Best/Worse/What did I learn today? Part 13

K, you'se folks can enlighten me how, exactly, do we arrive at a "happy" wife?

This is my 3rd marriage, I am her 4th husband and most times, things are pretty good. But I will never pretend to understand the female physic nodule.

After dinner, last evening, I requested that she watch a movie that I had rented "Al Gore, An Inconvenient Truth", (if you have not seen it I would highly recommend it if you are concerned about the Earth).

After watching it, she said she would buy me a copy of it, somewhere. She was impressed that much with it.

I do love this "girl", & really thinks she loves me.

By the way our electric bill last month was 0.00 dollars American. The car we bought last month (a Toyota "Yaris") gets over 40 MPG, So while admittedly I am "rough on vehicles" I cannot understand why she becomes unglued when I want to use it.

Maybe someone here can enlighten me, please!

There's not much to figure out, Dyson.....

We want what we want when and where we want it, so just facilitate and don't get in the way. And when we want to be emotional and/or left alone please honor that, too.

Maybe I'm simplifying the gender as a whole but that's how I'd characterize things.

And I'm sure you'd get a little uneasy at the thought of her using your power tools or something, whether she's capable or not. :)

Morning all, very disappointing to arrive at work and find we have 'hydro' lol...
accomplished much yesterday afternoon...so tonight it's 'tv bingo' with the grandchildren spending the night and girlfriend Ann coming over...so it's relax/relax...yup...that's what I'll be doing..honest...

Did have an entire post written, then decided to look at Trop's photo to comment and there went my post...

So, will try again...

Carol..don't you just enjoy getting home made trinkets from children..they've put their all into it and made it just for you...you'll have to wear it today when doing the cookies...can just smell the odor coming from your kitchen...such great times...


Dawn, our municipality is promoting 'cottage industry' as they call it providing it meets the mandate of the Official Plan, which B&B's do...Yes I do have some vines along the fencing but what grows in a 4' depth is a type of false sunflower..blooms closer to the end of September...will do some transplanting this year so that they form a gateway to back yard...

Tangie, was missing you! Thanks for the poem...farming sure is taking a downslide here as well...bought out by developers...where acres and acres of farmland once was not far from here has resulted in thousands of new homes...noticed that about 4 off ramps leading north from the city are being constructed so that surely means development...and who will feed everyone????

Judy, love your choices in material...and of course you've done the stitching right? talented for sure...bet you can't wait to send it off...I'll have to take photo's of the little outfits my girlfriend is making..they are dresses ...using nightshirts and vintage tablecloths/pillow cases etc. says it takes about 1 hr. to make...I'd love to make a few but nobody that I know is having a baby or likely to...will drop over tonight or tomorrow and take photo's...Judy, do you know it's been so many years since Roger died and sometimes I still when talking to the boys say something cost less than what I paid...old habits die hard sometimes don't they...lol
I use to tell Roger, 'it was in the closet' not new...he'd say...'that's some large closet you have'....cute..we don't pull the wool over their eyes like we think we do....
Busy at work this week or have you completed all your projects...can you work on something personal when not much to do?? Everyone here is running like chickens with head cut off and here I am trying to find something to do..picked up skein of wool yesterday so could be finishing Shar's project...

Liz, probably the best thing you can do is not comment on anything...usually ends up ' well, Liz said' then they are back being friends and loving family and you end up on the outs..know that's hard but probably, the easiest in the long run...families...boys they can be frustrating at times can't they..but, just have to love them....

Kim, how are you doing 'sweetie' winning the battle?

A special hi to Shar/Laura..know you are both having a 'rest period' hope you have some 'sunshine' come into your lives...worry about you both....

Awww, Betty sorry you lost your post, and I forgot to say this

Dawn, thans for the sweet comments on the pic, it's my face that kills , though,,,lol

My stepfather once told me, that women just wanted to see "pretty" that it did not matter if there was anything to support the piece of wood as long as the piece of was painted & looked good.

