Coffee and...Part 38...! :-D

Aria,Meezer, sorry about the nights without sleep. I've been there and done that, but lately have been sleeping better. Mainly because my arm is not hurting as bad. I take 2 tylenol pm at bedtime and usually get 4 or 5 hours sleep with that.

Talk about exercise, I bought a cheap pedometer, intending to get back in the habit of walking everyday. Yesterday, just for the heck of it, clipped it on and just went about my normal routine. At the end of the day when I took it off, had walked 2.96 miles. So I think if I am walking that far just in normal day, I really don't need to do much more.

Well all of my animals are waking up, so have to go get them fed before they turn on me!! The JR terrier and a persian cat ( the house animals) are staring at me really pitful, an outside dog and cat are scratching at the back door, so I won't get any peace until their tummys are filled.

Sarv, Vicks is very good, my DH swore by it but I forgot about it will use it tonight and also will look up the game, let you know.
Have a speedometer some where again my husand rode a bysicle where he used it., that is a good idea, Defoe.

Good Morning! GOB's and GOBettes!!! and you few gentlemen (GOGs?) out there in GOBby-land. I'm up and running this morning. Just sent hubby OTD (out the door-ER lingo) to work and I've got the day to get a few of my own needs taken care of. I have the satellite folks coming this afternoon to change the lenses on the dish (picture on the tv keeps pixellating) and I'm going to strip the master bathroom and get it ready for hubby to start on a rehab project. YAY!!!

I've waited these last 6 years to get this done as he's either been at sea, at war or back in university working on his post-graduate degree and I'm sooooo happy to have him start working on the bathroom. We went to Home Depot last night, made some decisions about which Pullman cabinet, medicine chest, flooring, fixtures, and paint, etc. oO/~Oh, happy day, oh happy daaaay, when Rickey gets after the bathroom, oh yeah, when he gets after the bathroom....oO/~ *Babs has HAPPY FEET!!!!

Also, hubby is going to Germany the week of Thanksgiving (Nov. 20-28) on an inspection tour. He has troops stationed at SEMBACH that are deployed in a support status for the P-3's and EA-6B's flying missions in the war zone. He's got a few issues that require his presence to fix/dispatch/put in a hold status. So, I've decided to work through the time he's gone and give some of the folks in the ER a little time off with their families. I'm also going to fix a turkey for the crew and the medics and police officers and have enlisted the support of those that will be working to bring in complimentary dishes and we shall feed ourselves T-day Dinner!

I usually do this every year. I roast 3-30# turkeys and make homemade dinner rolls and feed those of us who are working. I call dispatch and tell them to send which ever police officers are available to come in for a few minutes and help themselves. I also let the medics know to stop in any time and grab chow between runs if necessary. It's become a tradition, so I shall endeavor to persevere and keep up with tradition.

Well, that's my news for this morning. I hope everyone who has aches and pains and ailments have a better day today. When one is dealing with long-term health issues, they NEED a day of relief once-in-a-while just to be able to refresh and deal with the issues again. It's always a pleasure GOB's ad GOBettes to wake up in the morning and read what folks are doing in their lives.

*Hugs* to all!

Babs

Good morning. Those sleepless nights can be very long and frustrating when you just toss and turn hoping to get back to sleep and your mind gets busy. A druggist told me to take a decongestant before bedtime and I buy them in a big bottle instead of those little foil packs in the little boxes. The ingredient in most sleep aids that makes you sleepy is Diphenhydramine Hydrocloride, same as in a lot of cold and allergy medicines (otc). I buy it in 100 capsule bottles for about $5 and take them when I have one of those nights. A druggist told me that when I was looking for a sleep aid. So, it's a dual purpose med I also take when I am congested. This is usually behind the counter so you have to ask for it because of course stores prefer to have you buy the expensive stuff in the little boxes.

