ignoring users

I'm sure I am missing it somewhere, but I searched the forums and didn't find anything. Is there a way to ignore users?

What do you mean by ignore them? You can literally ignore them, just don't read or respond to their posts, but if you're meaning a button or something that you click and you can't see posts by a certain person then there's nothing like that here.

ok thanks. Yeah I meant literally not seeing their posts by putting them on ignore like you can on some forums.

hmmmm, i haven't needed that here, but WOW in real life that's a different story!!!

would make a good cartoon or story ;-)

Nope, can't hide anyone's posts. I've never needed that here either, and it would disrupt the flow of the threads to some extent if there were missing posts. It's easy enough to skip over a few individual posts that don't interest you, but at least they're there so if they're necessary to the flow of the thread you can see them if you want to.

When I first read this post this morning I too thought.. why would I ever need this feature.. but as I continued on to reading a few threads.. a person that seems to be getting my "crow" lately kept cropping up..

I am not sure why, but as soon as I see this particular screen name I feel an angry twinge.. I have tried to control myself.. I leave the thread and avoid all threads I find that that person on.. which lately has really limited me to only a select few.

I do have a lot to offer.. and lately this person only has very cold nasty quips to offer and is usually reprimanded by others on the thread.. how nice it would be for me to be able to read the thread and not know that person left their footprint.

Right now as much as I like Daves.. and I learn everyday here.. had I not paid very far in advance.. I would not be a member.. not for awhile anyway.. I just can't take the nasty-coldness anymore.

So Trilluim.. it wasn't that bad of an idea.

i hope the user you'r speaking of is trying to be funny and doesn't know how. i hope so . just hope it isn't me. i'''ve had more help and sincerety here ,from the old timers than have had anywhere .i do value all the info i've gotten. i hope you wont give up and go elsewhere.hang in and maybe you'll be able to find that the good makes up for the bad times sally

I just let my subscription lapse for two weeks because I too was just burned out. The questions asked that noone answers or just skips right over you & continues their own little conversation, the bickering or condescending replies, just like life & all who make it up....two weeks without DG was something I couldn't stand so I calmed down, sorted things out in my mind & reinstated myself. I am just going to limit my time here as a way of dealing with some of the frustrations. I hope you don't completely drop out. There are so many more wonderful interactions here than bad...Hang on, Kiddoo....Deb

I have felt ignored and wonder if I'm just being paranoid. Probably not. I surely must have come across as too "something" so I stopped sending answers, etc. and have just recently started participating again. Should all this happen to me again I will not renew in August. I just hope that no one was adversely affected by my answers, etc. I have never intentionally tried to hurt anyone or act superior (as others have done) and if I have done so, please let me know so that I can explain myself and apologize.

Ann

Hey Fran... you can come play in my garden anytime!!! :)

Love ya....

At times some postings can be misconstrued. Especially when one is not familiar with the participants in that forum.
It's just too bad, we can't see their facial expressions or hear the inflictions in their voices when the postings are made.
I had come across such postings, sometimes I allowed to get my feelings hurt...until I tell myself to choose my battles wisely. DG is not a battleground, meant to be a playground and learning tool for plant nuts.
So, I just laugh it off...move on to another thread and thank God there are more warm DGers here behind their keyboards than the few abrasive, insensitive, immature 'adults'.
My 'home' forum is Mid South Gardening, and it's frequented by a good bunch of folks . ....and I know at times I 'talk strange'....but they know me well there!!
Trillium, don't give up on the rest of us.

Mostly I just brush things off and move on. A couple of times, though, I've gone to a regional forum and posted a "feel your pain" message when a particular bad weather event hits, etc., and rec'd no response at all. After a few of those, I just stopped. I don't blame anyone for it, but we all should be a little more aware and at least acknowledge good thoughts when they come our way.

I know exactly what Trillium means. I belong to a mail list with a very annoying person who happens to be quite knowledgeable about the subject. Many people have asked he be banned from the list, but the majority put up with him because he might be able to help with their project (this is genealogy research). I block his messages from my inbox and am much happier for it. I used to dread looking at the messages before.

i have had posts ignored too and it does hurt.i have had poeple make bad remarks and stuff too. i have got to the point that i just ignore the people and go on.

yea it hurts sometimes when you ask somethign or post things and they get ignored. i posted a whole lot of pics the other day on a forum and only one person replied. and now that thread is way down on the page and no one is looking at it. kinda hurts but oh well life goesson. maybe aomeone may need to look at what i posted and it will help or something.

but i think we have all felt this at one time and just dont leave the group as everyone makes up Daves and counts.