I can see this happening, but still do not understand it, sorta like anywhere a calamity has occurred and is just waiting to happen? When we "set ourselves" for disaster it will happen.

Someone get this gnat from my nose - please.

Trop said it best. After 15 yrs together, my DH has figured out that the answer to any question I ask is always what he thinks I want to hear! :)

But on a more serious note. I believe that communication is the key to a successful marriage. Neither one of us is a mind reader although sometimes we sure want the other to be one. I'm lucky that my DH doesn't get too up tight about too many things - just money - which I have no problems spending! We talk about EVERYTHING! We don't play guessing games - or any games for that matter. I'm Italian so I lay it on the line (using my hands, of course!). It took him getting used to it cause I don't let anything just go. If something is bothering me, I let him know - diplomatically, of course. He does the same to me. We made a promise when we were dating that we would never go to bed at night angry with each other and we haven't - although a couple of times I layed there just stewing, then finally gave in!

Dyson, I don't know what to tell you except whatever y'all did in your previous marriages obviously didn't work so do it differently this time - and communicate!!!

GG

Hi-

Hey Dyson, I very much agree with GardenGirl and Tropi!! But, I do have to add everything you do is a compromise. Something can always be worked out if you listen...and I mean listen to eachother. if you don't agree think on it and bring it back to the table and compromise something you can both be happy with. that way it is a win win situation.
Been married 22 years to DH. Believe it or not we are complete opposites!! If I say it's going to rain he says nah its going to 90! OKaaay I say, and lug an umbrella anyway and don't say anything when it was 90 for 2 seconds the sun came out...LOLOL
Also, Even if she did "like" anything in the movie, maybe it was your reaction to that she thought you might like to own it.
And so very true...Never go to bed in anger...I did only a few times but it was still DH's fault, and he new it!

So just be kind, respectful and Very loving in all you two do and all will be well.

There,Knat gone!
Judy/BBL

GG1204 - Ok, I am not working on a "perfect" record, it happens, & again & again & again. I figure that because my current wife still loves me - That I am not only among the few but also
among the few that have a truly loving wife. I am greatly thankful for this.


I still am thankful, (it happens). But (thankfully it happens now). It is all good..

Dyson, good advice from all. Just wanted to add my nickel.

We are always right. Even when we are not. (Which is never, btw) It just doesn't always appear that way to your gender because we use both sides of our brain, and most of "you" do not. Sooner you learn to accept that, the better off you'll be. (kidding here, sort of)

I learned long ago that Hubs doesn't have to think I'm right when I know I am. So I never need to "win" an argument. In fact, I don't argue (much). If I don't agree with the what or the how of something that involves both of us, and it's really important to me, I just do as I please without shoving it in his face. If it's not important to me, I just turn him loose to do as HE pleases......as long as he is not a danger to himself or others.

Everyone is different and each S O combo is different, too. I guess we've been together so long, we realize that unless it's something majorly life changing, by next year; it won't matter anymore, anyway, so why get your undies in a bunch over all but the most life shattering things?

Reading back over this makes DH sound like a wimpy, ineffectual pushover......which is SO not the case when he deals with the rest of the world. He is a very machismoistic (okay...so it's not a word, who cares?) man and an excellent people motivator/manager. For some reason, he just isn't like that with me. Smart man.

K...now that work is almost over, I plan to go home, get everything done that needs doin' and come back to post......I've been trying to find the time to gush over Judy's baby blankets (among other things) for days and come you know what or high water.....it'll happen tonight.

hello all,

sorry not been around, had a bad fall at the shopping centre two days ago and in a lot of pain. fell down the escalators....it was wet and they were slippery and BANG down i went. no one helped... it was aweful.

anyway i would like to say to dyson, stop trying to understand her, there are some things that you will come to understand and others you wont. its the same for her. she wont get you all the time either. swings and teeter totters my friend. if you spend too much time trying the analyse it, you miss the best bits. i dont think anyone is any less than the other, just different, as you say, she is still with yu and loves you.. you know how many people would kill for that? so she wanted to buy you the dvd, dont analyse it, accept it as an act of love. dont sweat the small stuff.