Yesterday I made my weekly trip to town to do shopping and errands, met my hubby for lunch and was home by about 3. Then my neighbor came down and we visited while getting some yard work done. She is a polio survivor and has that Post Polio Syndrome that leaves her weak in the legs and arms, and was having one of those days, so she sat in a chair wrapped up in a blanket (chilly afternoon) and visited with me for about an hour while I pruned a large bush and dug iris from a long narrow bed next to the porch railing. We did wander around to see what is still blooming and plan where to put what color roses in the spring to fill the bed where the iris were. It needs a new look. Right now there is a Don Juan on one corner, and another climber on the other corner that has reverted back to whatever rootstock it had, but I keep it because it is also red and a prolific bloomer. Between them I will plant 2 pink ones with small blooms, a white and an orangey red, and one new plant, possibly white. I sent her home with some bell peppers to bake with rice and hamburger stuffing.

I've still got sore fingers but they are healing up. I gave up on bandaids and put some of that liquid skin stuff on the owies without skin. It is great for gardening, seals out the dirt and is flexable. Now, the swelling is something that will just take time, I have 2 finger joints that just don't want to bend yet.

See ya later.

Mary - you made me tired! What a productive day you had. I didn't get much done here; a friend stopped over and stayed about two hours longer than I thought she would.

Babs - last year was the first time in ages I didn't help organize a Thanksgiving dinner for our community. It was always a great time, but help was getting slim and cost was becoming an issue. We also offered delivery to those unable to come, but it was becoming delivery to almost everyone. I don't know if we will do it again this year - something to think about.

It finally warmed up yesterday (high of 67), but by the time I got outside half the day was gone, so I didn't accomplish anything. Today, temps are supposed to be nice, but it is rainy. I do need to run errands, so a rainy day is a good time to do that. I have to get a money wire transfer to my daughter in Oklahoma; she is out of money and snail mail will take a week or more to reach her.

I started a thread for MaryinLA (I'm her HBuddy) a while back and it hasn't gotten many visitors. Can you please take a minute to read it? http://davesgarden.com/forums/t/548301/

And the quote of the day is...

~~Why always "not yet"? Do flowers in spring say "not yet"? ~Norman Douglas~~

Have a wonderful day!
Jody

This message was edited Oct 12, 2005 9:31 AM

Good Morning GOBlins and Ghouls, lol.

I'm in a Halloweeny mood today. Maybe because I got most of the decorations up yesterday, or maybe because I have to go visit the Evil Witch SSI Doctor today. Again. Big Sigh. Anyway, do you all know what is the bestest thing about Halloween? The kids deliver chocolate to ME for a change, rofl!

Bal~~If that was a lazy day, what do you consider a busy day? Tinker is so gorgeous and I bet is getting excited at all of the new sister talk. Did you get the fence in?

Marcia~~How you feeling today? You said in chat last night that you were still feeling yukky. And I am very serious about a RU!!

Sarv~~Does your arm hurt above or below the elbow? Somewhere I think I missed that. I get the flu shot every year. Jenna and I are on the "must have" it list cuz of chronic conditions. Nathan gets his too so he doesn't bring anything home to us, and DH gets his at work every year. Are you collecting stuff or is it collecting you, lol. I got sick and tired of dusting stuff I didn't enjoy anymore so I unloaded a bunch on ebay. Now I can actually see my favorites that I kept.

Pati~~Peek a boo! I saw you!

M5~~The killer hill is as you come into Galena, IL from the east. You would be coming into Dubuque from the north I think, so no hill to worry about. I get yelled at about smoking too, so don't feel bad, lol. I LOVE the Howard letter, that is just the cutest and funniest ever! I wonder what he would do for a Christmas card?

Aria~~I was thinking about you last night while I was trying to go to sleep. That classical radio station I listen to had a Vienna Hour. All the works were either written in Vienna or debuted (sp?) there.

Mary~~I hate to dig Iris, for some reason I cannot get it into my head not to bury them. I start out fine, but you can just see them going deeper and deeper as I go on. Wonder why I do that, lol.

Jody~~3 Hours? I'm going to have to go look up Merrimac, for some reason I can't place it. Oh hey, there you are! I've gone camping at Devil's Lake! No wonder it sounded like a name I should know. Well dang girl, haul your hinney down here, rofl.

