Vent- I'm tired of being good listener

We have some rain...more a misting, actually. Not really rain or sprinkles. A nice 45º though.

I, too, admire the ones who've decided it's time for the challenge. I'll just sit back and read them.

Sallyg, I have found that I can buy shoes on ebay for about half of the retail store costs. They are brand new name brand shoes. Usually last years styles.

I wear orthotics and need really good shoes. I usually pay up to $200. for a pair. I get the same shoes on ebay for around $50.

If you buy a brand that you know and a style you know, you aren't taking much of a chance on the fit.

Just my 2 cents worth.

Charlene

I've been lurking and just had to say howdy, since I spotted lots of familiar nicks and faces in the bunch! :) I finally got the seeds from the RU sorted out. Plants potted and am trying to get all this info into some kind of order. Makes me crazy......LOL
Sallyg, you certainly fooled me, I didn't think you were shy at all, but we were talking plants. And a lot of us were just talking.......LOL
It's a good thing to be able to come on here and vent. Non judgmental friendly sorts on here. It's one of the things I treasure. :)
I've even got the DH reading threads over my shoulder. Eventually, I hope to coax him into using the computer, sigh. He's just one of those people who are a bit phobic about the thing. He's learned the wonders of google though, LOL And does ask me to check so and so, etc. That's real progress!!!!

I love to listen also but when I get tired of listening I will butt in and say "Let me tell you about my hemorrhoids operation I had back in 1968. It all started when, that is about the time they will say, well I have to go bye.

Hello!!
OMG tooo funny Whitewidower! Still chuckling here, will have to remeber that.

Sally, That is quite the work on the hedge, whew guess just a little at a time. Do you compost the cuttings?

I swear this year I am going to build my compost bin! Now that i know how to use some of DH tools, Arrh, every year he says he's going to build it and every he doesn't I am just plain tired of waiting. Big cheesy smiles, We had an on-line workshop this past weekend and I learned how to make a Living Bird Feeder. Betty, posted the directions and a couple of us made them. Quite fun!

Now, I am starting to get anxious for the nice weather.

CHarlene- thats a great suggestion. who wouldn't want to save big bucks? I might be able to start doing that, if I stick with Clark's. I am usually really cheap- I have had some great $5 prs of shoes from payless over the years.

doccat- I 'had to' come right home and put swap things into my journal while I had the packets handy. I like to search plantfiles with cultivar if I have it, and then just scroll down to 'add this to your journal' Then for a couple days, I almost couldn't sleep with seeds dancing in my head. Had to pot some. I don't know if I got anything from oyu though... I did bring home a store-packet of Lima beans- just what I wanted! Should be able to grow just enough for me and DH and maybe freeze a bag.

So Whitewidower, about that operation.............................where do they put the novocaine~~~~~~~

Seedtosser- I am a good composter! just not these in particular. Right now my neighbor has a lot of stuff he shredded that I'm using for mulch. The stuff I am cutting off would be a royal pain to shred, all angular and bunchy.

You should have a compost bin! Mine is homemade with boards with notches, kind of Lincoln-log ish. Pretty sturdy. (Snow is long gone.)

Now, what is a Living bird feeder?

Just passing thru..thought I might help Judy out by posting her birdfeeder project...

Sits on a 4x4 post, top comes off for filling and the top is planted with succulent plants...rather large but once installed on the 4 x 4 it will add charm to any garden..

Edited to read..'this is one time it's better to listen than talk' .. 'got all the instructions down pat' lol - Hello Judy Babe!!!!


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Oh, I see. Interesting!
I have seeds for mixed hardy sedums hopefully sprouting about now.

Adding this later- Well, i am listening a lot this week but it's really OK. I'm turnng to you gals because of bad news from my frined. The thing is, my friend's sister Mary is in a crisis - her husband of 20 yrs and father of their three boys---has been 'riding the bus' with this young thing. As in, all he says they've done is ride the bus home from work together....but they had bought plane tickets to try and leave the country--she's from another country, and another religion which would flip out Jack's parents if they knew all the details.. For a few weeks, Mary was thinking Jack just had major depression and did get him in hosp for a few days.... Its a huge horrible situation for Mary,such a sweet girl. I'll spare some details. Today's shock was that Jack and Mary got in a fight yesterday, she slappd him, he punched her, split her lip, grabbed her hair and shook her.....I just feel so awful. So now there seems to be no question, she is going to have to get seperated/divorced..... So my generous friend is having her hands full now. She has been divorced once herself and knows a lawyer, ahs already gotten mary to lawyer once, and will go again this week....Well, if anybody has words of wisdom for Mary or my friend Lisa I willrelay them. My friend is smart and will steer her right, and is calling Mary several times a day.....I feel really inadequate, but am trying to give my friend all the support I can.

