Best Thing/Worse Thing and What did I learn today? Part 6

Best Thing/Worse Thing and What did I learn today? Part 6

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This message was edited Jun 14, 2007 8:07 PM

evening all,
wonder i hope all is well with your daughter sending prayers your way,

betty, MORE,MORE,MORE.....
best: its summertime
worst:dog rolled in something in the yard again
learned:betty has had a wonderful life

have a good evening liz

lol Can I just ditto Liz's and add a WET to the dog part?

Sorry, I'm so late in the game of family histories. I'll start with my dad because I think his is so poignant. He was the last of 6 children to my alcohlic grandfather (whom I never met) and my flapper grandmother (who was so cool to be a rebel in her time). Grandma Deanie met Grandpa at a night club and they married. She settled down with the children while he continued to drink. She died of breast cancer when my dad was 10. Since my grandfather was abusive, Daddy was sent to live with Grandma Deanie's sister. The family had 2 girls and a boy the same age as Daddy. My dad loved it there, but he said he always felt that nagging in the back of his brain that he didn't belong. Grandpa was killed in a bar-room brawl in 1952. So, Daddy was 12 when his dad died. Daddy turned 18 in April 1958 and was told that since his Social Security benefits ran out, he would have to move out when he graduated in May. So, he joined the Navy. He loved the traveling, especially when his home port was in Hawaii. When he left the Army, he met my mom and they married in 1964. I was born December 17, 1964. Moma already had a daughter from a previous relationship, and Daddy adopted her. They were married for 31 years when Moma decided to divorce Daddy. She was chasing a dream that she would reunite with my sister's real father. Anyway, as Moma put it, Daddy lived in this man's shadow their entire marriage. Moma loved Daddy , but she just couldn't let go of my sister's father. Moma never did get him back, but when Daddy was dying and at my house on Hospice, he and Moma rekindled their love. She wouldn't leave his side. So, when Daddy passed away, Moma and Daddy had fallen in love all over again.
Part 2 to come tomorrow. love to all, julie

froggie, neat story, I am albout 11 to the day older than you. cool story about your mom and dad, how that must have hurt your dad and he must have carried that same torch for her as she did for your sis`s dad.

Laura will pray hard for your dd that all will turn out good with no complications. We have to be our own patient advocate sometimes, it`s so dumb that it is that way though.

aunt B we wait for #3.

Good morning all you fine folks...sun is about ready to rise, birds are a chirping...not to fond of the skunk smell, think he was visiting during the night...Riley (cat) hasn't been home for 2 days..not going to fret just yet...As I'm having my morning coffee with you, the grandchildren are stirring...

I will be a wonderful day I'm sure..they are coming home for lunch..school is but 5 minutes away...when I say lunch it's pizza/poutine from restaurant .. they so love their treats...

What a difference in having the extra day to get housework and yard work done when boss (BIL) gives us Friday off...now for me, although I'm home I answer all the calls till 1 and then off to enjoy...

LAURA...we're all waiting anxiously on how the operation went for your DD...do you have the children? So much going on in such a short period of time...has it been affecting your daily walks with Leopold?Take care...

LIZ...poor doggie...and the great life is soon to change somewhat...I'll try to get Part 3 done today...

ARANESS...we all seem to be having our moments with our cherished pets...I've Sailor (dog) and Missy (cat) both wanting to go out and play..Sailor sits as I type with ball in her mouth..getting impatient she is...

JULIE...what an interesting story.. must have been difficult for your father...but to be re-united..what a love story.... now how are your studdies going? Are you feeling a little bit less pressured with it all?
Perhaps you can enjoy some of what today brings....

DAWN...were you able to make appt. to further check out the lumps or are you waiting for the results...

DARIUS...we all hope that you are on the mend and trying to relax..probably an impossible task, but do try...look forward to your post..and we've plenty of pages for you to play on re bio..lo....but really, everyone has been kind in sharing, but not a pre-requisite to the thread...we've just all led such different lives, yet are all bonding through the love of gardening and opening our hearts to others....