Happy~~A 10 day cruise? I must have missed this, where are you going? I want to go on a cruise someday too. Have you 'cruised" before? It just sounds like so much fun, and I grew up watching "the Love Boat", lol.

D-cat~~OMG, the "yearly mashing" that is just the best way to describe it! Let me tell you, if guys (sorry bal) had to have their "parts" mashed like that you can bet the farm there would be a more "gentle" test found ASAP!

Babs~~Wow on the bath redo. Ours is planned for 2008, lol. We have a 10 year list. I hate our main bath, it still has avacado fixtures and they are in baaad shape. And the tub is too small and cast iron is too cold, so I never get a good bubble bath soak anymore. Where in Germany will dh be? He is Navy right? I can't place SEMBACH in my list of military acronyms. We were stationed in Germany for 3 years, I loved it there. I always fed the single guys for all the holidays too, we sure had some fun dinners.

Well, I need to get in the shower and find those stupid forms, so I will stop here. I know I've missed a few and I will try to catch back up later.

Huggles to all,

mg

Humphhh! I had intentions of crawling back into bed, but look who beat me to it! Oh well, probably best to stay up and get started on a couple of sewing projects. Foggy and rainy so it's a good day to catch up inside. Have a great day everyone.

Good morning all just caught up on this thread (took me awhile)
Lots to do after son gets off bus at noon going to get some more pumkins and gourds with my Mom "levilyla"
Have a great day all wil check back later
Anne

Morning gayle, I really laughed out loud about the men getting their parts mashed, had the funniest image in my mind. You bet it would be a kinder, gentler proceedure for sure. Well I am out the door to go get it over with. Will check in later.

M5, There's room for you, right in the middle, lol. Looks like my bed this morning. It is very cool, foggy, and my cats didn't want to go outside to go potty. They just got back up on the bed and went to sleep.
Sorry to hear all you guys who can't sleep at nite. That is so hard on all our bodies when we don't get a real nite sleep. Hope all can get back to a normal schedule on sleeping.
I didn't get to tell you all about the other potting party I went to on Monday afternoon. I left work early to go to this and am really glad that I did. This gal from the garden club lives out in the boonies but has about 9 acres. She carved out a few acres for her garden and it was just beautiful. Nested in with oak trees and open areas, the plants were so happy. And darn it, I forgot to take pictures. Will have to do that next time I go there. The gal was so nice and helpful. She was a 2nd grade teacher for many years so makes people feel welcome.
So we potted up many different plants. Hellebores (got myself one plant each of a purple, red, and white one for my shade area), different types of hardy geraniums (one smells so good too, so later I will have to share with others these plants), hostas, phlox-David (that one was a pain in the rear to split up, for being only a year old, it was huge), penstemon, etc. It was a good afternoon and I got to bring some nice plants home.
Then yesterday, my 18 year old son had his 4 wisdom teeth pulled, so was babysitting him along with his girlfriend being his nurse while I went to work for a few hours in the afternoon. She apparently did a good job on fixing him some tomato soup with crackers and bread crumbled up in it for more nourishment. Good idea.
So am off to work and hope to get back to my retaining wall and garden after work today. Haven't been able to do much in it lately and need to.
Everyone, had a good day today.
Carol (DR)

One bedroom is cleaned!!! Yahoo - it is the one I store my brugs in and I never cleaned it up from spring - dirt - junk all over!! You can now see the bed and the floor is all cleaned and covered again = waiting for the brugs this fall. Man, is it a good feeling to have one room done. The only problem is I found two huge boxes of football/baseball trading cards that belong to our boys - they want them, but want ME to keep them here - NOT> They are sitting on the kitchen table - seems like I just move stuff from one place to another!

Next on the agenda is the plant room that I am not going to use this winter (remember new plant room down stairs) Maybe tomorrow - don't want to overdo things!!

