About Those Manners

And how quickly did you remove the offending term, WUVIE? lol
Goodness, do you have to give up common sense when you go into business?

It would seem so kaperc. I was finishing up an Associates in Accounting so had the rules and regs fresh in my mind when I took a book keeping job at a small day spa. I only worked there for two weeks before quitting on account of conflict of integrity! This guy wanted me to put in the fuel and car wash expenses under the business when 1. the car didn't advertise the business and 2. it was only used to drop off extra flyers once a week. He also wanted his girlfriends hair and nails added as a business expense simply because she was a massage therapist....uh, no, don't think so. You don't have to look stunning to run a massage business, you have to be good with your hands. He didn't give the other therapists hair and nail treatments on the business books.... There were a few other things that made me realize they were headed for an audit so I took my leave of them pretty quick!! Yeah, I only had an associates and was not an accountant but he know I was a cop in the Air Force for 8 years and I am NOT stupid! It won't be long before he is in the headlines for fraud.....

I wonder.......can i write off my hair cuts and manicures cuz i have to look good so my plants will grow better?

LOL!!!! I don't think they will like that either...drat!

off subject real quick.....ByndeweedBeth is giving away Feathered Morning Glories for SASE. says she's drowning in seeds for anyone that wants them!!!!

Ohhhh!!! I sooooo want MG seeds!!! What is SASE? I am having a heck of a time finding them in stores here, all I find are moonflowers which I have a ton of now...LOL!

self addressed stamped envelope

Woohoo!!!! Thanks for the heads up!!

Christina you are too funny. Save a seed or two for me!! You have d-mail

LOL! Back at you!! Will always save some for you!!! You have plants ;0)


Pet Peeve...spending tons of money on a Kirby vacuum with attachments for shampooing the carpet and not getting it to clean carpets for 3 years!!!

Finally calling Kirby and asking what I am doing wrong....I now have clean and spotless carpets....priceless!!!!

Digatunnel , I so wish I had the nerve to say something like that in a store. How can a mother or father not know that their child is making a scene?

I was at the store yesterday and it seemed like everyone was looking for something and leaving their cart in the middle of the aisle. Then they give me a dirty look when I say excuse me. But then there was an elderly gentleman who was looking for boullion cubes. So two of us pointed him in the right direction. Then I end up in the soup aisle and there he is so I show him where the boullion is. Another woman also helped him. that was a good thing.

Yesterday, the cars with no signals, turning their signal on after the light changed, turning their signal on after they turn. Cars that didn't pull over when two ambulances came down the road. Plenty of room to pull over but several cars just didn't.

Today it's the neighbor blasting his music. Sounds like the car with the bass turned up going down the road.

I too hate those recorded phone calls. I get the remote, mute the tv and get to the phone and it's a recording - ugh

GRRR--I am seething over a phone call we had earlier from a real estate lady. We have some property in another county and it isn't for sale but we will sell it for the right price. The people who have a house adjoining our property are needing to sell their house (which they bought from us just last year). Our property has a large Morton building on it which my DH used to store his company equipment and material before he retired. The people who bought our house last year wanted the warehouse but couldn't afford it so we sold them the house and 2.5 acres leaving us with the warehouse and 6 acres. Now that they want to sell the house they are finding out that the people who are interested in buying the house also want the warehouse but they don't want to pay our price. Anyway, what I am angry about is that this real estate lady called and when I quoted her the price she said, "There is NO WAY my client is going to pay that. He says he has built two barns in Nebraska and he knows what they are worth and the warehouse and the land aren't worth but (and then she named a ridiculously low price)." I told her we couldn't give it away and she said, "Well, if you are going to have that attitude I'll just tell my client we need to look elsewhere for a house and barn." I had handed the phone to DH at that time and he told her "Well, that is what you need to do. Goodbye." The nerve of her acting like she was doing us a favor because her client wanted to buy our warehouse when we don't even have it listed. Oh, brother, will I never recommend her to anyone. She was totally unprofessional. Somebody ought to clue her in on good professional manners. Thanks for letting me vent and get this off my chest.

Car manners- I always signal whenever I need to, but hubby's car went thru a period where the signal would just stop working for awhile, then work again. Hesitated to put it in the shop for a few hundred dollars of guesswrok. Finally, one evening, some guy yelled at me cause I hadn't signalled ( iI had my hand out the old fashioned way, but it was dark. ) Guess who got the car in the shop pretty soon after that?

