SWEET INTERUPTIONS 273

good morning cody

Welcome back Jaye, we all missed you! I could have joined the group of ex's many years ago, but I stuck it out, sometimes I still wonder what was wrong with my head. I thought I could change him, what a laugh. Nope, not a romantic bone in his body either. Right now he is having a rough time accepting the fact that he can't do the things he used to do. Wanted me to fix him an ice cream cone while he laid in bed watching football. Then stubborn him refused to eat it so I had a really good ice cream cone. Not going to be a good week, he has an oncologist appointment today and a chemo treatment tomorrow. I hate fixing a meal and he will eat only a very small portion. Lots of leftovers in the fridge.

Pegi, I can so relate to what is happening but it goes with the process. Sending hugs.

If I were perfectly honest, Ross wasn't very good saying he loved me but for some reason I never doubted. I also was aware that his family was like that. After many years my families huggy love you attitude took over. My DIL's family is like that also. However I always tell the GDs I love them so now it comes easy for them to say to me and Kim.

Recovering from the family reunion......talk about being tired! Planto return home Wednesday.

Hubby and I both came from un demonstrative families,we made it a point to say "I love you often" as it was important to us. Now even the adult grands kiss both me and hubby every time they see us and say I love you. The greats just take it for granted they will get hugs & kisses and "I love yous".

Hope your sinuses ease up LK.

Oh Pegi, what would Darwin do without you. Love your calm attitude. You're the kind that looks at the glass half full. Yeah, why waste a good ice cream cone.
When that worry streak decides to visit you during Darwin's treatments, remember us sistahs have been lifting up prayers for you both.

Marion, you're fortunate to have known a great love and Ross had given you that, right up to the very end. Those beautiful DGDs of yours are so lucky to be taught the right loving actions. I do hope your DIL would one day take off that cold attitude. What's learnt can be unlearnt, I'm proof!

Karen, I had to drag those three words out of Kel. Now he'd say it before he leaves for work, and if he gave me a quick peck on the cheeks, I'd demand more loudly!!

Surprisingly, it was my paternal grandma that taught me to be demonstrative.
Mum was one, but she curbed all physical affections towards her kids as dad demanded that. So us kids never got any hugs nor kisses on cheeks. The sad thing is Quran mandated father shouldn't be touching their daughters.
Plus it didn't help during WW2, at the age of 13, when his dad was made a POW, he had to become a man. His mother couldn't find any jobs unless she want to cater to the Japanese soldiers :(
But from her constant hugs, and abashed cheek kisses, me and my siblings learnt affection. Dad couldn't even stop her, each time he tried, she'd say that she might die tomorrow. :D

I think all women have that deep intuition whether we're loved or not. But many seem to bury that, when face with signs that our DHs are only perfect in our imaginations and we clung on to hope.
I'm speaking from my own personal experience, married to ex for 25 years before I decided the rest of my life wasn't worth living in lies.

Good Evening Kathy!!!!Sorry i have been cleaning house.I just took a break and checked in.

i agree Jaye. There is an energy in a marriage when both partners know they love and would die for one another. Even with out words they feel it between the two . IT will show in their eyes and their tone of voice with each other, it shows in their actions toward one another. And people will pick up on it. The energy is all around them.
I don't have that energy with Tim. 10 yrs and i only got excuses .

Jaye, you are right...I was extremely luck finding some one like Ross. I think that is why I am so content and have no interest in dating. I do enjoy good eye candy but that is about it. I give thanks daily...he absolutely was not perfect but then I wasn't perfect either.

Sue and Cody, my heart goes out to both of you and sending wishes it all works out for the both of you. Life is definitely to short to continue to be miserable.

I am still so tired from yesterday.

None of us here can walk in your shoes Sue. We can only offer advice.

Who am I to say you should or shouldn't end your marriage.
My ex was an alcoholic, and during those stupor years, I was subjected to physical abuse. Guess my father had trained me for that.. and unfortunately I stood by my ex.
My close friends tried telling me that I shouldn't accept that treatment.
Only until I started working did I slowly learn to value myself. Then ex had turned to God and dropped the bottle. Still I can't rekindle what made me happy around him.
That lightbulb moment came when he was indifferent towards my mother's death.

Hopefully you and Tim can maintain a cordial relationship. Ex and I make better friends than spouses.

Marion, I saw that reunion picture on FB. You looked tired in there!! Rest well lady before you make the trip home.

Football is on. Cam Newton against Tom Brady. Not a fan of neither of them. I'll just read the highlights tomorrow or watch it on ESPN after the game.
Have a good nite everyone.

Thanks Marion!!! I don't see him stopping for the next 10 years.He has been trying to take me back to court since Feb.of this year.My lawyer is not to worried about it.My ex is one lie after another.I was married to the man for 8 years and i don't even know the man,because he lies so much.The court will not take alex away from me,because i am a good mother and put my baby,before any man.

So he has to lie about things to keep taking me to court,becaus he is a sorry piece of crap.

The last few times he took me to court,they just up the child support.So if they keep upping the child support,maybe he will get the picture.He hasnt stopped yet though.

