About Those Manners

A friend of mine had a very similar experience to yours in Hobby Lobby. She was with her 3 yr old in Wal-Mart when the child decided she was going to take a ride on one of the kiddie rides. When my friend took her by the hand and said they didn't have time for the ride, the kid flipped out! She started screaming at the top of her lungs, "Stop hurting me! OUCH!" My friend was mortified and really didn't know quite how to respond at first. And I think that's what the little ones go for sometimes......the shock in public places! LOL! It's funny now that the little girl is 13, but at the time it was horrible.

The threat when we were kids was always, "Do you want to go sit in the car?"

After that it was, "You're going to get it when you get home."

Either one would stop any bad behavior dead in it's tracks, but parents were allowed to discipline their children then.

Ours was always "Wait until your father gets home."
Or "You want something to cry about, I'll give you something to cry about."

;-o

we got the "wait til your father gets home" too. being in the Navy, it was usually 4-6 months before he got there......we were willing to wait:):)

what gets me the most is people who make noise when they eat. i know people that can make noise eating mashed potatos!!!! the first thing i taught my kids when they were old enough to feed themselves was to do it quietly and with their mouth closed. i would remove the plate from in front of them for a few minutes, they realized real quick that i was not going to put up with bad manners at the table.

In the early 60's we lived on a culdesac and all the parents watched all the kids for each other. We really never needed to worry about the children as they didn't leave the sanctity of the street that we lived on as it seemed set off from the rest of the world. The last two houses before the intersection (very quiet intersection I might add) on either side of the street were families that had already raised their children and so the kids didn't go that far because there was no one to play with there.

The kids spent most of the time outside playing. We made bases for baseball on the circle at the end of the street and there were no coaches and the rules of life were learned without adults screaming at the referee. Older kids watched after the little ones and they were all best friends.

If your child did something really wrong at a neighbor's house they would call you and you would generally say "well go ahead and spank him/her and send them home and I'll deal with them here again." They just usually didn't misbehave because they knew that there were too many eyes on them and too many parents that would say "spank and send home"

Their favorite memories as adults were the houses made out of appliance boxes, the home movies, the kool aid and cookies and the many endless birthday parites. They loved when we got colored tv's and air conditioning and shared memories of afterschool watching a cartoon while eating a snack and then straight out the door after homework to play until supper. No video games, no computer and only one quick cartoon before going outside. They would come in for supper get baths and jammies and watch one or two at the most family shows like the Beverly Hillbillies or Leave it to Beaver and then off to bed.

On the occassions when they get together (unfortunately funerals usually) they talk about the many parents they each had and how it helped them learn to respect their elders and to follow rules at work and in life.

I know this is about pet peeves, and I guess if there is a peeve in this it is because life has gotten too complicated for kids and adults. The kids only worries were simple ones and nobody got shot over it.

AMEN, Charlenesplants !!!

You want to know what really bugs me? People who stand to close to me in the checkout line. Here I am paying for my purchases, trying to keep an eye on the kids and get out of the store as quick as I can and the person behind me is sooo close she could just about see what I had for breakfast. Will ya just back off? Please!

Now I don't have kids so maybe this was a little harsh but -
I was in the supermarket at around 8:00 a.m. on a sunday morning and there was a mother walking around with her must have been about 3yr. old in the wagon seat just screaming at the top of it's lungs for shear pleasure. Mom was fine with it. Just shopping up and down the aisles with this kid taking a breath and screaming as long as it could. Everyone was giving each other looks, but nobody was doing anything.
I walked up to mom and child and said "My word! It's 8:00 in the morning! If I did something like that when I was little, my Mom would have twisted my little head right off my body!" The mom seemed so surprised, she hadn't realized! She told the girl to hush. Absolutely discipline your children. I have called 911 for child abuse at the bank once. That's entirely different than a controlled swat on the bottom.

I also have a pet peeve for people that park in handicapped spaces that aren't handicapped. I once told someone who mentioned that they do it, they should be counting thier blessings that they don't need that space for real.

Pickers and spitters and chewing with your mouth open...please don't show me what's inside your head! Eeeeew!

