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My DH said "you hadn't been in bed long enough to fall asleep" but I was drifting.....

Mary - I'm a "birth mom", so I get to see it from the "other side of the fence". I've talked to my son, but he's decided he doesn't want to see me. He apparently didn't like my side of the story.
I think one of the fellows at the Bible Study today said it best "an adopted child wants to believe that the parent/s are like Malibu Barbie and Ken, and often are hurt/disappointed when they're not the 'perfect' people they've pictured all their lives.".

Wow Susan... isn't that the truth! We all want our parents to be "perfect" and unfortunately that is rarely the case....
My sis has issues still with our Mom and Dad... yet I still hold them as "perfect" as they could be... however I am not as "perfect" as my sister so perhaps my standards are more realistic... LOL.....
I suppose it's all in your "perspective"... ((HUGS))

lol ain't that the truth. I think I've become either more "perfect" in my daughter's eyes, or she's more understanding now that she's in her 30's..........

Morning all, looks dull anjf gloomy out there however it is calling for sunshine..let's hope it's so!

In that terrible storm a few weeks ago the large stained glass window had some damage from banging against the decking posts so this morning I did step 1 of the repair, tonight the 2nd and it's ready to hang, bought two 'L' brackets to attach so that will solve that problem.
Love putting a line through my list of 'to do's when I accomplish it.

Didn't sleep well, terrible dreams so will be tired today..sooo hoping that Paul tells us to go home early..doubtful but I can always hope.

Crissy, your mom must have had low self esteem to think she couldn't do better with her life by putting him at the curb..so glad she made the choice and has a nice life now..must be hard for you to get beyond your childhood with your dad...got to tell you. Though, you sure did rise above it.

Susan, most likely it's your daughter growing up and it is showing her the other side of the story...let's hope your son comes to realize that as well.

Mary you so have me laughing, isn't there always a perfect sibling..glad you weren't the one..they seem to be so on a higher level, always high strung! You are too much fun, stay that way for always..meant to ask, how does your son accept hubby, know hubby's girls give you a hard time but is he accepting..wether you divorce in their early years or late years it sure does play havoc in the childrens years!!

Looking at the clock, time to get a move on.

Good Morning everyone! Didn't sleep well last night either Betty, to bad we don't live closer we could have had tea and crumpets.
DH and I met with our GP yesterday to hear the results of DH's MRI. The results were not something we wanted to hear. In a nutshell my DH has cancer, it has metastasized and the primary location of the cancer is unknown at this point in time. Lots of C scans and blood work coming up - in fact DH has to go to Kingston for some blood work this am. We are going into this journey with the philosophy that the glass is half full not half empty. Any positive thoughts you can send our way would be greatly appreciated.
Enjoy your day everyone! We are supposed to have rain off and on today and tomorrow. Ugh!!!
Dianne

Dianne, so sorry to hear the news! Please know we are sending lots of good thoughts, and lots of prayers! ((((((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))) to you both!

Dianne, I lost my 21 yr old grand D to C that she had sense age 15 about 4 yrs ago. It is a very hard thing to go through. Try to keep a smile on your face and laugh as often as possible. Sometimes I need to take my own advice. God Bless and I will be sending prayers often, BEV

Morning Bev, love that picture! How are you doing? Is Scotty getting settled in?

Dianne, no words to express how very sorry I am to hear the news..when Roger passed 20 years ago (a lifetime ago and yet like yesterday) few survived "C" but on the news this morning they had glowing reports on what strides they have made, how many are beating it...your husband will be on the survivor percentage for sure..glass is indeed just a tad more than 1/2 filled..sending prayers...and hugs for you....

Bev, yes indeed you should take your advice...that angel is in your grandaughters memorial garden is it not? How are you doing my friend???

LindaKay, what do you have planned for today? Still no sight of rain? Have been doing my rain dance for you all but maybe I've got the steps mixed up...ooops

My daily e-mail from Joel Olsteen:

When you woke up this morning, what was the first thing that you thought of? Did you start the day expecting God’s goodness, or is there a circumstance that is overwhelming you and consuming your thoughts?
Today, I want to encourage you that no matter what you are facing, choose to praise to the Lord. Choose to declare His goodness. Your words have tremendous power, and they open the door for either God to work in your life or the enemy to work in your life. Don’t magnify your problems today, magnify your God!
Scripture says that God inhabits the praises of His people. When you praise Him, He shows up and all the forces of the enemy have to flee! There’s no foe that can stand against you in the presence of Almighty God!
Why don’t you take a few moments right now and set the tone for the day by praising God and speaking words of faith over your future. Thank Him for His goodness, faithfulness and love. Praise Him at all times because He is good and worthy, and watch how He transforms every area of your life!