This message was edited Mar 10, 2008 8:34 PM

Oh My goodness Sally!
I have read your post twice. Got to think on it.

You try and get a good rest. Be back tomorrow.

Once the legal end is covered there is little anyone can do to help except... to listen.

The end of a marriage is like a death in the family and the stages of grief are pretty much the same.

I appreciate your thoughts. I think I should help Lisa stay focused on helping Mary stay focused on covering all the legal short term things now. Lisa is tending to want to do it all as usual, including talking about how her sister and two kids plus college kid can move in to her already packed townhouse for the transition....I feel like Lisa should not dwell on that but stick to getting Mary to accept she has to be asking for legal help, police, things like that for now.
At least I can say that money won't be a big issue, Mary's family will be able to help her while things get straightened out and Mary is a nurse , altho part time due to health.....

Agreed, Mary needs to focus on making sure she and her kids if any are protected from this jerk. Although it may not seem like it right now, I don't see how she can not come out ahead of the mess. He's a cheater and and abuser. No woman should have to put up with that.

All I can say is, I feel bad for all of you. You all have become MY friends and it's aweful when something like this comes up. If she's got legal help, then she's in good hands with you as part of her support.

It's just so hard to believe- the last time I saw this guy, we went to a pumpkin patch with his kids, me and my son, and Lisa and her boys. How can it go from family fun in October to abuse??? No wonder Mary is having trouble dealing with this new reality. Up to this, she was still regarding the affair as a result of depression, that she could/should help him work his way through, (he is getting psych help) But now I think he has to be away, far far away.

Hello,
Sally, Well i don't know much about divorce and such. Surely it is a very difficult thing for the entire family.

I think it is real supportive of your Friend to want make all the arrangements for her sister. However, I do agree that she must stay focused in order to walk through the legalities. And all the various steps.

I feel horrified to hear this man reaction. I think it is better for Mary to find this out now, Guilt is what probably brought that on. People do not react like that if they were just riding the bus. (none of my business) From this point on She might consider recording all and any abuse toward herself and the children. Her lawyer might advise this as well. Personally, i think i would give him the boot and change the locks! (but now I mad)

You are a very good friend and listener to give support such as this. I think your friend is very lucky. Now the thing is there is a big difference in reading and hearing. You hear the disappointment and anger in your friends voice and it sounds to me, that it will affect you (Being shy) differently. You know Mary as well, so that adds to any anxieties that you might experience. Now a good thing to remember is your friend know that you will listen, keeping that in mind, as she gives you blow by blow detail. She probably just needs to get thing straight and maybe Like you is thinking out loud, walking through the details. You just happen to be her steno pad., I guess i would do just as you are doing, keep her focused on the one thing at a time. In the meantime, We are here for you to speak openly and freely about any of it that bothers you. Rather you talk about it then hold it in and upset you.

LOL...got on a soapbox so hope something makes sense.

Will be thinking of you today. If need be you know those bushes will be a good source of frustration release. LOL, wish i could pull some weeds at the moment!

S t- thanks for all your thoughts.
I have only been throguh divorce as a chilc in the family. Of course I feel for the boys too.
I think you are right on. He is striking out due to his guilt feelings. (Cmon, only riding the bus??? there were many late nights, and poor Mary went looking for him at the park'n'ride once only to find them sitting in a car together. with the level of obsession he's showing, 'they ' say they haven't slept together?? give me a break!!!) I've been cheated on by a boyfriend. I'm not gonna rub it in Mary's face but mentioned it to Lisa. I'm afraid it's only lucky that the girl isn't pregnant.
So yeah, at this point I am happy to let Lisa vent on me and try to keep her going, for Mary. I sure hope by now Mary has gotten photos of her injuries and made a police report, but thats just me....must be so hard to believe her husband has become this.

