Coffee and...Part 45...! :-D

no was in chat Maria I am here

Not me. I was wondering the same thing. Do you suppose everybody ran out of words? It the storm past you now?

is'nt this the cutest thing ever???
http://davesgarden.com/forums/t/553451/

oops, forgot about chats, darn it, yes, Mary, thank goodness but what a mess as I said in the last thread, I nearly got clubbered with a branch while getting my mail fromthe box. , many do not have electricity but am fortunate so far, our usual beautiful October did not happen this year
Maria

Okay that was adorable. Now I can't get the visions of someone eating one of those out of my head.

Casey

Well you all have been chatty today. Julie, I laughed about the anniversary gift of a drill, but then you explained later that you had been using his. That is a sure way to get one for yourself.

Kooger, good news on the MRI. And all the following comments on a teen age brain. LOL.

Darius, got a bad hair cut, huh, why don't you fire the hairdresser? LOL

Carat, I really laughed about your needing medical attention, if you have scissors in your hand, pointed toward the head. I only cut mine once, but it was 5,458 different lengths. I cut it as I rolled it, and did not have anything to judge length. This was the first and last time I cut hair!! Thought I was going to have to get dog tags until it grew out.

Meezer, your comment about MRI of husband, but doing well on meds was hilarious. I think if they could identify MRI of all men, they would find that area where there was an obsession, of whatever type.

Will sister is here, and a neighbor came over after supper, and we sat around and talked. Neighbor is a funny lady, so there was a lot of raucious laughter also.

Well going to watch tv for awhile, then to bed. Will check in before nighty nite, though.

Maria, how much longer is the rain suppose to continue? Ours has cleared and a starry night in store. Half the weathermen say rain again tomorrow the other half say no chance.

These guys drive me crazy.

What did you have done, Casey? does not sound like fun, that is an unusual picture, very cute, BTW, I always cut my own hair, if it gets too long always wear it in a french twist had it short only once or twice in my life.
Maria

I had implants place a few months ago and today they uncovered the last one and placed the receivers in the appliance so I can eat again. Yahooo....

Maria, I wore a french twist for years, loved it even if it wasn't the "fashion" at the time. Now the back grows enough for one but not the rest and then it looks too raggedy,

Hi there Darius, how is Molly?

I have found it so very easy to wear it that way, no fussing with it, Darius, I think I have been to a beauty parlor perhaps half a dozen time if that often, think of all the money I have not spent on myself LOL
Maria

Molly is fine, no water and no power. However, she and her son (32) managed to get a LOT of plants dug up today for her new place. They will go up maybe Friday, and hope to find available gas and water as they get north of the worst storm damage. Looks like her temp. mobile may get set Friday but the elec, water, septic etc. will take a few more days.

Good to hear.

When you talk to her next tell I am thinking of her and sending well and good wishes her way....

I shall!

Well Gilmore is on and I think it is like watching an Adult version of the Cat in the Hat.

Casey

Good night every one
Maria

Gee...I spent most of the day over in the Upper Midwest Gardeners forum...and I had a blast meeting people from my area of the world. I even met one in the NEXT town! Now how's THAT for great fortune?? :-)

Would you believe that I even had the nerve to show up in chat tonight? What is this world coming to? LOL (Gayle! Don't you DARE answer that!! ~big grin here~)

Sheila...I even wetn back into one of the early Coffee and...threads to find some of the pics we posted a L O N G time ago. It made me remember to look for that pie. hehehe (I didn't find it...yet!) Probably by the time I do, it'll be a bit stale...and maybe even moldy. (Now there's an idea...hehehe)

I'm sure sorry to hear about the elbow problems...and I hope it doesn't come down to surgery, especially if it's an 'iffy' one at best.

Gayle...that SSI runaround is something I've heard several of my friends go through. In fact I had a friend whose sister had terminal cancer, raising 2 kids alone...and they wouldn't let her have it either. The BEASTS!! (Sorry...I just get so sick of people getting SSI when they're addicts of their own making and then hear stories of people who NEED it that get turned away. Argggggghhhh!)

Well...enough my soap box. I'm going to go play with my new Picasa photo software...now *that's* proving to be well worth the download time. Who knows...I may even post a pic here. LOL

~julie~

G'mite Maria...see ya in the morning.
~julie~

|Morning Gayle, Please consult an attorney who specializes in Social Security Issues. DH was turned down numerous times, because of an accident which almost took his life, and left him disabled in many ways. Was almost ready to give up, and I urged him to see an attorney, he filed, was turned down, appealed, and won his appeal. Got retro pay back to the time of the original injury.

