Coffee and...Part 45...! :-D

Maria
I join with everyone else, yes go and get the help you need. Grief isn't something that goes away with the funeral, and although it eases over time, it comes back in waves and hits you. Thats natural, but you need to have a life belt for when it does, and a grief councelling will give you that. You could also be having the situation made worse by something like SAD. Its been dull and raining for ever in your area, so the light levels must be low and with your other health problems you have probably been indoors more than usual too. There are all sorts of things that can be done to help with that, but you have to get yourself to a doctor first. Thats the first step and we are going to nag until you do, aren't we GOBs?
Julie Microsoft Antispyware is a free download - I use it. It updates automatically so its a no fuss operation and it will clean up your problems.
Got to dash no milk so no coffee and I'll get nasty if I'm deprived so off to the store!
Catch y'all later.
Carol

Carol/DR... So glad to hear your dad is making progress!

Maria... BUY a young stud, LOL! ... Seriously, maybe you do need to get some professional help and maybe even meds to get out of the depression. I know I do.

On Oct 14th I posted "One woman's tale of woe" in the Coffee and 39 thread. Apparently this post was so offensive to someone that Admin was notified, today I got the warning and the post was deleted.

I apologize and request that in the future, please just tell me if I have offended you, I will delete the DANG post myself!

MG, I've had LOTS of my posts deleted so don't feel alone. I DO try not to be offensive but sometimes that happens even when we are unaware...

Darius, you rally made me smile, perhaps I do need a young stud, but does he need me, and that is the important question :-)))))))))
Thanks to all of you for your comisseration, you all do make me feel better the sun is shining today in between clouds, though it is cold'
I am suppose to wald a lot foe my back, but hoe could I, in this stormy weather, just getting the maol I took a chance not getting clubbered.

It takes me a long time to type this , since I do not know how to, make so many typo errors am correcting forever.
I do have Picasa, but have never used it, probanly should get that sweeper too.
HOw sad for you , Jasmerr, what you had to go through . nothing worse than losing a chold before ones time, I can not imagine how terrible that must be.
Gaile, am glad I am not the only one to get my hand rapped, LOL but what am I suppose to say? Nothing. When I first joined I asked to use my name 'Mari' was told some one is using it, never came accroos her, so they gave me aria which I dislike imensly sojust recently I asked them if I stillcould have it with an attached #, do you think I have heard from the? no! but am picked up because of a word Iactually do not approve of either.
Maria

First of all...Gayle...I don't remember anything 'offensive' that you've posted in our threads. I'm sorry that this happened. I know that if I've said something offensive, I'd much rather be 'nudged' to get it removed or clarified (if that's the case) than to have the admin have to do it.

Now...with the Spyware removers you guys have mentioned, is there a potential conflict with the AVG antivirus software? The last thing I need now is to have AVG go down. ;-)

LOL @ Darius' "BUY a young stud"....like that's going to fix *anything* that would go wrong *my* life! HAHAHA

Jody...(I'd written a LONG comment here but deleted it...so instead here's a (((~hug~))) because I honestly *do* understand what you went through.)

Maria...I just wish I'd had someone around when I needed the help our gals are offering you. Anyone...anyone at all...to talk to...and to have listen would have helped me through some really tough times in my life. (And don't anyone assume that just because I'm married, I had *him* to talk to. Just didn't happen...and still doesn't.) I hate to see my friends suffer like you're suffering right now. I just wish there was something I could *really* do to help.


I'm very proud of our 'GOBs and GOBettes' today. Thanks for stepping up to the plate with your support for Maria. ((((~ HUGS ~ all around ))))

~julie~

mg what tale of woe did you tell that could possibly be so offensive my goodness!
I have not had a warning yet but feel it coming soon I guess since I have heard of these warnings and never seen anything offensive yet.
Mags AKA Bu?

Just wanted to share a photo of Nick.

Mags, it was the "Wax" story.

What 'wax' story?

