Best/Worse/??learnt today...Pt34 A visit with friends...

Gita, having fun can simply mean putting ones feet up, calling a friend, reading a book..know what you mean by living alone..I just go along and entertain myself..IF I get bored with myself, which I seldom do, then I invite someone over...but do hope something in your life today made you smile, brought sunshine into your life!! wish the best for you!!

Want to respond to everyone, but not feeling the best tonight so I'm off to bed..

Dr. said if he was a betting man, he say it's my gallbladder (??) told me to lay off fat foods (isn't that everything?)

Did a bit of shopping prior to going, so putting away my finds and off to bed..

Tomorrow I have to call the hospital to arrange times for the tests he listed for me and the bloodwork..will try to arrange for Friday...

Back at work tomorrow so I'll be my gabby old self..lol..

Fun...Now there is a good question!

Was it not a sunny day today? Did you smile when you awoke today as it kissed your face.
If you smiled today then I do beleive that, that was fun.

Did you smile at the happy wishes bestowed upon you. If you did that was fun and you were not alone...Because each of us Your friends were showering Fun on you as well as love on this day, your special day. Were you glad that the people all over DG have acknowledge your day. If the answer is yes, then that was fun.

Did you not get E-mails or d-mails from your friends? I beleive getting them is fun.

Did your daughters Call you on this special day, and did you chat a bit even smile just to hear there voices. If the answer is yes then that my friend is fun.

I am surprised to hear you say you don't know what fun is. There are many of us who were thinking that wishing you a Happy and fun filled day WERE having Fun, with you for you, again not leaving you alone.

What did you do today? Did you do exactly as you pleased, did you smile at new growth of those little seeds bursting to be alive? I would think that is most fun since you love to grow life!

You are given the gift of Longevity, that in itself is fun! You are healthy, have a job(somewhat)
You have good health, not many can say they are as old as you and have that, That is the fun.

If I could take away the pain of being alone for you I would send you a pet...I would send you a friend. In fact I will pray that you find a special pal.

This is not to make you unhappy or anger you, I am merely speaking MY mind on what fun is...Especially on your birthday. FUN is what you make it, alone or not, but remember you were not alone today unless you did not read...Because I did read...and I had hoped you were having fun too.
According to the dicitionary Fun: A source of enjoyment or pleasure,

So I am sorry if you didn't have fun in any way, tomorrow as you say will be just another day.
And like any other day All your firends will be here to wish you a GOOD Morning and happy day.


And I hope you have a dish of ice cream for your birthday because it is FUN, LOL and you CAN.

So that is my rendition of fun...Hope it didn't come off harsh, just telling you my idea of that silly three letter word...FUN, Which I hope every day is...LOL besides you asked.
Love
Your BRAT!

Hey, Brat!

I suppose the word "FUN" is way overrated and mis-interpreted. And I am NOT a dour, bored with my life person. Perhaps the word "FUN" has way too many definitions--and not all of us think that every little aspect of our lives is---FUN--or NOT fun!

While I agree with most of your assessments, Seed, I do not think that every pleasurable moment in my life NEEDS to be "FUN"! I do not rate all that I enjoy, necessarily, as "FUN"! Lets replace the word "fun" with--enjoyable. I can relate to that a lot better.

If you look at every occasion in your life as "FUN", what is there to come after that? What then WILL be "FUN" in your life? What WILL be special?

How do you then differentiate "special times", as we all perceive them, from any other times in our lives, to be cherished and remembered--but that were NOT unnecessary "FUN"? Even sad times can be "special"...but they are not, especially, "FUN".
Lonely times can be "special" as can times that you feel you have achieved something or have survived hard times, even thought there is no "FUN" aspect to any of them.

OH, I know very well what "FUN" is! I have had a lot of "FUN" in my life and also many times that I thought were "FUN", that turned out to be a disaster--in the long run.

I think it is wonderful that you all wished me Happy Birthday. It would not have been a lot of "FUN" if none of you had done that, but--my life would not have changed any if none of you had done that. I may have felt a bit sad????
FUN....FUN....FUN....at everything and anything is --shallow.
Appreciation, on the other hand, is much deeper.

Does this make any sense to you, Seed???

I DO truly appreciate all of you thinking of me as your "friend". Not sure just how much "FUN" that is????????????????????????????

Gita

Need to add a PS.....

I have been sensing that you and i are subtly "butting heads" for some reason. WHY?