DAVID...turkey ribs..hmmmm not much of a cook but sounds like something I could attempt..so glad Vince is doing better...call from sister...how exciting for you..do hope you will keep in touch now that she's made the attempt to mend fences...your day sounded so inviting..lazy day under gazebo..now that's something I could do or could I? lol

SHER...family will be arriving today, am sure you are excited for them to see all the changes you've made in the house! Today will be a good day for you...we'll all be praying for the Lord to give you strength over the next few days....we are thinking of you....

Ves522....now where do those fishies go? I've sat and watched but haven't seen 1 since I've put them in pond..do you think it's because I have that big waterspray? Have been feeding them though..not sure if overfeeding them...hmmmm no bodies floating as yet...

Well, boys are up and looking for breakfast soooo for those I've not yet included, I 'll be back..lol

In the meantime..DO ENJOY your day...do something nice for someone who least expects it and let's see what wonders come to you!

So is everyone sharing their biographies? I'm slow on the take, I guess!

morning all,
ok betty i'll be patient only for 8 hours lol.....
julie that was a neat story
sharran, enjoy
hellnzn11, any word yet? i have a issue i have to go on the 19th its probably another syst
last time it was on the right side, they caught it on film after it exploded and the biopsy came out good now the left and its huge, cant win
garden girl: lol
have a great day all liz

Gardengirl...I was documenting little things from all the posts in hope to know you all better, and , some lovely ladies thought it might be nice to help me out....Now I have a wonderful friendship book which is filling itself quickly...it's just been a fun thing..no one has to...

I'm flying high right now, did a 'miracle' for someone who was having a pretty major issue...today I can walk proud of who I am....is that a bit wishy/washy...sometimes WE must acknowledge our own nice deeds...today's my DAY! Good Lord is smilling down on me...so with that I'll continue my day!

Oh Betty, How very wonderful for you. You can walk Proud every day. You make all of us feel good in one way or another. I enjoy everyday coming home to all of you here. It Brightens my day to see so many people come together in friendship, Sharing love, and helping cope with lifes diffuculties.
I too, love to help people out, It gives me great pleasure to make a differnce somehow even if it is a simple smile or a prayer. I pray everyday for all.
Betty, I will anxiously be waiting for part 3! Also, Dear friend-I am wondering, beside cooking what Don't you do?? Your Santa is Stunning. As is you DS Beautiful Dog...Now your helping to lay a new floor, yow!
You know maybe once the young man is settled he will return to hice nicer self, The struggles of becoming ones own can be taxing on everyone-

Best-Last couple of mornings, Having coffee on the deck and enjoying nature-One morn watched a Sparrow catch a Cicada in mid Flight! I was literally WOWED. Watched a baby squirl very causiously run across the wire, when it slipped , my heart sort of lunged and calmed as he caught himself and walked as caual as could be the rest of the way. Very cute to see.

Worst- Had a breakdown, in my car on the way home. Nothing like driving while in tears. Anyway got home and journaled my thoughts. (I enjoy writing, it helps to ease my soul.)

Learned-Not so sure what I've learned, all thats been happening hasn't quite fully clicked so guess I am still learning to learn.

Well have a wonderfull day with your Boys
Judy

It just hit me! Learned, I really enjoyed reading all your stories. Thanks for sharing.
Judy

I'll go back a little further.

There were 6 of us kids. Youngest is a half sister. Mom and dad divorced when I was about 7 after our house burned down. I have some good memories of my dad the other kids don't have for some reason. Oh yeah I was the 4th child and the forgotten child. We lived with mom and she paid more attention to sister older than me and the 2 younger ones. The 2 oldest were pretty much raised in her eyes.

So if I am a bit different in my thought process it is because there really was no one guiding me. I could pretty much do what I want within reason/My reason. I taught myself to cook because sister that was suppose to watch us younger kids hated to cook. A can of soup or hotdogs were fine with her.

