Suite 313. Sweet Interruptions.

HELLOOOOOOO, ANYONE OUT THERE?

I'm here! Sorry you're feeling puny. I bet little Autumn will keep you moving for a LONG time! =}

Jaye, glad you got yourself some pretties!

Busy sewing - just popping in so you aren't alone!!!!
Hi to all~~~~~

Hi Kathy, Joyce & Barb!!
I'm here too :-)

I was out all day!
Dropped the asswipe off this morning at 7, then head to the SSI office in Whiteville which is about 35 miles. Now you know how that goes if you don't have an appointment. First come first serve.
There was already a long que outside the door. Memorial Day will of course fill up the waiting chairs!
When it's my turn, nice guy hummed away while finding my info.. then he said, sorry Ms Blanchard, you're not under SSI but Medicaid, which is a different branch.
An hour of waiting for him to direct me to a place called Department of Social Services which is in another part of town.
Got there at 10 and left that place at 2!!
I am so glad that I enquired about the benefits of my MEdicaid,. for the file showd a different Primary Care Physician!!! My doctor won't get paid if I were to use him!!
So, papers were filed to change that. They'd have to reissue me another card. Don't know how long that would be, it'd be another week for bloodwork.

Got back in town and stopped at the local Chinese restaurant to treat myself.
Karen.. you'd be smiling away here.
Jinjin, whose son I used to babysit more than ten years ago was shocked to see me. I had not seen her since the drama.
She told me she even came by the house, and when she saw the tall weeds, she thought I had left.. she was worried for Kelvin and his bitch ate at her place often. When she asked about me, Kelvin will just not answer!!!
And he PAID the bills.
Yep more exposed lies. I knew when the tupperware came back untouched, he had lunch in town.
But Jin did say that Kel quit coming in but the bitch still go to the restaurant twice a month but by herself or to pick up food for the co workers.

I told Kel just now that Jin told me of their rendezvous. Of course, a liar and a thief will try to find ways to get out of that.
Nope not angry here. I got what I asked for right?

So.. I now have another cohort!!

Retail therapy again!! LOLOL.. he doesn't know it. Got two pairs of jeans, three packs of underwear (brother Ernie, stop reading).. nope not thongs.. three flopperstoppers!!! Lolol.
This will be it. I feel so guilty until I saw Jin.

All those food I had cooked for him which he threw, and deprived me of necessary cash.. I can say this. God isn't smiling. His vengeance will be frigtening for BOTH of them.
For Jin said, she asked about me, in front of Connor too and she turned her head away as though in disgust while Kel looked down. She's the disgusting one. And he's just a liar.

ah yes, Jaye - retribution will come about!!

That's comforting to my ears, Susan. I have cried more than enough for this man.

I had again told him to leave the house..hmm.. third time now. He swore again that he want make it work.
This is how sad it has become of what I felt for him. You are all told of how he wished for death, threw temper tantrums when he don't get his way?
Last night as usual, came home late. His to do list from Ida and I got longer. Shouted and screamed that he doesn't have any rest.. well duh.. he's never home.
Then started that poor me kille me.. I wanna be dead shouts.
Calmly I told him, that I am completely over his rants. Used to be sad when he wished for death, and now it's become the boy that cried wolf. I told him that it don't bother me anymore and that I'll be relieved if he truly leave.. anyway he chose how.
That shut him up.. but he didn't budge.

Oh thanks Cindy for the advice. I had made an account with Social Security years ago.. now got to get back to it.

Carole, don't run from my madness please. I am slowly trying to be that happy Jaye of years ago.

I agree with Susan. He will get his, and then some.
Glad to hear you went shopping for yourself.

I know the Lord will make sure i'm unaffected, LK.

It hurts that t BEGGED for food money, and all the time he spent on the whore. How low can this man go?

Cookie, did you ever, ever thought that Kel can turned out like this? He hid his true self for 12 years!!
WIth his first wife, 3 years. his second.. 7.
Again, if I had known his history, I won't be here. I see it as our Lord place me where I'm needed.
Brother Ernie was right. He was the first to tell me that all the signs lead to another woman.
And I kept denying for that's not the Kel I live with.
But, it's not a woman, it is a whore!! Jin said she's squat shapeless and evil!! For she was never friendly with Jin.. just ordered food and avoid small talk. Think she's prejudice too.
I asked Jin to take a picture of her next time she eats there. So I can show you all how she looks like. But then Jin isn't computer savvy!!

Don't worry about me, Jaye. I was a Domestic Violence Social Worker/Counselor and ran a Crisis Line for awhile. I've seen a lot, heard a lot, and I'm not easily shocked. I'm so sorry all this has happened to you.

Wow!! Carole, don't you think what Kel's doing to me can be called domestic violence as well
A relief knowing you've seen it all.

