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Glad to have you here Katie..hugs

LindaKay, it Victoria Day, we celebrate Queen Victoria who was born in 1819
Usually parades and fireworks

Sounds like a nice week end! We have Memorial day week end at the end of the month!

Will be a work weekend for me but that is ok
When all is done I can sit with feet up

Rita called to say tile guy will score the linoleum, put cement and mesh down with no problem right on top of that pretty yellow ukkk, saves me some work

Wow, everyone is so busy. I have spent the morning chatting with HP. Bought a new computer just before I was called south and didn't get a chance to set it up. When I did it was defective so they are sending me a new one for replacement. Surprised they didn't ask me to take it back to Best Buy. Will not complain.

That is good PR' not making you run around..
Do you think Sue might call and ay take another week at home?

Suzanne is here cutting strips on 2 no sew blankets as they are for a draw at the stag/doe on Saturday night for her daughter.due starts at 8pm, tell me, how am I suppose to stay up that late ??

It is looking like I will be staying home until the 24th or 25th. Talk about celebrating!!!!

Omg that is great news, the best of it is that Sue realizes she can't have you with her forever..bet you extatic

Marion that is good news, maybe you can get out and play in the dirt, after your new appliances are installed?

How do you disown a mother???

She called her lawyers today, says she wants to stop the sale of the cottage, said her daughters pressured her into it..doesn't care how much it costs to do so she is doing it. Sharon told her she is finished with her..mike and Kim much the same..

I so would like to say the same..what can one say

Soooo tired of this

Yep I was up with you Betty. I was reading a book titled The Fault In Our Stars by john Green. Excellent read! It is a movie soon to be released about 2 teenaged cancer patients who meet at a Support Group and then go on a wonderful journey together. Warning if you read it ..... I cried and cried.

Had forgot it was our long weekend. We always used to do the show at Buckhorn. Have you ever been to that one Betty? We always rented a cottage on the lake, took the dogs and the cats and had a mini holiday. No parade here or in Kingston hopefully just many tourists and cottagers to help promote the village economy.

How is Heather feeling now LK? She must be really frightened by the uncertainty.

Betty and anyone else who posts pics please keep doing so, I enjoy them so much. I live a very quiet life by choice but I sure do get to see and experience a lot of things through your eyes that I never would. You have all been so kind and supportive - you have no idea what that means to me.

Exciting news Marion. I am so glad you get to spend more time at home. Very happy for Sue - she has come a long way in a short time.

Time to go out and rake some more - its more like dodging the black flies but at least the pups and I get outside. I moved some wood around this morning. You all are going to think I am obsessed with wood because that's almost all I talk about. lol

M I am so sorry that Lorna is being put through this emotional torture. What is wrong with these people?Surely they realize how important getting an answer be it yes or no is to her. You have a bear with PMS and I have a coyote suffering from something much the same. Debbie cover your eyes - I swear I will shoot it if it comes up on the steps to the house again.

Duke is doing really well with his meds. When the cleaning lady was here this morning she was shocked at the difference in his behaviour. Now I can start on retraining him and give him some party manners.

Dianne

(((Betty))) I just don't know what to say. I just ate a bowl of Chapman's Black Cherry Ice Cream, do you want some?
D

OH NO! Maybe it is time for you to have her properly diagnosed with dementia or something, so she can't make these kind of decisions? So sorry!

...and I thought I had troubles! That is unbelievable Betty. Hummm, wondering can she be declared "incompetent?" I really don't intend that to sound harsh but where does this end.

Yes, not going back on Monday has been good. She is really working at finding things to volunteer with and knows I will not "crutch" her forever. Sue has asked me when I go back down to take her to Bradenton to be fitting for new orthodics (?). Driving in a larger town/city still bothers her so I can assist with that. Funny thing, before I was widowed, I hated driving but now think nothing of it any more. We do change.

Dianne, hang in there and remember my door is always open..just come with butter tarts. :-)

Dianne, did you nap today? Sounds like a really good book, will have to look for it, that being said I'm ot sure I'm up to something that will make me cry and cry. Lol. After the winter we just had I'd be obsessed with getting wood cut and piled for this winter.bet you are thrilled with the meds and changes in Duke..how is diesel faring with all the misbehaving and now having a more docile friend to play with? Think I will go look in the refrigerator and see if there is ice cream!

You know mom is conniving! She is an actress with strangers, people think she is ever so sweet, they don't know her so doubtful she wouldn't get around them..just not sure what I will say to her, I'm so flipping upset with her.

