Best/Worse/What did I learn today? Chat with friends

Thought I would move us over to a new thread this morning..

http://davesgarden.com/community/forums/t/1277641/

Another sleepless night! Listened to thunder about 5am and thought we would soon get the rain but I believe it has passed us by..thankful that I watered most of yesterday.

Big day for parents and children today..will have to be on the lookout for children who may be too excited to watch for vehicles.

Good morning!!
Cant believe it Im first in room...got my coffee too, Wink.

Waving Judy, coffee in hand as well!

How was your long weekend...was the cabin still rented?
What is the update on the sale of Huber property?

Omg looking at tv, deer got into someone's back yard and into the pool, had to build a ramp to get it out..guess someone will need a new pool liner..

Time to head out

Morning everyone! I have my bags packed, and will be heading back home soon. It takes about 3 hours, so I should be gome by 11:00 or so!

Drive safely..got to watch other..bad crash at the corner here, road closed, think it involves 4 vehicles..lots on roadside crying...not good!
Bet you've a tear in your eye having to leave those precious grandchildren

Mornin'. I also have my coffee in hand albeit a little later than some of you. Got to have my coffee to function.

Mary, yes you were south of me on your trip. Should have given a shout out.....or I should have been paying better attention to comings and goings.

Enjoyed a relatively quiet weekend. Now I must get myself back into the grind of cleaning some more. I think every time we go in and out we bring the yard in with us.......I have tons of leaves everywhere.

Good morning,

We have thunderstorms this morning also and a light rain. I am dragging a bit....no coffee yet but the "beep" just sounded it is ready!

Linda, travel safely.

Waving good morning to everyone.....I "think" I get to stay home today.

Debbie

I'm here, too. Two cups of coffee and garden walk-through finished. Now it's time to tackle the house. Wanted to check the radar on computer to see if this overcast sky means some rain for us today. I have so much cleaning to do inside that it would be just fine with me if it rains!

Mary glad you made it back safe and sound.

Betty, did you make it to work? Wondering about the accident.

Diane has it just right about the kittens. All four seem to be doing well now. Little one was running and playing last night. Think they'll all make it now. As to her name, we have always called her funny face, cause...well, she has a funny face! But the grandgirls have decided she can be "Skeeter". The black and white boy was always "Little Man", but the GGs are now calling him "Toby". The little boy that looks like a blue ragdoll is called "RJ" because he looks like our Riley so "Riley Jr." and the white little girl is still "Snowball". Now remember that I didn't want names for ANY of these kittens! Doesn't matter, I still am attached rather they had names or not. FF climbed Bill's chair to fall asleep on his lap...oh oh..... hope he remembers that we're not keeping ANY of these little ones!

I hear this "we're not keeping ANY of these little ones!" Ross and I captured 2 strays at the garden clubhouse in Gainesville. After the settled down, were checked by vet and doing well, we decided to run an ad for adoption. WRONG!!!! No one that came to look at them passed Ross' inspection. They now live with my sister.....only because when he passed, the 3 older cats started terrorizing the younger one to the point of injuring them. My Mom and sister came to their rescue thankfully.

Yes, Joyce..Breakfast Television was warning everyone to stay clear of the area so did!
Now you know those kitties won't be going anywhere..you and Bill are becoming way too attached to them..could see that when I visited!

Won't be long and LindaKay will be home....

Debbie the storm that passed me by must of headed your way, please send it back when you are finished with it! It will do you good to be home today catching up on your rest..you are one busy lady.

Marion, I imagine with all that rain it would be mud city..sounds as though you have a large property to maintain. Hope you have help getting it in shape..how far from you does your son live?

I've noticed a difference in the need to wash the floors since Sailor is no longer with me, her in and out and bringing in the outdoors had me washing floors every morning before leaving for work..

few leaves have fallen here, not enough to try that new machine I bought to suck them up..want to try it because if it doesn't do what i want it to do, back it goes.