Hello sally and all,

Eh...hem, some one was suppose to let us know when their article hit! LOL was glad I notice the title!

Good job Sally, I enjoyed reading and the photos. My favorite was the flower with Butterfly and Bee!

So how are things going? We had beautiful 62 yesterday and i think today will mimic.

Think I forgot to mention I love your compost bin. looks easy enough make.
Thanks to Betty for showing you our feeder project. Still got to sand and seal mine...Might just start using it...Them birdie's will be home soon.

TGIF...wish I were home, but I am here so mide as well keep busy.
What you up to?

OOps, yup. I have my first article up today! its a good thing, Martha.. That butterfly picture and the later one with bees, were sent to me by critterologist - she was really helpful and generous.

Today in Maryland is a little cloudy but with 50 s temps and no wind I'm happy. I'm actually working on another article but deciding whether to wait for crocus to bloom better for a just right picture. I have some seeds starting in the basement and am also getting out some caladiums and canna to start in pots. When the garden gets going in spring , it goes fast doesn't it? and still hacking at the hedge.

Crisis seems to be past for Mary and Lisa- Lisa called Tuesday and asked me if I could have her boys for the night so she could go be with Mary. Of course I said yes. But after a couple hours, things had changed enough that she didn't feel she needed to. They seem to feel that the abuse won' continue (meds and job change for Jack)

My bin is made by just making some cuts and knocking out hunks to make those notches in the ends. Really durable and the wood sides mean the compot stays moister, mmmmm just like brownies!
I can picture a living birdfeeder in my perennial bed!!

So what is everybody up to? gotta go wake the sleepyhead 17 yr old. Sleep habits is one of my biggest headaches with ,y kids.

My DH has the problem getting up. He stays up 'til past midnight then complains it's too early at 5am when he has to get up. ☺

Only years of kids school schedules has gotten my sleep habits to where I routinely wake up by 7 am----ish. today I was 13 min late. didn't even rmemebr hearing the alarm.

I hear it when it's not even set. I don't get it.

you morning people
Did you ever get Spook by Mary Roach? She tells about being asleep and awakened and swearing you heard something like a knock on the door, that didn't happen.

I've got that book. Yes, I hear knocks and the doorbell and gunfire...Don't ask.

no doubt your days in 'Nam.
I'm now glad I just had the knocks and doorbell.!

ROTFLOL

Yikes! I hear a lady weeping sometimes. Thought it was my girl, but it wasn't!
I had to even go outside to investigate. No one there. Hmmm
and sometime outside light will flicker, now that freaked me out.

What do you all think of making a new thread about the weird things we've seen and heard? Might be fun, yes?

Weeping lady? Yeah, yikes!

weeping lady, total yikes
kwanjin-go for it!

Yeah...Be fun to know what people see/hear.

LOL, at least I'll know i'm not loosing marbles!

Sez who? LOL I've already lost mine!

And it's up...The new thread.

hahaha...got me there!
Let me re phrase to at least were not alone.

No, not alone. There's something making those noises. Bwa ha ha ha ha...!!!

Love the title. And already someone posted..freeky!

Sally, the living feeder was pretty easy to make, LOL after all the caos of gathering parts. Plus had to wait for dh for table saw usage. Bet it will look pretty in one of your beds.

I am looking forward to weekend. I got an idea for a trash to treasure piece.
Making a fountain...or LOL I am attempting to make one.

Already excited to see your next article.

So...Thats good news on Mary and Lisa, at least they are trying to work things out good luck to them.

Hey,
Sally...How ya been doing? Hope your days have been busy and good!

Good Thread going Celia. gosh get goose bumps at some of the stories.

I am also glued to the Spooks thread. I'm amazed at the number of reports of significant dreams from the'relatively' small sample of people who might be reading the thread.
And Hi Seedtosser. I have been busy- trying to write article #3,with breaks for the usual housecleaning, yard work, cooking...My home made pizza dough needs help!
But not making pizza this weekend- I guess most will be busy with special plans- I'm sticking a ham in the oven on Sunday, just us and Mom.
How's everybody else?

Excuse my ignorance.. butte, what is with the princess thing????
I seem to br reaaly lost..............Yikes bowing?

There is a game going that has some funky rules and whomever wins, gets a month of whatever they want. (I think.) I'm not a player but a few of my friends are playing. When you see the "I love...", it's for this months winner.