Darius, when you next talk to Molly, tell her hello for me, and that I am thinking of her. Poor dear girl, trying so hard, but getting pushed back 1 step for every 2 she takes.

Well DS and I have talked until we are loosing our voices, just love it. We have a full day ahead of us tomorrow, working at DM, so think of me, and I will quit an hour early, just to catch up here.

Aria, tie that anchor around you ankle tonight, don't want you to float away.

Sweet fluffy dreams to all.

Good Morning all - .... night in the sack here- I bet I only slept 3 hr. My poor old body must be running on fumes. I cannot believe I just don't collapse and sleep for days . I have to get some tylenol pm today.

I'm munching on some leftovers now - called 'lil cheesey meat loafs' - pretty tasty (my new receipe for the week) It was made with oatmeal tho and a tad mushy - will make a note to use crackers next time. I think it will end up in the receipe box!

Today is my free day at home (no exercise class) I need to haul water - the weatherman has said 'chance of rain for weeks' and we haven't gotten a drop. All my new stuff I stuck in really needs watching.

Hey Julie- is picasso a free program? If so where.

Time for another 'lil meat loaf" - I may not sleep, but my appetite never suffers!!

Well, I slept like a rock last night. I am making blue berry muffins for breakfast, so help your self.

Have a busy day, going to DM to put in storm windows, and weather proof her house.

Don't gab too much, and I will catch up later.

Good morning,

Just a quick note to say that I got my 2005 gardening page up -
http://www.magma.ca/~fredrkng/Ann/Ann_garden05.html

there is also a link from it to a page showing the construction of the new garden. (Still have to take a few new pics for it, but what I have is up).

Have to go to work today so no time for much more.

Anyone talking to Molly, please give her my best wishes as well.

Have a good day.

Ann

PS It's still raining here.

Good morning every one!

and a good morning to you, Sarv, must tell you I never slept a wink
had to many unpleasant thoughts in my head and feel I ammdumbling down into that black hole again, why does this happen every so often?
That horrid weather did not help either, it stopped finally, but it was quite a bit scary felt lke I was the only person on this earth and nobody gave a ... awful feeling don't you think? I honestly I think I have to see a shrink cannot keep on this way, my daughter is a psycho therapist just talked with her an she thinks I should, are there other widows in GOB or am I the only one? Times like that I wish I had died along with him, this makes me cry all over again
Maria

Maria- I think it is time you talked to someone. And perhaps get on some medication to help you thru all this. I am unsure if there are any GOB's that are widows like yourself. My MIL often talks of wanting to join her husband - he was her main support (although I thought he was creepy!!) I think it is a natural feeling especially because you had such a wonderful life with your DH.

Do you have any widow friends that you could be with - talk with? I find that my friends are even more important to me than my DH in times of need. They just understand what I am going thru and my feelings more than he does.

I think this stinkin weather is a downer too - all that rain you are suffering with - if only the sun would shine - puts a smile on faces better than anything else!

Do you knit, crochet, do crosswords, sudoku (my latest love!). How about an indoor plant stand with lights so you can grow beautiful things all year. My lighted plant stand is my savior in the cold winter months - I spend hours just standing looking at things or repotting things. I am sure I don't save a penny, but the love of it is worth millions to me.

You know we will be here to help you stay out of the 'pit'. Why don't you make a doc appt today - that is one step in the right direction. I'll be checking back to see if you called.....now do it!!

Good morning all! Apparently I was the one who hogged the good night's sleep, went to bed at 10:30 and didn't open my eyes until 7:00 which is almost unheard of. Maybe it was that down comforter..

Maria, your daughter is right. This is not something short term or it would have been over by now, and there is no point in being so sad that it affects your daily life. People don't "snap out of it" after all, and there's nothing wrong with getting a little help. You've had a wonderfully interesting life, and you need to enjoy it again.

We had a whopper of a frost last night, looks like snow on the ground. It got everything at ground level, although the pots on the deck appear to be ok. That means big time garden cleanup this weekend when it warms up a bit. Put that beebalm from DR in the ground yesterday, and I hope it didn't get bitten.

Sarv, have you considered keeping a food diary to see if there are certain kinds of food that upset your digestion more than others? That may have something to do with your sleepless nights, even though you don't get the rollypolly effects it could make you restless....Just a thought...