Dianne, the section listed below will surely come to pass as we're all here praying the glory of the Lord in your husbands name...

Scripture says that God inhabits the praises of His people. When you praise Him, He shows up and all the forces of the enemy have to flee! There’s no foe that can stand against you in the presence of Almighty God!

Staying inside Betty, 107 today, is too hot to be outside! Garden is not doing well, no matter how many times I water! I think I will give up on the angel trumpets next year, and focus more on roses, that I know will take this heat!

I would imagine Lindakay that there is a line of plants that are extremely drought resistant right?

Trumpets look so delicate, bet they wilt in the slightest heat.

Guess with all the rain in May and no sun all my plants have tried to reach the sky in order to get some sunlight so not sure how blooming will be this year..they are massive..thoughts are to cut down and move a few but then next year comes and its a different story..

Lordy I was silly, Paul asked me if I had picked up the canvas for his boat top I'm doing, said I'd go this weekend to get it at the canvas supplier..now why didn't I say I haven't had time and he'd most likely have told me to leave early and pick it up...not swift am I??

Cactus are drought tolerant, but they grow wild here, and I don't want them in my yard.

We have a lot of drought tolerant plants here..have several of them...should add a few more of these to my list

http://www.sunlightgardens.com/lists/drought_tolerant.html

Mary the Kopper King is NOT supposed to have star shaped blossoms. As pretty as it is, something is seriously wrong!

You know Betty, my mom is a follower, not a leader, nothing's changed except for the fact she's not married to an alcoholic, this guy is gone all day and spends their money on handicapped scooters he fixes and resells, at least she's getting something back. I think she stayed with my dad because of money, and since she's afraid of everything she feared that she wouldn't be able to make it without his salary, until she figured out that he was spending all of his paychecks and half of hers, in the late 1980's he made $22 an hour and she made $18, so money was not a problem, or so it seemed to me.

What makes it really tough is my dad's girlfriend calling me to talk about all of their problems and asking me how she needs to handle it. I want to say "Call my mom, she's the one who dealt with it, I'm just the kid!" She can't figure out why my dad doesn't know how to treat her son. I think I upset her when I told her that 1. I'm not a son, and 2. he was never home to be a parent. She has an excuse for everything that's not right, drives me nuts and I'm not really looking forward to going up there because of it. I don't need or want to know about what kind of person my dad is, I'm very well aware of what kind of person my dad is and the only way to deal with it is to leave him, when he starts playing around he's done, he doesn't like home life, he doesn't like family and it's he likes the bar life and his bar fly friends and that's it. He'll die in a bar.

I know where my dad's coming from because her 21 year old son lives at home, doesn't work, and doesn't even drive. All he wants to do is sit in front of the Wii and all Yvette says is "Poor Kyle doesn't have this, Poor Kyle Poor Kyle." We had to hear for years and years about how my aunt's daughter Kari, the one who contacted me recently, was all strung out on meth and who knows what else, "Poor Kari Poor Kari Poor Kari." It's the same thing with a different person, except Kyle is too lazy to do drugs. Of course he's not at home, he doesn't want to hear it and I don't blame him. My dad's biggest fault is not leaving the relationship but playing around instead, but when someone plays around on him, ooohhhh good Lord.

You just got to wonder Crissy how humans can get themselves in so much trouble!!! Wonder if they ever realize how much hurt they've caused others..you have a very forgiving nature when it comes to your dad! Think we'd best put Kyle in with my nephew Brian..seems they've the same life ambitions..

Dianne I am sooo sorry to hear this news! How horrible but Betty's right in saying they have come a long way with diagnosis and treatment and I know you will get through this.

Yeah, LK you live in the desert and I don't blame you for not wanting cactus in your yard, I for one can't stand cactus so I feel your pain. I wouldn't like living in the desert at all. Do you get monsoons down there?

When we purchase floral dishes there are always a few wee cactii, look so pretty!!!

Drats, being miserable today..

