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Thought I'd hobble on over and get a new room cleaned just for you all, I've got vases of peonies, iris and lillies...the few lilacs I have left are on the kitchen table, cn you smell them??

Come sit a spell..

I've already made the coffee and sliced lindakay's birthday cake...yes, likely enough to have 2 slices....

We came from here

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Ah HAH!! I'm first!!

That you are girl, what kept you busy this past weekend?

Thanks for the cake Betty!
Thanks everyone for the wonderful Birthday wishes. Just taking it easy for today!
This is our 7 day forecast! Anyone need so me heat???

I just spoke to the receptionist, and she didn't make the arrangements for my stuff - the newest management secretary did, and to be honest (I thought this while I was there...) she's none-too-bright. She's the one who called me on Friday asking me where my files are.
The receptionist asked if I wanted her to call me to let me know who the courier was. I said "No".
I just got an email from the advisor - apparently the courier attempted 2x on Friday to deliver. There is NO WAY we missed it. We jumped every time we heard a car door 2 doors away - and watched out of the window. I emailed her this. My DH wants the courier co name and we've asked several times... they aren't disclosing it.

LindaKay, I'm passing on your heat, omg that beyond heat, that is living in a furnace room for he'll! Yikes, must go check my forecast and then see what a happy medium is and who is nearest to ideal weather!

Susan, I continue to shake my head..

If you scroll down mid point you will see our weather..

http://www.theweathernetwork.com/weather/caon0430

Susan, if they attempted to deliver, they should have left a note or something?

Betty, sure wish we had your nice cool temps!

LK - We're in a trailer, and not a big one at that. We spent out time on the deck, and in the living room (which is at the front of our home) all day on Friday. I jumped every time I thought I heard a car door, and No One came by. I was on pins & needles all day.

No happy medium is there?

My mom just called, bet my body temp is up to your 107..shaking my head here..

My sister Sharon's son who is 44, divorced, 2 kids, not working (sister asked him to leave her home) is now with mom and has been for at least a year..always going to find something but never does...personally we all think he's heavy into drugs but my mom won't believe it, not him, not her favorite grandson..we've all told her time and time again, out he goes, not her responsibility, even after stealing thousands from her, but that's ok, he's sorry!!!

She went on and on and on, how her nerves can't take it, how she's afraid of him, how his personality changes, how his young children are at her house all weekend while mom and Jim are at the cottage, how she doesn't want to go home..etc.etc.etc. sooo told her she has to live as she is and learn to accept it??? and why should she she asks??? Well, if you will not tell him to get a life and out he goes, and you continue to give him an allowance, and you pay for his food, you do his laundry then what you get is what you get...she told me she couldn't be as cold hearted as I and say out you go onto the street..e x c u s e me, I would do it to my own, would teach them how to survive penniless if they didn't want to work, street or no street out they'd go..she told me it's easy to say because my kids are doing very well for themselves..yes they are I said and do you know why, they know that I would not help them in any way unless of course they were helping themselves..if tragedy happened I'd be right there before they could ask..wasn't pleased with me, said she had to go..what else can you say when she won't take it upon herself to teach him that his life is in his own hands...how many times has she given him $$$ for 1st and last months rent and he has an excuse for where it went and still lives with her..nope..NO SYMPATHY from me..aren't I just a terrible daughter.. I'm rambling..

Sharon is very well to do, could purchase a home for him if need be but she will not help someone who is on drugs, who doesn't work ...mom thinks she'll fry in hell for being such a mother!!!!

LindaKay, got a chuckle, with the heat you have I should just send Sharon your way..lol

I think they are not being truthful Susan!!!

Barb, meant to tell you that when Jeff and the boys left early afternoon I was starving for Chinese Food, never mind a fridge full of food and spaghetti cooked sitting there for the eating I just had a craving..no sooner had they left Cathy dropped in..chatted a bit and I said oh heck, off to town we go, I want Chinese..because I was in pain we got it to go..no sooner got home, got the plates out that Ann came over and joined us for dinner..she was in good spirits, her girls had just left..she has joined several organizations, out for supper a few nights a week scheduled with friends..me one of them..sooo although it's very difficult she knows she has to pull up her socks and manage the best she can...says she's anxious for your visit!!!

Betty - I agree with you - Out He Goes. I refused to help my son when he was on drugs/drinking and generally being a Con Artist. Smart boy, but aren't all con artists smart? Comes with the territory. Anyway - long story short, he's in his 30s and blames his parents for him not being able to see/call his son (we don't live with them, so how can it be our fault?). He won't take any responsibility for his own actions.
It sounds like your nephew. $$ sifts through his fingers..........
I feel for you, Betty, but your mom's a big girl. She should figure it out, but obviously she doesn't want to.

