۞ Sweet Interruptions ۞124

Oh yes, that is so true I remember my grandma wering aprons.

Jaye one more thing, next time there is to be a family dinner. Tell them that it's at your house, Then fix them you kind of foods, lol. Bet they won't do that again.

Jaye, that is a wonderful story, and history lesson!

Good night Sistah's!

Have a great nights sleep, and I pray you all wake up happy, and refreshed for another day of God's work!

LK

Well, I'm going to watch Saving Grace and then Dancing with the Stars.......Night all, sweet dreams and don't let the beddy bugs bite,LOL ^_^

Nighty Night, LK.

Good idea, Cindy... Jaye, you should really do that.

Jaye... make me an apron... I have this new found urge to wear aprons now.

Night, Cindy...

Jaye,he was doing better today.He was outside playing.

I love the apron story.

I've already emailed to everyone! it's a great story. I've always loved loved aprons!

The thing I remember besides the apron, was grandma's sun bonnets.....sure wish they had kept a few of those for us kids......

Hope I can talk mom into letting me finish Dancing with the Stars.....we all had reruns of dinner at moms tonight, Sheaw and Lisa are coming over in a bit for theirs as he didn't get off work until eight.

So good night to most...I'll send Cody and Synda to bed when I get back!

Hey girls

gee ya all are chatty LOL

well I have 8 basket sets made just have to put them together but still have more to make since I am making about 30 of them LOL
but Bret got home today so until he goes out again I wont be doing them since the machine is in the back room.

But I need to vent
Now most of you have read me talking about he step son living here and such...well I asked DH to tell him he needed to clean his room and get the trash out and such yesterday which after asking that DH mumbled as I left the room but he did say something but nothing happened.
This morning I got up and was about to leave when I went in and said bye to DH and asked him about son as he had not gotten up and left yet which he is usually gone by 5:30ish..DH said he would make sure he got up ..I came home and asked DH if son went to work he said no he called in sick
well son left to go to store and Dh went to gas station and subway as I am only eating soft stuff wtih the teeth out for now ..anyway I opened the bedroom door and the smell of beer bout knocks ya over and the cans are over flowing in the trash not to mention all over next to the bed. he has been drinking since friday ..there are dirty dishes in there form the last few days and he has yet to fold and put away any clothes for some time now he washes them leaves then in the baskets along wtih the empty beer cases and boxes and other trash
he is suppose to be taking some classes so he can get the DWI in Illinois cleared up and get his drivers lis here but he has not gone for sometime as far as I know
I don't know if he has lost his job broke up wtih the girlfriend or what but at 32 yrs old it is high time he grows up and acts like an adult and that means DH is gonna have to step it up and put some force behind things
if he has no job then I'll be dif he is going to do this drinking and buying of the car my daughter had while here
this guy is one of the reasons we have the money issues now with getting credit fixed form the money we had to put out in Illinois when he didn't' have insurance on the car DH co signed for and had an accident and the insurance place came after Dh
I am not going to sit here and let this person screw us over or up again this is all we have left and we have to rebuild so to speak now to get and have what we have
if Shelly saw and knew this she would be ballistic
and I am about to head that way myself

I hear you Mama Trisha!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

oh yes the sun bonnets! and quilts with Sunbonnet Sue.

got jury duty in t he morning. hope i get on one for a change. they never pick me and I would love to be on one!

so off to bed for me.

hey bon me too but of course over here in Tyler
funny all the time I lived in Illinois I never got called for it and now here in Texas I am ..first time for everything uh lol

Phyllis, sounds like you need to be the "I am woman, hear me roar" I would put my foot down, and tell them, this is the way it is going to b e! At 32 years old, I would say it is time for him to get out on his own. IMHO!
Bon, I have been called to several jury duty's, and have never been picked either. Good luck.
Hey Cody, how you doing today? Hope your feeling a little better?
OK, paranormal program is over, and I am gone to bed.

Good night!