Sharon said tomorrow afternoon she would drive up north to visit Dad's grave, I'd already pretty well figured out how I would do all I have to do..on a time line..busy/busy..said I could change it around to accommodate her..

Thought as I wanted to go to the nursery which is about 8 miles south of where she'd be passing could she pick 2 giant baskets up for me..said it wasn't on her way...I go 50 - 100 miles out of my way to do something for her but she no can do..I'm going to wait a bit and msn her back and say I could not change my plans, perhaps another time...I AM miserable aren't I?

I wish we had monsoons! I was searching the web today, and it said our average summer temps are only 94 degrees! I laughed so hard! Don't know where they got that info! Right now, we are 10 degree's our average temps. No rain in sight. So this year will be with a few rose blooms, and one mandevilla, that's it!

Normally in June would you have had rain??? I'm sure your soil must be baked..beautiful mandevilla...Mother Nature must be on a rampage..

Our caliche soil is so dry, and has big cracks in it! No green grass anywhere. Normally we would have some rain by now, but this darn weather pattern this year has pushed it all to the Missouri, and Mississippi rivers! I feel sorry for those that are flooding!

LindaKay, think after what you are experiencing weather wise I'll be thankful for rain and sunshine mix during each week..so very quiet here today, soooo bored, didn't bring anything with me, should have..watching movies, sipping coffee..3hours to go..guess it's worse when I've a zillion things I could be doing!

so sorry to hear your news - I agree that the meds and treatments are so much more now-a-days.
I will keep you both in my prayers.

Morning!

Yes, I lurk once in awhile, but am not very good. Yes, it's been rough and the this last week has been the worst so far. I cry at the drop of a hat and am having a hard time getting past it. I know that it will get better, but I don't like to go any place nor do I feel like going any where or doing much of anything. I have to force myself to get up and get thing done. Just wanted to let ya know I'm still here and will chat more when I'm up to it. Please know that even though I don't stop in and chat I think of you all often and wish the best for you all. Please take care and God Bless you all.

Shirley

(((((((((Shirley))))))))))) gentle and sincere hugs to you. I wish I were there to hold you close and kick your butt every now and then, to get you motivated lol (we can force you, m'dear, but you're right - you have to do it too).
You know we love you, girl, and want only the best. Too bad the best is so difficult to attain, but know that we're here for you.

Hey Shirley, glad you popped in! Are you still working, or taking time off?
Please pop in when you can, were here with big shoulders to cry on if need be!

Shirley, my heart goes out to you, hard times for sure!! It's to be expected...with all that you did to keep the house, yard and Tubby cared for without any thought or concern for yourself for such a long peeriod of time, you are bound to have hit a low..have you spoken to your doctor with regards to meds to help you through this difficult time??? You know we're always here, no further than the keyboard to listen/offer prayers and hugs.

Have you been back working, sometimes that helps keep the loneliness at bay...how is your mom doing, were you able to get up and visit with her? soooo many questions, but am sure the answers will also bring tears so I'll not ask...drop in when you feel strong enough..will try to call you over the weekend!

((((((((((((((((((((SHIRLEY)))))))))))))))))))))) Big big hugs! I'm so glad you popped in, I completely understand it's not the best of times, you know we're all here whenever you want to chat, or rant, or whatever you decide to do!

Poo LK, I was hoping that you get some of those monsoons that AZ gets, I don't know if I'd want a whole monsoon but maybe a piece of one? LOL

Bless you Shirley. I'm so glad to see you pop in. We have truly missed you but do understand.
Dianne, my heart is with you and your DH. Not what I hoped to hear but I'm praying it is fixable. I'll be saying extra prayers for you and your hubby from now on...
Not much to post today. Headaches for some reason and I never get them.. Back to lay down for a while....

Must partly to do with weather conditions that some are having headaches...a nice lay down might help in an a/c room..clouds moved on, it's a hot day..just came in for a rest..dug and moved earth for past hour, now it's a pepsi and strawberries,,am sure if I got another 2 or 3 hours I might be able to set the liner in..

Might call Cathy and see if she'd like to take a ride to Washago tonight..an hours drive there and another back..would pass the evening and I'd get one more thing crossed off my 'to do' list!

Sure wish you lived closer, I'd put you to work

Barb, might just be after stress of the operation..you might have been straining those eyes!

Break time, kept listening for a car door, thought you might arrive any minute to help..even made lemonade!!

