Falling and drooping cilantro and basil seedlings

I just moved to Las Vegas from Orlando and gardening is completely different here! I have to keep the herbs inside and I am having trouble with cilantro and basil seedlings not thriving. Very few of them are standing upright any longer. I have them in ambient light all day because any direct sunlight has just fried them so far. I don't water them everyday. Just when the soil is getting dry. Any more water than that has proved to put a hurt on them as well. With temps breaching 114 degrees F easily this summer outdoor herbs aren't an option. I also have 2 banana pepper plants and a jalapeno that are not growing. They droop a little, and I give them water, they perk up, but don't seem to be growing. The blossoms open and after 3 days they turn yellow and wilt off. Is this a normal thing before the peppers come in or is it not thriving?

I would have included pictures but my camera JUST died!!!

PLEASE SOMEONE!!! ANsWER< I AM NEED OF HELP!!!

Pictures would really help since there are a number of things that could cause those symptoms. Watering issues are always my first suspect since they are so common--could be either too much or too little. How are you judging that they're dry and need water? If you're just looking and seeing that the surface looks dry, that doesn't mean anything, you need to check down an inch or two. The surface can look dry, but just underneath can still be quite wet and if you give it more water then it'll rot eventually. Also if you've got them in pots that are too large for them that can make it very easy to overwater.

Remember you are dealing with dry heat now not just heat. That is is the biggest difference. You may just need to water more. Mist the plants too.

Try putting them outside in the morning and pull the pots to a shaded area or indoors during the hottest part of the day. Basil gets very droopy if it needs water. You may need to water every morning if you put them outside. Cilantro isn't very fussy but it needs water too. Try replanting in deeper pots. The plants may be weak from reaching for light rather than having a few hours of natural sunlight, good nutrition and enought water.

Ecrane3 - I am inserting my finger about an inch into the soil and feeling for moisture.
bookreader451- I have them in ambient sun throughout the day. Even shaded outside they begin to wilt and fall then to eventually die. These are still seedlings so I think they are being a little tempremental about something. I can't strike a balance it seems. I have them in a hanging 12" diameter pot. They aren't having many more starting symptoms other than just laying down and over a course of a few days wilting up into little nothing.

It is such a new learning experience out here! At my old house I could accidentally drop seeds and would have more than desired... It isn't so easy here. It was 104 degrees F last week... Though the strawberries seem to love it outside in the shade! I have never had strawberries do so well in shady areas. Also, does anyone know of a species of strawberry that produces fruit the first year?

Try misting them with 1/4 strength miracle grow. Another thing I had great luck with in sunny houses with indoor plants is a small humidifier aimed at them.

I want you to succeed because I am moving to Yerington NV in the Mason Valley as soon as my husband retires. I want zone 7 and humidity but he wants desert, mountains and fishing.