Men-
If your wife( or significant other) is sick do you help her out by doing the housework?
Or do you leave it all for her to do when she feels better?
Ladies-
Does your man help you out when you're sick???
Inquiring minds want to know.
Question about men?????
NO he doesn't help... just leaves it for when I'm better...............and, if by chance, he too gets sick.... He thinks he's MUCH sicker than anyone else!..lolol!!
I didn't think anyone's was like mine leigh. LOL
Mine will at least try to help. He'd better, since he's decided he doesn't want to work anymore.
Even when I'm healthy I will NOT lift a finger in here...he wants to be a house hubby by golly then he's gonna do it!!
LOl! Thats the way to do it!
unfortunately.... I think there are many more like ours out there Dragonfly. If I stay home and normally do all the house work.... I think helping out when I'm sick would be nice... would be... lolol! If I thought working 9-5 would keep me from doing any housework... I'd say, sign me up! lol!!
Well mine has the excuse of having a stroke 9yrs ago but we were married 30 yrs. the 5th of Oct and it has always been just little old me doing inside and outside. BEV
Leigh, sounds like we're married to the same guy.
Hee hee - poor guys! I do it all the time, of course, now that I am home full-time. Before, we would share it and I certainly would do it when she was sick. Looks like you ladies chose old school guys.
Mine helps out. Even when I'm sick. He likes to cook too!
Nah, housework can wait for later. ^_^ What's important is that she gets back on her feet as soon as possible. To facilitate that, I make sure I get her orange juice, Tylenol, a heating pad, an extra blanket, a bucket to use if she feels sick or whatever else she might need.
Are we talking about hosing out the big thing in the middle of the garden?
For those of us who wish our guys would help us out more - check this out -
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Your a good man Victorgardener....The man here isn't old enough to be "old" school really.... but his mother did everything at his house. My dad was 41 when he had a massive stroke then he became "house dad" and did everything around the house, inside and out (with one arm and one leg that functioned).... Don't they say that women usually look for men like their dads? Guess I missed part of that class... lol
We share and if I am sick - I don't think he would do more than what he usually does. Weekends, he will cook breakfast but that is the main meal he cooks --- he will purchase premade and bring it home for dinner if I am down for the count.
Whether I am sick or not - he jumps up after dinner to get dishes in the washer because he cannot stand for me to 'waste water' and I like to hand wash dishes. So it is a race to the sink with each of us gathering as much as we can to do it our preferred way. Also, I cannot change the sheets properly - so he does that. My changes look just like his so go figure. I pull sheets off and get in the washer but he wants me to leave the bed undone until he gets to it. He does all the outside stuff, grass, gutters, wash windows in and out, and he will dig a hole or rip out tough roots for me but that is it for the planting/weeding etc.
He does the grocery shopping 80% of the time because I won't run all over town to save a few pennies on the staples. I do all the cooking (he used to make a mean meatloaf but I haven't seen it in a while.)
I mop the floors but if a good hard wash is needed - he will do that with a spray bottle of hardwood cleaner and an old towel because I 'can't put enough elbow grease' into it to get it polished up. Basically, my inability to do some things 'just right' seems to be JUST RIGHT!! (for me) (grin)
All this is normal behavior for us - we both work full time. I don't think if I was sick he would really jump up to do 'extra' but I think he'd try to keep things quiet and running and if stuff built up to a tipping point - he'd jump in and do what is needed.
PS When HE he is sick. NO housework gets done by ANYONE because somebody (ME) has to stand there and make sure his chest goes up and down and his blood goes round and round. NOBODY gets sick like he gets sick. NOBODY is in such mortal danger from drowning in post nasal drip or having a stroke from a hard sneeze like he is. And if he has a fever......... the children have to be called to tell them that their dad may be on his way out. The day he had a kidney stone.......... oh man...........
Helps with work & does the cooking as I no longer have the energy for that.I plant the menus however.
missingrosie sounds like he does a lot as it is.
Too funny about when he gets sick.
When hubby and I were first married we both worked full time and stupid me told him all he had to do was the dishes, that is the one chore I absolutely HATE. It actually worked out fine and he would cook if I was going to be home too late. When I went part time 8 yrs ago I went back to doing the dishes and then when I became a stay at home mom I ended up doing it all, which I really didn't mind since I was home all day. But now that we own our own biz and I do all the billing, paperwork, legal stuff, etc etc....we never made a new deal because besides taking care of my 3 yr old I sometimes have to work 8 hrs straight on our business and this wasn't supposed to be the case. I wasn't going to go back to "work" until kids were in school. Guess we'll have to draw up a new contract....lol
This is Mrs. VV - John's got a hangnail.
Twenty-four years ago, John said "Teach me how to make coffee."
It was a Mr. Coffee, no less. To this day, that's what he does. Oh, and pair the wine with dinner.
My beloved mother-in-law never misses a chance to tell her daughters-in-law (nine of them) how all her sons were taught to cook, clean, and otherwise help around the house. None of us have seen a single sign of this. It's a good thing they are cute.
Hey Mrs VV.
Oh hubby can do coffee but makes it super strong.
I wish my fil would have taught my hubby a thing or two(he's always helping his wife out).
Don't say that - my FIL invented "old school".
"Dorth, are you ready to serve me?"
At 88, he's not changing. VV's mom is ready for beatification; she defines sainthood after him and nine boys.
Hi Mrs VV. Hope John at least takes care of the cool cat!
lately i've been doing everything here - cooking, cleaning, and dishes - i refuse to do her laundry though.
before it was the dishes, my own laundry, and vacuuming which i hate and do only bi-weekly - have always made my own coffee, breakfast, and lunches. on a full moon that falls on a sunday she might make me an omelet for breakfast if i beg.
