Should Women Surrender to Men in Marriage ?

Wuvie right on !
spoken like a true Oklahoma Woman.

ROFL at that picture, taz!!!!

cough...swear I'm not hopping on a soapbox, but found a nice chart on the numbers and percentages of women entering the workforce over time---I like history. You'll notice the largest increases took place during the WWII era and also that wonderful time (I wasn't alive yet..lol) during the 60s known as the sexual revolution:

http://www.infoplease.com/ipa/A0104673.html

I saw that old blueprint for how to be a good wife years ago. So does that mean I have a 'good husband' if I stay out all night and don't get questioned when I come home? lol.....just keeping a sense of humor ya'll, remember, I'm not married. There was a brief time when I tried to make a nice atmosphere and all that , but I learned quickly that as long as there's beer in the fridge, the reaction is exactly the same with a lot less effort..lol

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Hey as long as he's got beer, clean underwear and socks and a computer game he's a happy camper on this end LOL

WUVIE - It's a family joke - paraphrased from the old question: If a tree falls in an empty wood does it make a sound? We say it with a smile...never seriously. We raised 3 daughters, two of whom are happily married. They pretty much believe as we did, and I think that is why they are happily married.

ginger, loved that poster! Almost choked on my tea!

TaaM8 garden_mermaid
I was starting to think it had been totaly overlooked .
At least YOU saw it .

Maybe everyone else has dial-up with "accelerator", which blurs pictures, and couldn't read a word on it, like me. But I SAW it....wish I knew what it said! grrrr.....hate dial-up!

I too have dial-up....no choice. But I saw it, remembered it, and still loved it. Thanks Kell - been missin ya.

do we need a new thread for dial up folks?

are we talkin big girl panties?

Another dial up in the country here, too. I just click the thread,
then wash dishes, fold laundry, take a bath and file paperwork.
Then it loads.

LOL. Just kidding. It loads, we scroll, it loads some more, we scroll
some more. Fun thread!

Had it until a year ago and we discovered wireless connection even in the booneys. It is almost as good or maybe even with Tivo.

Hmmm, will have to check into wireless--we can't even get cable TV out here!

Oh pleeeeessse folks - I am on an island in the middle of no where! When we get tv, it fades in and out...and we only get what AFN decides to give us. Phone service to the mainland includes the echo for free, and computer service is a contradiction in terms. But I love it, so please don't take this as complaining....just want to remind you of how good you have it.

You better not whine you Islander or we`l knock the cr*& out of your pina colada umbrella. lol let me poke myself in the eye and work up a tear for you.

ROFL!!!!!! Do I detect a hint of "island envy"???

You should envy me! We are battling 30 mph winds today....a bunch of my plants have blown over; I'm losing several due to too much rain....and I wouldn't trade with any one of ya! Ha Ha. I love it here because my DH tells me I do! Not really, I do love it here, I just thought I'd nudge us back to the topic of discussion. Kell - you just enjoy stirring up hornet's nests don't ya?!

To be obedient or not,
to be that is the question.???
I do every thing my DH says if i want to?

That would be me. :-)

Hubby doesn't, and better not ever, give orders, because
I'm not following them. Nor do I give him orders.

We live in harmony, together, and share a life. One does
not rule the other. Absolutely, definitely, positively not.
At least in our house.

I've already taught both my sons, you do not rule your wife,
you do not own her. Marriage for us is a 50-50. A union of two.

:-)

good girls... I enjoyed my hubby taking over most times, made him feel manly and he made me feel very/very/very womanly..a person to be cherished..so that worked for us..

If my dh ran everything, we would have had bad credit, late utilities, lots of debt and lots of toys and stress. In the beginning I had to teach him but now we both are on the same page in regards to that stuff 99% of the time. Now I sometimes want to just splurge and go away, like last week, I wanted to go to Vegas and he said, we just paid all this money out in May for my son`s birthday and his dd and my ds`s high school grad. so he said let`s wait, so grumbling I agreed.

I see your point though too "B" but it takes the right spirit on both parties to be able to do it your `s and Roger`s way.