Man, it is good to feel alive today. I felt so awful yesterday - headache/sick stomach etc. Makes one really appreciate feeling good!!

mg - the sore arm is between the elbow and the shoulder-smack in the middle, but is better when I take aleve round the clock

Not much more of news here

Hi EVERYone!! Good reading here this morning! (Loved the remark about the "Smashing" of body parts...and I agree wholeheartedly!!)

Hope everyone who's having trouble sleeping gets a better night's sleep tonight...and hope all the aches and pains are MUCH better real soon. I live with a little of both (aches & pains *and* the 'can't get to sleep without a couple of PM tylenols) but like I said...I *live* with them, at least so far. LOL (And I wonder *why* I don't have the energy of a 30 y/o. hehehe)

I spent the biggest part of yesterday morning trying to figure out we could have more talk while at the same time have less guilt about not being able to 'keep up' with it. LOL That sounds a little far-fetched doesn't it? (Can you just imagine how long this thread *would* be if we all managed to 'keep up' (comment!) on everything that's going in on is each of our lives. Well...I've decided that, from here on out, I'm *not* even going to try!

So many times...like the second post in THIS thread...I see things I want to talk about. Then by the time I get a 'round tuit' (I'm going to MAKE myself one of those someday...hehehe) I've either fogotten what I wanted to say...or it's so far in the distant past that no one would remember what I was talking about anyway. SOOoooooo...I don't do it!
(My bad! - to copy my DGD's favorite phrase)

So with all my guilt behind me...I'm just going to do the best I can to keep the threads loading in a reasonable time (probably means a new one every other day) and pop in to say "HI" as often as I can. If that sounds like I'm thinking of disbanding the thread...well...I *was* thinking about it. Then I realized I *couldn't* live without you all!! :-D

So it looks like you're STUCK with me until we all die off...or get terribly bored! LOL & LOL (Like that's likely to happen any time soon.)

Whew! It feels better to see what I'm thinking and feeling than to be trying to remember WHY I feel like I've join Darius in that 'Black Hole'.

Speaking of which...ENOUGH of the BLACK HOLE Darius!!! Get your ARSE out here in the sunshine and SMILE!! (No, it's not sunny here either...but I can dream, can't I? :-) ...and if *I* can do it, so can you! (((~Darius~))) )

I have no idea what the day ahead is going to be. I'm expecting a package (I HOPE!) with the last of the perennials I order back in Mid-August. I think it's 3 doz tall phlox...and I hope it gets here today so I can get them planted before we get sprinkles.

After the phlox...the only left to plant is a couple hundred daffodils and 6 Gladiator Alliums. Then I'm FINISHED!!!

I'm even thinking of tossing all my coleus and geranium cuttings out of the basement. I'm just too tired to worry about keeping everything growing for 6 months. Would you believe that HOUSE CLEANING *actually* sounds GOOD to me at the moment? hehehe

All this talk about RUs is making me feel inadequate again. LOL I'm not much of a traveler...heck, I don't even like to go shopping at all anymore. I'd love it if someone lived in the next town from me had a RU..I might be able to overcome my fear of driving to get there!

I really got to stop here...I'm rambling....rambling....rambling. LOL

~julie~

I'm done cleaning the house, now it's onto clearing out the master bathroom so hubby can start pulling it apart this weekend. It will be a good time to toss out those partially filled bottles of shampoo, shower soap and whatever else has been stashed in the Pullman. I've still got a couple loads of laundry to finish up, but that's a snap.

meezers, I have to tell you, those Siamese kitties of yours are just too precious! I can so relate to having the critters taking over the bed. I woke up this morning with both of my BT's plastered up against the back of my legs and I had to crawl over them to get out of bed! My BT's love to snuggle under the covers and make little nests for themselves dragging the comforter around and scrunching it up until the fluffing is just right. LOL

mg, SEMBACH is about 45 minutes from Ramstein. You can look at their website at http://www.sembach.af.mil/ and http://www.globalsecurity.org/military/facility/index.html

MaryE, You are an amazing person. I'm in awe. You garden, cook, rustle up things to give to others.....exceptional in my book. I'm also glad to see you use the Diphenhydramine for sleep. It's cheap and works well. It's the active ingredient in Benadryl and is an antihistamine, so you are correct in it having two-fold use. I remember the days when it was a script item only. I used to be a pharmacy tech when I was working my way through nursing school and we used to fill Rx's of Diphenhydramine HCL to be used as sleepers because it cleared easily through the renal system for people who had cardiac and renal issues. Just remember, it can dry things up quite a bit and for those who have issues with dry eyes, it can make that more pronounced.

