Should Women Surrender to Men in Marriage ?

Oh Hap I will show my DH and post it on his side of the bed. lol

Kell I have to go to the surgeon because my tests just came back as suspicous mass with a note could be from post op.

Good Luck and all the best .
All of OZ is thinking of you .

Thanks , The Wizerd too? How cool is that.

Praying for you, helln.

thank you so much.
Dawn

Me too

Hoping the best for you helln. I gotta tell you about the ugly twist in who wears the pants. Now that I'm retired, I spend my time in the garden or on the golf course. But the DW insists upon continuing to work. She's an RN and works at a urology clinic, doing all kinds of personal things for/to male patients. (You don't want to hear it, and neither do I)
I have come to realize, though, that perhaps some day, I may develop physical problems that might attack my mid-section (or lower). I'm not saying that it will happen, but it's always wise to hedge your bets, so to speak.
So, I'm thinking, it would be better to have her on my good side. My options are threefold. (1) a stranger doing what must be done, (2) an angry and vengeful wife who might want to do unspeakable things, or (3) a loving wife who is already familiar with me and looking out for me.
Here's my vote. Are we voting? OK, I'm voting for option #3. And she also has my wholehearted vote for who wears the pants.
Do I have a choice? Did I ever really have a choice?

LOL, blmlb, excellent choice!

ditto on door #3. and no you did not.

Ginger; no the neighbours still don't get it, and the bird family just expanded, right when my DH was out of town for 2 weeks ( figure that!)
Gloria now has one canary brother and 2 zebrafinch brother and sister. Her friends the budgies are all 3 still as wild and loud as they used to be.
Christie

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Ky, You sound like a feminist, or even an RN. Just kidding. Honest. It's just such an open-ended question that will always have a different opinion, depending upon how long you have been married.
I would never have abdicated my pants 20 years ago, not that I was ever domineering back then. It was just so much easier to be the boss back then. As times changed, and she got an education and a darn good job, my pants got shorter and shorter.
What do they say? "What goes around, comes around." She got smart and employable, while I got old and retired, and dependent.
But I will tell you this, good maters don't come from Winn Dixie. Neither do good beans, zucchinis, or strawberries. They come from my garden. And when I am out there, my pants are as long as they have ever been. One of the few kingdoms I still retain. (Could be a macho thing?) I'd like to think so, if she agrees. :-)

lol

blmlb, you seem pretty cool. Did you have sons? Grandsons i their 20' s...lol

Trop, 2 sons & 1 daughter. Also 3 grandkids last time I looked. But who knows? My eyes aren't as good as they used to be.

Just kidding...I already have a fairly resigned significant other...lol...course, you never know when you could use another...lol...jumping out of way before something gets thrown at me...lol

My dh asked me to wait an hour before I start dating again if he dies first. I said he ruined me on marriage and men...

All is forgiven sounds great..lol

Hubby and I have always done our best to discuss important matters before a decision is made. We also treat each other with respect. We learned what we DIDN'T want in our first marriages. We felt this type of behavior was important not only for us but also to set a good example for our 4 (2 his, 2 mine) kids. It has never seemed important for one of us to "be the boss," (beyond joking about it). We've made it 24 years together to a very contented retired life. We really enjoy our time together and share enough likes that we are never bored. I think the most important thing we had going for us back in the beginning is that we became good friends before we became lovers, and we've done our best to keep it that way. And on the subject of the bible stating that the man should be the head of the household--here's a different take on that from the preacher at a church I used to attend. "God intends for husband and wife to be equal and stand side-by-side through all of life's ups and downs--that's why he created woman from man's rib. Had he intended for her to be subservient, he would have created her from man's foot."

LOL NatureLover ,

Oh ... I just found this! What fun!

My DH runs everything in our house.
The vacuum ... the dish washer ... the washing machine ... the dryer ... ;)

Seriously, we got married when we were just babies right out of high school. We had only known each other for 4 months. He's the best thing that ever happened to me ... a gift from God.

I'll leave you with this which I thought summed things up perfectly. :-)

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"We both surrendered our independent lives in exchange for one that is shared."

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How blessed you are, I01, to have made such a contented life with your high school sweetheart! That's encouraging to hear of truly happy relationships when so many others fail. I'm glad to have the chance to read these things from the other members, as I've been alone so long and gave up. Maybe, just maybe, there is still ONE match out there for me???

I met my OH when she was 15 .
She is now 52 and we're still together .

KyWoods ... I hope you will find that special someone. I've been married to my sweetheart for 33 years now. :)

IO1, There must have been something in the AIR around that time .
Our 32 WA is in 5 weeks time .

Wow ... we must have gotten the last good ones! LOL Mine is in October. :)

Yeah, my brother's opinion is that the good men got snapped up early by sane women who appreciate them and what's left for me & my ilk are the drunks, dumbies, crazies, philanderers & inmates.

summerkid , Join a Bush Walking Group .
Trust me , there are still some Nice Honest Men out there .

We also have our share of Whackoes over here .

Around here it would have to be a "Corn walking group." Not very fascinating.

I could always lend you a mountain or three .

This will be the first Pic on this Thread .

Ooooo, pretty!!! Maybe all us single folk should defect to Australia???

Not defect KyWoods ,
I would call it Liberate Yourselves . LOL

This pic is a typical group of walkers that come on our walks .
This was taken 6 years ago .
We now get up to 60 ppl on a walk .
But OH and I also do a lot more on our own .

wow Kell they take that bush walking seriously eh? Summer I agree for women our age that is mostly what is out there, Men who have addictions or losers that got the boot already by some fed up woman.

Kell you are right though seriously there are a few good men out there still, but not too many over here. If your past 38 it is hard to find someone that a woman was willing to part with, that is worth their weight. The good ones someone was smart enough to keep.

Ky you will find one though when you least expect it.

Thanks for the encouragement, helln, and speaking of weight: I did meet a guy online recently, but he's morbidly obese (prob. 500lbs) and has a lot of trust problems due to childhood abuse. Seems I always meet the ones who need therapy! I'm soooo tired of that.

There is not a more sincere LOVE ,
Than the love of FOOD .

Quoted by Kell

What an interesting thread....when I met my second (and last) husband I made 3 things perfectly clear to him:

I don't live with a drunk
you might hit me once....but never a second time
AND
I DON'T clean fish!!

He did try to get me to clean his fish once...I declined...

He is deceased now....and we had 37 years of our ups and downs....but never the less....a happy life. Jo

Jo you rock

Well said roadrunner ,
That's another slant on things .

My DH and I will be married 29 yrs. in Sept. I knew the moment I saw him that I was going to marry him. I went thru a lot of men before him. Most of them bored the heck out of me after the first couple of weeks. In all these yrs. of marriage, he has never bored me, just consistently loved me, been patient with me and put up with my "back seat driving". Strongly doubt he will ever bore me. I look around at other people and their marriages and thank God He gave me a good, kind loving man.

A woman at our church was just talking about her hus. Sun. night. She can't get much more than a grunt or a shrug out of him when she talks with him. Now that their grandson whom they raised is going off to college, she is going to move into his vacated bedroom. How sad to live like that.

The story was me and my XH. WE were too young to live that way. His new chick doesn`t have it better iether, she just puts up with it, so she gets it worse.