I have a Yaris too, my husband bought it for me. If my hubby was rough on cars and he wanted to drive it all the time, i woukld get annoyed to. can you see why? they are not cheap, its not something you do everyday, they are lovely cars and she wants to respect and aprreciate it. she wants it to last. if your 'rough' on the car as you say you are, maybe she feels you dont care about it and would rather you dont drive it. Maybe she feels thats a bit insesative? Just a thought,

anyway, going to rest.... very sore today.

Sorry to hear about your fall, Wonder!

Laura, how awful for you..as if you weren't coping with enough...guess you aren't able to go to work? Maybe you could stay off on sick leave for awhile until you are feeling better physically and mentally? Is that a posibility....

Hi everyone, Just a quick note before I leave for evening.

Betty, Sounds pretty neat making little dresses from vintage articles! Please do share photos. I am always excited to see what splendid things people do with Vintage. Always makes me smile that somehow discarded pieces become new.
LOL you and Liz are right. Funny my DH doesn't question anymore when did I get things I bought. He just smiles and asks what I am planning to do with it. Than he laughs and says adding to you list huh?
Well, finished the flowers and the leaves so now to work on the otherside which is the sun and little flowers. You guessed it, I can't wait to send it, although probably not till next week. At work I am alone so probably could work on it...but too many people walk past, so I keep to computer work in the downtime- sometimes i can get away with my blueprints because they are large and flat. LOL sewing doesn't look like anything I do in the office...but sure wish I could, Want to loan me your boss?

Liz, you know sometimes people say things in various manners to see what you do know. When this happens well you just have to determine how it affects you in the end.
I tend to believe that if my heart is in the right place then I have to sometimes just be quiet....We just had a similar experience. An Uncle, a favorite, was diagnosed with Cancer. Right away everyone was talking about his will and arguing over really stupid stuff. This is so aggrevating and not much can be done. Everyone feels the way they do.
When I was asked what I thought-I simply said you should talk to him and enjoy every second that you and tell him staight out how you feel...The story is long but all those people have mud in their eyes- As it turned out out He was misdianosed! He is still in hospital but Doing well. DH and I went to see him as he was always very good to DH. He wanted to say many things to him-but too many people were there. So just the other Morning DH went to see Uncle. He was there for 3 hours. They had the most wonderful visits and DH got to tell him everything that was on his mind. Mostly to thank Uncle. When he got home he was so happy that he had and took the oppertunity...So, the moral of my story- Live for today, Love for today and heck with those trying to play with the future since eventually mud will splatter their sight. You know how you feel so follow your heart. --Hope that didn't sound like a lecture . A warm hug to you.

Laura, I am so sorry to hear your fell on the escalators. Just get some good bed rest. I hope you feel better.

Tangi-I hope you get to get a good break in. We miss you - I guess you have been super busy.

Kim-How are you doing, I hope you are taking time for yourself too.

Well, It's getting late and short note is a novel so I best be getting home.

Best-YD--Eldest DD started Band Camp. Dropped off her dinner so got to see a tiny piece of the show- She is in the very FRONT this year!!! My girl, LOL she is n't too happy but mom here please as punch can ya see my SMILE.

Worst-Oh man, AC Died!! shaking my head.

Learned-The more I keep busy the happier I am...Hear that weeds? I'm on my way.

You all have a good night talk to you tomorrow.
Judy

Didn't win at bingo..oh well, would have spent it all anyway...lol....
Set the water on the back garden and forgot it on..some flowers are thirsty and other I've drowned...can feel rain in the air but they aren't calling for any...maybe I can sneak water on the others early in the am...