Hello Everyone,
The past few days I have had long talks with friends both male and female. They have been a GOD send to me. So I had a long talk with myself LOL and took a long hard look at my future. Knowing my funds are small I have decided to stay here in my mom's house and fix it up. I had planned on leaving Cali as soon as my brother came home but I can't afford to. There isn't much owed on this house and the mortgage payments are low, it's the property taxes that suck, but I can save a little each month. I am not looking to get into another serious relationship either but to find some guys who will be friends and take me riding once in awhile. LOL funny how that works too I got an offer to go riding Saturday and this guy doesn't even know what I've been going through. He wanted to meet and maybe date but he's only 47 :) I met him on bikerornot and we just kept chatting with each other. he has a girlfriend and she knows about me and knows that John and I are just friends. Anyhow back to where I was.. I had posted all of this on my FB page and have a lot of friends who are rooting for me and will help me through this. I am a giver not a taker and I love my friend's and family and will do whatever I can to help. They all know about my break up with Doug and know that he was the one who cheated on me. So they know what I am going through. I have made a vow to get out there and start seeing my friends again and not let the sight of Doug and his gf bother me. I know I am better off and she is in for a rude awakening :) The weather has not turned cold yet but as soon as it does he goes into hibernation and then we will see how long it will take her to toss him out :) So from this day forward I am on the road to a healthier (going back on my diet) and happier me :)

We got a call from my brother that he has been notified of his up coming board review and he could possibly be coming home soon, or they could deny him still and it will be 2018 before he comes home. For my mom's sake I hope it's sooner.

I take mom to the doctors tomorrow and I have a feeling they will be doing surgery soon

Time to get ready for bowling...............Have a good evening!!

Prayers for you, Jaye, and Cindy...... you sure need them!!

Yes, Jaye, It's a form of domestic violence.

Cindy, I hope it's sooner for your brother too. That's so difficult for moms. BTW, I lived in Redding for 20 years and was in Auburn a few times. I remember the Joss House and the cool old Firehouse with the bell. :)

Oh boy went to sleep about 9 now it's 130 and I just woke up and I am wide awake. Iguess I will watch the rifle man how many episodes of this can I stand. We have net flix and I could watch a movie if I was smart enough to turn it on but it is electronic and I am clueless. Linda is fast asleep so I am fresh out of luck.

Not much to do these days just a bit of garden clean up and hauling flower pots into the warm gh but I still can't walk so it's all up to Tim. and Linda to get ready for the winter.

Cindy I hope you do start going out a pox on those two. He has no class you don't want him anyway you can do much better. Years ago I had a girl friend who gave me two dear john letters while I was in the Navy and young and bullet proof except for one thing a girl. Anyway after four years of eating my heart out I gave it to someone else. We are still married after 48 years. I still see her once in a while and thank my lucky stars she showed her true colors. She has gone by five husbands and is hooked on MJ what a loser. Thank you Judy for breaking our engagement plans. So you see Cindy there is life after death. You just need a little fresh air.

Goodness. Looks like several of you were night owls.

Cindy, sorry to hear you are going through all that. I know there is the right man out there for you.

Chin up ladies. Today is a new day with possibilities. Hope you are all have a good day.

A new minute, a new hour, and a new evening coming up! Yep, Barb, thanks for those uplifting words.

Cindy, you are worth your weight in gold. You honestly look out for your family, and sister, I pray that your brother get released soon.

Ernie, God surely gives you the right partner! Many of us here go through two.. three...

Nothing much going on here. Got fabric to cut, again.. sucks when cataract makes you see double!! Lol.

Waving to all.

Ernie - good thing that God interfered and Judy broke the engagement plans. Now you have your bride of 48 years, and very happy.

I'm Bob's 3rd wife, but I have met his 2nd and he's so lucky not to be involved with her, and according to Bob's daughter he's lucky not to be with his 1st (her mother). Bob's other son (from 2nd wife) won't have anything to do with HIS mother. She's a real piece of work - I should know, I've met her and so have 2 lawyers who also do not like her lol
So, Bob is my 2nd, and I'm perfectly happy to be with him.
We're blessed to be together - feel better with him here than I ever was otherwise.

Jaye, the throw came today. Even though it took the circumnavigate route, the timing was perfect. I had gone to the grocery this morning and came home thinking a lot about hubby and feeling very sad. Had a good cry. Your thoughtfulness cheered me.

This isn't the best photo. I'll try again tomorrow. :)

Thank you for your thoughtfulness. Love you.

Good Afternoon Friends!

Well not very good news for Mom. They are really hesitant to do surgery as it is very risky especially for her age. The doctor explained that because of her age the surgery could make things worse and she would end up on more pills. So she suggested to take Tylenol along with the Naproxen 2 -3 times a day. But they are still looking at other options. As we were walking out mom says "I knew the minute I saw her I wasn't going to like her" I said Why? she says "Because she was NOT my regular doctor" OMG!!!! are you kidding me Mom?? I thought she was very nice and very understanding. Mom says yeah she was nice i said Mom Dr. Yabes probably had an emergency is why he couldn't see you today/ Oh Lord give me extra strength, lol Then stupid me just add more salt to the wound....I asked when her eye appt is? She says the 28th, Why? I just remembered you had one this month she says Yeah and he will probably take my driver's license away. I said Well he wanted to take it away 6 months ago I said Better safe than sorry. but i don't go any where but to the bank and grocery store, I said Yeah and hwy 49 is a death trap you see how many people run red lights???? I know she is depressed about not being able to bowl, being in pain and now not being able to drive. This is one reason why I told my daughter I need to have more days off. LOL she just came to me and asked if there was a way i could fix an old neck brace so she can try to bowl. GAWD she is stubborn!!!

