Rm 297 "Sweet Interruptions" Hotel

Jaye called me back ........... She is ok as can be . And said she will try and stop in here .

sending jaye our love

Well Joyce, as there is only 4 1/2 years difference between the oldest & youngest, I don't think they'll be too upset. Yup I was busy for a few years there. LOL

Did you finally figure out what caused that?? ;o)

Eventually, that's why there were only 4. Actually we wanted 6 but quit at 4.

Thanks for letting us know about Jaye. We all worry about each other.

I'm glad she called you - she did say she had a phone call to make :-)

He's moving out today. I packed his bag.
He already will be depositing future checks into her account.
He promised to leave me with a meager 500 a month.

Don't judge me please. All these years I consider him as a husband, but we are not married. He had made the promise to the Lord to take care of me through thick and thin, and I behold him to that. I've always honored him and treat him as a husband as you all know.
Cookie, you saw my driver's license.
I couldn't bring about the truth, as I am so ashame for letting you all think that we are legally married.

He had considered 500 as generous, as him and her had checked what is the usual payment in NC, for one without kids and according to his wages, which he cleared under 2 grand a month.
He said he'll sign over the trailer to me. The land his mother has usufruct but he doesn't know that as long as the trailer is fixed on the land, the trailer can't be moved as it's considered real estate.

God will take care of me. Forgive my lies.
I love you all.

I am looking for jobs that don't require much standing. The most I can stand on my feet, is one hour. I timed it today, but will continue to strengthen myself for days to come.

Jaye - you have not lied - as far as I know, being with someone for 12 years constitutes marriage, even in NC lol
and honey - we would NEVER judge you. Heck, I lived with my Bob before we got married. Worrying about this kind of stuff is rather old school. The LORD knows your heart, and who are we to judge? "Judge not, lest ye be judged" is what it says in the Bible, and whether we're Christian or not, you ARE, and you cannot take anything but the Lord's judgement upon yourself. btw - as I said to you yesterday, you are "God's Kid" and he doesn't judge you - he LOVES you, as do we all here!

$500 is NOT generous, but you at least get to keep your home. Be a "lily of the field" my dear Jaye - the Lord will look after you. How appropriate that you should be a Lily, in a gardening site, with all the rest of us flowers keeping watch over your heart!!
We LOVE you, Jaye!!

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Jaye I think you are doing the right thing, to kick him out. You don't need someone unfaithful to you. You will go on to your next chapter in your life, and be much happier.
Sending lots of thoughts and prayers your way! (((((((((((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))))))))))

Jaye,
You have nothing to be ashamed of.
What we all knew and saw was the love you had for eachother.
I am just so sorry it has come to this.
So glad you are staying in your home!
Wrapping my arms around you wish it was in person.

I will add to my prayers for your job search.
Love you.

Jaye dear we all love you as you are. His going back to mommy? well he deserves what he gets there. Betting he will soon find out where his bread was buttered. And when mommy is gone? He will flounder.

Just remember we all love you and stay with us so we don't worry about you.

Thank you all for your love and non condemnation. God is pleased with the sisters and brothers of this thread.

Karen, he's moving in with the woman. She needs his money as she needs to pay out her husband on the house and she has a huge car note, plus she makes only 1600 a month.
She works on the same shift, same unit as him. I found out they had gone to concerts together, and that's true betrayal, as he knows I enjoy them yet he never took me to one in 12 years.

Yes 500 is not much, after 400 gone on utilities, basic cable, net and land phone. So, I'm left with 100 for food.. 25 a week? Forget gas.
HE brought me the 19 cats, they eat 66 pounds of dry food a week, since it;s cold now and the sick ones eat canned food. This is a kill shelter county and none will adopt any cats.
I have learnt to go without heat in this house. LOL.. quilters aren't short of quilts. I pray to God that there'll be no snow this year.
At least the cats have fur.
The new one, Eli, the last one he brought home, he has no thought as to its' survival.
Lots of anger in me, but I have to let that go for it only will make me a bitter woman.