Betty - so good to hear that Ann's doing well. She's following the right course.

As for the "not being truthful", either it's that, or someone's not used our correct address on the courier request. I left a ph msg saying that's something I will not tolerate (lying) and that now that I am no longer with AHS I feel that I am not getting respect.
I also said that she'd said to call her anytime, that she was sure I would have questions, and every time I call I get voice mail. I asked her to do me the courtesy of calling. Let's see what happens.

Maybe someone need to call the police, and report the thefts from her? As long as someone is enabling him, he will never stop. I would, and have done the same thing as well. Not an easy decision to make, but in my case, it made my son wake up!

Good idea, Linda! Mind you, when the police show up at the door, she may deny he took anything. However - she's a senior, right? Police take dim view of seniors being abused and robbed......

she helped raise him for about 7 years while my sister was getting a degree, close ties to him and it's wonderful that she wants to help but it's beyond that..she has gained little to no affection from my boys and that of my brothers seeing as she's never had time for them, all are grandchildren to be proud of and yet it's this one that has her in turmoil but still under her wing..

Yikes talk about hurt, was doing ok earlier but I've walked around a bit and it's paining like crazy..should have brought along a pain killer!

Is there someone who can go to the pharmacist's for you, Betty?
Will your Dr give you prescription for a pain killer without visiting? How did you discover it was broken - did they do an x-ray? (full of questions, aren't I?)

Betty that sucks! If he's steeling from her he's into drugs.

Funny I'm going through one right now, I have a cousin (dad's sister's daughter) who was a meth head for probably 20 years (we grew up as sisters almost) and has found all of us on Facebook. She sent friend requests to me, my dad, my dad's girlfriend, and my mom but none of us responded because we are finally thousands of miles away from that and don't want to be associated with it again. She waited probably 4 months and sent me a message yesterday, saying (copied and pasted)
"Hi, cousin. How have you been? As for me, I'm doing alot better. I have a year & a half clean & sober & have all 3 of my kids back in my own 4 bed room apartment. I've been trying to see how your dad is, with all the bad stuff that has happened in Joplin. Hope to here from you soon. Love you!"

I had to reply something because out of everyone in the family she's the only one who cares enough to ask about the tornado in Joplin, true though that she could be asking so she knows where he is to. Here's my reply,
"Hey! I'm so glad to hear that you're doing good and got your kids back!! My dad's fine, the tornado didn't touch him, thank God!!"

She replied back,
"I friend requested you, him & his girlfriend but no one has accepted yet. Tell him that I love him & miss you guys very much. I know my mom & Nana are finally proud of me & that keeps me doing this when it sometimes it get really tough. I am very active in my recovery, I have a sponsor that I talk to almost every day, I chair AA meetings @ Living Sober & play softball with them too. We are going camping @ the end of this month with hundreds of people in AA up by black oak casino. The 26th is the day we will be coming back from camping & that is Marissa's 16th birthday. I would love to talk to you on the phone sometime. You guys are the only family that we have, accept for Lori, who is nuttier than she was when we were kids. I love her but, from a distance cuz she all about drama & blaming everyone for everything that she is going through. I hope to here back from you soon. Love you!"

I have no idea how to respond, yeah I hope she's doing as good as she says she is but so many meth heads lie just to get to you. I just don't know, I asked my dad and he doesn't know either. We're all confused.

Betty you're not a terrible daughter, you're an awesome mother! My mom played hard knocks with me but if she hadn't I'd be in either my dad's alcoholic situation or my cousins meth situation, because my mom didn't play games I didn't get into either one of those addictions. My cousin used to show up with all 3 kids in tow needing something. She didn't do it to me but did do it to my dad a lot, apparently, or that's his story anyway, half the time after my parents divorced he lived with me and the rest of the time he lived out of town, and I know she had no car for 15+ years so I don't really believe that story either. His whole side of the family are an absolute mess.

Betty, here's an idea, if Sharon were to put him in a live in rehab center she would help him more than she is by not helping at all, and that would get your mom out of the situation. No, we don't need to help drug addicts unless they go to rehab. I have nothing wrong with people trying to better themselves no matter what their state of mind is, you hit rock bottom at some point and until someone either puts him in rehab or kicks him to the curb he will never hit rock bottom. The best thing for him at this point would be to go to jail so he could have to stop using.