Marion, Marion...now I know why your sister has soooo many cats lol
I thought it was of her doing

No it isn't mud city but is a little on the soggy side. The leaves stick to our feet and mats just aren't doing the trick lately. Humm, maybe time to replace them, who knows. I have about an acre with this lot...mostly trees so more than my share of leaves. Just mow them and let them go back in the ground as nutrients. My son lives 6 miles from me but he has 2+ acres in his yard so no help there. He likes cutting the area fenced in with my mulching mower thus we share.

Wait a minute....we only contributed 3 to the mix. That was to keep them from going to the Humane Society...besides Mom wanted the kittens from the start. The rest she did on her own!!! LOL

I bought the self propelled mower a few weeks ago and on Sunday when cutting I thought much along your lines..wouldn't it be less work to keep the bag on and cut, what doesn't get bagged stays on the ground??

You just don't know what route you should take to make things easier..that is a lot of property..I've 1 1/2 lot in town, but bushland in the back of me and on each side it's tree'd so lots of clean up..to make matters worse I've planted 4 more, you would think I'd learn.

Have a problem with a friend..
Not sure what it is, I ask repeatedly if there is a problem and get 'no, just busy helping a friend'
Cathy spends as much time in my house as I do in a week (or did) always pleasant when she sees me but there is JUST something I can't put a finger on..always invite her to join me on my outings because she doesn't drive..she always looks after the furries when I'm away and I make sure refrigerator is full, leave money and always purchase special things for her so doubt it's that.

The Saturday when I knew I was taking Sailor in I called her place (she lives with her mom and dad) and she was out. Her mom came and said goodbye to Sailor..haven't heard from her since..would imagine her mom/dad told her about Sailor..she always walked her, dropped treats off to her..sat with her during the day so it's just very odd.

BUT, I've mixed feelings about this..I've attempted numerous times to contact her, try and get her to do things with no response, feel as though I should leave things as they are rather than keep calling. You know true friendship is hard to find and when you find one you should thank the Lord for it and NOT put it on back burner.. makes me sad!!

Betty, a problem in deed. Hard to say what to do in that situation...could she be upset about Sailor and just can't respond right now?

If I bag my leaves after cutting them up, I then use them for mulch in the beds. They degrade much quicker when chopped and doesn't add to the landfill problem. I also use my old newspapers wet down really good for layers to control weeds plus my shredded papers. Nothing glossy or really brightly colored because of the inks.

Marion, this has been all summer..the girls will tell you, nothing like coming home and finding her resting..dropping in the chat, barely 2 days would go by and I'd hear from her..only thing I can think of is it was always she and I, then Ann's Mike died and I try to include her, Darlene's Mike died and I include her and maybe she's only good one on one..I'm thinking that could be it..if that is the case then 'oh well' you can be a friend to more than one..Ann and Darlene wondered if that could be the case.

One day going to Markham Craft show she was gung ho then I invited Melanie DIL and Cathy called that morning to say she was unable to go..hard regardless what reason

Was thinking of adding and changing design of a few of my gardens and someone told me come fall to place newspaper pring in the area I want to enlarge and by spring everything under will be soil..might try an area

Leaves are pretty though when they are changing color..lot of oooh's ahhh's then comes raking..yikes not good

Betty, the death of Darlene & Ann's hubbies...could have put her parents health in her mind and that concerns her. And also...like you said, she wants one on one with you. You know me and how nervous I get meeting new people and get overwhelmed with the "crowd"...perhaps that is the same with Cathy and she doesn't know how to say it. It can be very scary. Five years ago...I never would have done what I did this summer with you and the ladies.

Thanks Debbie, but she is very outgoing and always in the company of groups..but maybe she just likes one on one on our travels..it really saddens me because I think you know how I always make sure she's included in a lot of my outings because I know she doesn't drive. Just called, no answer..of course it's mahen at her house, if Rita (mom) doesn't answer the phone then her dad won't and if Cathy is there she waits for them to answer..omg

Will try tonight

Well I certainly am glad you decided to come to the Sistah's gathering...you sure did not show you were nervous, of course all those gals just loved you..