Charlesnesplant, I am with you! That is how I was raised, and how I trued to raise my children. Even if we wanted to do something unacceptable...we knew neighbors that saw us would grab us, and then we would get it again when we went home. I beleive that is also where the saying come from....."It takes a village to raise a child"!

me too, charlenesplant! That sounds like the neighborhood we lived in when my two oldest were little.
--and digatunnel and kiwi--I agree with both your peeves. I didn't realize I had so many peeves until I started reading all of yours! LOL I am not a confrontational type and I usually just shrug off these things (don't sweat the small stuff) but my main peeve is still having to decide if I am going to speak English. Even the ATM machines at the banks ask if you want English!
For heaven's sake, we live in the melting pot of the world. If we tried to accommodate everybody who spoke a language other than English just think how confusing it would be!

it was in our paper about 6 months ago, that English has finally been declared the OFFICIAL language of the US. i wonder how much money they spent on that research?

Didn't take a degree in rocket science, did it!? LOL

The U.S. Senate declared English the "common and unifying language" of the U.S. There is no official language. Lots of states have declared English as the official language; some states have more than one official language.

This one really chaps my hide: People who walk their dogs and allow the animal to tromp through their plantings. The parking strip is one thing...but the private property gardens are another. aaaarrrrrgggggg !

and the one's who let their dogs run loose!! i don't own a dog, but continuously have to scoop dog poo from my yard.

I just started gardening this year hence the newhobby...We created a nice area, still needs lots of plants, next to the front door. There was a pup a few months ago that was tromping all over my new plants !!! Yikes!!!! DH went out and looked at the collar and it had something rude along with a curse word instead of the pups name. DH had an idea where it lived and took it back to the no good POS owners. The pup was back the next day so I took it back (really sweet thing, wanted to keep it!!) and told them they needed to keep it out of my plants! Luckily the jerks moved not too long after that! Ohhhh was I mad!!!

That would steam me as well.

Just thought of another one: When you're in the grocery and something has fallen off the shelf, and is lying in the middle of the aisle and NO ONE will pick it up and put it back. It takes all of 3.5 seconds to bend over, pick it up and put it on the shelf.

yea, that one gets me too. how about when you are in the grocery store and reach for paper products and find a package of meat? if something is not wanted, especially a cold food product,at least put it some place cold!!! not to mention the one's who walk through the store eating,putting the empties on a shelf because they never had any intention of paying for the product!!!!

Signing in as one who always picks up things on the floor at the grocery store.

I cannot get over the number of people careless slugs who walk by,
kick, or run over something on the floor with their carts. Careful, you might help
keep prices down, don't you dare pick it up and at least put it back on a shelf.
You might break something bending over for a change. No, it's not your job, but
can you imagine what this world would be like if everyone took that position?
Do a good deed, for pity's sake. (rolling eyes)

Gosh, even if it is not in the same area, at least picking it up off the floor
would be nice. Then there are the slobs who take frozen or refrigerated items
through the store, decide not to buy it, so they put it on the shelf. I ALWAYS
take these things with me to the checkout and tell the cashier where it was found.

Tsk tsk tsk.


Whoops. Corrected bender to bending.

This message was edited Nov 14, 2007 10:29 AM

SAVE THAT POOR LOAF OF BREAD FROM A PAINFUL DEATH BY TRAMPLING ! (The bread will be grateful to you ! )

LOL!!! The kids and I just back from Wal-Mart, not my fav of places to go but my son is potty training and needed a supply of underware! Anyway, it was better today than most but I still saw quite a few misplaced items and trash...Ours has trash cans at the end of almost every isle, uh, put your trash in your cart until you find a trash can...HELLO!! You guys are so right!!

We have to head out this afternoon...hubby decided he wants fresh French Bread for grilled cheese sandwiches tonight (yes, a little peeved at two trips in one day with the kids but he did say thank you after asking me to drop off his dry cleaning too....humph!) Anyway, there is a Starbucks next door to Fry's and let me tell you, yes, I so love their mochas spiced with the current holiday flavor but am soooo peeved when these coffee snobs leave their cups wherever when they are done! Good Golly! If you can afford expensive (a real treat for me at the moment) then you can have the courtesy to properly dispose of your high and mighty cup!

I really like this thread! LOL!!!

I agree with Bhuagh! It drives me crazy when people eat anything they want in the market without paying. I once saw a woman opening a bottle of salad dressing, sticking her finger in and tasting it. Then she went on to the next flavor and did the same thing! You've got to be kidding me!