Now how do you tell somebody they don't have their lights on at night? I have seen this a surprising number of times. Last time, I was facing the person at an intersection, with one car in front of me, but nobody in front of him. I angled my car a little so he could see my lights and flashed highs on and off several times. as we sat for the light and as he passed me. No action. I guess I should have yelled Lights! as he passed.

And I want a universal signal for I'm Sorry! . I am afraid a wave might sometimes be mistaken for a finger.

What nerve from the real estate lady! I am almost positive there is a place you can report agents like that!! DH got his real estate license and I know there is a threat of something like that! What a jerk!!

I would also like a sign for sorry while driving!!! Not that I ever am wrong in what I do....LOL! As for the lights not being on, you remember the urban legend and gang initiations right? You drive without your lights on and the first person to flash you just flashed their death warrant? Not the case most of the time but I would be sure to have pepper spray or something handy in case that car turns around! Mwuaaaahhhaaaa

I would like the driving sign too. I can't believe the number of drivers with no lights on. Here in NJ you have to have your lights on if you have your wipers on. The white car in the snow storm with no lights on - they need a different sign.

Hi SallyG,

I turn my lights completely off, then, hopefully aimed right
at the person's car, then turn mine on. This is not to blind them so
much as make them aware of light, and it never fails to work.

:-)

Pet peeve of the day? Dinner at the local Chinese restaurant, a guy
walks in with a muscle shirt, underarm hair just hanging out. Sure, I'll
give him credit if he works hard, but it's November. Time to put some
clothes on at least during public dining. Wal Mart is across the street.
Throw down a couple bucks and buy a T-shirt.

I don't know if ya'll have already mentioned this.........

Throwing cigarettes, lighted or not, out of car windows. Here in AZ I am just stunned that people do this all the time. Its so disgusting. Filters are fiberglass, doesn't decompose, not to mention a fire hazard..... or shall we a cause of wildfires, forest fires, home fires, desert fires. Some of these folks are so ignorant and I'm trying to be n-i-c-e.

Aguane, allow me to buy you a drink of your choice.

LOL! I understand Aguane! I am a smoker but if I really need one in the car I make sure I have a water bottle or almost empty soda to toss the butt in! Since I have little ones, it is rare that I am alone in the car and I hate having them crawl into a stinky car so I usually refrain unless it is a smoke or the life of other drivers!!!

BTW, I never smoke while the kids are in the car and we don't smoke in the house...just in case you thought that! ;-)

Hey, I used to smoke and was told I was a very considerate smoker. Not in the house, away from people etc. Sounds like you are too, C. I was down to 2 - 6 smokes a day and QUIT. That was about 20 years ago.....

But, still, throwing the butt out of the car is so disgusting. We have Roadrunners (the birds) at work who run around with butts in their beaks. Its hilarious to see BUT the fact is they are addicted to the nicotine. Another heavy duty fallout from not taking care to dispose of the butts properly... if there is a proper way.

Why, Thanks WUVIE! I'll have a shot of tequila, thank you. Glad you understand, too.

(passing a drink to newhobby, too!) :-)

thanks Wuvie, good suggestion. I agree on the muscle shirt-in-restaurant.

Oh, the muscle shirt with arm hair hanging out--how disgusting!
Agree about the cigarette butts, too.
DH and I have never been smokers so if a smoker comes over to my house, we ask them to smoke outside. Sometimes they throw their butts in my yard and it really burns me up! How rude!
Aguane, I never even thought about roadrunners and other birds being addicted to nicotine through the filters but it only makes sense that they could be. Even more reason for smokers not to toss their butts whereever they please!

The people who dial the wrong number, are politely told that they have the wrong number, and then want to argue the point. Like maybe I am the person that they are calling, and I just don't know it.

Or the ones who, upon dialing the wrong number and hearing an unfamiliar voice say hello, start the conversation with "Who is this?" leading me to say "Well, who is this?" They never want to identify themselves, but want to know who I am.

The people who show up ten minutes into a movie, and instead of sitting in the first available seats they can find, decide that they must sit in the middle of the row, and then crawl over everyone to get a seat.

Do people still do that? Around here, I am not even sure if they will let you in once the movie starts.

In "the olden days", however, nobody ever bothered finding out when the movie started. Everyone just went whenever it was convenient for them and if they got there in the middle of the movie they could sit through it and stay to see the next showing. Usually one would get up and leave when they got to the point of "where they came in". Anybody remember those days, besides me? LOL

It seems these days, they do it, only at the buffet, instead.