Oh Jody what a handsome boy! I am so sorry for your loss (((Jody))))
That is truly the hardest thing for me to fathom - losing my son. You are a very strong woman !!!
Mags



Yes what "wax" stroy

Jody....thanks for sharing that pic. He's a 'beautiful' person. And yes, I meant that to be in the present tense. As a mom, I don't know whether it's losing a child or watching *your* child lose their child that's harder. My heart aches for you in the same way it ached for my son when he lost his son. (That's a BIG ache) Just want to tell you that I admire your strength and determination. You're 'something else'. (You've touched me deeply.)

~julie~

what a lovely smile, Jody, how does ever a parent cope losing a child, think of all the parents who have lost sons in all the war, just in this century, never mind the last one,
Maria

Sarv...Picasa is *not* compatible with the MAC. They are considering a MAC version in the future.

~julie~

aria - the only way I have been able to deal with the loss of my son is to look at it differently. I didn't lose him - God let me have him for seventeen years and my life, and the lives of those he touched, is better for it. Nick is (julie - I also use present tense!) a very compassionate and loving person and he did touch so many people. It's difficult to understand why a young life is taken away, but so much easier to understand what we gained from knowing that person. I feel we are all placed on this earth for a reason. Nick came to this world did his job and left for a better place. When we lose someone we need to think what our lives would have been like without them. Don't get me wrong...it has taken me a long time to get to this place.

Julie - I hope your son and your entire family are doing well. How long ago did his son pass away?

Jody

Jody...it was nearly 20 years ago now. Aside from losing my dad, it was the hardest thing I ever had to go through. Since the baby died in a hospital the funeral was delayed until the coroner could convince my san that an autopsy was mandatory. When my son refused, they told us we could bury him...but the State would exhume (sp) the body when they were finished with the investigation. A lot of good the investigation did...it was the STATE investigating ITSELF, basically. And of course, the hospital *couldn't* have been at fault (even though it *was*). I really didn't mean to take that response that far...but it's the second time this morning I've tried *not* to. :-D)

~julie~

julie - I'm so sorry to hear that. I can't imagine such a lose when someone else is at fault. It's hard to find a purpose for a life that lasted such a short time. I pray your family has found peace in some way. A hug back to you ((((julie))))

Jody

Ann, your garden site just had me wanting to jump and start digging. It is beautiful. How many crocuses are in that bed and do you have to dig them out and reset them every year??? I loved that, I bet it just looks like a river of blue when in full bloom.

Maria, I hope you do go and see someone and talk with them. I know that when your mind gets in that mind set its hard to remember that you are very loved and wanted here. It can be very overwhelming. My dad felt the same way at times. So its not just you, I think its everyone that has lost someone dear and misses them and gets a bit down. The ucky weather you have been dealing with is also adding to it. So I guess I will be joining the rest of the gang and bothering you until you get yourself in to see someone. Wait until you tell the councelor that you were forced to seek therapy from a group of people you have never met. That should really start things off..... LOL

Carol, hearing that Dad is up and walking a bit brought a smile to my face. Recovery is slow at times but will is a strong defense against illness. Still sending good thoughts and best wishes his way.

Jasmerr, what a wonderful picture of your son. You can tell he had a gentle soul with those warm eyes. I am so sorry for your loss. I have had to accept the death of 6 loved ones in the past 2 years and I don't think I would have made it if one of those was a child of my own. Just doesn't seem natural to lose a child. My heart goes out to you....

Gayle, I went back to through the posts I think to 32 and I don't remember you or anyone making a post that would offend. But I do have a more open mind then some and what offends me may not offend an other. I doubt it was to bad.
I did see Maria's typo though. I even thought that was unusual that it wasn't caught.

Well all of you, I have officially become addicted to DG. I came and turned on the computer and started to read the post before making my bed. That is a first.


I think I am going to go back to Anns website and dream....

Casey

Casey, do you remember where it was I made that mistake? Or what I referred to?