Also, not using a basic "thank you."

GRROSSS!!!!!!! i am always amazed at people in the store....
and not only is the basic "thank you" not used, the basic "please" seems to have been deleted from the english language also!

Not a frequent fan of drive through restaurants, don't you just
love the way they hand you the bag. As you sit there waiting, they
say "Didja need sumpin else?"

Or the cashier will take your money, hand you the bag and that
is all you get. If you hesitate, they ask "Is there sumthin wrong?"

Umm. Yeah. I seem to be missing a "Thank you."

just left Food Lion, got another one..........are the cart corrals put in the parking lot for looks? can someone please explain what is so hard about walking 4 feet to put the cart up?

And speaking of coffee places...I don't think you should be expected to leave a tip when you are getting coffee that you have to pour yourself from one of the many pots they have on the counter. All the person behind the counter does is hand you a disposable cup and take your money. That isn't "tip worthy" to me...but if the coffee is $1.50 and you hand them 2 bucks, they ask, "Would you like change"????

uhhhh...YEAH !!!!!

RE covering your mouth when you sneeze....
I rode BART in SF for years and was sickened daily.

'course some riders are standing, some sitting. Doesn't matter. So often people would take their hands off of the pole used to steady their ride, cover their mouths to sneeze, and put their hand back onto the pole. OMG. omg. I Never Touched a thing on the trains. I think that's why people from my grannies generation wore gloves.

Sorry to say but one of the things that brings up "fingernails on the blackboard" for me is the misuse of written words They're, There, and Their. Can't tolerate it.

Sylvain - I spent a little while trying to figure out how to write that position of holding the fork and gave up. Your version is brilliant; I concur, the death grip on the utensil really is not necessary.

As for misbehaving children my mother always told me "you can get glad in the same clothes you got mad in", makes me smile just to write it. True enough, she was right.

-Kim

Kim, that is priceless!!

Lucky you that had the puppy in your flower beds. ( At least comparitively speaking.) I had a neighbor's cow in my flower beds this morning. She didn't just tromp 'em she was eating them.

Darn neighbor has cows, but doesn't have pastures fit to raise rabbits on. Nothing but weeds and sand. Poor cows grind their teeth down on the sand trying to find a little blade of grass to eat.

I saw the cow and yelled out to my DH that one of our cows was in the yard. He yelled back for me to help him chase the cow down the fenceline and back into her pasture through the gap she had made coming into our yard.

Through clinched teeth he said you can see that cows ribs, he sure as heck doesn't belong to me.

We both have Black Angus cows so I saw a black cow and just figured it was ours.

We don't even waste our time calling the neighbor to help fix the fence we just fix it ourselves.

Last year my DH put hay next to the fence close enough for the neighboring cows to eat because he just couldn't stand them watching our fat cows eating hay, and range cubes and the bread we feed them from the bread super store.

That is a pet peeve around this area with all the neighbors. We can't make him feed them because they are just barely healthy enough to not be dying. It is a disgrace.

The guy gripes because he doesn't get a calf every year from each cow. Then he gripes again when he loads up his calves and takes them to the salebarn and they bring way less than our calves bring.

He inherited the land, cows, tractor and house and he puts nothing back into what he gets from the sale of his calves when he does get a calf from his poor cows.

We give up vacations to fertilize, spray for weeds, spray for grasshoppers and put lime on our pastures so our cows have good pasture. The cost has gone so high that people with small places (54 acres) like ours don't come out very much ahead if they come out ahead at all. The big operations with feedlot animals are the ones that make a profit worthwhile. We do it because DH loves his cows and he spoils the mamas and treats them like he cares about them.

Our rewards are when we sit in the pasture and watch a new calf "get it's legs" and nurse for the first time. I love when DH comes home from the salebarn and brags about how his calves brought top dollar.

I think if you are going to have animals for any reason be it pet or stock you should be committed to give them the best care available. If you can't do that then don't have animals at all.

charlenesplants wrote;"I think if you are going to have animals for any reason be it pet or stock you should be committed to give them the best care available. If you can't do that then don't have animals at all."