So Sue,if you think your husband will go after you for the kids,then it may be best to stay with him.Just keep doing stuff on your own.Either way you will have to deal with him until the kids are 18.Only you know the right thing to do.

how can you NOT be a fan of TOM BRADY?

I can't be a fan of Tom, that would be a big disrespect to Drew and Peyton!! Got it sis!

Cody. the more that man protests, the richer Alex will be!

Good morning sistahs.
Hope everyone has a nice day and not experiencing any adverse weather conditions.

Looks pretty good outside today. Cold but no snow at the moment, sun is shining. Lake not frozen yet but looking like it won't be long. Back to the sewing machine.

Hi - Ive been mostly lurking here for a while and have a comment on the divorce issue. I was married once. I now refer to it as an immunization. While I've had a zero tolerance for pysical abuse in relationships, I have taken endless verbal abuse in the form of criticism. The "I'm trying to hlep ou be a better person" kind mostly. About six months ago I realized that many of my friends over the years have had one thing in common - they never admit a mistake.

Here is Mexico I have a frien named Tony. Tony is married with children and, now a grandchild. He has worked for me off and on over the fourteen years that I've known him and his now committed to work for me until I pass on and he can take over owership of my property wich is alredy in his name.

Tony and I have never had a fight. Any disagreements have been so mild they are gone in a minute. Want to know the secret? When something goes wrong we both say "My fault." Each of us looks at our own responsiblility and then we move on to what needs to be done to fix the situation.

When I realized the "I'm always right; you're always wrong" atitude and it's history in my life I looked over my current friendships. Let go of one; told another to knock it off. The big gift of this is that the second person apparently "got it" and our friendship is vastly improved. Also, I suspect it helped him change something that wasn't working for him.

That, in a large nutshell, is my advice and experience in happy realtionships. Be willing to say "I was wrong." But remember this only works if the other person is also willing to say it and you both mean it.

hugs, katie

I am wearing shorts today, in the low 80s with a 50% chance of rain. Actually nice outside with a gentle breeze. Kim says it is cooler at home so I will find out when I return tomorrow.

Jaye, that was a horrible picture and yes it was exhausting. The tall blonde to my right with her mouth open is my sister. We both have been resting yesterday and today. Tonight we are attending the retirement party for our Aunt ......then it will be return home to prepare for Thanksgiving.

I wish I had been home today as it is Kim's birthday but she wanted me to be here for Aunt Helen's party.......she has worked for this place for 43 years and the owner is attending tonight. Yikes, I have to wear my shoes....painful!

Will chat more later.

Jaye,that is true!!

It is cool here and it is very windy.This weather is all out of wack.The weather needs to find out if it wants to be cold or hot.

Katie thank you for sharing, and that's a great advice. Never be afraid to admit you're wrong.
Pride is just a stumbling block to personal growth and relationship.
Glad to read that Tony has shown you to trust again and that he's capable of continuing your dreams.
Chime in anytime.

Hey Marion! Susan looked like she's 'painfully' happy! 43 years working in one place sounds like your Aunt Helen's second marriage! If you didn't show up, Kim knows you'll regret it.
So enjoy it and don't think of the shoes.

Weather is known to be unpredictable, but 80 yesterday, here? Well Cody, at least we haven't drug out the heavier warm clothes yet.
For that I'm thankful.

Karen, our Lake Tabor never froze. Longest we have snow is for 4 days.. not heavy nor long enough. I'm sure if the lake ever froze, there'll be some locals that will try ice fishing.

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pretty warm here riht now. i'm fixin to go visit sara in a few minutes

Enjoy your visit Sis.

Nice and vool 71 here in Austin. First place to visit is an Asian place to fi d Todd some kimchee. Then quilt shops....

Woohoooo!!!! Great job LK for putting Todd's kimchee first over fabrics!! Or is it the smart way to go, you know he'd reward you with an unlimited budget for fabrics.

LOL Jaye, I wonder how many in the south would even know what ice fishing is if not for "Grumpy Old Men" I know friends of my sis in NC didn't believe her that we drove our cars on the ice to go fishing, until she showed them pictures. We even have an event for that called Tip- Up Town Ice Fishing Festival. I've gone many years ago, we even fished for smelt through the ice. Smelt are very small fish usually netted in the spring runs but can be caught through the ice. They are very mild in flavor and are eaten floured and fried bones and all.

I like smelt too Karen! And I have driven all over Lake Champlain that separates Vermont and upstate New York. We used to have drag races on the ice too!!! Here in NH they still do drive on it. But I've become a chicken. Our lakes are always covered with "bob houses" for ice fishing too!!! I never gave a thought to anyone not believing us driving on the ice but I guess it makes sense.

Our main area is Houghton Lake, it's where the "tip- up town" is. A tip-up is a rig for ice fishing, I suppose you could Google it. Any how it's set on the ice and has a baited line attached. When a fish bites, it trips it so a flag tips up and you can see from shore if you have a catch. Or you can set several of them and watch them while keeping warm in your shanty. I think our "shanties are what you call "bob houses" Barb.

