CREATE A MEMORIAL PAGE TO DG'ERS WHO HAVE PASSED

Kareoke, that's nice. Homer was a member here at DG, right? Sugar_FL's hubby, Greenwood?

Kareoke, that is just so special. Thank you for sharing this with us. What a beautiful sentiment.

Yes, Greenwood was very much known and loved here at DG.

Doris, that is a very nice page.

Dave,

An In Memoriam forum would allow other DGers to put down remembrances, thoughts, pictures if they have it, etc. Also, if the thread titles were the DG members' name, it would be easy to look up and know immediately where to go.

I'm not so sure the logisitics of flowers could be worked out; while a good idea, we DG members don't have access to how much would be in such a fund or access to the funds, and I wouldn't want to task you with yet another thing......but if we had a forum to put a thread for each deceased member (whose family wishes them to be memorialized here) then we as individuals could take that part of it upon ourselves.

We are more like a family here and I get really sad when I've heard that we've lost a member and it is even worse when I don't know for months.

Thanks for your consideration. Happy Day, Kathy

I think a small graphical flag linking to the deceased's memorial page/thread would be tasteful and appreciated by most. Maybe something like "R.I.P" or "Sadly missed"?

Sorry GW, RIP always makes me think of a ghost story :)

The only thing is that unless we specifically look up that person's name, we won't even know they are gone unless there is a forum to go to :( (If I'm understanding what you're saying.)

:) Kathy

I meant in conjunction with a forum - the graphic link, whatever it said, would take the person to the forum or memorial page.

I see :) Thanks for the clarification. That's a good idea.

Thanks Dave for following this and putting some thought in to it.
Maybe some sort of an avatar under their name would work? "In heavens garden" instead of their city, state and zone?

I like that....very nice. "In heaven's garden"

It might help peeps to still have the city, state/province/country and zone as well, in order to jog their memory or be sure they're thinking of the right person. - ?

I like that, too! Keep the location/zone info along with a small icon stating "In Heaven's Garden" or similar. :)

I kind of think there needs to be a forum, because otherwise, how will anyone know? They won't be posting, for us to see an icon. It would show up only if someone pulls an older thread.

What about a forum, with a thread for each missing member, (and their picture if we have it) where members could post memories of that person? Some have relatives here, and it could be a comfort. The first internet wake?

I love all your ideas. What a wonderful thing to do for those we care about here at DG.

Is money an issue in accomplishing this? The reason I ask is because we were looking for a cause to support at the MORU since the Garden Angel Fund does not need our help. I think this would be a very worthwhile cause.

I was so moved by the spirit and example set by Dale P 6. What a wonderful person she was. I never met her and never talked directly to her, but she surely touched my heart and life in many ways. A lot of folks here at DG do that... and would like to remember these wonderful folks after they have left us to go home to "The Garden in Heaven "...

MsJen...wonderful idea, I like that one, it's awesome. The way God intended it to be....Back "In heaven's garden" I truly hope that Dave will consider this, it's absolutely a beautiful idea :)

Julie/ BaBs

Dave, I will step up to the plate, although since I moderate another forum perhaps someone else will volunteer.

I think the forum should just be available to subsciber's eyes only.

I posted a while ago, but for some reason it didn't post. I maybe hit the wrong button.

But, I would be willing to be the moderator, or one of the moderators, of the forum if you would like.

I agree with you Pam, but I'm having trouble articulating it ... Do you mean, to maintain a sense of discretion on behalf of the departed, and to keep it within the community as it were?

Shannon

Dave, I said in another earlier thread or maybe this one that I would agree to oversee this. If you still need someone, let me know. :) Kathy

Lilypon, if we made the first post of each thread open like all the others (with no addresses to be put in the first post), members could read them and know how much we care about one another.

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Since a moderator would have to start the new thread on our departed friends, then whatever is said in the first post could be controlled. Several wonderful folks have volunteered and all are quite eloquent when it comes to putting thoughts down for people to read.

I like this idea best because, the moderator could compose a lovely sentiment for our friend that their 'outside' family would be able to access. The bulk of the postings could be printed and snail mailed to the family if they didn't want to subscribe.

Addresses , service times and other personal information could be followed in the second post to the thread.

Hopefully, this forum won't have to be used much, but when we need it...it will be a very welcome place to remember our on line family.

Okay, withdrawing my name since you have some other volunteers, Dave!

IMO it would be best for the family of the departed Shannon/Mistymeadows. I don't have a problem with subsciber's seeing/posting in them but I'm not sure if the family would want the whole internet world to see it (which would happen if Dave made it an *open* forum).


Dave already has some forums that are only accessible to subscribers *eyes* only and the whole thread can't be accessed by somone searching on google.