Thanks Jody...we've handled our loss in the same way you have. We hold tight to the fact that 'Jimmy' made a wonderful difference on our lives and look at the lessons we learned that would have taken so much longer without him gracing our lives...even for such a short time.

~julie~

Strange this is coming from me but have been reading NY times, which is enough to be depressed about but this made me really laugh, it is a quotation from Dorothy Parker, you heard before when she said:
"Girls that wear glasses
guys don't make passes"
but this one Inever heard before:

'By the time youswear you're his
shivering and sighing
and he vows his passion is
infinite, undying
Lady, make a note of this:
One of you is lying"

That struck me so funny, typical D. Parker, I knew once a couple of guys but was very fortunate I did not belief them, knew they were lying, those were the days when I was sharp and quick on the draw, LOL what happened those days when I just throw my head back, laughing and told them to join mephistopheles ? (this from Goethe and the Faust symphony by Franz Liszt)
Maria

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Maria...that one got a BIG laugh out of me, too! Thanks for putting in here for us. :-)

~julie~

Hi everybody - back from shopping - again!! LOL Bought 4 daylilies cheap and some water retention stuff and some oscomote - all on major sale!! Yippee!! Bought a diaper wipe wamer - to the tune of 24 bucks= how could it cost that much!! Oh well, I know she wanted it.. Also got myself another set of white dishes (it's hiding in the car until DH leaves for work tomorrow LOL) Stopped at Wendy's again today for a burger and a SENIOR drink - there are perks to being old....

Aria, it was this morning 7:40am . I went back and looked and they took the offending word out - I am sure it was just a typo - don't let it bug ya.

Darius- A STUD??? Now how would that help LOL Maria would be all tired out... Are YOU looking for one perhaps? another LOL I sure don't want one...

Oh Jazz- I'm so sorry you lost your son. I think about losing those close to me. My dad died several years ago, but he had had cancer for years and suffered so much that his death was a blessing and we welcomed it- however I cried for months afterwards just because I couldn't talk to him. But I do find myself talking to him often - especially when we are having a get together that he would have loved. He was a wild dancer and loved to tip a few - never said a bad word about anyone (ok, tearing up here...) Cherish the wonderful memories you have and think of him watching down over you!! Losing a child must be the hardest thing on earth to get thru - he certainly left too soon, but you'll meet again... Oh Julie, you too?? Hugs to both of you.

mg- I dont remember anything offensive!! hmmm, wax you say???

I tried to get the picasa and couldn't. This old mac just doesn't want anything new. I'll just be content to do my email stuff and DG stuff. I will still try to have my DS help with sending pics.

Maria- ok we all expect a report when you get back from the doc tomorrow. Glad the sun is shining there- ours has slipped below the winter looking clouds.

I stopped to see MIL and she is all in a tizzy. Someone has called her everyday at 8:30am asking for her social sec. number. She is smart enough not to give it, but it upsets her greatly. She asked the person NOT to call her, but they told her they would keep it up until she gave it to them. I would like to intercept the call and give them a piece of my mind. Honestly praying on the old ones is just sick. I told her to just hang up, but she said 'that wouldn't be nice"

DH is snoozing in the chair already and I need to look thru a cookbook and see what to make for dinner- this is getting old. I really don't like to cook... There was a receipe in the paper for cranberry filled chicken - but it is too much work....wonder if DH would be satisfied with a hot dog...anyone want to invite us both over for dinner?

ha ha ha ha, Sarv. you think so???? I mightjust fool you :-O
Maria

you guys surely can make me laugh out loud, thanks a lot I do appreciate it no end
Maria

sarv, does your MIL have caller ID? And I would prolly notify the phone co and the police, that is harrassment, fraud, scam, something.

Sarv, I would call the phone company and alert them. I had a person calling here for weeks at all hours of the day and night for a few weeks. They wouldn't say anything just wait for someone to pick up and then they would hang up.
I called and reported it to the phone company and they traced our phone activity. The calls stopped about a week later. I then received a call from the District attorneys letting me know that the callers were a group of theifs that were checking people and when they were home and not home so they could be robbed. They were doing the hang up calls to over 250 people in the valley. They are all in jail now.