He would definitely be OUT! And if he refused to go or he came back, trespassing charges! I have no sympathy for drug users or alcoholics.

Crissy -
Tell her that you are pleased she's gotten into AA, is clean, etc,
Tell her that you cannot speak for anyone else in the family, and are sure that her Nana and mom are finally proud of her.
Also tell her that it will take you awhile for you to get past the hurt you felt concerning everything she went tough and you feel you must also "love her from a distance" as she does Lori.
(or words to that effect.......).
You have to let her know you're not ready to speak to her, and emailing back and forth (out of the blue like this) is happening too soon and too often.

Let me explain a bit, her (Kari is her name) and Lori are sisters and they've never liked each other, but since both their parents are passed, along with our grandmother Nana, and our grandfather passed when their mom was 16 and my dad was 12, they see each other all the time. All they have is each other because everyone else has moved far far away. Lori is exactly the way she describes, I about died laughing when I read that.

LOL

Lunch is over and I'm looking forward to a quiet night at home..have painkillers from what?? when?? can't remember but do have some..will tape my toes together and perhaps tomorrow wear slipper type shoes.

Wow Crissy, how to respond..well certainly if she's come that far along it wouldn't hurt to befriend her with a few kind words..doesn't have to be every day but for sure let her know how proud you also are of her digging herself out of the gutter for lack of better words.. That just has to be an accomplishment doesn't it that not many in same situation achieves..kudo's to her!!

As for my nephew, he says he doesn't take drugs so there is not way you'd get him into any kind of rehab..lordy, he's just skin and bones..Mom says he's been talking to Jeff a lot lately, I'll have to ask..Jeff loaned him thousands of dollars and never got paid back but Jeff wouldn't hold that against him, always says, if you lent money you lend it with no intent of ever getting it back, that way you don't create hard feelings with the borrower or they with you..will have to ask him though just to see if it's yet another lie.

Betty - d'ya think I could borrow $$ from Jeff? No promise to pay him back....... LOL
I need a "cool million" LOL

lol..wouldn't that be grand if he had it to give!!!
1/2 hr. left to my day, all and all it's gone by quite quickly...
Had planned on working on the pond tonight for a few hours but digging and putting pressure on the shovel is certainly 'out' sooo maybe a night of relaxation is in order..

have chinese for tonight (left-overs) and spaghetti ready for tomorrow night for Ann so ahead of things in the cooking dept.

What are you all having, mouth watering dishes..am sure Lindakay you'll not be cooking, not in this heat.

Crissy, Linda is bedridden right now, her sitting in the car for so long has done some damage to her spine again..drats, each time she travels with me she needs to be bedridden!!

omygosh!! I didn't think you'd gone to work with your broken toe!!!

We old french Canadian girls are made of strong stuff..calling me hop along casidy..lol

Think going home, taking hot bath, getting under a heating pad and relaxing is just what I need!
Gotta love Mondays..time to catch up on much deserved rest!

Hope your hubby made it off the garage roof, was thinking OMG with their luck he'll fall off..

Nope, he didn't fall off, and I helped him haul the cut up pieces of branches (some pretty big around!) to his truck so he can take them to the dump tomorrow.
Got my fish back safe and sound - and I think most of my paperwork. At least I can now put in my claims, etc for medical and travel receipts.

Glad to hear you have your fish back, and he is OK! That is good news.
Betty, do you have pain pills left from your headaches?
Not much cooking here! Just too hot to turn on the stove, even with the AC going. Todd grills a lot of the meals, but tonight, I think we will order pizza.

yes, the advisor said "he must be very resilient" and she's right. The courier co. fed him bread crumbs! LOL I guess he liked it, but I had to add 2/3 of the water (they poured out some of the water so it wouldn't splash). Now, to see if he continues to thrive. My fish has had quite a ride - from Thursday to Monday afternoon!

Yes, Betty - how's your pain med "stash"? lol

Lol, can't believe your fishy survived Susan, let's hope his arrival doesn't shock him enough to do the back stroke!

LindaKay did have pain killers and yes, from the headaches..drats, not doing the greatest, Missy, blAck/whit kitty knows I put her treats near the kitchen door, standing there talking to Darlene when I guess Missy wasn't thrilled at having to wait so clawed the Bach if my leg, same one as the broken toe, said ouch, looked and here it was bleeding like crazy!!

Darlene, one of my best'est friends (smilling) is an avid reader, told her to take my Sony e-reader and see how she likes it so sitting here making notes on how to use it..she teaches painting here on Tuesdays so she can pick it up while here...