I have been losing weight, BUT, I found my joyful back voice, slowly. I had lost that when I know he's up to something devilish, but have no proof until God laid out his schemes and lies, all done behind my back.

FUnny that once at a restaurant, she was approaching our table with her husband, and Kel whispered "She's country". I had to scold him for calling her that.

He had always said he hate cheaters, and now he becomes the ones he hate.

what a combo!!

Oh, he hasn't told his mother yet, but I told him to do so today before the town tells her.

Sending love and Prayers for you..

Oh man...you know He should actually pay for all bills and food for "his"
kids...I mean he is the one to be bringing them in.
And thats additional to the very meager 500.

And i dont know, because i am being mean...let her find out from the
town, serves them all!

Thank you Liz, I appreciate your love very much and the prayers. Don't lurk please, come right in whenever, the rest don't bite!!

Judy, Judy, Judy... he is wanting to make me whither and die slowly. But as Susan says, God will take care of the Lily :D
I stand on His rock, and I thank you for your smoke offerings.
Winter will be a bleak time to get a job, and I am prepared to spend my first holidays alone.
Actually, this is freedom God gave me.
For years, in my prayers, I had asked for evil to be removed from this house as He is Lord of my home. He answered my prayers by removing Kel. Never thought it would be the man I love very much.
It could be much worse, but God won't give me more than I can handle.
:D

Jaye youwill get threw this. You don't need a lying cheat anyway. We all love you and are here for you. Tell him he better pay child support, after all they arehis children. If and you are ready to talk, I am here. I love you, as everyone in this room does. (((((HUGS)))))

Oh Jayegirl,

So sorry to read what has happened. YOU have been on my mind every since I first read how mean he was treating you. Some men are such JERKS!!! But beware!!! He will find out that this other woman is just using him to get her debts paid then once they are she will kick him out!
Been there done that more than once stupid men!!! ^_^


There are times I wished I lived by myself, lol

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Jaye
No shame I too have been living with kenny for the last 17 years I just accepted it ..
he is one of
Those if its not broken dont fix it.
so I for one would never judge you and none of the sisters would either.
we love you for who you are.

btw, He'S GOING STRAIGHT. TO HELL FOR THIS!
OK im done didnt mean to get so excited

I will come by and visit when I can. Pray for you. Liz

(((((Jaye))))) you should know better than to think we'd judge you, sweet girl. In your mind and heart, Kel was your husband. That's what counts. I'm afraid I must agree that she is probably using him. But he will surely get his in the end!! What goes around, comes around!!

((( Jaye )))) please let me help you. Tom is a lawyer and if you would like, he may be able to help you in some decisions . I would look into NC laws. In CA 7 yrs is considered a legal marriage and your entitled to half of everything maybe even alimony ? I would get your bank accounts and take what is yours . I would not settle for the 500 until you get some legal advice , please let Tom and I talk with you about your choices.
I m very sorry my dear Sistah you are going through this.
" she's " lucky i m not in NC but i will be thanksgiving !!!!!!! grrrrrrrr ooohh Lawdy Lawdy she don't want some of this..... Lawdy Lawdy .... Kel don't want none of this either !!!

Reading your posts truly lift me up!
Lolol Lizrainey, I don't wish it on him, but YOU can.
Cookie, Kel's overconfident and think that what he does, God will forgive him. He does, but He did say sin no more, and Kel didn't quit!!

Kel said he had stopped being in love with me for 5 years now. Hmm.. wasn't that the year we went to BJ's? So it must be immediately after my heart surgery when my health went downhill.
Come to think of it, I was very healthy in Louisiana. Came here, broke my leg, heart surgery and severe diabetes.
Lord may be telling me something. With him gone, there'll be no this and that and no volatile shouts nor hits. Those stress me out. May be I can restore my health and not be in deep depression as you all saw me.

Another thing too, he had promised to redo the interior of this house. The trailer had an add on and it looked like a house. But he had ripped the vinyl floors, and brought cats in.
So.... I now have bare floors, scratched moldings, no more furniture as he threw them out Just a computer chair and a work table that the cats now used as feeding table.
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Nope, Kelvin isn't Ernie. Kel's excuse not to fix things is he;s too busy with the second job and his family. Yep, he's too busy with his third wife.