Aria, I love D Parker. I had never heard that one either. Guess I have fallen out of the loop of the informed again.

DH and DS have scouts tonight so I think I will make a batch of Hungarian Goulash for dinner and package up half for a dinner sometime later in the month.

I hope you are all having a beautiful fall day.

Casey

MIL doesn't have caller ID. What burns me is her do nothing son is downstairs and he won't get the phone. I am going to tell her to have 'him' answer it- maybe he will get his arse outta bed instead of laying in the sack until 10am. I do feel sorry for her, but she is a 'wimpy' sort of person and always has excuses for everything.(especially the do nothing son) Her excuse for the lazy butt son, is that he has sooo much to do - ya right- who doesn't. I'm done complaining now...

Making cheeseburger pie from bisquick tonight- one of our favorite easy meals!! Tomorrow DS and DGS are coming over for dinner and I will have to put on a spread. I have to pick him up from day care and he doesn't want me to come until - get this 4:18 - he wants to be sure and be there for the snack!! Who does he take after (ps, he loves oreos too!) He always picks off the wall times - we laugh at that.

If I get in the mood, I'm going to streak my hair tonight- gonna try the 'chunk' method. It's too dark and I know in my heart that I am meant to be a blonde! Last time I did it, MIL told me she didn't like the gray color I was putting in my hair LOL

Hi Y'alls,
Great sympathy here for all who lose their dear ones, but particularly their children. My cousin lost his 23 year old son to a brain tumor this January. He is going through a really rough time and its difficult to get him to talk to anyone, exept the whisky bottle. I feel awful for him but he is so difficult to help.

The "wax" was a joke I think, had connections to a lady's attempt to remove surplus hair. It was a story that had me crying - with laughter!! I liked it so much I passed it on - so it can't have been that offensive!

I have trouble responding to all your posts GOBs, by the time I've got this far into a mail I've forgotten who said what and what I was going to say. Just take it that I am wishing all who need it well, eating with the greediest and laughing, with, not at, those who tell funny stories.

Carol
The English one

Who can't type and had to do a quick edit!

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Home from work. We have tickets for a concert this evening but I'll try to get caught up

Maria, if you get this depression often, DO see a Dr. There must be help available. Glad you have a Dr. appointment tomorrow. Keep asking until you get help.

M5 (Sheila? - I've not got my list handy), people like your former SIL cause all sorts of problems for the people we see every week at the Food Cupboard. too bad some get away with it.

Glad you liked the garden page.

sarv (and any others who found it took too long to download), should I split it up into two smaller pages? Could do. I am also on dial-up and try to keep things manageable.

M5 - DG addiction can be a problem. I have to be careful not to exceed my 70 hrs/mo. Could sign up for more, but decided that with an addictive personality it would not be wise. LOL

MaryE - is Baker City in eastern Oregon? If not you'd have quite a trek to Boise wouldn't you? Have driven through there a few times, but most recently nearly 20 years ago. Our recent trip to Oregon took us only as far east as Hood River.

BTW the Sunset Motel where we stayed in Hood River has a GREAT garden behind it. Lots of Hostas as well as other things. But not identified.

Julie - glad you got an Internet connection back. The withdrawal symptoms can be fierce if you get cut off.

Carol (DR), glad your DF is improving. I'm sure he has a tough road ahead of him, but it's encouraging that he's improved as much.
I'll have to get Dahlias, I agree. but with the border in between us, I'm afraid I'll have to find a Canadian source.

Jody, so sorry about all the sadness in your life. I can't even imagine how awful it would be to loose a son at 17. I'm sure you still have moments of great sadness, but you sound as though you have come a long way. Lovely picture of Nick. How lucky you were to have had him for those 17 years.

Maria - I always thought that aria as your name was an indication of your love of music. And is your name Mari or was that a typo?