Ran into another problem but didn't last long..called Cathy to see if she'd like to take a run to mom and Jim's but she wasn't home, her dad said that he thought about me saying I'd have to pick up something to put down so rocks wouldn't damage the liner...well he said he had big canvas tarps and he'd drop them off for me to use..when he arrived and saw that I has dug up some 4" wide rusted metal, we dug about 6' and still no sight of the end, most likely the only tool I don't have is an axe, off home he went, came back and now no more metal so come morning I can continue my project!! Thank goodness for neighbors and friends..Corey from across the street said he would be thrilled to get the air conditioner I had sitting taking up space so over he came..feel I've accomplished much.

Mom called, they were near Barrie on their way to the cottage, wanted to know if I'd rather meet them Orillia tomorrow morning, save 1/2 hr drive one way...nope, my weekend is so jam filled that any changes would screw me up!!

Just washed up, will see if Cathy!s home yet, if not might drop in to aunt murals and see if she would like to come with me

Best I be off before I run out of energy!

Forgot to say..if you arrive before I get home, door is open and lemonade in the refrigerator, help yourself...

Here for the midnight shift, guess you are. All still on your way!

Jim loved his e-reader, mom's legs were hurting her, she did too much today...aunt Muriel chatted up a storm

Night/night

Hey Betty - glad Jim loved his e-reader - now for the "play time" to get his using it regularly!
sorry to hear your mom's legs are hurting her (apple doesn't fall far from the tree, eh? "She did too much today......")
Hope your day tomorrow is great - let us know the progress on the pond! Don't U do too much tomorrow lol

Hello To All ! Yum Betty Lemonade ! Wow - do you think you may have found some artifact of some kind in the dirt?

LOL... w/ you... my "perfect" sister was said in all seriousness...but yes - that is funny.....Love your scripture and very timely...

Dianne (((BIG HUGS))) I have already said the first of may prayers and agree with all above that this will be something treatable... just need to send some Positive thoughts and prayers your way ...

((HUGS)) Bev too.. how sad to lose someone so young...
LK - wow - unbelieveable how hot it must be. My angel trumpets are drooping too yet I'm able to water... no ban here yet...
Drought Tolerant... aren't Oleander? We have a Sea Grape (is it a tree or bush?) ? our rosemary seems drought tolerant...? Agapanthus seem so as well ? Did you have some of those I seem to remember you bought one about a year ago?

Crissy - what a situation... I almost want to tell your Dad's GF to go get a therapist.... too much to lay on your shoulders with all you are dealing with. You are just such a strong person and folks rely on you more than they should. Your the Dad's daughter not her best friend....
Oh SHIRLEY! So glad to see you ! but sorry you are going through some sad days although I know they are expected.

Glad you are checking in with us....

Dianne... saying another prayer for you now my friend...

((HUGS)) Susan....

Last night without DSD's..... so I told DS we should take he and his GF to dinner. Unfortunately GF had to work (in her Dad's restaurant) so we went to eat there. It was a nice evening. Betty - I feel DS has always treated DH with respect. Although I do have some feelings to deal with that I've done WAY more for his girls than he has ever done for DS.
I mean after we were married... I was making twice what he was....he was working twice my hours.... so I picked up slack with bills as well as on the home front. DS is nice to hubs but hubby has lost his respect in some ways because Brock see's how hubby demands no respect from the girls and doesn't discipline them..... Long answer ?

I'll pop back in a bit....


Mary

Oops cross posted ! a friend called in the middle of my typing.... I don't hear from her often....

(((Hugs)))) right back atcha, Mary!!!! ^_^

Oleander grows here, but it gets to be a big bush/tree, so no room in the yard for that!
I have agapanthus, and they are all done blooming for the year.

Waving to Susan and Linda Kay.....

What are ya'll up to this weekend? LK - I'm kinda in the same boat... have an area that needs some color but it's a very hot and dry area and want a different flower than I have elsewhere in the yard....

Goodmorning to all.
I have been trying to keep up......
Betty by the time I make it up there to help with the pond you will be done. Please do not over due it.
Dianne praying for your DH and sending a ((hug)) to you both
LK it sounds to hot out your way. Been able to do any sewing lately?
Shirley so good to hear from you. Wish there was something we could do or say to get you through this ...........
Coffee is on waving to all.....