Today, he managed to bring me to vote, but we acted like strangers when we walked out of the truck.
Told me that his work pants button came off... so he's still NOT ready to pick that bag and go.
I told him to let his new gf fix the pants, sheepishly he asked me to do so.
What did Jaye say.. don't get upset, sisters and brother. I agree to do it, as I know God doesn't want me to be ugly and remembering that vengeance belongs to God.

What more abject humiliation can he give me?? Sis Kathy, I told him to pick up Tootsie, Scrunchy, Jazzie, Chevy, Harriet, Muffinman, Dallas, Silver, Glitter (if we can catch her), Babs, Forrest and Jackie.
Since he bragged how has a big building where she keeps her Siamese cats, he can house them there too. And I gave him a list to their individual needs and ailments. He'll know what it's like to be a real parent to HIS rescues. And she can clean their litter box.

I am afraid that she might let them loose and let her mutts kill them, then it will be on his head. I would love to keep them myself, but can't afford to feed them well.
I will have Temu, Cupcake, Goldie. Garcon and the little Eli. As soon as Eli, Temu and Garcon are fixed, they will go to him too.

Music blasting and it's not healthy I know to be in limbo, But it's so comforting to come here and FB to see so many prayers going up for me.

Jaye, don't you ever forget we are all family here and you are dearly loved. Please let us know if there is anything we can do. And please listen to Sue. She has good advice.

Sending my prayers tonight too Jaye. It is not easy but I'm so proud you hung on and he is the one to leave the home. Can't wait until his mother finds out!!!!!! She will make the new ones life just as miserable as she made yours I'll bet. I'm trying real hard not to swear but it isn't easy.
Sending my love dear heart.....Barb

Jaye - you ARE one of God's lilies and he will take care of you.
Bless all of you who are able to help Jaye, more than I can (way over here in Canada)!!

btw - I have some news of my own........ remember my son, Daniel? He got in touch with me in July, when I sent him a pic of us, and his grandma.
He just got back in touch with me today...... on FB
here's what he says.......:
Daniel Wyatt
Hi Mom, I'm getting married in March and my fiance would really love to meet you before we do... I know it's been a very long time, and it may not be easy, but hopefully we can find a way...
Daniel

Susan MacKenzie
Daniel - this is very startling and very happy news. We're pleased for you.
What is her name?

Daniel Wyatt
Her name is Noel, we've been together for 4 years now and I'm madly in love with her

I then asked if the pictures on his page are current and is the one of her.......
Here is the picture of the two of them
http://prntscr.com/5367p1

I haven't been here much so when I read all the sad news I wanted to put my arms around you Jaye and not let go. You are a very strong woman. It makes me so sad that Kel would treat you like this.((((Hugs))))
We all love you and our prayers will continue on for you. Please stay here with us.

good morning. coffee is on.
Susan what wonderful news !!! . So glad he reached out to you.
Hi Pegi ! :)
well sleeping in bed with a 70 lbs dog , hmmmm. She hogged the whole bed ! i had al ittle corner on the edge LOL. I thought she would move through out the night but NO . she slept like a mountain nor did she move ! . Bella and i will need to discuss this.
so glad these elections are over ! no more of the awful commercials.
have a good day everyone
its raining here and cold.

Morning everyone.

Susan, that is awesome news. I hope you get to see them soon.

I think I am happiest in the fact that your son reached out to you Susan. How great is that??
Praying Jaye.......

Haven't been here for a few days..still involved with dental work but hopefully that is finished.

Now, Susan that is fantastic news and I am truly happy for you!

Jaye, It is not my place to judge nor do I want to judge. I meet a beautiful lady with a heart of gold and at the time a very charming man with love in his eyes at BJ's. Truly sadden by the things that have occurred since but will never, ever judge you nor others as I haven't a clue what really goes on in all of our lives. Hold your head high as you have done more than I think I would have done under the circumstances.