Well - I think that we all settle into relationship routines and there are trades that go on on lots of levels. Happy is the couple where one hates housework and the other loves it - one loves to cook and the other to eat!! I agree Jen, sometimes you have to renogitiate because sometimes our partners can be oblivious unless we speak up.
Jen I LOVE LOVE to wash dishes ---good peaceful 'thinking' time - just like weeding... but I HATE laundry (don't mind the gathering and starting the washer ---but hate the fold and put-away and God Forbid that ironing...)
I have a friend who confided his misery (a few years ago). He did all the work in the house. He and wife worked full time and had two growing boys (now out of the house.) He felt unappreciated because he'd clean the sink and she would leave it full of apple peeings an hour later. He'd pick up the house and vacuum and she'd spread her stuff around... covered every surface with junk according to him..etc. etc. you get the idea. And, he loved cooking and so he'd do that too. He didn't like housework but loved a neat house (he is a physician and a very orderly one) she didn't like housework or cooking --just not domestic --- certainly didn't mind 'messy.' .... lots of conflict (she figured 'just leave it' 'don't do it' 'what's the big deal.' etc.)
I gave him a solution after seeing him miserable for a few weeks ---(he's a very smart guy but only about some things!!) and so for the last few years a lady comes in once week for 50 bucks (probably more now I guess) spends 4 hours and does the picking up, baths, and laundry and both Mr and Mrs are living happily ever after. He says best $$ he has spent - lots cheaper than divorce or counseling. So if things changed around here with the work division, I think I would look around at what luxuries could go (like cable TV and eating out is top on my list) and I would hire some help a few times/month to keep the peace. Once we retire - the finances will be allocated differently and then once again negotiations will have to begin. At that point, I wouldn't mind (maybe...) me doing the inside and him doing the outside and inside fix-ups. (ok..he still has to do the laundry.)
I don't mind helping out when needed.
Tom (in between GFs!)
Way to go, Tom!!! I always wanted to be between two.
Snort!!
Victor----- careful ---- the wrong two could kill you!
My DH does a lot of housework and not just when I am sick.
He does most of the laundry, mops the floor, makes the bed if he is the last one out of it, vacuums, does the dishes etc. He doesn't see dust though.
I went back in school in September and it really helps to have him around.
I usually clean the house each Saturday from top to bottom and he does the fill in maitanence during the week.
I do 99% of the cooking and all of the bathrooms!
Victor,
LOL! Never in a million years!
Now THIS is a funny thread!! Sounds like I'm pretty lucky here....Hank does whatever is needed, when I'm sick or well. I do the same for him. I think because we were both single parents awhile before we met, we both just comfortably fell into doing whatever. Generally, he cooks breakfast and I do lunch and supper. Once in awhile, he makes supper because he cooks fish and beef much better than I do. He does the heavy lifting part of gardening. We sort of divide things up according to what each of us prefers to do. I do laundry; he does garbage collection; we both do house cleaning when it is needed: I dust and do the bathrooms, he vacuums and will mop if asked. We just take a teamwork approach, which works for us. He did it all when I was working and he was not. BUT, like others have mentioned, when he is sick, OMG, you'd think it was terminal every time! What is it with guys that way? I bite my tongue a LOT! The worst was last spring when I had a mean neck spasm for a couple of weeks....I had to keep icing and heating it and I just did it without much fanfare. THEN....he got a neck spasm, just like the one I had been silently dealing with for weeks, and we had to go to the emergency room. LOL He was certain that it was something "serious"!! Turned out not....just a muscle spasm. LOL
Hee hee! Opposite here. My wife is the biggest baby when she is not feeling well. She acts like a school kid who is intent on staying home.
Well we rushed my husband to hospital as he was 'circling the drain.'
He made the nurses, interns, residents, attendings N U T S
the final diagnosis ---- gas --------
we didn't talk about it for a very long time and when we did ----he said that he was probably close to some kind of 'rupture.'
I work at that hospital.....
Similar incident here. Had to drive her to the ER and as we are walking from the car to the entrance she says, 'I feel better now. Let's go home.' Can't repeat what I said.
Both DH and I want to be left alone when sick, so we do just that. Leave the other alone to deal with it.
DH is the better cook and if I'm sewing all day or have to do something else, he cooks. He likes it .
I wouldn't say my DH is the better cook but he thinks he is. I'm a wonderful cook but he can't keep his mouth shut when I do (you shoulda done it this way or I woulda added that instead) so now I don't. I'm the only one that can bake so I make him beg ^_^
missingrosie - that's so funny! I can relate!
Awww, Victor! Shame on you! LOL
My guy has served me coffee (two cups) in bed for thirty eight years. It comes with a pre-nuptial promise that I will not engage in serious conversation for the coffee service period. I've usually been up for hours by coffee time. He buys lingerie too. Signs of aging are that he now shops at V.S. instead of Fredricks. lol He thanks me and kisses me before we eat every meal. Company loves to watch. He asks me every day what he can do to help. I'm very lucky. I admit to being less than grateful when my stockings go through the dryer (I still like silk), but he does everything with love. He is a creative and successful person who is enormously giving as well. Okay, don't let him know about this post...right?
***shoots a dirty look at my guy***
Yeah, I agree, Laurel.....don't tell Hank either! LOL
Funny, 3G!
Oh my gosh, missingrosie, that is TOO funny!
Louise that was my mistake married him right out of his mother's house. Who knew???
Laurel,
That's a smack upside the head for my guy "why can't you be more like him"
Randy was good when I twisted my ankle and was messed up for a few weeks... most dinners were either delivery or easy bake.. but he made me my breakfast and lunch and put a cooler upstairs so I did not have to go down to eat.. he more or less took care of everything while I was down