Sounds like my granny before she passed. If she did not get her way, she thew a fit.

Yeah, and I talked to my mom the other day - she wants to get up from her wheelchair and practice walking with a walker again - OMG......... no, says I - she is too frail and falls all the time. She said That's what the other girls tell me, and the staff here (at the care home). I said - they're right - you fall, and can't get yourself up. She then told me about when she went to Stan's place (where they used to live together, before she sold the house to him and went into care), walked up the stairs to the house, then proceeded to go to the bathroom all by herself. Then she said "then I woke up". Oh yeah, it was a dream....... But she's determined to find a walker around and "practice" walking by herself..... oh, and we "Singleton Women" aren't stubborn - we're "Determined" ever so much better, don't you think? lol
I told her I'm using a walker now, too, and would love to be able to run again, but I know that's not going to happen. Sometimes we just have to accept getting older, I told her.
She will scheme & plan though - I know this lol silly woman.........!!

Just returning the love you had shared Carole.
I am so sorry that you are now left all by yourself. If only we live nearby, you will get cheering up in the flesh!. But hoping, the blanket will remind you that you are loved.
When you wrap yourself with it, may your spirits be lifted.
I cannot think of anyone here who don't deserve kindness. These are a bunch of great ladies and a brother, who give their best to me when I need, and I am only paying forward
And don't say you didn't do anything. You had purchased a DG subscription for me, once, and when you read how things are turning out for me, you had shown your empathy.
See how a simple act of kindness can do?

Oh Cindy... Susan..smiling away here.
.I wish I can complain about my mother. She died too early, cancer gave her one month to finish her tasks on earth.
You both just enjoy your mothers, and yes, do what you're doing now, laugh at their 'ridiculous' behaviour behind their backs. Release your frustrations!!


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I wish I could enjoy my mom - she lives too far away to see her except once every few years........

I'm having one of my grumpy nights tonight...........
I guess we're all allowed it once every once in awhile.

Wait a minute there, Susan.
I happened to be the Queen of Grumps. So your few grumps are miniscule compared to mine!!

if you say so, Jaye............

Asking everyone to keep my boys in prayer for strength. Their Dad is failing quickly, and they are taking it so hard. Please ask if it is HIS will to take him quickly.

Still praying for strength for all, and for him, a painless journey.
So sad, your sons have finally reconciled but thank God it's before dad's "due date".
Hugs to you my sister.

Thanks Jaye.

My news on friend's hubby Wes. She didn't share much, but said doctor told him he has 6 months. That must be hard for a doctor to have to tell his patient that he only has a short time to live. My friend didn't share much with me yet, but I know she spends a lot of time crying. She met a woman from church who is into holistic healing and she is going to try that. I wish she would share more with me. He never complained when he didn't feel good so she never knew if something was wrong. Keep both of them in prayers please.

Thunder and lots of rain, but only lasted a little while. It is going to be a cooler day so that means I better get some chores done. Put a couple of bags out by the curb for the cancer fund, a little more out of my way.

Sending you hugs of strength, LK.

Me too.

Pegi, I will keep them in our prayers.

Thanks everyone.

LK - he's in our prayers, certainly, for an easy end. I pray that everyone involved will see that it's for the best. Yes, it's hard on the boys - never easy, but they get to be together in his last days. This is not something every family can say, so they are blessed in this.

Pegi - it's hard on her when he hasn't shared, but they now have a timeline for preparing for the inevitable.......
I pray that they will share more and spend quality time together.

Heard from a lawyer that what we have with our tenants is a Periodic Tenancy, and as such we can give them 3 month's notice (as of Nov 1st) and oust them on January 31st by noon.......... So, not in time for Christmas or New Year's, but in time for our birthdays in March!!

That's one good news Susan. You'd be getting back your home for birthday!!

Pegi, I am proud of you for checking up on Wes' wife. She'd need all the support she can get.
Yes, will keep them in my prayers as well.

Just talked to a sister who's gonna make it possible for me to shop at Hoby Lobby without rousing Kel's suspicion. Lololol. I will be pretty good at telling white lies.
I will be getting much needed quilting supplies. It's been dry for a year!!

Hooray, Jaye - back to shopping at Hobby Lobby lol

AND we'll be back in time for our friend, Susan, to come visit from Atlanta GA (she's the one who sent you the video..... "Batteries Not Included")

Enjoy your shopping Jaye.

Susan, it is nice to hear you will be back in your own place soon.

Keeping you and your family in my prayers LK. I'm glad your boys were able to be with him...

Thanks Barb.