Would that there were more people in the world who felt this way. Along with numerous cats and 5 dogs, I have 8 "rescue" cows. They are Pasture Ornaments. That's it. And they are expensive to feed, especially this year, hay prices are sky high. I took them thinking I could throw a bale of hay to them once in a while, a little grain, but they'd "Live Off The Land". Humph. Wrong!! It took them two months to decimate the fields of kudzu, and there they were standing at the fence looking at me with those big 'ole hungry eyes.....

Nary a rib to be found on these boys.....

This message was edited Nov 15, 2007 10:33 AM

Charlene, I'll cook breakfast for you on that note!

Shy of using profanities to describe people like those you've
mentioned, the same rule applies to those with what are supposed
to be domesticated pets. It's pathetic the way some people treat
animals.

Last night my oldest son came to town. Hungry HE was
hungry for a particular fast food joint with golden arches (cough) we
paid at the first window, drove to the second and saw a bag hanging out
the window. After all of our order was received, I whispered to my son
"She won't even say thank you."

Sure as said, she handed our last item through the window and stood
there looking at us. I sat there without a word looking at her. She walked
off. Son and I sat there dumbfounded.

You truly get what you pay for, but I've been a fast food worker. Help
me to understand how you could not know to thank the customer or
even say diddly?



This message was edited Nov 15, 2007 7:29 AM

Those poor cows!!! Granted, I never knew how expensive it was to properly care for one, much less several but if you own them you better by golly treat them well!!!

Aguane, I know the deal with sneezing and then putting the germs onto something around you! I am trying to teach my two little ones to use the crook of their arm if they are wearing a shirt and they get hankies galore if they are really sick!! Thankfully, it's usually allergies but I still don't want snot and germs all over the house!! Wearing gloves doesn't sound like a bad idea after what you said! YUCKKKK!!!!

does this bother anyone? the phone rings, you answer just to hear "you have an important message from so & so.....please call......" wait, if the message is so imprtant, why are they too LAZY to have a human make the phone call instead of a computer?

how about trying to get ahold of the utility companies? ....please press one, please press 2, please press 7, please hold for the next 4 hours while we find a human that is willing to earn their paycheck today by actually answering the phone........

Or the blank calls. When you pick up, you hear nothing. Then
a recording states "If you'd like to make a call, please hang up."

Huh?

LMAO Wuvie......

Ooohhhhh! I get one from the dealership all the time. Phone rings, I pick it up and say hello twice and it starts with 'while you were out, we recorded this important message for you....'

Excuse me, I have been home all morning...while I was out??? Talk about rude!!!

The calls I detest are the messages from bs-ers.

"Hi, this is Bob, sorry I missed you. As we discussed earlier,
I can help settle your debts without the need for bankruptcy."

Okay. First of all, we have good credit, we don't pay our bills late,
and we could not be any further from bankruptcy. Yet every time
these calls come, the hairs on hubby's neck stand up and he asks
me about the finances.

I should not, but I do think it is funny at times. Honey, if we had financial
problems, trust me, the signs would be more than obvious, starting with
my mood.

and how many times must you tell someone to take you OFF the calling list? after getting 4 calls from the same place, on the 5th call i asked if this call was being recorded? they said yes and asked why. i very politely although loudly said "PLEASE TAKE THIS NUMBER OFF YOUR CALLING LIST", now please play repeatedly for everyone in your office so as they may get the message as loud and clear as you have, have a nice day.
they haven't called back!!

I went nuts with the Dove campaign. I got dozens of messages from that company, but they were all pre-recorded and there was no way to respond. After several googling attempts, I found someone else with the problem and they had posted an email address. Wrote to them and got our number removed from their list. Don't know how it got on there in the first place. That company is on my dirt list. There should always be an "opt out" somewhere, be it email, regular mail, or phone "offers."

Ooh, on the mention of Dove, I just have to share.

Years ago I had a hair website. In the meta tags
(computer stuff / key words) I used such terms as
'caress' and 'tresses' referring to caring for one's
hair.

I received notice from the Caress company
stating that I must immediately quit using the word in
my website, that it was the name of their product. Last
I checked it was a common word in the English language.
LOL.

They said that internet users searching for their product
might get confused when they found my hair care website.

Do they think consumers are that stupid? Gee, I was looking
for soap but found hair care. Guess I won't take a bath, I'll just
grow long hair instead.

Pfft.