LK

Phyllis you have every right to feel the way you do. Your DH and you need a heart to heart, setting house rules that include the son taking responsiblity for the messy room. Sounds like he is in a severe depressive condition and needs help. I would approach it that way. The signs are there. Believe me, I know and have walked in your shoes.

Hi LK,i'm going alot better thanks to bonnie.

So sorry Phyllis, you're still getting the works from your step son. I'm in no spot to give any advice, having no kids myself.. but sure hope he grows up soon!

Cindy and BJ.. a few years back, thinking I'd be helping my MIL, I'd bring her home cooked meals .. every Tuesday for a couple of months. I stopped when I found that she had been throwing out my food to their dogs..
I have lived in pets, so to her that's unclean :D Then I felt better when I learnt that whatever food any church ladies brought her, the dogs would enjoy them too.

I'm off to bed.. y'all ladies are my sanity. See you in the morning! And yes... it will be apron sewing day tomorrow BJ and Cody!!

Good night Jaye,for her not to want to eat your food should be ashame of her self.She is the one who need to be prayed on.

ahh, Cody, ya just needed to hear you're not alone, and it's possible to come out the other side of the wall of fire you are walking in.

no, I'm not gone yet. someone else emailed me for advice. it y'all ever get tired of my jabber, tell me to stuff it.

Phylllllllliiiiiisss - you're living with an alchie. need some 12 steps going. and one of the programs for those having to live with one, too, or you will bust a gasket. alchies can cause those around them to have heart attacks and strokes at our ages! this is where the tough love comes in. you've already discovered the $$ problems they can cause. my prayers girl, for you and dh. stepson needs to pray his own prayers to make it work for him. my prayers are to give you both peace of heart and soul and the courage it takes to walk this street.

I wrote "the street" for Cody. I'll copy it here.

this is a story I learned that did me a ton of good. I do not remember the exact words, these are my words:

On Monday, I was walking along my way, on a lovely street, and I fell in a very deep pothole. I could see other people passing by, so I called for help, over and over, but no one came to help me. After many hours, I was hoarse, so I started trying to climb out. many, many times I slid back down. At nightfall, I finally made the top and climbed out, starving, bruised and covered with dirt.

On Tuesday, I was walking down this same street, and I fell into this same pothole! I could see other people and called out for help, but this time I didn't wait until I was hoarse. I started climbing out, slid back a few times, made the top, and went on my way, only a little hungry and a little dirty.

On Wednesday, I was walking down this same street and fell into this same pothole. I climbed out and this time did not slide back at all, with a little dirt on my shoes.

On Thursday, I walked down this same street and walked around the pothole.

On Friday, I took a different street.


this is from family crisis center training for women that are abused, emotionally or otherwise. 70% of all abuse victims end up right back in another abusive situation.

I decided to take a different street. that's where I met Randall!!!

oh I agree on it all girls he is old enough to know better and yes depression is in there but it is no ones fault but his own he doesn't have the things his high school friends do now

as for him getting help ..he is of age and I can't make him go and neither can his father
his mother tried that back in Illinois and it didnt work either along wtih out patient rehab

tried the house rules but he still thought he was sneaking it in the house ..but wasnt as ther are thigns he does when drinking that are the tel tale signs

Bonnie,one thing i have learn tonight talking to you is.I will always do whats right for my baby and teach him as we go.

good for you. and now I really am signing off. sweet dreams sweet ladies.

Good night Bonnie.Thanks

Good night everyone!!!May God bless you all and have a bless night,

Ok Trisha,go to bed.LOL!!!!!!!!I beat you to it.HEHEHE!!!!!!!!