My step- granddad went ice fishing every winter into his eighties. We still have his sled and all his gear, just can't bear to get rid of it.

My mom's directions for ice fishing....Cut a hole in the ice, sprinkle a can of peas on the water, when the fish comes up to take a pea, kick it in the ice hole.

I learnt of ice fishing in sunny tropical Singapore. Ex had a good friend in Wisconsin, and after a few beers he'd reminisce of the 'male bonding' time around a hole on a frozen lake?!!
I cannot imagine that until "Grumpy old men". I love that show Karen.

When that opportunity arrives when I can experience ice fishing, guess I can brag that I can walk of water!! :D

Never had smelt, but did watched a food show where some Danes were eating battered fried smelts whole, bones and all. I think I'll like them.

Thanks for sharing Karen and Barb.

Loved your "directions" Karen!!! LOL

no Tim won't ask for custody. He can't cook LOL . he doesn't even know how to work an oven, or a stove top, nor work a washing machine LOL .
i hope it can be civil at best.
34 here today. brrrrr. windy too .
ice fishing or any fishing is not my cup of tea. to cold :) was invited to a Bengals game Dec 8 but i think i will have to pass. ... to cold brrrrr. not to mention bathroom issues LOL .
Fish eat peas ?
mmm mmmm love kimchee !
i want to be at Marions house ! 80 degree's *.sigh*
Katie your friend sounds wonderful. glad he is in your life . Yes i agree , being able to admit fault and make nice is good for relationships .
I applied to walmart for a seasonal job.... apparently no one thinks i would make a good greeter at the door. ?? I was told by several friends that i don't have people skills ??? imagine !

LOL I don't know if fish eat peas, they might, but actually it's a joke my Mom loved.

Love smelt! Yes this Florida gal has been smelting on Lake Erie, helped prepare (cut heads off with very small scissors)the next day for a fish fry...Canadian style.

Heading home in the morning.

Lol Sue!!! That goes to show Tim doesn't know what he has until its all gone...

I got my baby back yesterday.YAY!!!! He has been glued to his mama since he came home to me...

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Morning everyone.
Glad to hear your baby is back home Cody.
Marion have a safe trip home.

Just wanted to show you the beautiful angel nativity I bought yesterday at hobby lobby. It is about 2 foot tall. 50% off.

Good Morning Linda Kay!!! Thanks!!! me too..
Cool deal!!!Love your Angel!!!

Oh LK...that's wonderful!

Safe travel, Marion...

Sue...you know where to find me, girl!

Sometimes, you don't know what you're going to lose until you almost DO! I'm always the first to say I love you, but I always get it back when I do!

love the angel,lk

Good morning sistahs!!
Life is back to normal for Cody.
What a lucky find, LK! I can't wait for Hobby Lobby to finish its construction @ Myrtle Beach.
All this talk of smelt, guess you can only find them in icy cold waters. No such fish around here.

Plans have been changed.
Thanksgiving will be at Ryan's. Me, read that.. me.. I told Kel to ask MIL whether she'd like to eat out for Thanksgiving.
Yeah, I'm sure I had short circuited some brain cells when I did that.
Anyway, surprisingly, she agreed and asked for Ryan's, as she hasn't been in one for 10 years. Then she made a request to go to KMart after that, to which, I'm surprise that Kel declined. He's on duty that night.

Since I had thawed out a small turkey, marinade it and that's what we'll be having all day, early turkey!!
Could have waited for New Year, but the turkey's been thawed and I don't think I'll refreeze it.

Carole, how is your DH doing? Is he improving with the last doctor's visit?

Pegi, is your brother tolerating his treatments?

Prayer night tonight. Kel is home and he'll be joining us.

ETA: Cookie, you are right gal! I demand the words back from Kel.

waving at sis Kathy.




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Jaye, my brother hasn't started treatments yet. My SIL had posted on facebook that they changed his doctor appointment until this Thursday. Don't know if she meant a check up or a chemo treatment. Will have to call her today. DH went for his treatment yesterday, so far so good. Was dissapointed that his PSA went up to 19 again. According to my calculations every time he has a treatment it should be going down. He is having more aches & pains, something he is blaming on the change of weather

Ah, Sue another hubby who can't do a thing for himself. If something happened to me he couldn't survive because he knows nothing about cooking, laundry and everything else either.

LK, I love that nativity set. I have a pecious moments mini nativity set that I've had for years. I hated putting it away after the holidays, but I now have a curio cabinet that I can display all my PM. I surely would have wanted the one you bought. I'm waiting for a Hobby Lobby store to be in my area, wonder if that will ever happen. Don't know how many are in California, but the one I know of is almost 2 hours away.

Jaye,yes it is.My heart is full again now that my angel is home.When he is not with me,my heart fills empty.So now its FULL,FULL,FULL!!!





The Hobby Lobby close to me is a hour away.They have all kinds of beautiful things their.

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Jaye. Bless you for reaching out to MIL for thanksgiving. What is Ryans?