BJ said to let you all know she hasn't forgottenus..she had health issues and wa unable to get her teeth out until recently..won't be long before her cruise and she can only hope the difficulties with bottom plate is behind her...

Maybe Cathy does prefer one on one time with any friends. She could have other friends and also need one on one time with them too?!

I guess! I'm a 'the more the merrier' kind of person, guess that wouldn't enter my mind..maybe it should

busy day at the office..I'm taking seed out of hollyhock pods..my hand should shake on Thursdays when I get paid!!!

Betty, did you include Cathy in any of your plans for the Gathering? If not, she may be a bit hurt..... Just a thought.

No I did Barb and I was so surprised that she didn't join in. In fact when I bought the dance tickets I bought her one..called her and asked if she wanted to go to Henry's and she said she had plans. I know that she does house cleaning and lost a few clients so no a lot of money, but I always say it's my treat for looking after the furries because she won't take $$$.

Maybe it is time for a heart to heart with her. If it were me, I'd go to her and tell her that you really need to talk and that you aren't going home until you do. Then I would tell her how upset you are because it's like she has turned away from you and that YOU are the hurting party and don't know why or what you may have done to make this happen. At this point Betty, I don't think there is anything to lose. She is obviously upset about something and maybe if she sees how she may be hurting you, she will talk to you. Your friendship with her has always been such a special one I'd hate to see anything happen to it over some little misunderstanding....
By the way, I meant to tell you, she has sent me a few notes since we were there as well as a card at Chrismas. I just sent a note off to her as well but that was before I read this. I sure hope you two can straighten this out. Hugs, Barb

Just called again Barb and spoke with her dad..he says she off to Midland almost every day..comes home later in the evening..I said 'maybe she has a boyfriend' and her dad said 'let me let go of the telephone so I can clap' lol

Just maybe she does and doesn't want to say something...but I will indeed this week make a point in getting her aside..maybe I'll call and say I'm taking her for Chinese which we always did on Friday nights and then it's one on one to talk to.

It doesn't surprise me about the cards, you'll not find a more thoughtful person than she, always willing to help where she can and that's why I find this soooo strange. And yet, the night I came home from NewOrleans she stayed about 1 1/2 and gabbed like a good one then haven't heard from her since.

Just makes my tummy churn..I would hate to think unknowingly I hurt a friends feelings..to me, it's the worse thing one can do..my friends mean the world to me, once a friend always a friend..am I rambling on terribly..you can tell I'm upset right..

Yuk, hands feel grimmy after shelling all those hollyhocks, best I go wash them and eat lunch before lunch..was up at 3:00 and couldn't sleep so got up, did chores and made a lunch..usually costs me $20 for my day - coffee/treats and Tim Hortons then lunch somewhere so today I can go buy something with my $20 lol

Betty, maybe Cathy has finally gone out and gotten a boyfriend...or group of friends her age...and is getting her "own" life instead of caring for Mom and Dad so much and many others. Maybe she is putting Cathy first and enjoying it.

That would be nice..do you know Debbie I always think of her as a kid but she is 52
not sure why I do, guess because she lives at home, unmarried, rides a bike etc. I would be thrilled if she did find someone special..

She is my age! Can tell you "finding yourself" after so many years....is a good thing. It is a hard thing, and must maybe this is all positive for Cathy.
But a hug and "I sure miss you" and Chinese just might do the trick.

Going to take your advice..reminds me, haven't spokento my girlfriend Dianne in a month..I was away, she's been away, time to touch base

tks..input always appreciated!

I remember when we flew the coup, was the first time in ions wasn't it that you have been away on your own

Betty, I had NEVER been away on my own since I was 19 years old when I married my ex. And after the kids, I could never leave them due to trust in child care. Then remarried to DH and Shannon was so so sick from birth. Never been off with a friend...you were the first.

Betty, it may also be as simple as Cathy didn't get to say good bye to Sailor....maybe she feels you should have waited for her to be there? You said she always cared for them when you were away....perhaps here feelings are hurt and she is embarrassed that she got angry......