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On the other hand, Obits are published everywhere and Deaths are of Public Records.

(Although personally, I prefer a subscriber's only forum.)

Lilypon, What I meant is that the first post is available to read by anyone that is not a paying subscriber. After that, only suscribers would be able to read on.

I too think it would be better to be a subscriber only forum as well. My initial thought was let others know how much we care, but the more I thought about it, the more I think it needs to be closed "to the DG family". After all, new members wouldn't have known this person.

Kathy

I agree with Kathy and I like the "In Heavens Gardens" caption and I feel the same way about R.I.P..........it should stay with the goolies........

Dee

I also like "In Heavens Gardens"

MistyMeadows said in an earlier post:

I agree that "RIP" has, unfortunately, lost its original sense for me at least - and now seems to be something identified with Hallowe'en.

There has been a lot of great comments and ideas in this thread. I think it sounds just wonderful. I would like to suggest some caution on the forum title - Dave has reached out to the world with his website and while many are Christians, many others are not. The more worldwide DG becomes, the more possibility of non-Christians joining DG. As they are just as welcome as Christians, a title without a Christian reference might be a good idea. Perhaps something like 'Lovingly Remembered' or 'In Remembrance' or 'In Memory of' --I'm sure someone could suggest a really great title.

Good point Kooger, I was thinking along the same lines. While "In Heavens garden" sounds nice, it might not be appropriate for all, even in this country. Perhaps something more along the lines of missing or missed in Dave's garden?

I agree with all the above posts. Although I like the Christian ones, I realize and respect other's beliefs too.

Some options I thought of were "In Memorium", In Loving Memory, and Close to Our Hearts.

It might be too irreverent (and I apologize if it is seen as such, but I only mean it as something more upbeat and to convey a celebration of their life, in the gardening vein.) Having thus prefaced it, what about

"Gone Gardening"

(akin to a "Gone Fishing"sign ;o )

I like that Terry! If I should be so lucky as to be "gone gardening" for an afterlife, I could be content with that. I don't think it is irreverent at all. What a happy thought.

This is not meant to be offensive....please don't take it that way. Just a light hearted suggestion in the same vein as Terry's.

If I were to suggest "Pushin' up Daisies" would you guys and gals throw a store-bought tomato at me?

I would suggest.....no, I don't dare. :)

If anyone is mad, I apologize now.....didn't mean to offend. My dry sense of humor again.

Aubrey

Terry, I think "Gone Gardening" is great, but I also think that In Memoriam or something like that should be on there as well. If I didn't know about any of this, I wouldn't know what Gone Gardening really meant.

If we were to take a vote though, I think my all time favorite would be just to put In Loving Memory, says it all. :( :)

Oh and one more thing, while there times I'd like to be considered Mystic.....I still am just Misty....

:) Thanks, Kathy aka MistyMeadows

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Aubrey, as opinionated as some here are, they would take offense at pushing up daisys. They would insist on Pushin up Roses, or Brugs, or hostas, or ....

You get the idea.

Just kidding, folks! I tend to be a bit irreverant myself. And when it is me, I'd like to be remembered with a smile.

In memory of those who have "gone gardening" .

Opps, sorry Kathy. I knew better too, so I don't know why I was thinking MysticMeadows, when I knew it was MistyMeadows. I'll go back and change it.

My two cents'....I agree with having the name be as inclusive as possible. I had thought that as well, but didn't know how to phrase it. Thanks for bringing that up, kooger.

"In Loving Memory" sounds really nice. Not too sure about "Gone Gardenin"...it can come across as flippant, which some might not appreciate, and some (including me, if I saw it for the first time) might not know what it meant. It could just mean that they're not on-line at that moment, because they're outside planting bulbs or something! :-) An exaggeration, just to illustrate.

Shannon

My first thought on the "pushing up daisies" was EEEEK!! Not so sure i like that one.....
On a side note about "gone fishing"...Our produce delivery guy was killed last year in a train accident. Just yest. his "in memory" ad showed up in the obits and we all got to talking about him and remembering him.....anyway, Trudy told me that his last words to the people that pulled him out of his truck before he passed were "i'm tired, i'm gong fishing now"......I thought "wow"...

My opinion on the christian phrase vs a non-christian phrase is this: Daves has always been Christain based and i imagine it will always be. We have a non-christian following here (myself included sometimes) but everyone seems to blend just fine. I'm sure if someone has a problem with "In heavens garden" or something similiar to it, they will ignore it just like some ignore the prayer forum.

I do feel its important to have something under their user name (in threads) that indicate that they've passed on. Every once in a while an old thread will be brought up and its rather shocking to see their posting, and my first thought is "huh"..and then i look at the date. Not sure if everyone else is as easily confused as i am tho, lol.