for them. They tell me they are having no christmas despite the fact Max pays 150 a week for child support and they get none of it.. They said they need shoes and clothing.. Makes me so mad I could strangle that woman (term used lightly).. Heck for 150 a week they should have everything they need when they need it.. No reason for them to be picked on for having ratty clothing and living in a house with all the other pople I know where the money goes,,,, Just want to bring them here and hug them until they pop...

Donna C,

I am so sorry for your little girl. Can't even tell you how this just infuriates me.
How dare those people!! No child makes those kinds of things up.
A suggestion if you can, write down her every word of all the conversaions, state times an dates for your log.

OH, God, if they don't beleive her then they will seek counceling.

OK, I am sorry I am so shaking and tearing over here, Got go and calm down and try and think straight.

I am so sorry little baby girl Teara, big hugs and prayers for all you.
Donna...I am so praying you get custody.

Well I better get going.. Max will be up soon and I need to get Lunch done for Tony & Tristen..

will check in later..
Bear Huggs
Donna

Judy
Thanks for your kind words.. I worte everything down last night and told her to call me tonight.. Thanks for your prayers for her she needs them.. Okay I gotta run for a bit...
Huggs
Donna

Hello ladies... Donna, thank goodness those girls have you as a stepmom, they obviously need you in their lives. This is the kind of thing that child protective services may have to look into, that is molestation (or worse), and allowing this act to go un-investigated just proves that their mother is unfit. Hugs to you and yours.

Didn't have a chance to do much online yesterday, we had a winter solstice party which was lots of fun but I think I'm still recovering, LOL. Now I have a mess to clean up, and still presents to buy and we have a ton of snow (more still falling) so I don't really want to drive into town to shop. I'm hoping it clears up soon! It is beautiful out there and I love it, as long as I don't have to drive in it.

Hope you all are staying warm, safe, and dry. TTYL...

Brenda

OMG !!!! Donna... you're just the MOM to handle that situation... after all you've done this year to get through all your tough times, I just know you're going to handle this situation to best suit the twins. Sounds to me like their mom might need a rude awakening... can't wait for MAX to wake up and give it to her. I do hope they get to live with you. You'd be such a strong influence on them.

Roll call here

Donna you go girl and go full blast that is wrong and it is a big deal
you get all the info you can and you get the girls and get them to a doctor for a physical to make sure no damage was done plus it might show if the ummm hy something was torn in anyway as that would also be proof of something going on. ...they also need to know they can talk to other adults in "positions" such as teachers and doctors as they are mandated by the state to report those things.
You also call DCFS of what ever it is called there and you make a report on neglect and abuse on the X's part

My prayers are with you and the kids and Max!!!

Donna, those girls need to go see a Dr. then call the police, Make them handle it all! Oh my gosh! I will be praying for those girls, and hope you all get custody of them, They need to get out of that situation for sure!!! Big arm wraps coming your way! Good luck telling Max, I hope he calls the cops right away!

LK

Just a quick check in.. Max is up and took it better than expected.. He says he has a detectives name that he has dealt with before and he is calling him, then children services.. My friend in Ohio is finding the kids address fror us since she has a daughter who knows alot of girls in the area. We already have his myspace and the rest is comming soon as the text comes in.. Things are moving ..

Will check in later...

I do hope they catch that little man!!! He deserves what ever they do to him. Are the girls willing to make a statement? That will help a lot!

Well, I had a very nice phone chat with Sue, Turtlechi, and she sounds like a loving sister should sound. We talked about her work, and hubbies work, and all our ailments! It was a lovely surprise to hear from her, and we had a great talk. Thanks for calling Sue! Will have to call again soon.

Linda

I need your thoughts on this: My sister-in-law sent me an email of 4 elves dancing. She put my late husbands mug shot in one of them. This upset me big time, as he is not with us to celebrate Christmas. I wrote back to her and asked why she did that and "What were You thinking" Was I wrong in to get upset over something like that. It was quit a shock when I saw his face on a dancing elf and has ruined my day!