I would add my thoughts to others and do listen to Sue's advice. That I think would be in you very best interest!!! Think of Jaye now.

Sending much love, prayers and all the good thoughts I can to you....we are all sisters via the internet.

Morning Marion, I hope your not in too much pain with all that dental work!

I'm proud of you as well, Jaye. You have done nothing wrong. We don't know God's plan for us, but I keep praying for his will. He knows best for us.

I'm glad that you're insisting he takes most of the cats. Only those of us who have many know the cost and time they take. I'm sure THAT saddens you as well, but you have to eat!!

Marion, so glad to see you posting. I've missed you.

Sue, your son is handsome. I'm glad he contacted you. Must do your heart good!

We had garden club last night and made terrariums. Fun, fun!! Can't believe it's November already!

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I have some sad news. The high school i went to ( very long time ago ) is known for its push on academics. The parents also in this area are hard core competitve people who push their children to the brink of perfection , that no one can reach IMHO. I remember to well at the daycare i worked at back in the 90's. Parents were raising baby einstens and making 2 yr olds do math ! The push to excel and be smarter then the next 2 yr old was so obnoxious !!!! and its only getting worse.
The young man killed himself. He left a note to his parents and it only said. " i can't take the pressure anymore " . These poor parents have to live with this.
My heart is broken for these young people who take their lives .
just needed to talk :(

Sue, so sorry to hear that he took his life! It is pretty sad that some have to push too hard! Sending prayers to the family!

Very sad indeed. I knew a young man who was always called "dummy" by his dad. He hung himself leaving a note signed "dummy".

Just saw a posting on FB. Jimmy Kimmel asks his viewers each Halloween to tell their children they ate all their candy and then video the responses which he shows on his show to huge laughs. Well sorry folks, I don't watch his show because I do not get amused by people who get their jollies being cruel to the children they are supposed to love. Just my take on it.

Good Morning Ladies and Gents,

Jayegirl, hope you are hanging in there!

I could use some prayers or rather my Brother. He goes before the board for his parole hearing today. Please pray they let him come home, my mom needs him really bad. She has been real sick with stomach issues and I believe a lot of it is due to stress of this day. Won't know anything until later this afternoon, so please, please pray for us!

Sending prayers Cindy!

Thank you, Thank you for your words re: my son & his fiance.
Dan & Nikki are obviously very happy, as am I to finally be able to see my son after 16 years!
The next few weeks are going to drag and fly by!!

signed
Susan (hehehehe couldn't resist - I'm in such a jolly mood!)

Susan, you must be over the moon to resume an overdue relationship with your long lost son. Never too late for anything, especially when it comes to family. Daniel is good looking and his wife's lovely.

Marion, isn't it wonderful that you can use your fingers to do the talking? Thank you for not judging me, and Kel is really good at charade isn't he?

Cookie, I have grown very attach to all, but yes, with that little money he's doling out, there's no way I can afford to maintain their survival. Let his new gf do the litter boxes now. What worries me, is that Kel will ignore their health issues.

Sue, it's the same way in Singapore. A very competetive and super achieving island when it comes to education. Kids start as young as 2!!! Imagine kindergarten at that age and when they turned 5, learning lessons of first graders here?
We have a neighbour's son who committed suicide as he failed to get admittance to the top university. He wrote that he didn't want to dishonor the family. He jumped off the 10th floor of our apartment building :(

That's so sad Karen, names can hurt. My late father had always called me hippo.
And as for Jimmy K.. I don't watch him.

Sending prayers Cindy. Really wishing your brother can halp your mum.
Thank you each and everyone of you for your prayers.

Kel still hasn't left the house, as he still has to fix my truck. After that, I know he'll be gone and fix his truck at his new home.

Mentally, I'm exhausted, been putting in job applications online. Add that to your prayers sisters and brother.
Eli has been keeping me up too, and Lola somehow knows it's gonna be just me and her. She growls at daddy this morning!
All in God's will, and Cheater and Chicken will meet their karma. Though I say I forgive him, the flesh in me is still sad..