Phyllis, we went through this with my nephew.......you can't make them get help but you Can Not Enable them to continue they way they are. Aaron had problems and my sis sent him here to live with his dad in his late teens/early twenties.....he was in a program off and on....his father made him get out on his own....he was in a halfway house......went off the wagon and my mother just couldn't put him on the street when he called her. He promised to stay clean and sober.....he didn't and it was killing my mom.....he disappeared for a bit over a week...we had just talked with he police about filing a missing persons report when he showed up..... had spent the week in a crack house up north. The shape he was in, and the state my mother was in I called our Pastor, who Aaron happens to like. This was on Wednesday.....Pastor Don talked to Aaron and Mom and told Aaron he go back to rehab, he could sleep on the street, he could try and get his dad to take him in but he would be out of my mothers house by five P.M. Friday.....and under no circumstances was my mother to let him come back here to stay. He went to his dad's that night...back to rehab the next day and has been straight for five years, bought a house and has his own business now. It is hard but they are of legal age and need to take responsibility for themselves....they won't ever do it as long as someone will take them in and give them a place to stay and enable them to continue to freeload...to sleep in, and keep being a slob...the only way they will seek help is to hit rock bottom and realize that the family is not going to take them in again.....it was the hardest thing we have ever had to do...but it was the best thing we ever did for Aaron.

It is something you have to do for Him and for Yourself....talk to your Pastor or your local Alanon Group.....they will help....I know if we could have done it without Pastor Don but I will be forever grateful for what he did for us, and for Aaron.

((((hugs)))) and good luck.....my prayers are with you.

Oh trish I know all to well how hard it is as I kinda did that with my youngest girl ...she wasn't into that stuff though but she kept going and coming ...moving out and back and last time she moved out she went to share a pace with a gay friend (male) and the people she kept going back to as friends threatened her and broke into his house and he came to me about it and I told him to take her to KY to a friends house that got her out of the area ...he did ...she stayed there for awhile then left there with some other people and is in Wisconsin and has been there since.

she got mad that we moved to Texas, that she didn't make it back to see us before we moved yet she had started up that way with her friend and never made it due to other circumstances she created so I haven't seen her in over 2 1/2 yrs. She does call from time to time when she has a question so I know she is alive and the line of work she is in I know she is fairly healthy. But she "burned bridges" with family and alot of friends so to speak in her choices.
I love her an always will but can't worry bout her choices and help her continue in her life style.

DH has a middle son that has done close to the same thing and by us moving away it also put him in a spot to stand on his own some what ..his mother has helped a lil but she is raising the 2 kids. he married a gal from rehab that had a lil girl by someone else and then they had a lil boy between them and while she was pg wtih him she stole 2 books fo checks from us and forged over a thous out of our account causing more issues for us on top of the already messed up credit due to the money put out on both of his boys..(.I've never taken a loan out to pay for anythign my children have done except to help my oldest for college unlike Dh that did before we got married)
this son wrote bad checks in the army and continued his pot and drinking after out ..he lived in dh's house after we got married and we ended up paying for 2 homes until we sold it then he lived with us several times until i put my foot down and he went into rehab. after rehab he did not come back to our home and hadn't ever since

he is now taking care of business to get his legal stuff taken care of as he realized as long as he stayed wtih this gal and not taken care of his business he will never be able to keep any other child born to him and he is 34.

as for a pastor don't go anyplace ....had a very very bad experience ith the last Church I went to with my X and never gone since ...do my talking to the lord myself and he would not go to a church anyway
He was going to a guy down here and paying him to do a eval for Illinois and was doing the classes wtih him but don't think he has been to him since Christmas an I can only ask so many times before dh gets ticked at me for it.

I do knwo today if I do not get picked for jury I am going to come home and clean the room clothes and all and get it cleaned up then DH is going to sit down and talk with me and then him when he gets home as he is in the shower right now so that means he is going to work which is good but this crap stops ...if he is going to buy Shelly's car then the drinking stops and if it means we check his stuff when he comes home for beer and such then that is what we will do and if DH is going to get pissed at me and argue then *sigh* I will just have to put it plain and simple again ...this is all we have left and I will not go through his any longer if he can't step up and do his job then we have nothing left at all

ok got to go get ready
just so depressing but at least I have you wonderful gals to talk to to keep me sane

Morning ladies!
Dark roast "Community" coffee.. mmm.. the best! Pancakes this morning, help yourself to pineapple or blueberry toppings. Maple syrup waiting on you, and some of that real butter!