:-0

LOL

We are doing a family shopping trip to Fry's for turkey day stuff...I am sure I will come back with pet peeves galore!!! I know it will be a madhouse! Gonna need another drink Wuvie! Actually, I think I will have one before even going...DH will drive!

My pet peeve will be coming up before our next election. Why is it not possible to have politicians included on the Do Not Call list? I really do not want to listen to a taped message by the person running for office, or any of their friends, relatives or volunteers. I also don't want to speak in person to someone who thinks that I should vote for their candidate. In fact, when I've had an actual person annoying me with these calls I have told them that I refuse to vote for anyone who resorts to bothering people at home.....or at work.

Couldn't agree more on that one, Marie. Like we aren't already inundated by political crud up to that point.

newhobby, My dear friend used her soda or water bottle to douse her butts in. One day her neice was riding in the car with her and and had a sip of soda (thought she was drinking from her own bottle) and nearly choked to death on a butt.

My friend has never smoked another cigarette.

The niece has never let her forget the incident.

love this thread. as usual I can't read it all to catch up. ;)

agree with this one,

When a cashier opens up a new register in a crowded store, and says "Next person in line please!" and someone who wasn't waiting races over to get in line ahead of everyone who was waiting in the existing line.
Maybe twice in my lifetime have I seen a cashier turn someone away for doing this.

andidandi wrote;"Maybe twice in my lifetime have I seen a cashier turn someone away for doing this."

I agree, but it's very hard to ask someone to leave once the line has started, and generally management frowns on it, they just want things moving. When I was a checker, and told to open, I'd go to the next person, and invite them to my "new" line. Sometimes they didn't want to move, so I'd go to the next. Didn't always work, and I got some dirty look from people who'd been "stalking" me *g*, but I felt better.....

anddid: so very true! along those lines, we also don't frequent the 20 items of less (why isn't there a "no carts" line for those holding their items???) because we often have more. but once, very recently and at a Wal-Mart, a cashier gestured to us to come over since the store was slow and she had no one in her 20 items or less line. As she was ringing up our obviously loaded cart wouldn't you know a customer came up in the line. Then another. Someone complained (and kudos to them for it!) and she went off. She told the customers (and it was quite bold and funny to see someone actually take charge of their checkout) that it was HER line and SHE told us to come over and had they been faster then they could have been first in line.

I have seen the rude "me first" folks hurry up when a new line opens. Many of our HEB groceries actually have someone (think mgmt) who walks up and down watching the checkouts and when one is empty THEY walk up to someone in a line that's long and tell them checkout number ____ is open. Kinda helps alleviate a mad rush.

Oh, yes, the pushy cart people, grr!

This happens in the post office, so as of late I've been practicing taking
charge. I don't care if I seem a bit loud, when there are ten people waiting
for three lines and an open cashier says "Next?" it burns my buns when
someone who just walked in rushes up. It makes me want to snatch their
collar like a child and send them to the back of the line.

Upon walking in, I check everyone out and determine who is next or has been
waiting. If the checker calls for the next person, I speak up and say "This
gentleman" or "This lady" was next in line. It tells the pushy people
someone is keeping score.

Get back, you rude fool!

(Well, I don't say that part out loud, but I'm sure thinking it. LOL.)

catmad- You're right. The best way to deal with the situation is when the cashier looks over at the next customer and invites them over.

Tir_Na_Nog- I've been on both sides of that one. I was there a few weeks ago when they had about five of the -20 item lines open with no customers, and the other lines jammed. I went over to one of the many -20 registers where the cashier appeared to be chatting with her boyfriend. She refused to help me, even though I pointed out that she had no customers in sight. She just wanted to socialize on company time.

Some of the bigger stores have started posting an employee who walks around herding the lines by suggesting that you get into or move to a particular line. It works well.

wuvie, I've NEVER seen this behavior in a p.o. here in Texas. We have the lines herded by the velvet ropes or chains and it's pretty much just wide enough for a single file line. The door opens into the very small space already at the BACK of the line, so no worries about that happening here.

This isn't exactly rude, but it's related:

There will be a bank of say, three ATM machines, one of which will be broken. The customers will divide themselves between the two working machines, as word spreads that one is broken, and sensible people arrive on the scene and ask if something is wrong with that other machine. While waiting, some fool will come along, look over the situation, and go the machine that is not working and start to use it. Apparently they think that they are the only person smart enough to go to the unused machine.

This also happens at the P.O. with the one member of staff who decides to do their paperwork next to a closed register. Everyone else forms a single line, and every 5 minutes or so some idiot comes in and walks right up to employee without a line.

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