Kudos to Sue, she has made great strides, bound to be a few hiccups but in the meantime enjoy! Be good for her to volunteer and make friends,. Isn't it funny, when Mike was alive Ann had severe panic attacks, couldn't drive anywhere, then came the babies, she was needed..she started to drive our major highways even in blizzards.
Yikes, bad storm going on, likely travelling your way Dianne.

I cannot believe the difference in a day, leaves on the trees/shrubs are open, starting to take the yuk out of the back yard, looks so lush.

Went over to Rita's, wow, boxes all over, does she have a job ahead of her..her last night here will be Thursday or Friday, not sure all she has here will get to her house nil next week, a quiet house I shall have.

Have leftover spaghetti, will eat and finish removing the tiles, what a mess, guess it has to look bad before it looks good right. Think you know what I mean Marion seeing you are finishing a reno

Good morning everyone ..

ROTO TILLING day today .. DH is headed over to our sons to till his garden first, as for DHs, it might be a bit longer as it's bigger and NOT in full sun .. still a patch of snow in one end .. it's only 36F right now.

Betty, renos and me do not a match make, I hate the clutter and mix up of 'stuff' .. true, it all works out in the end, but, getting there is tedious ..
I wish you and RIta all the best.

Lunch with Jo was awesome as always .. i had found some pics taken at a grade 12 gurls night and we laughed and laughed .. the year was 1997 .. have attached it .. I am in the back row (The blonde) , and, Jo is in front of me .. we have been BFF for 55+ years !!

Off to the gym with Lorna a bit later ..

Take care all ..

~M~

Morning all,

54 and overcast here, brrrr, hard on these old bones!!

"M" now if you lived closer Gord might be able to till me a garden, not quite sure where I would put it but I'm sure I'd find a place..did think along the back there is a mound and that I could put a few tomato and cucumber plants..aha moment, will do lol

Love the photo, great looking gals... not many have BFF anymore...great you've kept in touch.

Think because I got married at 17 and moved to the city and Roger was 7 years my senior we didn't socialize in same groupings..I do see some of the girls from time to time.

Tonight might be Rita's last night at my place, both wondered where the past 7 months went, no a snippy word between us..I've said many times I will miss her and I will..will be nice for her having her own things. This morning she said she'll have to cook some meals for me as she knows I won't eat properly..

As for reno's I don't like them either, everything messy, be glad when it's over.

Off to sew on the 2nd last cuddy cushion, larger of the 5..

Amanda has the mug swap open, come and check it out!

2014 Annual Mug Swap
http://davesgarden.com/community/forums/t/1360326/

Quiet room today ^_^

Tilling is done .. of course I have a pic ..
Now, we just have to do ours ..

Gym was good .. and, LOTSA traffic in town !!
I guess the influx of evacuees from up north due to the flooding is more than we expected ..
Altho, they were flown down here .. not many would have driven.

Trying to make a meat loaf, phone keeps ringing .. guaranteed I'll stick my hands in to mix it up, and, it'll ring again .. AND, I only have ONE disposable glove LoL
Gonna be a challenge ..

VERY windy here. Only in the 40s ..

Hope all are well

Toodles

~M~

I try to mix with just one hand for that very reason.

Look at that nice dirt! Wish we could till up pour soil, but with all the rocks and clay it will never happen!

Ohhh look at that earth 'M" bet you have no trouble growing veggies. Did ou get your meatloaf done?

just look at the time, Jason and the plumber just left, counter top installed. All that remains on that project is shelving for the cupboard and the trimming.
Now if the tile guy comes tomorrow I will be all set to paint this weekend.

Best I try to get some sleep!

Good morning everyone ^_^
Another cool morning, and, no sun (yet)

Yes, Murray (DS) has lovely soil .. a few bags of maneur and some top soil were added, but, basically thatt's it.
They're excited to start planting, but, cautious as we have been known to have a heavy frost in May ..

So was the granite countertop OK to go on Betty?
How's the floor coming?

As usual .. busy day .. wish the places we needed to go to opened at 7am, but, nope, most places open at 10am ..

Still fighting this stupid cold .. I know it's because the chemo meds lower my white blood cells .. and .. I am to take the drug , well, forever I guess .. he re prescribed it for another year .. but, if it keeps the arthritis 'static', I'm goin for it!