Julie, I have to check that Midwest forum, I forgot about it yesterday because I was so busy. Oh, and here's a link to Molly's thread on the new mobile etc. if you want to check up on her. http://davesgarden.com/forums/t/544853/

Social Security Admin.is very difficult to deal with, and many people give up because of rejection. I would say seeing an attorney who specializes is the best bet, they know all the red tape, the players, and so forth. My youngest DD was married then divorced, to a terribly immature man, who never paid his child support, used drugs, wouldn't hold a job, etc. He applied for SS and went through the usual appointments etc, and actually went through all the screenings, and got approved.....for "uncontrollable anger , blah blah blah" believe it or not.

He fooled the shrink, he fooled the case workers, and now he sits on his rear and lets his second wife and Uncle Sam support him. DD got a copy of one of the interviews he had with the psychologist, and it was a work of fiction! He told so many lies, we almost wore out one of those yellow markers highlighting them. By this time he was already getting monthly checks, and if you think it's hard to get approved, it's nothing compared to getting someone UNAPPROVED! Really burns me up to think he gets money instead of someone who needs it.

Can't find that pie with the hole in it either. Dern. Must have done some "housekeeping"...how unusual !!! LOL

I'm going to try that Picasso software too, and check on Ann's new page but not this morning, because I have to get going and if I go there I'll sit here for another hour and a half....

Later

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Oh I went and checked Ann's page anyway, Spectacular photos GO There!!!! I'm seething with envy!!! LOL

I visited Ann's page too - I only viewed about half of it. I went and did the dishes and it still wasn't loaded, so decided it must be my antique computer calling the shots again. What I saw was gorgeous tho!

I have a friend that is on Dr Phil's show, so I am forced to watch it instead of getting work done LOL Any excuse....

I did too, and now I'm running late...............DG addiction is ruining my life.

Good morning.

Maria, please call and make that appointment. You need to take some steps to help yourself get over this dark feeling. We all love you and are here for you but that is not all you need at this time. I'm sure the storm affected you and with winter coming soon you need to be on top of this. So, please get some help.

I'm glad to hear that Molly is ok, just inconvenienced but that is probably good motivation to get out of there. Hopefully this is the last hurricane to hit the US this year. It's sure been a bad season.

I got a lot done in the flower beds yesterday, have a wheelbarrow full of weeds to prove it, transplanted some bee balm (it's related to mint so is agressive and not easily killed) and happily found that there was still a small coneflower plant growing at the edge of it so transplanted that too. There's still a long way to go out there but progress is progress and I had a backache to prove it.

Today I'm going to Boise again with my DH who has a repaired tool for his shop that is ready to come home. It's about a 3 hr trip each way so he took the day off and we will make a day of it. Bad weather and bad roads will keep us much closer to home in the winter so we take the opportunity to go someplace for a day when the conditions are nice.

ViolaAnn, thanks for the link to your gardening page. I'll have to look at it later so I have time to really enjoy it.

It's time to hit the shower. Have a great day everyone.

Does any one remember me using the not do nice word d.. instead of Darn???
I do not remember using it since I do not swear, wll in any case I was on the carpet for saying that terrible, terrible word lol and I do not even recall it, that's a riot LOL
Maria

Ann, great garden!!

Maria, yes I do remember you using the naughty D word - I thought "man, Maria must really be in a funk to be talking like that!!" My mouth turns nasty when I feel bad too...we all do it - so what- we're human!! Did ya get a slap on the hand?? LOL or soap in the mouth?

Well, I am waiting to hear about your call to the doc---huh huh is it done yet?

I've spent all morning on this darn computer- I need to turn it off and get something productive done See ya later alligator! sue

No I have not called, Sarv, have to find out first . who? Have dr appointment tomorrow will ask her whom she will recommend

Guess it was a slap, Sue, LOL. Can't get over saying that, belief me if I say that it would be under the most unusual circumstances
Maria

maria - it could be a typo you got smacked for :) i'll be joining the "nag force" to make sure you get help with your grieving process. there are psychs out there that specialize in grief counseling - i bet your daughter, or your doctor, can steer you in the right direction. just believe that you are not alone - everyone goes through this - and the feelings you have are part of the process of grief. as meezer said, you've had such an interesting life, and still much left to contribute to your family and the world - and your husband would absolutely have wanted you to continue living it to the fullest. call your doctor and get a recommendation today, DARN it!

sarv - try tylenol's "simply sleep" ... it doesn't have the tylenol in it. i use it frequently, and my doc said ya shouldn't take the tylenol pm unless you have fever/pain in addition to not sleeping. i hope it works for you.