I am aware that I am, also, butting heads with another particular person on DG. As much as i have thought about it, i do not know WHY--But--I DO think I know why!

It comes down to feelings of "control". I like to control things, be in charge--and so does she. I am organized--and so is she--but to an obsessive level. So, my feelings are that I want to tell her she is too obsessive, but I never will, as she is also a very generous and knowledgeable person. I do not wish to alienate her, so I keep my feelings of "aggression" very subtle...as I realize that I am the one with the problem--NOT her. It is up to me to sort it out and "get over it". Basically--it is MY problem!
I do believe that two people who are very much alike will, eventually, butt heads.

Just food for thought..........

Gita

Gita..You know..I Will be back...I have company...Celebrating a 32nd year of fun !
I have read everything and will respond...just as soon as my company goes home...

No...Iam not sure...I have had many and alot of painful memories.
Good, bad,and all kinds..within all of this, We have to forgive...and We love!!

I am not sure...One thing, I know! We all Spread the Love!

I really beleive..Love is spread....with the heart....

Well, Sister, I say this for fact! Like myself, somethings are held in secret! I think we are all a little bit uhhhh.guilty! of this.

I have to tell you, I hold no secrets about bring friends...Been there here there and everywhere . ALONE I know this for what the real word means...WE Gita are not unalike, only difference is our age and ...ROFL isn't this fun??...I have to admit...I really enjoy this tonight ! Pleasurable ev

I AM going to "SHUT UP" now. Gita,, Ido love you...LOL your alot like me! LOL have a fun eve.!!


...Ummm, not sure you answered any of my questions. Did you smile? I did.


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Nuetral Corners ladies. Gita I don't know what to say but I guess you have some tough things that a group of garden friends can not easily solve, but our intentions are to let us all vent and talk about our feelings and best and worst in a day.

I figure a Birthday is a day that should be Fun, if possible, but painful or uneventful and disappointing are maybe the norm under these circumstances.

You know in your heart we can not do anything to give you any special someone to spend the day with, but we DO REALLY CARE ABOUT YOU. Some people do have that capacity to forge a deeper than surface relationship with others and I think that is why we all camped on this thread.

You too? I hope.

I do wish you had a really Happy birthday. If you did, I am really happy, because it would be hard to be alone and it would Piss me off sometimes. It is just the way I perceived your message. If I am wrong please accept my apology.

You have the right to feel what you feel. If we could be more like men and just get irritated and over it then next day, that would be great but we are women and it doesn't work out like that usually.

If you really are mad at us, I feel bad, even if it is just you venting, it feels like you are mad at us about stuff we can not change. You know the birthday wishes are meant to make you know we care and that we HOPE THAT YOU ARE HAVING FUN ON YOUR DAY, WE CELEBRATE YOUR LIFE WITH YOU IN THE ONLY WAY WE CAN.

I know you are sweet but there is a lot of frustration in your post. If there is some way to make it better send us or the individuals a dmail or if you just need a friend to vent too. Dmail me. Ok? I am no saint either. I just don't like people to feel alone. You are not even though it seems so.
ps.

I love the way those flowers smelled, I thought it was some sort of technique. lol
My friend use to glue all the dried flowers and roses especially to old wood pane windows and old french doors and it was so awsome, she also put orange leaves on them and babies breath. I love dried flowers.

Happy Birthday Gita, better late than never. Hmmmm.....not sure I have the mind for an intellectual talk this early. I won't even try.

Thanks for the health warning Sharron. Each year when flu season rolls around, I have thoughts of doom. They don't last but hearing how life threatening some of these things are, really scare me. Knock on wood that none of us in this household have been ill with it. I hope that it stays that way.

My friend is coming again today and we will start painting the bathroom cabinets. Same as last time, she will be the one doing the most work. I will most likely still be working on my office project. I am to the closet which should be interesting what all I find in there.

I hope that everyone will have a good day. Will check back again later today.

Ruby

gita,
i hope your birthday was full of smiles and fun.
now off the record, dear sweet judy's intent was to simply wish you a very happy birthday from the bottom of her heart because she gives......
wheather your alone or not we made sure to let you know that you are thought of,
that we concider you as part of our group.
i am sorry you have some issues on control, but dear gita there is no reason to unintentionally attack, im sorry if you find that statement offensive there is no mallace intended.
we are here to listen... be your friend... your sounding board... to give.... to learn from one another.... a special place for friends to meet.

if i offended you i am truly sorry

Finally a few minutes to gab...even though I spent the day at home yesterday I was extremely busy..didn't even spend a whole lot of time on my stained glass piece...oh well, weekend is coming..my goal this spring is to make the house very welcoming for the B&B so lots to do..this piece should add more charm, colors would blend in the back bedroom as well where the guests would stay most of the time...