Went to Ikea today looking for cusions for the cafe chairs..wanted $11.98 each..lordy, I can make 4 for almost that price and in color of choice...

Judy, forgot about the bingo tonight so will try and get photo's tomorrow...you'll love them, cute as a button...

Best of today...just a very quiet relaxing day at work..no stress...was wishing I was home though! Darlene called tonight, she bought me b.b.q. utensils..guess she didn't like the ones I was using on Wednesday..lol...although she and hubby are 50, I think they've adopted me in some fashion..always dropping off treats...keep wanting to pay her but won't hear of it...Friday, she sent over the cafe chairs..it goes on and on...what do you do with friends like that.... also, someone else was here today because there is about 10 large embroidery hoops/quilting hoops sitting on craft tables...get a kick out of it, never know what I'll find...

Worse...have you ever had pain in the skin...my backside has been paining all day..NOT muscle pain or anything, it's just when you touch the skin it hurts like the dickens..old age is creeping in on me...

What did I learn...maybe I didn't need that 2nd load of topsoil...was delivered today...guess I'll fix some burnt areas in the lawn and purchase grass seed...some in flower gardens..oh well, now I've something to keep me occupied this weekend, along with the cushions and sweatshirt cardigan....

Prayers and nice thoughts for all of you...



Worse...

evening all,
totally exausted worked all day straighting shelves then rushed home to go to a charlie daniels concert with dh and cousin its 10:13 and i have to meet the boss at 6.30 so i have to get up at 3.30 talk to you tomorrow liz

hi all,

just rotten luck is all. i have had three days off and am starting to feel better. the xrays showed a lot of arthritis i didnt know i had but no damage just brusiing so i am on the mend.

its ok, stuff happens...

wrote a whole post - keyboard doing wacky things - poof so this will be abridged

3 weeks for me today, 24 hours at a time, more later.

Laura - glad you are mending, take care of you. One day we will laugh and cry in person!

Betty - pain - nerve issues - pinched? Chiropractor?

Liz - CDB still together? Who knew! How was the concert?

Best - Good weather, spending time with (ex) SIL, neice and nephew. They still call me Aunt Kim☺

Worst - a friend is going through a rough time with his son (18) no school, job, drugs?, money. It is tough to watch a parent hurt so much.

Learned - People are starting to run away when I show up with tomatoes

Glad you are starting to feel better Wonder.

Betty..I have been keeping my eyes open for Chair cushions too..and they want a big dollar for them..or they aren't the right colour. Now what on earth could cause skin pain..hope it stops soon for you. Just thinking about moving a load of topsoil makes my tired LOL

I had a nice surprise last evening..My eldest son called and said the family..including my daughter in law's Dad were going to Wing Night at a Pub..they said "best wings in town"
Thye ordered 110 wings..can you believe it? But they were all eaten by the 7 of us..all different flavours. I liked the smokey BBQ ones the best. It was a really nice evening.


Liz..how was the Charlie Daniels concert? Is he a blues singer?

Judy..your story about hubby and his uncle is heartwarming. You are lucky to have a good man.

Tangie..good advice..good attitude.

Cheers to you all

Carol

Tomatoes? Dry and ship here I will pay the shipping! I would never run away only towards!

good morning all,

dyson, lol i agree with everyone on their thoughts i do walk away let him think he won the debate within hours after he had time to think about it he recaps,i just personally cant stand friction or drama it wastes to much energy, yours sounds like a great gal just spoil her rotten

wonder, omg thank god .you were not seriously hurt and how terrible no one helped you people can be so cruel did they give you anything for the arthritis? take care of yourself