Hubby just called. Poor man is feeling a bit miffed at the moment. He's got 4, count them 4 people to take to Captain's Mast this afternoon for DUI. He's making an example of them and having the entire 700 troops (all ranks, no one is excused) currently stationed here assemble in the station theatre. Last weekend there were 4 DUI's and 2 of the DUI's were in the same vehicle! So, he's going to have the skipper go up on the stage, call each of the 4 sailors in turn and have them stand there in front of all their peers and receive their sentences and punishments. There are others to be masted as well, one happens to even be a senior enlisted person who was involved in a Domestic Violence situation with his wife, and don't you know, he's the abuse and dv coordinator for his division!!!! What's up with that?!? I'm telling you, I'm looking forward to retirement. I'm tired of the phone calls day and night. We can't even go out for supper without having to deal with some issue or other. I don't mind the one's where there's a death in a family or a near death situation where the service member needs to go home, but this lack of sobriety and lack of self discipline and personal responsibility for one's actions just has me dumbfounded.

How can anyone justify getting into a vehicle and driving, even after "only one beer". It's always only one beer..... They should come to work with me and see the messes we pull out of vehicles and scrape off the streets because it was only one beer. If they could see the impact on the survivors and those left behind maybe they wouldn't do it? I dunno. I can hardly stand to tell another spouse, family member, friend your S.O., mother, father, brother, etc. is either maimed for life or didn't survive their injuries. In my book, there is NO excuse for driving after drinking. Not even a sip, not even a thimblefull of ETOH in any form should ever pass the lips of anyone who will be driving a vehicle. 2500 lbs of metal and rubber vs the human body, guess who wins?!!

Ok, I'm climbing down off my soap box and back to cleaning out the Pullman in the bathroom. You all take care, enjoy your day and remember.....

***NEVER drive faster than your angels can fly!!!!!***
and
***Buckle Up!!!***

Babs

Julie- you were thinking WHAT???? Do we have to get out the 2x4 for you??? You can't leave us.....you're the captain of the ship!!! Sheesh- three dozen phlox??? And no coleus??? I have a bunch in water already. I had one particular one that got as big as a bushel basket- I hope that one makes it thru the winter. You aren't heading toward that 'black hole' are ya?

Darius and Maria- get out here and tell us what you are doing or what you are thinking.

I just stuck a dish of stuffed peppers in the oven -yum. If I was really ambitious I would make a loaf of homemade bread - but not today!! We have a bunch of peppers coming on now- had practically none all this summer. I may just pick them and chop them up and stick them in the freezer for seasoning.

I have a bunch of taste of home monthly magazines that I am going to pitch. I get the yearly cookbook, so it is silly to hang onto those - but I tell ya - it will be mighty hard. I just love sitting and looking thru cookbooks. I am going to give them to the kids- they can pitch them and then I won't know! Same for the gardening mags - I just have to declutter some before winter comes.

My neighbor keeps bugging me to go to 'scrapbooking' with her. I just don't want to get into it - I know it would be one of those things that I start and then don't finish. Besides, when I kick the bucket, no one would want them anyhow. It's not like I have girls - my boys aren't sentimental at all. She called again last night and I may just go once and then tell her I'm 'not into it'. She goes for weekends doing it several times a year.

Yikes Babs- four DUI's. I don't care if people drink, but for heaven sakes don't drive. My sons do it all the time and it drives me crazy. They think they are invinsible of course.

I am with you. I believe that if you've had even one drink you should not drive - and that belief has gotten me out of jury duty a couple of times. They kept trying to get me on the jury of a DUI case-the prosecuters loved me but the defense attorney's kicked me off.