Cindy
I dont think you over reacted at all.. Im sorry that you had this happen and know it must be hard enough as it is. Hopefully she didnt mean anything by it but obviously she has no tact..
Huggs
Donna

I just can't believe she did something like that, I'm dumbfounded. She was the one who helped me through everything, his furneral, legal papers, court etc. And then she does this! 3 years later.

Hello,
I am having a very had time getting on here today... It is at my end and not Daves. I don't know if it is because of the colder weather or what but I keep getting disconnected....
Hugs,
Susan

Jaye i was shocked that i gotten a package from you.That is very sweet of you to do that.Do i open it now or wait.Sorry i haven't been on my son comes home today and i'm trying to get some things done around the house.Again thank you so much :-)

Donna, thank God Max is a smart man. I do hope the girls horrid experience ended but their mum shouldn't be so casual about things like that.
Judy, I can hear the kids now... asking you often.. 'can I bring this'?
I agree Cindy, there's no tack on your SIL's part. No reverance at all in fact.
Cody, you can open it. It's just an elf hat in it. I want you to have some fun here. Do anything you want but try to post a pic of you and the hat for Christmas.

Cindy, I agree, I would be upset also. There was no reason for her doing things like that! I hope you told her not to do that again.

LK

I did and she probably won't talk to me again. Oh well...

Thanks alot Jaye its so cute and the card.(((((((((Hugs))))))))))

You are very welcome Cody.
Trisha, you're asking about Lingernot.. this is the current thread http://davesgarden.com/community/forums/t/933066/

Got more errands.. stay warm sistahs.

Donna, With things like that going on you should be able to get custody......it took a little work but Sean and Laura managed to get permanent custody of Sage until she is 18....the mother gets supervised visits 2 hours per weeks...it CAN be done.

Thanks Jaye.....take care...

I GOT MAIL TODAY


lookie what lil fairy sent me

Phyllis, That is fantastic!!!

yeah it is isn't it ..LOL...and no one can say it isn't for me can they ...hahahahaha

I'll be back later still working on the quilt but getting closer to being done.

Yep, Phyllis... nobody can deny that those were for you... cute, indeed.

Got something funny to tell you all...
Last summer Don and I discussed having the seats in the boat reupholstered... so, I called to get an estimate, and we immediately decided that was way too much to pay. So, Don was looking in one of those boat accessories catalogs one day, and saw that we could actually replace the seats for less than it would cost to have them reupholstered, but it was still very expensive... so we put it off. Then, one day he told me he had looked on the internet for some marine vinyl, and thought that was a reasonable price, and thought I could recover them myself.

Well, I just kind of snickered, and told him that he has way too much confidence in my skills. I also told him that my sewing machine couldn't handle that kind of fabric, so I probably couldn't reupholster them myself without a commercial sewing machine. Nothing more has been discussed about it for months.

Ok, so... all that said... he left this morning for Waco, and told me before he left that UPS would be bringing my Christmas present from him... to NOT look at the box, just sign for it and set it aside... (yea, right)
Well, girls... the box came... and it's in a plain brown cardboard box, with nothing that identifies it at all. But another box came with it, that says it's a sewing machine case... SO. guess what I'm getting for Christmas????

This is too funny... it's like he really thinks that I'm wanting to make those cushion covers myself... (NOT)....

.........even so ,do you realize what a treasure you have.....No BJ, not the sewing machine......although if you really don't want the machine........heeeheee!

oh I am so mad right now I am in tears..I spent $60 to get my machine cleaned and timed and adjusted and now as I am quilting the last bit of the quilt it decides it wants to leave loops ever so often on the back side and then it decides it wants to get the tread so tight on top where the lil arm that goes up and down it breaks and I can't get it adjusted to not do that it doesn't matter what I do .. it's ruined the quilt now ....$#^%%$*^&%^$@#$@%^&*$#@

I'll be back when I cool down am ready to just smash the D thing to pieces

Treasure? Yes, indeedie... he is such a treasure... LOL.
Gotta love him... he tries.

Phyllis... I know you've tried everything you know to get it to stop doing that... but one thing I never thought about before someone told me was to just simply change the needle... amazing how wonderful that worked for me one time.

Same here, change the needle, take bobbin out, rethread.........