judy, no it was words of wisdom i cant tell everyone how i appreciate it helps keep me in line
funny my sis emailed me with why i didnt i answer the question on if i knew about the blow out
i responded why do i need to get involved when it does not concern anything i did or said
she turned it around and said well its your sis and you use to care and preceeded to tell me some details then ended it with oh well i guess you dont care
this is the drama i have had to deal with growing up(i'm mad so you have to be to) so im staying out of it.
betty,maby next time you'll hit bingo, oh betty to have such a wonderful friend as darlene you are gifted i cant wait to see the chairs what color are you going to make the cardigan, i wonder what that tender skin is about, you have your weekend all cut out with that top soil lol


best: had a great time at the fair with dh and cousin
worst omg county fair use to be so cheap, 7.00 to park 9.00 to get in 16.00 to get good seats 4th from the stage 13.50 for a 4rib dinner beans and colslaw holy cow who can go do any more after that 84.00 later geez
learned:no more beer 2 beers and i pretzel 17.00 but the funny part was cousin had the beers and pretzels in a carry container he was looking at a girl(DORK) and tripped over the step slipped and slidded beer everywhere i was in a tizzy laughing so much poor guy but it was the funniest thing we got it replaced free i only wish i had brought my camera

everyone have a wonderful day liz

blukat, yes there still great still plays his old stuff im ok till the fiddle comes out then i can stay in my seat lol packed the hall

carol, no he's country we had a great time

Liz...fiddle is my best...won many 'step dancing' competitions...when it starts I can't help but get us and do my thing....with regards to family my mom would call me up to complain about a sibbling, I'd say 'mom, don't want to hear it..if you continue, I'll hang up' many times she'd continue and I'd hang up..now she knows better...now on the other hand, you must watch everything you say in front of DS as she's on the telephone 2 secs. later...love her dearly but told her she had better learn when something is said amongst 2 people - it's amongst them not the world or entire family...just got back early spring to talking to my DB as he thinks everything's a joke and relays it..half the time it's said in different context...told him my thoughts and we're both back on straight and narrow....so know it's difficult..but you've got the situation well in hand...

Carol, I'll drop in to Fabricland on Friday and pick up cushion inserts and some co-ordinating material..probably a lot easier than going from store to store especially for cafe chairs as they are simply round in style...the sweatshirt I'm doing is yellow with fall leave material..couldn't find a black one, but perhaps at lunch tomorrow I'll drive over to the one on Hwy.7...not all fall clothing out as yet..so perhaps will have to wait...

Oh Kim, you are doing wonderfully...no one can expect anything better than the 'one day at a time' concept can they...you'll make it and feel much better for doing it...tomatoes..wow..I can live on tomatoe sandwiches...like mine almost green....how many plants did you plant? Hard watching friends go through dealing with a child that's a handful..drugs sure can destroy families can't it...

My day started with a 'garbage find' must have been a day bed...white metal headboard with sides...found it at the corner of my street..too big to put into car, light enough to carry so parked the car and walked this find home..now I'll be thinking of ways to incorporate it in my garden..lol..

Sitting here on my left cheek as it's too painful to put weight on my right side..just to touch is painful..I know, I know, the Doctor right..but it's so difficult to get appt. - if it's a pinched nerve, a few days should do it...know I don't want to spend an entire day in emergency..so, half these things are just getting older and clear themselves up...

Prior to going to bed last night I could see it was raining ever so slightly..went out and removed cushions from patio set only for the rain to stop...did some watering today even though it looked like it might rain any minute..but by the time I left for the city, sky was blue...

Good Morning!

Laura, So glad to hear no broken bones. Bummer about arthrites tho, Did you get some meds? Not a fun thing to deal with. Just sending good thoughts your way.

Oh Betty nice find!, I am thinking just in time for all the left over top soil! Good thing it was free since you didn't win on TV bingo-LOL...
Tell the Doc!! Hurting skin is nothing to play around with- Yes, I have a story.
I had a similar problem, only it was on my arm. Couldn't touch it, pretty soon it burned and eventually could barely move it. Started in my hands-kept blowing it off and eventually wasn't able to hold anything! Turned out I had a gland in the pit of my arm that grew and was hitting a nerve- Had to have surgery to get it removed. Please ,PLEASE see the doc, don't forget to tell him you've been dizzy too!