Gayle - I don't remember the offensive post either. -Ohh - the WAX story. That was hysterical. Why did they find that so offensive? Too bad I didn't copy it out if they deleted it.

Julie -I'm sorry for your loss as well. It's always hard to loose a young life that is full of potential.

Casey - I have no idea how many crocuses are in that bed (and others). Some have been there since 1970. Occasionally I plant more, but mostly they just multiply. If they get REALLY crowded, I dig up the clump and spread them around. they were really nice this year because they lasted. In 2004 if was rainy and windy and they were in tatters and in 2003 we have a one-day heat wave that finished them off in one day. And then there are those D#### squirrels that bite off the bloom just before it opens and then decide they don't even want to eat it.

Glad to hear that your dad is up and walking.

Sarv - that's sick whomever is bothering your mother. Have you tried reporting it?

Let me know if I need to divide up the web page.

Ann

Did I mention we had an intruder early this morning ? About 3:15 or so someone bumped my bed. Thought it was DW and mentioned it this morning, but she said it wasn't her, and she uses the other bathroom anyway. Dresser is next to my bed and her purse is on it. Nothing taken, but it makes one want to be sure the doors are locked. What to do for dinner tonight. Leftover roast chicken, some tomato soup, half a squash to be cooked and some tortillas. How about chicken tomato tortilla soup with squash on the side ? Now that sounds edible, if not a little odd. Have a delightful Brugmansia in bloom now. Been lazy all day. Did nothing but grocery shop, get a flu shot, took some stuff to Goodwill, and had a fasting blood draw. Feels sort of good now and then,besides, it is still too wet to work outside.

Would somebody explain to me how one makes these colages??? please
Maria

Oh for crying out loud, what are we a bunch of kindergartners who need a watchdog so we don't write what some anal retentive idiot thinks is "offensive"? Puh-leeeeeze! I sent that wax story on to several friends, and have gotten some really hair- raising (pun intended) stories in return. (If it was some lurker who doesn't have the guts to reveal themselves, I have an Italian gesture for you !) Personally I thought it was hysterically funny...and most likely true.

Now if I get chastised for that commentary, I expect all the GOBS and GOBETTES to come to my defense.

Okus, just spoke with DD and she said to tell you she really enjoyed looking at your photos from the National, and of your dogs. Said you and she like very similar types. It looks like she will be placing the last one of her litter of nine with a couple in Illinois who had bought a pup from her some years ago. I won't detail it here, but dmail me if you want to know more.

What a long day.....managed to get to the Goodwill with the bag of discards, DIL's work place with curtains, drapes and slipcover, Sam's for EV Olive oil, jeweler (who still didn't fix that &$*& bracelet right), Kmart, and the hardware store, besides having lunch with my old pal from work and shopping with her at the Rieman Publications Country store. Their cookbooks are on sale for 4 for $10, (back publications of their annual hardcover cookbooks) and she had a coupon for 20% off your total bill, so we staggered out with armloads of stuff. Also picked up eight dinner plates for 99 cents each, buttery yellow with dark blue bands. That bumping noise you hear is my ..........dragging. ( Are you watching, Admin.??)

Have read all the posts, my heart goes out to those who have lost loved ones, I cannot even contemplate losing a child without getting cold chills, and I commend those who have struggled on afterward.
Maria, we will be checking on you...however, I credited your missing first letter of your name to your typing, but, now I see it was out of your hands~ !! And I loved Dorothy Parker, her bitter wit was something to admire! Loved Ogden Nash too, so you can see where my literary tastes lie.....
Still don't know if we area having company or not tonight. Sheesh!

M5 I too see nothing offensive in the threads and will fight for you if chastised for your commentary!!!

I have seen people get very angry and rude to one another which i find much worse than what is described here!!!
Lurking but not Tattling here!