Perhaps, if your DH could sentence the ones who were in trouble with DUI with their normal sentences plus several days of having to ride with the ambulances to pick up those involved in accidents, maybe some would finally get the message. It sure wouldn't hurt if it could be arranged.

Dotti

Hey, Sarv...

I'm here, just in "Lurk Mode"... nothing interesting going on in my life right now...

BTW, the 2 variegated brugs I have are Maya and Peaches & Cream. Soon as I figure out what to do to keep them overwinter, I'll let you know about cuttings. Only the P&C bloomed this year, and naturally it was while I was away when my mother died.

You do not want to know what I am thinking, Sarv, it is not very nice.
Some people are just detemined to upset you, people that should know better because some of us are standing too close to the rim of that black hole and without a brain in their head they just give you a big push and down you go, some have such thick skin unfortunately I do not belong in that category.
Some days it is not worth getting up, but I did have a pleasant afternooon chatting away with a wonderful friend, it helped a lot.

Julie, what are yo talking about? You can't leave us in the lurch!
I know I cannot answer every one, but do read every single word. it is a lot of fun even if I don't contribute a lot, if did feel better I could be buisier and tell you what's up but there is nothing I do right now of any interest.
Maria

Hey Maria, just hang in there and yell to us GOBs for help. We'll all give you a hand back out if someone pushes you in - even those of us thats fallen in can push from underneath. You just keep chatting Y'all hear now!! If you don't have anything to say just pop in from time to time and say "Nowt" - then we'll know you are still with us.
Julie I hope you are only joking girl - with winter coming on we're all going to need more space to chat not less!! Hey how abvout a campaign to get some JCB thingies to move the dirt about and fill in all these holes that are appearing all over the country - its odd it should happen all over at once do Y'all think the Martians have landed??? LOL
They had our carpets up today - slab has cracked clear across 1/2ins wide and right through to the dirt. Good job its under warranty but even so its a bit on the stressful side - got a lot tied up in this house.
Yuk and double yuk!!
I swear its that b... black hole - its right under my house!!!!

Carol

darius - I have snowbank and it didn't bloom this summer, in fact it barely grew at all. If the leaves weren't so pretty , I 'd give it a toss in the compost heap. I hope both of yours do great, as I would love a cutting of each (piggy me)

Maria - who was unkind to you???? Shame on them... When I am in the'hole', I try and think of others that have so much less than I do - whether it be finances or health. Even tho we are not wealthy by any means, we have enough (I'd love more tho!!) and my health has been ok - other than the yearly surgery mode I seem to be in and the aches and pains that linger. But things could be a WHOLE lot worse!!

I have a very wealthy sister who is looking towards a major back surgery and I know she would give every penney she had just NOT to have it. There is no guarantee that it will help her pain problem. Plus that, she will only have medial insurance for the next year (cobra) She and her husband have a wonderful life - plenty of $$, two beautiful homes and cars/trucks, 18 plus boats and the assorted toys that men collect. (no kids) However, I wouldn't trade with her - I have two sons that despite sometimes driving me crazy, I love with all my heart - a DH that only needs that 2x4 once in a while - and a ton of very good friends, plus gardens that make me smile for months.

My only wish is that we all lived closer and could meet for a cup of tea and a scone - now wouldn't that just be perfect!! And Darius could cook us a wonderful meal....ahhh heaven.

What would we all do with this email!!!

aria - I have been with people who have black holes. The main thing I learned was to "be still, and listen". If you need an ear d-mail me, and my ears (minus my mouth) will be there for you. No one can really know what you are going through, but a sounding board can sometimes help sort things out.

You are a child of God,
ginni

Aria, Ginni is right. Any one of us would be willing to sit and listen. Consider yourself given a good (((Hug))). Dotti

Me again. It's such a pretty day. I went for about an hour ride on Breezy, he is the horse I will take to the endurance ride this weekend. The weather over there (foothills of the Cascade Mts near Portland, Or) is looking like it might be wet. I bought a rain suit, it's rubberized nylon, pants and jacket with hood, not stiff at all and it should keep me pretty dry. Getting wet and riding in cold wet clothes is no fun, been there, done that.