Wasn't moving as quickly as I should have, met Suzanne in Barrie and I was late, she was a little off by it, but I think it's because she is suffering from a migraine, so I'll stay quiet today..lol

I'll be going surfing the internet to make myself familiar with 'gallbladder'..Dr. said to stay away from 'fats' so not sure what I should be eating..will call hospital to make appt. for my tests..I'll try for a Friday so that it's only 1/2 day I'm taking off...

I'm with Rudy this morning, not up to using my brain in an important discussion, hopefully by this afternoon I'll have some of my marbles back in tact..


Dawn, as always you bring a smile to my face...love the 'like men' part...

OMG I just noticed, DOES ANYONE SLEEP OUT THERE????

Hey, You all!

I was not offended by anything anyone said and no apologies are needed. I am not "mad" at anyone either. Coming to this Post is the highlight of my day!

Dawn--You are very perceptive......

Judy--I really liked your response to my ramblings!

I do have to admit, that it is NO fun being alone through all the good and the bad times.
I think that I will always feel a bit sad that there is no one special in my life to share all kinds of times with.
Many of you are in the same boat.

I did have some FUN--just the day before my Birthday when my daughter and I went to the "Body World exhibit and then out to lunch afterwards. I appreciated that she took the day to be with me from her busy schedule.

Thank you all once more! I know we all care for each other here--in a cyberspace kind of way.
Gita

Nice post Gita..

Help/help..if they say try not to eat fats, what am I suppose to eat..just salads??

Vegie soups- look for low fat products Check low cholesterol diets.

Good morning everyone. I've been on the road all this week and am pooped! Get to stay in the office today and play catch up.

Happy Birthday a little late Gita. And wishing you many many more!

Sharon, glad you are feeling a bit better. I'm not sure what type I had but it was nasty stuff. It seems to go into pnemonia so easy, I was a little paranoid. I lived on Robitussin and Mucinex and gargling with salt water, and echinacea throat lozenges for a week!!! The cough has finally let up, and my energy level is coming back.
If it's the same thing Sharon, it's gonna take at least 2 weeks. Mine was mostly head and chest, achey all over, with fever for 4 days, bad sore throat with a deep rattly cough, and barely enough energy to get up off the couch. Just be patient. And take care of yourself!!!

Have a good day everyone.

Ves is right, Betty...look for 0 fat grams on prepared food packaging, or as a rule, cereals are 0 or low fats,....well lots of things are low fats, these are all low:

fruit
fruit juices,
veggies, even baked potato
all beans
corn
peppers
pop corn

The problem comes with meats and often with how we prepare food, these are generally high in fats:

cooking oils
cakes
icecreams
margarine
pies
butter breads
cheeses
meats including beef and pork
all fried foods

Being vegetarian I stay away from animal products anyway, but make up for lost protein by eating beans and soy products....it isn't hard to do, but it does mean a change of habit. I haven't looked into meats, because I don't eat meat anyway, but I think fish and chicken might be lower in fat, but not if they are fried

I am not thinking real clearly yet, but it just takes a little thought when you are preparing food, and isn't too hard to adjust to. It is well worth it if it makes a difference, you know.
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Morning, folks....
can't decide whether to stay up or go back to bed, it's a good thing I don't have anything pressing today. The cats and I think we might go right back to bed.
You all stay well, now.

Thanks Shar, have to stop in Barrie tonight to get the lenses changed n my glasses, just might hit the grocery store and pick up some of the goodies you listed..must behave myself..can't turn 60 and fall to pieces...lol

Earlier the sky was blue but it seems to be clouding over..calling for yet a major storm tomorrow, but starting mid morning..I'll be home by then..wasn't up to 'Home Depot' trip last night so I'll go tonight to pick up the wood for the 'living birdhouse' for those of you that wanted the directions, maybe I'll type them out for you..now I have to research drought resistent shrubs for it..know they say hens/chickens, but not sure of the others..

Got my appt. for March 28th..Friday morning! She asked me if I was in a lot of pain as they'd fit me in, said 'nope'...so many sick sick people that they don't need someone like me going when it's not life or death..

And here we go...

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