Hi everyone. The trip to Boise was quick. We had lunch, picked up the repaired tool and came home. I wanted to do some looking around but hubby was anxious to get out of the traffic and said he wanted to put in at least a couple of hours at work. I wouldn't have gotten much done if I had been at home since we have one of those rare rainy days. It's good for the plants I moved yesterday. Yes, Baker City is in Eastern Oregon. We can see some mountains in Idaho. When I got home I built a fire in the woodstove, hard to believe since yesterday it was a pleasant 70 outside.

Sarv, something needs to be done about the phone caller. First, call the phone company and maybe they will trace the caller, then call the police and report it since it is probably part of a fraud scheme. In any case it is harrassment. Concerning the sleep aid you asked about it's diphenhydramine. Ask the druggest. Read the labels on sleep aids, same thing, much cheaper than buying those little boxes with blister packs. When I mentioned it before BabsERnurse commented that when she worked in a pharmacy several years ago this was a prescription drug that was prescribed as a sleep aid.

Dinner tonight is spaghetti, time to get the sauce started.

edited to add, yes, Ann, the pictures would download quicker if it was two pages. I got about half of them in 20 minutes and then the computer just quit downloading. What I could see was beautiful.



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What is going on here, Sheila, censured about silly things?What is this wax story? Where is it??? Have I missed some things, probably mind has been some where else, especially early before noon, so tell me where it is, with you all they way!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Maria

Meezer please tell me the books you bought are not their annual yearbooks. I will have to hurt someone after I do some creative editing. I just paid 18.00 a piece for 6 of them for DD's christmas.

Wow, I feel very lazy today compared to the rest of you. I did manage to take DS to the doctor to have his in-grown toenail taken care of. YUCKY

Well I hope all is well across the land and borders for everyone
Casey

LOL LOL M5- you're gonna get your hinny kicked if you keep using fingers inappropriately!!! Shoot, now I remember that wax story....I meant to run a copy of it to entertain the girls next time we meet.. Some people just don't get humor - sad for them. Bet they are frumpy old bags..that don't smile at all.

DH and I dug up 8 brugs tonight that were out in the garden. Phew, they were taller than we are and multi stumped.. DH grumbled, but he did it without saying much - he knows better!! I've leaving the 20 other ones out as they are in a sheltered place - supposed to get a hard frost Thur night.

M5- you bought HOW MANY??? Drat, I get the annual Taste of Home and Quick Cooking. If I had known you went there I'd have bribed you to pick me up some. I am hooked on those cookbooks- I often spend the evening reading them and marking receipes that I want to try. In fact all the new meals I've prepared this fall have been from them. I want the Light n Tasty ones and the holiday ones yet. My mom gets me the monthly paper magazines of Taste of Home - I pass them on to the boys (they love to cook too!)

Bal- did you mean a PERSON bumped into your bed- sure it wasn't the dogs? How frightening...lock things up tight - please!!

Vi - I'd try splitting it up - then I can see all of it!! It's not my mom that is having problems = it's my MIL. If it were my mom, I'd be sitting at her house and give that $%^& a piece of my mind - plus calling everyone I knew to stop it. However, my MIL has tons of her own children (DH included) and they can take care of it. I do enough for her already. She's been a royal pain in the bottom to my DH and he won't lift a finger to help her. Sad, but true. I try to help out, but enough is enough. - she says rotten things to me too!

Just cut up a Honey Crisp apple and have a bowl of low fat caramel dip - help yourselves!!

yum, yum thanks, I'll have some, any fruit pleases me
Maria

Just popping in for a moment to say that I thought Gayle's "wax" posting was hysterical (as so many of her posts are - *HUGS* to ya!) and even read it out loud to SO1, who laughed as heartily as I did... especially with that ending note about next coloring her hair!

If it contained any bad words, then I must've read right over them, just as I must've read over what Maria might've posted earlier today. All I know is that I didn't learn any new words to add to my vocabulary. ;-)

Once, not too long ago thanks to a zany Test Forum thread, I actually tried to compose a post with some really bad words, just to see if the preview would kick it back so I'd know what to expect. Surprisingly, I had to get a bit creative, and no, I didn't actually send the post. *giggle*

Back to the kitchen now,
Donna