Then Cathy called to say the chippies are soon going to be extinct..lordy Missy brought 2 more to the door...that makes for 6 this week. Know it is what kitties do but I feel so bad...what can you do??

Says a friend of hers knowing I love phlox filled a large bag with
plants, all watered, should be ok until I get home tomorrow after work..she thinks they are purple, ones Darlene dropped off last week were white...should flower this season!!

Time to warm up Chinese food, put my feet up and relax...

Oh Betty, make sure you clean that cat scratch really good! Darn, your not have good luck this week! Sounds like HE is telling you to slow down a bit???

I have been lost. Happy Birthday LK!! Betty hope your toes feel better and you got a scratch and my Powder bit me the other day wanting to play. The little witch. I threw a book at her.She is as bad as Scotty wanting her own way all the time. Scotty got mad and ran me off Sat but I went back today and all was fine. Had supper with him and another friend. When our friend goes home he will run me off again OH!! WELL!. We are to have flash floods tonight till tomorrow night. Better than tornados. HUGS TO ALL BEV

Hey Bev, was wondering where you were!
Thanks for the Birthday wishes!

He's playing "shy" again, Betty - I suppose the shock of the move was un-nerving, to say the least lol
Still can't get past the part where they fed him Breadcrumbs (the courier). LOL

Hello ALL ~

Kinda sad tonight , Rick leaves at 4 am for three days to go to school for work ( his work is paying for everything , school,room gas,food )..........in 15 years we have only spent a few nights apart,it just seems so odd that he won't be coming home from work .Boy do I sound like a big baby or what ~~~

Betty Hope and Pray you aren't in too much PAIN...... : (
Linda Kay Hope you have had a GLORIOUS Birthday !!!!!!!!! By the way how is you fingers and your knee ??????????
Susan Thank the Dear Lord your Fishy made the trip and Bob made it off the roof unscathed !!!!!!!!!!! YAY ~~~~~~~~ Mark one good day this year for you two !!!!!!

Hey Synda, it is hard to be with out hubby after that long. Enjoy your quiet time while you have it.
My finger is doing better. It bends a little bit more everyday. So hopefully I will get it back to normal soon? Knee is doing good. No more swelling.

Hello To All !

HAPPY BIRTHDAY LK ! ♪♫♪♫ Hope it was special ! What did you all do to celebrate?
Waving to Susan... glad Fishy made it home... and all was in order... what an ordeal they put you through not knowing !
Synda - LOVE the converse pic... how funny :)
Laura - hope ya'll had fun even tho it rained....

Oh Betty - agree with all. I suppose your DM is what they used to call co-dependant. just wants someone to need her... so she'll enable him even while there are so many other grandkids who have accomplished so much. Kudos to your boys and all they have... 44 yrs is plenty old enough to "figure it out" how to support yourself. I'm 45... Good ness !

Bev - your flowers are always so pretty. I think my daylilies are done... so sad... they are tough little plants though !

Crissy - agree to be cautious... perhaps as Susan said.. (and others) to open the door just a little.. lord knows if she is on the road to recovery for real... she might need a little contact from family.

I have a friend like that...She was 10 yrs old when I moved into my first house, single mom with then-son-2. Now she's 25 and has been in and out of rehab and relationships.. has 2 boys... no custody.... but whenever she calls me it's when she is trying to get life straight again... so it's hard because I have to draw the line between being supportive and being sucked into hours of conversation about how hard her life has been and how much money she needs......

Barb - thought about you... saw a Facebook post... folks are making quilts out of old Club T Shirts... how neat... Wish I had all my old Dance team practice shirts I'd figure out how to make one.....
I'll pop back in a bit. Debbie - any more pics or word from how Prom went ? Judy? What's up Dianne, Shirley, etc...

Mary

Happy Birthday Linda Kay!!! I hope it was a wonderful one.

Mary, no more prom pics. I will have to see if any of his friends posted some of Shane on FB. He is not talking, it was "ok". Tonight was the sports banquet also. He got an award for track, and a Senior Plaque with all the sports and years he played in school engraved. He hasn't let me see that yet either. I honestly think right now he is VERY over tired on top of "end of school" blues.

I am exhausted, had a very long day, and finally have "tomorrow off" I think. (knocking wood).

Will be back in a bit...I need a munchie (frozen milky way).

Debbie

Thanks Mary and Debbie for the birthday wishes. Had a very easy day. Had pizza for dinner. Hubby gave me cash in a card, so I can go shopping!