Hmmmm, guess I don't believe in that 50/50 stuff about marriage. I think it's more like 100/100. I think each person has to give it all they have in order to make it work. Believe me ... there are some days he has to give that extra 100% ... then other days (like yesterday) when I do it for him. That's what keeps us strong. The giving and taking. :)

I agree Elaine, really that is true. It is so hard to give 100% to anything but atleast it keeps you never quitting to attempt it, when everyone falls short of their 50%, your really working at it much less, waiting for the other to give more first. It becomes a bitter stand off most of the time, but 100 % takes way too much effort to have as much time to tally %-ages.

I received this today from Good Clean Funnies:

At the banquet of Tom and Susan's 25th wedding anniversary,
Tom was asked to give his friends a brief account of the
benefits of a marriage of such long duration.

"Tell us, Tom, just what is it you have learned from all
those wonderful years with your wife?"

Tom responded, "Well, I've learned that marriage is the best
teacher of all. It teaches you loyalty, forbearance,
meekness, self-restraint, forgiveness -- and a great many
other qualities you wouldn't have needed if you'd stayed
single."

Ah, semantics. :-) Dr. Phil often uses that 100% quote.
Hubby and I make it on 50-50. We're both too darned tired
to give the other half. LOL.

As long as both parties are giving, caring, sharing and
all the warm and fuzzy stuff it takes to make it, well...it
all adds up to working for us.

Happy ending. We fight like cats and dogs but we laugh and have fun more and we have a great physical relationship and are real lovey dovey, but the flip side ain`t pretty but it is reality. We are both sensitive and he has a real irritable side that makes him snippy, which I hate so then it`s on, once I am in that mode I just want to be left alone which makes him hunt me, then my fangs are out till he get`s it. Once I have space I am good and he can commence kissing my BUTT.

Have we scared Kell off?

yep

No Hap .
This thread is going along just great ,
I don't need to say much .lol
Some Threads need mouth to mouth to get them going .
But I LOVE this one .
Keep all the comments coming . Kell

Okay Kell - I suppose next your going to ask something like :

Did Rhett actually take Scarlet back eventually?

LOL Shari .
I'm not here to entertain yall .
I'm here so you will open up your mind
And share your thoughts and feelings with us all .

Threads without YOU good folk is a lonely place indeed .
If you want bland and predictability . There's plenty of them around .

Oh how true! After reading all these posts, I went and gave my DH a big hug and told him how much I appreciated him. I have spent hours reading some of the other forum "old posts", and mostly just yawned. Kell - we miss you in Tropical Gardening darlin! And the rest of you should come check out the info on a brand new island!!! Kell - you HAVE to check it out!

Whether it's 50% or 110% - be good to each other, enjoy each other and laugh a lot.

Yokwe,
Shari

Yep I second that thought. I want to live on an island by Kenny Chesney. I`m afraid of tidal waves and hurricanes though.

I just received this by email:

Subject: The Lawn Mower

When our lawn mower broke and wouldn't run, my wife kept hinting to me
that I should get it fixed. But, somehow I always had something else to
take care of first, the truck, the car, playing golf, the house, always
something more important to me.



Finally she thought of a clever way to make her point. When I arrived
home one day, I found her seated in the tall grass, busily snipping away
with a tiny pair of sewing scissors. I watched silently for a short time
and then went into the house. I was gone only a minute, and when I came
out again I handed her a toothbrush.

I said, when you finish cutting the grass, you might as well sweep the
driveway.



The doctors say I will walk again, but I will always have a limp.



Moral to this story:

Marriage is a relationship, in which one person is always right, and the
other is the husband

That really cracked me up roadrunner ,
As soon as I can stop rolling around on the floor ,
I'll get back into it . Thanks RR .

Bwa ha ha ha! That was cute!

Quote .
Nothing like playing Devil's Advocate, is there? Most of us seem to know that human relationships have out-evolved the domination and servitude of the "traditional" marriage. If an American woman, evidently "allowed" by her husband to trumpet the joys of servitude to the world, wants to do so, why stop her? The point is, this kind of thinking thankfully no longer dominates at least the Western world. But it certainly seems to sell a lot of books!
Fyler, UK

HUMMMMMM.

Are you writing a book about us, Kell? A tell all book?

And he claims he's not here to entertain us all..........*grin*