Yes, that does sound nice, Dave!
Good for you, LH, on your guy! I like to hear that.
Karen
Question about men?????
We got married young... but we have two beautiful daughters and now a grandson.... so, little complaining from me... I'm sure he has his negative (but funny) comments about me... We wouldn't be normal if we ageed on everything 100% of the time... Life is good!
You're right, no one ever agrees 100% on everything. That would be just too freaky weird!
Karen
I will admit there was a while when I didn't think our marriage would last, we went through some tough times, but it's better now than I think it would have been without the tough times. We learned a lot about each other and the relationship grew.
Dave you reminded me of the time I blindfolded my husband and took him to a hotel with a hot tub, water bed and mirrors on the ceiling. DH brought it up a few days ago even though it happened over 10 years ago. I think he was hinting for another trip.
That's great you were able to work things out, Deb. I regret that I never tried to work things out with my first ex. I went right from one relationship to the next, which is never a good thing. Then that marriage didn't last, either, though I did try really hard to work on things with him. I just knew it was never going to be any better than it was though. I never gave myself enough time to get to know him before getting married, and that was my big mistake there. I'm older and wiser now. I still hope to meet someone special to spend my days with, but it would have to be someone who either shares my dream of hybridizing daylilies and making a business out of it, or who wholeheartedly supports me in my efforts to do so.
Karen
I got divorced... then back together with my EX... been back together for 8 years or more... and I agree..... we wouldn't have been nearly as good without the rough, difficult times.
I definitely seem to be in the minority here with only one marriage. (Learned form the trauma.)
Victor - my kids would have gone with their dad too if we separated. They knew they'd get away with murder.
Hee hee - that was not the case here. These were thoroughly unfit moms.
I've only been married once, we've been married for 34 years now. We had lots of bumps in the road. Even split up for a month once. That month just showed us both that we really didn't want to be apart.
I don't remember if we did anything special on our 10th anniversary.
But I'm not hard to please. I've never been very big on jewelery, I prefer more practical gifts. I've never expected my DH to do anything more than to simply say 'Happy anniversary'. We've had some romantic weekend getaways over the years. Sometimes he brings me flowers and takes me out to dinner too. We've had years that we were too broke to do anything. So instead we just spent some time alone together. Some years I make him his favorite meal and set the table for a romantic candle lit dinner. I've sent flowers to him at work a time or two. After all, it's not just My anniversary.
He's never forgotten one. But I did one year. He just thought it was funny and teased me about for the next few months.
I think if you want to stay happily married it's important not to expect too much from each other when it comes to these things. It seems the less pressure I put on my husband about such things, the more he does. Because he wants to, not because I'm expecting it or because I'll be mad.
Joy
Joy, I loved your post. It was realistic. I've been married for more years than you and have high expectations. I asked my husband beforehand if we could just stay the way we were forever and have no children. Thirty eight years and three wonderfully quirky kids later...I'm still hard to please, hate big, but love classy, jewelry and enjoy getting flowers every Friday. Bumps come with the ride. In retrospect, I'd not change anything, but we would probably have had an interesting life without marriage. For that reason, I've encouraged my 23 y.o. daughter to defray engagement.
i should not have asked women with dirt under thier finger nails about the 10th. My wife knows what she wants and i will deliver - i could have a FORESTof japanses maples for what this is going to cost
Well share, what does she want???
Ouch! My wife never asks for anything, Neither do I.
jen it sparkles - a lot
Ick - we are so not into jewelry. We'll take a vacation over that any time!
Oh ok...well 10th anniversary is diamond jewelry
lck??
thought the same thing dave
Hubby used to do real well picking out my jewelry, I used to wear it all the time when I worked outside the home, mostly gold but now I wear mostly silver so he has a lot of catching up to do.
silver is cheaper
lots cheaper
but liquor is quicker
Any interesting piercings?
on who?
You?
None on me. I don't even have pierced ears.
Ever see the forked tongue thing? Nasty.
I've been to a lot of biker events...I've seen it ALL, and some things I didn't want to see.
10th anniversary was a long weekend trip out to San Francisco bay area, and wine region of Napa/Sonoma. We arrived to find the rental car was not available, and we were "forced" to take a red convertible Mustang for the duration. Dang...
A twisted arm later, we were ensconced in a B&B in San Rafael. Trips around the coast, up to Mount Tamalpais, out to Point Reyes, and a couple dozen vineyards - it primed the pump for a few years.
20th anniversary orbited around southern Italy, including Sicily, Campania, Calabria, Basilicata, and Puglia. We enjoyed history, culture, food, wine, landscape, plants, and a couple big volcanoes.
The "precious stones" anniversaries were 19th (dense graded aggregate, the base for the front walk - 2006) and the 22nd (native limestone slabs, deliberately placed as the front walk - 2009).
Despite Bill's attempts, Marianne's keeping me.
Now that's my kind of precious stone!
Wha, I just had to laugh when you said 'i should not have asked women with dirt under thier finger nails about the 10th'
My favorite gift would probably be a truck load of manure or some nice stone pathways like in ViburnumValley's pics.
LOL
Joy
Bill, I still love my jewelry and wouldn't trade it in, and I've seen your wife and she is worth it!!
We were in Mexico in a jewelry store, I was looking at opals set in silver, and picked out a set for 700 pesos which was about $70. I was ready to get them when DH came up to me and told me the prices were in American $'s not pesos. I would have paid with my credit card and not known until I got the bill... I didn't get them, I didn't like them that much.
Were they Mexican Fire opals?
I had one many years ago.
Jewelers I know say they are softer than Austrailian opals and are prone to scratches.
Nice, VV. I am hoping to see Italy in two years - will be our 20th. Loved Napa.
I'm totally not into jewelery either, Victor, ick indeed. I'd rather something practical for the $ (ex - spent tax refund on wrapping our trim with aluminum so we would never have to paint it, vinyl siding and wood trim, what dumbass thought of that?). A weekend at a B&B is most we've ever done. And he's MUCH better at remembering than I am. He wants the attention, and I'm like, oh another year, cool. :)
And I can attest that there *are* rotten women - my mother is one. I won't have anything to do with her, haven't for over 10 yrs?, and won't ever. She did a number on me and her sister. Her own father didn't want to be around her - he left early for my high school graduation because she would just get into him. I didn't blame him, and wished I could leave too. some people refuse to think they need help, or that they even did anything wrong. such a shame
Oh boy - sorry to hear that, Eve.
victor and evie - ick might be the sound of people who think all the $ spent trees/bushes/flowers in our yards as well - different strokes for different folks.
Thx deb - she is - although that rabbit will be short a carrot or two of what she really wants.
guess there will be no home made truffles for my VV :) That is a great walkway!!!
Of course people like whatever they like. I just never understood the jewelry thing.
i understand - cindy does look nice with some glitter and i especially like the thank you part after giving the jewlery :)
Yeah, different strokes for different folks. Never have been one for glitter or glitz, I prefer bulbs and dirt ;)