Darius, I think you posted pictures somewhere of an Epiphylum in bloom. Right? if so, what color and are you interested it trading for a start of rhipsalis with tiny little snowflake sized blooms? I'm sending out some cuttings and getting Epis in return. I reposted a picture of it on the Orchid Cactus forum recently.

Julie, you just quit feeling guilty about not keeping up with the whole bunch of us. I think most of us just reply sorta hit and miss with whatever sticks in our mind by the time we get through reading.

Black holes, OH NO, get outa there!!!! Here's a hand up for you. We'll all try to help you keep from falling in again, just let us know when you need a hug, a pat on the back or a kick in the fanny. Sure, we are glad to oblidge, that's what friends are for.

Babs, your Thanksgiving dinner at work sounds like a good one. When my DH was on the police department he usually worked holidays as a lot of emergency personnel and military do. Somebody was always bringing food to the station but I don't think anybody did as good a job as yours. At Christmas I make up plates of homemade cookies, fruitcake, etc and he takes them to 911, sheriff's office, local police station, state troopers detatchment, etc. He works with most of those people on cases for the DA's office. Over the years we celebrated our holidays a few days to a couple of weeks late, ...... depending. We still do sometimes to accommodate friends or relatives schedules. One year we had Christmas dinners 3 times.

The granola I'm making just finished it's slow bake, so I need to get outside and keep digging flower beds.

Maria...don't you DARE let anyone SHOVE you over the edge of that Black Hole! I like what Carol (okus) said...even if there are several of us in that hole when you fall in, we'll ALL be there for you to use our shoulders to climb out on. And that includes *me*. You're talking to people, many of whom really understand what that black hole is and the effect that it has on others.

I wish we ALL lived in the same town so we could actually sit down and talk about life's wrinkles. (AHhhhhh....I wish they made a CREAM for that one! LOL)

See...*this* is why I *won't* close the door on the 'Coffe and...' thread. We *need* each other!

((((~for ALL my DG friends...especially my GOB's~)))

~julie~

Sarv - maybe your friend is trying to keep you out of the black hole by inviting you to go with her. If you go once, you'll know whether or not you like scrapbookking. My daughter loves it and would scrap all day given a chance. I like to scrapbook too, but it is difficult for me to spend lots of time looking at old photos since we lost our son. If you do decide to give it a try, there might be another family member besides your sons that would love to have the books. Genealogy is a hobby of mine and I would be thrilled if a family member gave me their scrapbook!

Jody

Here's a picture of the horses playing in the pasture. Thought you might like to see.

Ah, before I forget to post this... I will have NO electricity for much of tomorrow... some major work the elec. co. is doing on my end of the county. Hope it's just tomorrow! Anyway, I expect to be offline all day, if not more.

Sarv, my variegated ones (this is the second time I have had some) do not grow as tall as the regular brugs. Mine bloomed the third year, never took cuttings, just over-wintered in the same pot. That one was P&C and the bloom was awesome!

Here's the bloom last year, before it opened on the small plant

Opened bloom, best perfume!

MaryE, I saw your post in the orchid cactus forum. I don't think I want any more cuttings until after I get settled again next year. I have a large white Queen of the Night, and a red dayblooming Epi, plus cuttings of several more I got last year, some salmons, pinks, etc. Those are finally growing but still tiny. Only 3-4 are named so I won't know about the rest for some time.

I don't even know how I will keep mine alive over the winter if I go spend 2-3 months with my sister, except to pay someone to come in and water. Ugh.

I think I need that 2x4 to whack myself over the head for allowing some one to push me back into that hole, but you guys are so very kind and I thank you, I am only sorry I did not get to know you earlier, you would have been lots of help when I was really down there without seeing any light above.
It has been a very hard year for me without my husband and have been grabbing any piece of straw that was offered to me for comfort. My children have been wonderful but as you know there is a total lack of objectivity when asking for advise of close family members and I will never bother my children about my problems, as it is they know it anyway.
The other interesting thing I have discovered the older one gets the more he speaks of his past, I am afraid I am one of those people it must be because dreams have come and gone not having any more left except to stay independant as long as possible. I hope you don't mind.