have a nice fall day everyone.
marsha

Maria...there are times I type in D A R N but it looks like the 'other' one...and then there's the fact that most of my most used keys on the keyboard don't have letters on them anyway so I make LOTS of mistakes when I'm looking at it. LOL (I hope you find someone to talk with about this depression. I agree with everyone whose told you that it's a natural condition for someone who has had such a wonderful marriage as you have. My FIL passed the same day as Elvis...never can remember the year...but my MIL was in the same state of mind that you're in right now. It took her several years doing it all alone. Please don't let that happen to yourself. There *is* help available...and I (we all) would like to see the 'Maria' that your husband knew so well. You're a dear person with lots to offer those around you...including US. My thoughts and prayers are with you.)

Now...I've been nice (Good thing Maria needed me to say something to her before anything else. LOL) I'm SO pi$$ed OFF!! I got up this morning to a BLACK internet connection screen (that means I don't have connection on THIS machine...I went through all the troubleshooting CRAP...rebooted numerous times...reset my satellite modem interface manually....and, after SEVERAL hours, still wasn't able to get connected.

I went downstairs, watered my cuttings, etc...came back...and nada! Nothing...usually, even when I can't connect to the web I *can* get my email. No GO!

~BIG SIGH here~

Shake off the chills of apprehension...open the help window...go for the system restore. (OH how I hate doing stuff I'm not all that familiar with anymore.) The window assured me that no matter what the system restore *was* reversible if it didn't fix the problem. It took about 1/2 an hour...and I was set back to Monday before I'd installed a media player and before I'd installed my Picasa (Yes, it's spelled with an 'a').

Obviously, the system restore gave me back my internet connection, but now I can't even GET to the Picasa site to download it again. P. O'd
:-S

Anyway...Sarv here's the link for Picasa. http://picasa.google.com/index.html
And yes it's a free program...BUT...I don't know if it works on a Mac or not. So be careful, Ok?

Now! The second agrevation for the morning. Can someone point me in the right direction for software to remove spyware and ADware? My AVG antivirus has found one of each on my computer and they weren't there until I stupidly bought Music Match media player. ARGGGGGHHHHHHHHHhhhhh

So I don't think the Picasa was at fault in causing the need for a system restore...I think it was that DANGED (I wrote it in caps so I could see what I said LOL) Music program.

Someone else asked me a question...sorry...I'll have to read backwards to find it.

BBL
~julie~

julie
i've had great results using "spy sweeper" .. there's a free version available at webroot.com

my son had messed up his pc so many times from music downloads. the techie that always fixed it installed "spy sweeper" and there's been no problems since. it's astounding, really, how much adware/spyware sneaks in the back door. and most of it doesn't play nice. it can really affect a computer's performance; i even had to replace his hard drive.

marsha

Yes, Julie, I use Spy Sweeper too. You can get a free copy of it online for 3 months I think. I ended up getting it for $19.99 with an online coupon. Spy Sweeper is worth the money. It caught a nasty virus awhile ago which I got from my son's girlfriend who is at college where they have lots of online viruses floating around.

Sorry to hear all of you GOB's not sleeping. Not good. Get some help.

My dad is doing better. Went to the rehab center yesterday. Actually walked down the hall and to the bathroom. Left leg still is worthless but knee is getting stronger. So... Things are looking up. Has 3-5 hrs of PT each day, so I am hoping in like 2-3 weeks he will get to go home.

Ann, your gardens look wonderful. Was nice to browse thru them. I miss my garden already! Only thing you are missing are some dahlias, lol. Guess I need to get some tubers for you to plant! LOL

Well, off to see my dad soon and help with the PT to learn more about it all.
So all have a good day today.
Carol (DR)

Maria,

Five and one half years ago my seventeen year old son, Nick, was killed in a car accident. My world unraveled that morning and it has taken me this long to be able to talk or write about it without crying uncontrollably. I felt like I was drowning for so long I can't even remember much of what happened for nearly three years. My brother died the year after my son (my sister a little over a year before my son) and I didn't even have the strength to grieve for my brother. I didn't work for six months because I couldn't stand driving that far by myself - too much time to think. If I had lived alone, I think I would have just crawled into a hole and died, too.

You know everyone here cares about you and is always here to listen, but you need to spend time with people face to face. Phone calls are helpful, too. It sounds like you are spending too much time alone and there isn't anything to occupy your mind and help you get past this time. If you can't find a support group, please find an activity that involves other people to keep you occupied. Even if it's just grocery shopping with a friend once a week.

We are always here for you.

Jody