Yes, and if all of us perfect people leave, look what will be left!! LOL

AMEN!!!!! Deb

That pretty much is how I am feeling frans.

I think it happens on any forum where people feel ignored, or posts go unanswered. This is such a big place it is hard to keep up on stuff! I don't think it is people ignoring the poster, just not enough time, or no one knows the answer! I recently renewed too after realizing I missed having a place to read about gardening and get advice or maybe help someone else.

Never fails though, there always has to be one person everywhere you go. I found myself having to stop before posting because I know this forum isn't the kind where knock down-drag outs are allowed and I don't want to get kicked off. Knowing me, someday I might not be able to stop and I'll get in trouble!! That's where the ignore feature can come in useful, so I wouldn't be disprupting other people's enjoyment of the forum because I couldn't resist the temptation to fire back a snarky comment. I wouldn't ever see that person's posts, so I would never have a reason to get involved with them.

I agree with all of you.. what I was trying to say here.. wasn't that I wanted anyone to talk me into staying.. it was more of a back-up tp Trillium.

I have been a member for a few years now and for the last couple of years there have been just a few new members that do have very sharp tongues. I am not a tender-foot-thin-skined-whinny-butt.. I can take it from the best of them.. I do know how to ignore... but I have watched for the last couple of weeks a few very nice people with some real issues get cut down right at the knees... and I know it hurt me to the core and wasn't even aimed at me, I can only begin to imagine what it must have felt like to be them.

Then there are the nicest folks around.. that just seem to be there whenever you need someone to pick you up... lol! Thanks

I love that! Have to file that one somewhere. :-)

I think that phrase will get a whole lotta play!!! Good one, Frans...I one time emailed the administrators 'cause I wondered if there was a protocol I was missing when I joined in a thread because I just felt ignored. I changed my tactics by engaging them by direct questions, etc..and seemed to help me fell more included & valued....Terri replied that I wasn't the first to ask the question so I don't think any one is alone in their view sometimes....I just know I feel 120% better knowing I'm not alone in my tender-foot-thin-skinned-whinny-butt feelings.....I LOVE THAT!!!!!!!!!! Thanks, Fran, for putting voice to something that has bothered me often times.....Deb

I know what you all mean about one person making life difficult. I gave up one of my favorite forums due to that. As an example I thought it was just the way I was reading posts until I went to a roundup and actually met the individual. She did not like the pot luck, especially what I brought. There were posts made by that person (complete with graphs!) on how I tried to poison everyone. Just the sight of the person's name puts my teeth on edge.

On the flip side however is the vast majority which are wonderful folks that I have had the privilage of getting to know. There are so many things I would never have experienced if I had not wandered through the site picking up things here and there.

One of the things that I feel like I am personally guilty of is peeking in on a post and then not responding if I have nothing to offer. Could that be making anyone feel unwelcome do you think? If so, how would you prefer I respond? I do not want to "clutter up" a thread but I also do not want the person that posed the question to see all of the views and no responses. :^)

t tuna thats how i feel about posting, if i can't help with a problem,i dont clutter it up .on the other hand ,i want to read the offerings members come up with for a solution.hey,,,that's how we learn .as far as the pot luck, i'd be tempted to key her car.i wouldn't do it but oh, how i'd think about it

fran -- i know JUST how you feel. i suppose that, given we're all gardeners & animal-lovers here, we're suckers for those wolves in sheep's clothing, wandering around with a computer mouse hidden in their paw ...

There have been a few times over the years that I would have liked to have an ignore button. But things usually work out and if not I take a hiatus from the forums until I calm down enough to move on.

As my Aunt once told me... "don't get your knickers twisted, it'll only hurt you and make other people laugh at you cause yer walkin' funny" So now, if a forum causes me stress, I take a chill pill and come back later to visit the good folks.

I don't know what the current number of subscribers is but out of all of them only three have ever truly hurt my feelings... and I am still here while they have vanished into oblivion ☺ Truly disagreeable people just don't last in the long run.