Thank you all, it's always nice to get the opinion of those you respect. Never want to do something I'd regret! You are all a good sounding board.

You were a brave girld Debbie taking off with me..

Any word from Dianne, is she ok?

Isn't it wonderful, Betty, that such knowing and caring friends are here as a sounding board?

Is indeed!

Light rain, more of a drizzle, weatherman didn't fib after all..
Drats...t.v. bingo tonight

I haven't heard from Dianne since you all did here last week when she posted on thread.

Twyla (DG friend) once posted this..came across it and thought it as worth sharring...

John is the kind of guy you love to hate. He is always in a good mood and always has something positive to say. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, 'If I were any better, I would be twins!'

He was a natural motivator.

If an employee was having a bad day, John was there telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation.

Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up and asked him, 'I don't get it!


You can't be a positive person all of the time. How do you do it?'

He replied, 'Each morning I wake up and say to myself, you have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good mood or ... you can choose to be in a bad mood

I choose to be in a good mood.'

Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or...I can choose to learn from it. I choose to learn from it.

Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or... I can point out the positive side of life. I choose the positive side of life.

'Yeah, right, it's not that easy,' I protested.

'Yes, it is,' he said. 'Life is all about choices. When you cut away all the junk, every situation is a choice. You choose how you react to situations. You choose how people affect your mood.

You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood. The bottom line: It's your choice how you live your life.'

I reflected on what he said. Soon hereafter, I left the Tower Industry to start my own business. We lost touch, but I often thought about him when I made a choice about life instead of reacting to it.

Several years later, I heard that he was involved in a serious accident, falling some 60 feet from a communications tower.

After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care, he was released from the hospital with rods placed in his back.

I saw him about six months after the accident.

When I asked him how he was, he replied, 'If I were any better, I'd be twins...Wanna see my scars?'

I declined to see his wounds, but I did ask him what had gone through his mind as the accident took place.

'The first thing that went through my mind was the well-being of my soon-to-be born daughter,' he replied. 'Then, as I lay on the ground, I remembered that I had two choices: I could choose to live or...I could choose to die. I chose to live.'

'Weren't you scared? Did you lose consciousness?' I asked

He continued, '..the paramedics were great.

They kept telling me I was going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into the ER and I saw the expressions on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared. In their eyes, I read 'he's a dead man'. I knew I needed to take action.'

'What did you do?' I asked.
'Well, there was a big burly nurse shouting questions at me,' said John. 'She asked if I was allergic to anything 'Yes, I replied.' The doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply. I took a deep breath and yelled, 'Gravity'.'

Over their laughter, I told them, 'I am choosing to live. Operate on me as if I am alive, not dead.'

He lived, thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of his amazing attitude... I learned from him that every day we have the choice to live fully.

Attitude, after all, is everything.

Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.' Matthew 6:34.

After all today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday.

So true, so true, so true!!!!

I haven't seen a post from Twyla in long time. Hope she is okay. I keep her in my prayer circle.....

Afternoon everyone, I am home, got here at 11:05. Why is it that the last half hour takes the longest when your going home? I am going to take a short nap, then find something for dinner!

Betty, sure hope you can talk to Cathy, and find out what is going on!

Talk about heavy rainfall, glad I'm home..
Picked up fresh corn, easy supper.

Got 2 sets of bingo cards for tonight now Darlene thinks Ann has gone to the city..oh well, if she has I'll play them all.

Betty, I had some fresh corn this week end, and it was cooked in the microwave. Clean the ears of corn, wash it, then wrap each ear in a wet paper towel, and cook in microwave for 2&1/2 minutes. It was so easy, and so good!

Corn was delicious..

did you nap LindaKay?

Ann did not come over for bingo..I was sewing, looked at the clock and the 1st game was already started..managed to play catch up..

Sewing was going great hated to stop.

I started playing tv bingo to give Ann a night out, had I remembered she was in the city I'd not have purchased cards tonight.

Typing as I'm playing, doesn't that tell you what kind of cards I have. Lol