Have a wonderful day everyone

TOODLES

~M~

Susie has the KING OR QUEEN FOR THE MONTH swap open. Come and check it out!

http://davesgarden.com/community/forums/t/1360369/

Thanks LindaKay, joined this one, sounds like fun..love to be a 'Queen' for one day let alone a month!

No sunshine here as well "M", few rain drops but the good news is that skies will clear tomorrow and we'll have 3 days of cloud/sun, cooler temps but NO rain, so they say.

Terrible when the meds make you so sick but alternative isn't any better.

Yes, got the counter top on, because the tile guy is suppose to start tonight Jason said he'd be back beginning of next week to finish what he's doing..scolded me for wanting to paint over the cedar..has me thinking, perhaps new lights, accessories, mirror, curtains etc would do the trick so
I'll think about it, do know the tub HAS TO GO ..was warned I might open can of worms re as to what is under the tub and wall but will take that chance and yes should have waited to do tile until tub is changed lol I do things half a** backwards.

"M" not so sure I'd start planting this early, even I this far south of you will wait until June...might plant seeds though.

grrrr got e-mail from Sharon, she told mom she wants nothing to do with her, Sharon fights depression and says mom is toxic..same with Mike, doesn't really bother..truth be known NEITHER do I but I will not discuss her options/finances and will talk only about the weather and non stressful topics..so hope she doesn't call me over the weekend..that surely would spoilt the weekend. any suggestions as to how to handle this situation..

I have Robert coming over early in the morning to get his cuddy cushions, here's hoping they will be done, have hair appt in afternoon, need to shop for groceries re food I'm bringing to the stag/doe Saturday night, want to get my grass cut etc.

rest of the weekend if I do decide to paint there will go 2 days

my thought is to modernize the washroom, pine to me seems cottage decor

Betty, the best way to handle your Mom is to confront her, and tell her the truth. Be firm in what you tell her.

comfort I can do, do they call it 'fake it'?
but telling her the truth is another matter but will try my best..

That was confront...not comfort!

Betty just start talking about your DG friends...they'll all make excuses to leave!

Betty, love the idea for you to talk about your DG friends. Even better, might be to talk about yourself. Respond to everything your mother says with a comment abou yourself, the more selfish and self-pitying the better. If you have trouble doing this for lack of practice just immitate your mother. "Me, me me me me."

Or you could just come down to Mexico for a visit without telling anyotn where you are.

Then watch the Tara the hero cat video on Youtube.

Another thought: start crying and don't stop. With all the crap you have put up with, not just from your mother but also from Sharon and Mike who seem to feel the need to "share" all their crap with your mother with you, this shouldn't be too hard. Let yourself admithow you are feeling about all tis and "share" it with whoever next tries to involve you - as loudly as possible. You know how "the squeaky wheel gets the grease"? The opposite is also true: the person who listensd and appears sympathic, gets the crap. It's past time for you to give some of it back. One loud screaming, crying fit would do you a world of good ant they might back off at least for awhile.

love you, katie

It's so very hard dealing with a selfish person. Really doesn't matter what you say or do, it will not sink in to her head that she is the one driving everyone away. It will only be poor her abandoned by everyone after all she did for them.

Mother's day is hard for me because to tell the truth I really don't miss her and the poison she inflicted on people. I can't really seem to feel guilty about this either.

looks as though there are a few of us with such Mothers..

OMG LindaKay, didn't read as closely as I should have, thought you told me to comfort her..drats, wasn't sure I could do that lol

Actually Joyce, most of family / friends are interested in my DG friends, some have met you so always asking how you are all doing..the boys and I were talking about that over the weekend..Jeff told Greg to pose nicely with me, usually he's making a face or turning, Jeff said it was important to me to have photos for my friends..hmmm was he being nice or sarcastic (grinning)

I'm afraid Karen much the same will happen to mom...and yes, it's everyone else, not her!

I can't even imagine things she's told people about us..shaking my head..what mother does that.

still raining outside..about 2 hrs and I'll be finished the cuddy project, lordy, hands are aching and swollen..arthritis love this weather.

Have everything to cook Rita's 'last supper' at my house..once we eat thing I'll soak in the tub and have an early night...unless of course the tile man is there, hey wait, maybe I will take that bath!

Almost tempted to tell him to come Tuesday because if he starts today he'll just get cement and metal set, but, when it cures overnight I will be able to walk on it on the weekend

My mother said horrible things about me for years, mostly to my sister who were only to happy to agree and add their own complaints. After my father died I was the only one who cared about her. l She realized that and we were together when she died but she'd spent thrity years being anry with me and telling people so. You are not alone in that.