Phyllis, I had written that I can't offer advice as I have no kids, and I completely forgotten about my ex' great nephews that we raised for a few years. Duuuuhhh.. see serious case of CRS.
One of them was rebellious, in denial that we are the only one willing to take them in. I shan't go into the lengthy history but the gist was, we warned him "3 strikes you're out". I cried when ex imposed that law.
He's in his 30's now, succesful career, married to a great wife who made him see that if ex didn't throw him out, he would had never assume responsibility for his own life and be where he's at now.

Trisha, you all did the right thing. Professional or spiritual intervention is the way to go when family is at wits' ends.

Well, Kel gave me the morning off.. I like this guilt payment! Will be out there since the weather's perfect for playing.

Phyllis... I do remember you going through this before. And it looks like you didn't get anywhere with the step son, or your hubby. And I just can't believe that your hubby will allow this to go on knowing how it makes you feel. So, it sounds like that you need to retrain the hubby to take action... and the best way I know to do that is to make it a problem that makes him uncomfortable enough to take action with the step son.
Consider this: Don't actually clean step son's room... just open the bedroom door, and throw all the beer cans, cases, liquor bottles, and other alcoholic beverage debris in the hallway outside the door. Then, pile all the dirty clothes in the hallway next to that. Then set the garbage cans in the hallway next to all the rest. Close the bedroom door, and leave. Actually get in the car and drive away... come see me if you want. Don't say a word... you have a cell phone if hubby wants to reach you.
I'll bet, it will all be cleaned up when you get back home... and dear hubby will HAVE to take action then... or it will happen again the next time you find that mess.

I had problems with my kids too... they're not allowed to move in here, even if they're desperate... and one of them is desperate... has been for quite some time... I gave them all the chances I could stand, risking my own sanity, self situation, and credit standing. And at 30 years old, I told him NO MORE... if you fail from this point forward, don't come to me... I'm done. He's in AA, and living with one friend or another in Tyler, with nothing to show for his 35 years... but I no longer feel guilty for it, or feel that I have to help him... you have to get to the point that enough is enough.

40 yrs of marriage
A married couple in their early 60s was celebrating their 40th wedding anniversary in a quiet, romantic little restaurant.

Suddenly, a tiny yet beautiful fairy appeared on their table.
She said, 'For being such an exemplary married couple and for being loving to each other for all this time, I will grant you each a wish.'

The wife answered, 'Oh, I want to travel around the world with my darling husband.'
The fairy waved her magic wand and - poof! - two tickets for the Queen Mary II appeared in her hands.
The husband thought for a moment: 'Well, this is all very romantic, but an opportunity like this will never come again.

"I'm sorry my love, but my wish is to have a wife 30 years younger than me."
The wife, and the fairy, were deeply disappointed, but a wish is a wish.
So the fairy waved her magic wand and poof!...the husband became 92 years old.

The moral of this story: Men who are ungrateful bastards should remember fairies are female.....

Hi All I am going to send some picture of what I have done cents Thursday Hope are all good and Well But I am beat so here I go and will talk when I can
Hugs Kim

Next Primer Dark Gray

Gray

Morning BJ!
Ran back in......... rain!!! How could I have forgotten that rain's predicted for the week!! Sheeesh.. CRS is getting worse. Minerals got my energy back, now BJ, is there anything for semi-dementia??

Well.. think I say hello to my cutting shears!

New LIte above Sink

Looking good Kim.. I like your choice of gray. That's what I had for a house once, and it's practically perfect for any color furniture you may have.

This will Be the the other color Zinfandel I forgot to take a picture of the wall that is gray I painted that and its black Burgundy I will take one today this ia what I have done so far
Hugs Kim PS Its rainnig here

Beautiful lamp!

Looking good Kim... Are you going to be done by the time work starts up again?

LOL... Jaye... I haven't found a cure for CRS yet... but when I do, I'll be sure to let you know...

When you do.. just don't forget to share BJ :P

New room ladies.. new room..
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