Darius, where are you my good friend come and chat!!!!!
Maria

Aww Aria some dreams must still be out there to be had
Anne
Thinking of you

Maria, I "chatted" just above your post!

God gave us memory that we might have roses in December.

lol, Darius, you must have posted that while I was weiting mine, this is a very busy thread.
What a lovely thing to say , tgif, thank you!

Yes, there are dreams out there, magoobu, but they come and go as fast as clouds rush by.
Maria

sending some good dreams your way!
I will think of alot that can be had and will make the day brighter just give me some time to ponder
Anne

Hi All,,,

I've had a very bad couple of days. I'm feeling a bit better - but probably because I spent all day at home - sleeping and resting and with no constricting clothing. However, the achy pain is still there. I called the doctor this morning - they hadn't gotten the test results - but the nurse told me they'd hunt them down and try to get them to the dr (think she does surgery on Wed pm). I didn't get a call so I'm assuming that means the doctor didn't get them. I have my appointment tomorrow at 3:45 - so I'll know something then I would hope. It's just so uncomfortable - and really painful at times. I still hope I won't have to beg and plead to have them take it out - but I guess we'll see. I'm going to be as adamant as I can - after all I'm losing days of work and I'm not able to eat or do anything.....very frustrating.

Other than that - haven't been doing much. Tried to work some from home - but just not feeling well - so only did some. I'm going to go take a shower in a bit and go to bed early.

MG-I'm serious about that RU too. Any ideas on dates? I'd like to have something to look forward to in Jan or Feb - I hate those months. I have a holiday in Jan too - mid month - Monday - Martin Luther Kings b-day - but I just mention.

Later....

Marcia

Just checking in to say "Hi". Haven't a prayer of finding time to read the messages. VERY busy at the Food Cupboard today after being closed on Monday because of the holiday. Friday, we interview 5 candidates for my job. Saturday I have to give a speech at a fund-raising dinner which a nearby soup kitchen is holding. Haven't figured out what I'm going to say yet. In an avoidance technique, I've done a lot of other jobs which I managed to avoid all summer such as sorting out all my music.

Now I'm avoiding it all by checking in to DG rather than the Ottawa Social Planning Council where I was going to look for background info.

See you in a few days when I surface again.

Ann

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Maria - you may have the 2x4 but only in foam form this time. :) You remind me so much of my dad - he really struggled to find purpose in life after he nursed mom for 12 years before she died. She died in Nov 2000 and it was the next summer before he really found some purpose again. He got back into gardening and helping one of our 'foster' sisters from Ethiopia. They sponsed her in the 80's and then her sister in the 90's. The sister married and lives in CA but the first one still struggles, doesn't always make the right decisions (who does?) and has a daughter to raise. But it really was so hard to see him so lost without mom. He loved her so deeply, seldom had a cross word between them in 50 years. I don't know HOW they did that. So don't be too hard on yourself. Give yourself some space and time and we'll all listen to whatever u wanna say!

Just a regular work day here. Chilly and rainy. Julie, watch ur mail box. :)

Aria you have kids yes??
Grandkids maybe I do not know??
Anne

Some couples are lucky that way, Kooger, like your parents that is how my parents felt about one another, they were the perfect example what a marriage should be to their daughters, I had one of those also. When my mother died, my father was beside himself with grief two month later he commited suicide, I remember thinking what an awful thing to do, but I understood after I went through the same thing, I did not want to go on either but I did and I have. I just get those relapses every so often, the smallest incitant what some one might say in a thoughtless manner can throw me right down the cliff.

Betsy, I am so sorry you feel so rotten, nothingworse than an ongoing pain in the tummy, take care!
How I envy you, Ann, being so very busy, wish I could do just a quarte of what you are doing, that said, I include everyone who keeps busy.
Maria

Say Goodnight, Gracie....