Betty, you and Debbie have the same situation for opposite reasons. She is the one who calls a halt in her family while you are the one that everyone airs their complaints to. You two need to get together and go into your own witness protection program, only call it family protection. My mother's atitude towards me changed only after she had dementia and forgot all the th ings she was mad about AND she realized that I was the only one who cared about her. She had raised three totally selfish daughters and me. And she hated me for most of my life.

Do not expect your mother or any else to change no matter what you do. That is how people like them ensnare people like us: if only you were a better person there wouldn't be any problems. Remember Br'er Rabbit and the tar baby. Every time you try to hlep -or even listen to their complaints - you get more stuck in the tar.

Enough, already.

hugs, katie

For sure. My mom was pissed when I was pregnant for the 4th time in 4 1/2 years. as a result she never would have much to do with that child even though he loved her and would do anything for her.

I am at a loss as to what you could do Betty .. several good suggestions though ...
Lorna's parents are in their late 80s .. they live in their own home, do their own mainteance, and activities of daily living .. we always hope and pray they remain OK, but, at the same time, well we all worry.
She has a brother that lives near the parents, but, he's not as attached as Lorna ..
I think I would just tell your Mom that this is the eay it is, get angry if you want to, but, down the road, after you diss me, you'll thank me ..

I HATE being HAPPY with this going on, but, Lorna has been asked back by the cemetery .. the manager called today and he is SO happy she said 'YES' !!!
She starts June 2 and her parents arrive for a week on June 15th .. oh well ...life can surely get interesting ^_^


~M~

Woooo hoooo for Lorna! I needed to hear some happy news today.

There was a knock on my door at 2 am Tues night and there stood a really good friend of mine in tears. I had just spoken to Sue and her DH on Sat afternoon wishing them a Happy 40 Anniversary. There was a big party in Toronto that night but I wasn't going. Party was a blast. Sue said her DH got up on Sun. morning, packed his bags and walked out. She had no idea! Warren and I have known this couple since 1972. We all taught together. I've told Sue she can stay for as long as needs to but she needs to face the situation and contact a lawyer. Calling her DH on his cell several times an hour and him not answering her calls is not going to solve anything. My heart aches for her but I don't know what else I can do except provide some support. She has to take a stand but I think deep down she thinks he will come back to her.

Unfortunately I too was raised by a mother who could find nothing positive to day about me or my sister. I left home at 16 and rarely visited. Betty I wish I had some words of wisdom for you. Make sure you take care of yourself while dealing with your mam and don't let her get to you.

Another storm moving in so I had better get off of here.
Dianne

Marilynne, i'm delighted you're happy. I am, too. I think the next time Betty's mom calls her she should say, "Sorry, Mom, but I'm too happy to listen to you." And hang up. hugs, katie

Sadly, I didn't learn, I kept trying right up until the end. I spent every Mother's day with her instead of my own kids. I was with her for her last months, leaving my own family to stay by her side. I had put aside all the hurtful things she had said to me in my lifetime because I foolishly thought she needed me then. Reality check? The one thing I wanted and had been promised all my life was my mom's pearls. They weren't even an especially good set. but they were my birth gem and I was the only one who was married in them. They went to my sister who she hadn't talked to in years, who only has two sons, neither married, one in prison. It was such an established fact that my dad had already given them to me before the will was even read. It was unbelievably painful to give them back. Got her last slap at me from the grave.

A highlight for me was when my mother suggested that if I didn't like the way they treated me, I should kill myself. I still wonder if I was really her child. However, karen, we both know we did the right thing by our mothers at the end. Since my sisters were even worse than my mother I was free after her death. And, because I took care of her (and was virtually disinherited for it) I can hold my head up, knowing I behaved sanely and unselfishly. And I never have to deal with any of them again. My only regret is the time I wasted trying to get along with them.

Remember, it was her loss. And, at least, neither of us got shot for being "mouthy."

Let us count our blessings.

hugs, katie

Oh Ladies, I'm so sad for you and so thankful for my dear Mother.

OK all that is behind me now. I have children, grand children and great grand children that I love beyond words and know with everything in me that they love me just as much. Life is good.

This is my youngest son Steve and his granddaughter Nevaeh. He and his ex who are now good friends took their granddaughter to Disney World. Here she is going to have dinner with Cinderella.

What a sweet memory for her. I'm glad to hear that her Mom and Dad get along. Makes it much easier for her...