Zany, you and your aunt are indeed very wise people! I will have to write down the part about the knickers for future reference. Too bad I am not into needlepoint or hand embroidery. LOL

zany, that is the entire point of this thread.. we ARE all adults, and we know there are people who for one reason or another you just don't see eye to eye with.. might be something as simple as the color of their hair.. whatever the reason you know YOU have the problem so you avoid that person.. you step back.. you move aside.. you change your habits.. and visit your forums at times you know the other person is not around.. or you give up your favorite subject all together. At some point in time I would guess there either has to be a confrontation, or Dad needs to step in.. which I would hate.. or Trilliums and my dream button.. "ignore.. HAHA! Anyway.. I grew up a long time ago.. and this little pet peeve of mine will pass.. you can only circumvent so many for so long before all see that persons true colors.. and then it will no longer be a problem... until then... I will continue growing my fruits, veggies and beautiful flowers.. continue adding to my livestock and become the most independent self-sufficient person I can be.. and thoroughly enjoy myself doing it!

i don't think confrontation is necessarily the answer, fran.

My answer as stated previously:

um, ok. that sounds really good!

plantlady, btw, i've always found you to be a funny & knowledgeable participant here. maybe we should all remember that there are probably a lot of people who read our posts & laugh, or thing "good info" but don't post to that effect?

forgive me if this predates most of you, but i'll always have sam kinison yelling in the back of my brain about how women & men communicate: "TELLLLLLL USSSSSSS!!!!!"

I am so sorry that anyone here has been ignored. I have had it happen to me too but I just chalked it up to a running conversation. If you need a home forum where there are really nice people, I would like to invite you to the Midsouth forum. Heavenscape said it above and I will repeat that they are the best. You will feel at home at once. Just jump in the conversations and I promise someone will talk to you. Get on the plant swap thread and you may get passed over because that's a feeding frenzy.
There has been a lot of changes on Daves in the last year and a lot of new members . We just have such wonderful friends here.

On any forum your going to run across posters that get your goat.

I try humour and if that doesn't work then the only reasonable course to take is ignore them.

I, for one, do not like to see confrontations in the threads.

I don't know about you, but if I see a post that has gone unanswered for maybe a day or so, I will actually post an "I don't know" response even if that's the best I can do. I figure that way, they know the lack of response isn't due to indifference or etiquette, or anything, but ignorance. It also has the effect of bumping the thread back up again, where hopefully someone more knowledgeable will see and respond. I make an especial point of this when it's someone new--I know how much the support of my fellow DGers means to me, I want to share with everyone else who joins up!

Just my $0.02 worth...

Good idea Tucson!

Thanks, tetley! :)

$0.02 worth a lot more!

riverland-you said a lot of people were "banned" --what does that mean? as for the rest of the comments-i agree with all of you and have felt the same at one time or another but i guess i didn't know others felt the same sometimes --so thanks for posting and sharing

People get kicked out sometimes for not following the rules, but my understanding is it's only after admins warn them several times and they continue to ignore the warnings and keep breaking the rules. I don't know specifically what happened in the case of the people Riverland is talking about, but I know in the past when people have been banned it's because they were warned about what they were doing wrong and then didn't change their behavior.

planolinda,

Occasionally over the years the administration has had to make the hard decisions and remove members for violating the sites policy statements. This is done for the well being of the community at large and usually warnings are issued and second, third and even fourth chances are sometimes given first. Often the offending posts are removed and it is not known by us what was said or the nature of the offenses unless we were somehow involved in the fray. This can leave us with only our cyber friends side of a story and since we believe them and their take on the situation, some other people inevitably decide to leave also. Some return when they have time to think about it and others do not.

It is upsetting for everyone when these things occur and the administration here makes every effort to prevent it. Dave and crew do a wonderful job.

i find it strange that gardening could bring out that kind of behavior!! i know you shouldn't talk about politics and religion if you don't want arguments but it is almost funny to think of flowers and veggies bringing out that kind of thing! i remember when i first read the rules for the brugmansia site i was shocked at the guides about 2 fueding groups and not to ever bring up either group!

Strange indeed! ☺

I keep hearing my mother's voice when I was a child saying, "it's a game - enjoy yourself." I always enjoyed winning, of course, and like a friendly competition, but when all is said and done, everyone should be enjoying themselves, not just the 'winner' (or the one who is convinced they are right!). Gardening is like that, "it's a pastime - enjoy yourself" (or hobby, or profession, or passion, etc.) and everyone should be enjoying themselves at DG.

I'm glad trillium asked the question and we all commented. Now I'll post when I think someone needs a reply just to say 'we're hearing you' - and remember not to feel slighted when nobody answers mine.