Blue-How wonderful! You are doing Awsom!! Sounds like you have alot going on too. I think just keeping busy and mind on other things really helps. Sorry to hear about your friends issue. It sure is tough raising teens. All I know is Lots of Loving re-assurance. Sticking to tough love is probably one of the hardest things to do, but in the long run it pays. You are a great friend to show your loving support too-Sometimes as a parent it is exactly what we need-
And hey, on a happier note...isn't mom due to visit soon? I bet you are very excited and getting ready for her too. Giggling, I am sure she will take home some tomoatoes! Wish i could take some off your hands but I am the only one in our family to eat them.

Liz-How fun-Geeze can't remember last time I heard County! My family loves it. Concerts sure are costly too. DH and DD went to Ozzfest on Sunday-They had a grand time. But hey all worth it if you get a good time in right? Cute story.
I come from a family of 8! 5G's Talk about different phases of drama, LOL can't beleive we survived eachother sometimes. Geesh, sometimes I would get 4 different versions of a story, still don't know about some off them, but lots of times I just let them go off- My neice is the family "telegraph" Yow!! Aw, but i still love her tremendously.

Thanks Carol, I was very happy he felt he could show his feelings. One thing that was bothersom was how worried he was.

Have a great day Everyone!

P.S. Hi to Shar-Hope your days have been good and you are just taking a rest.

Judy

Judy...whoa, whoa...OZZFEST? Was that the husband or the daughter's preference? Wild things....lol

Good morning to all of you! Here is the best thing I found in my garden this morning.

Byndeweed Beth...what will we do when all these pretties are no longer in the garden..just dreading 'fall/winter' ... putting the garden to bed....better enjoy today's beauty...so beautiful..how large would you say it is?

This is a large JMG so about 5-6 inches across. I used to miss the garden in the winter until I installed grow-lights in the house and am gardening all year now. The bright full-spectrum lights really chase away the winter blues, too! I don't mean those puny flourescents, I put in a 400W HPS and a 1000W MH. It's like having sunshine all year!

That's very interesting...you must need quite an area to do so...

Sitting here, pain in the butt, side and occasionally dizzy...lol...girlfriend sent me this reminder...

http://www.members.shaw.ca/grandmafaith2/new-alph.htm

LOL!!!

hello,

feeling much better, wounds healing as is the dignity...lol

betty, pinched nerves, siatica? ( cant spell it) its sucks...... and the dizziness.. what of that? hmmmmm?????????

take care of you.....
thankyou all for your care and concern. no meds for the arthritis as yet... just walking and losing weight.... hate doing both... hahah

best? winter is almost gone and the hope of spring is in the air...
worst? a bit achy but the brusiing will go so not too bad.

Bynd the flower is lovely!

betty cant wait to see what you do with that day bed. i told hubby about the frame and he just looked at me and said.. riiightttt.... hahah he didint get it!

have a good day all.

x

Just had supper at Anne's and then a quick trip to June's for little girl dresses (photo's) for Judy..would send them to her d-mail but thought some of you crafters might be interested in it..if not...just ignore these posts..about 6....lol...

going to start with my sister Sharon's puppies...

http://webhome.idirect.com/~keluk/redgirl.htm

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baby undershirt..this is size 24 months and a pillow case..bottom of undershirt cut off and panties made to match (with some lace)...less than 1 hr. to make...

Yet another...

Now this one is done with a half slip...

my favorite...antique pillowcase...

June's plant in bloom

June's neighbors 'cottage' wonder what the house looks like...

This is at the corner of my place...the bike/walking trail was completed last week...will have to purchase a bike and go riding with grandchildren...so far it's about 25 miles of trail...going to be approx 100 when each community joins in....