Met my DH in high school and got married a few months after graduating. Had son about 4 years later. Only child. I was not having more kids when the marriage was challenging!LOL

Besides teaching myself to cook, I taught myself to garden and can. Have been married almost 34 years and will be 52 this fall.

Worse thing today::::: The heat

Best thing:::: the air conditioning in the house on a day off and taking a nap!

What did I learn:::: The day off ends much too fast! LOL

Good for you ves.
I guess really difficult times tend to minimize over time, not forgotten, but tolerable, and maybe accepted. I suppose my young life was ideal because neither of my parents died til I was 61 years old.
I have a female friend who is about 40 years old. Her mother died when she was 10 years old. And her father, who was an alcoholic, raised her and her sister right thru puberty and thru high school.
I cannot fathom the stress and insecurity that a 10 year old would face. My heart goes out to those who must endure such a loss.

I think that too. I see on talk shows how hard it is on a sibling to get stuck raising their siblings at a young age. No childhood, i can not imagine that. My parents became terrible parents once we were raised and actually when we started to have our own minds. My parents disowned me 14 or 15 years ago for seeing my bological father initially but over the years tell everyone, MY daughters are sociopaths that is why we don`t have them in our lives. So LOOK OUT GUYS YOU ARE ASSOCIATING WITH A SOCIOPATH.

hahhaha helln........then we are in good company.

DD (Emma) was operated on finally last night at 9.30pm. I stayed with her until she went to sleep and stayed asleep. she wanted her mommy there.
she called me this morning bright and chipper and sounding excellent. she said she is in minimal pain and feeling quite good. so thats good news.

I has the children through the day and then their dad took them while i took over the hospital watch. i dont think he deals with hospitals very well. i believe she will be home either tomorrow or monday australia time. They were able to do the surgery as a key hole surgery as there was no infection. They also didnt have to use a drain tube which is also another bonus. she was up and around last night! Going to see her shortly.

well, thats it for now. i will post more later.

thankyou all for your friendship and support, it means the world to me.

xx

hellnz,
Nothing is ever irreparable. Nothing is ever a lost cause. Sadly, it often takes more than one person who is willing to clean the calendar of a history of dysfunction.
As you grow older, and become more introspective, the true value of your life will become more attached to what you lost in your younger years. And that loss will become a burden on your heart. But it will be a life long loss only if you allow it.
Your own daughters may be hardened against you. But, believe this, they do not want to be. They both want to know the mother they knew when they were little. They may both be sociopaths, as you see them, but they are truly little girls with a desire for a sense of family and love. And you are the only one who can give that.
It may seem like a one-way street here and now. But you are the only one who can make it a 2-way street. It is you who must set aside the heartache of your teenage years. You owe a greater responsibility to your girls. And you must find it within yourself to be the adult. You ARE the adult. They are the children, and they still await your guidance.
So don't tell me you are some kind of psycho nutso. You are a heartache awaiting an opportunity to hug your girls. Let them know. Grab hold of what you know all of you want. If you love them with an unbiased heart, they will come back to you.

Love your posts but am I tired...doing another good deed today is just about killing me..in the 90's, not airconditioning...got to niece's house at 2:00..hadn't gone and bought flooring yet, so waited, came back after one hour..forgot the underlay....yuk ... so my SIL that I travel with and myself started at 4:30 and ended our project at 8:30...son from the city dropped off the boys Braedon 10 and Caleb 9 for today and tomorrow..sooo I've cancelled my painting class so I can play grandma...

They are adorable..we have Martyrs Shrine and Indian Village..and Wye March about 5 miles from here so guess what we're doing tomorrow...

Sorry my friends guess I've included best/worse and what I learnt all in my above post..going to float in tub..will be with you all tomorrow..

Even though I look soooo bad, exhausted, red faced, I'll post photo of 2 women doing construction work..lol..now I know why I have all those wonderful tools....

Betty/byes...

Remembered the worse...the young man who moved in with niece is working shift work, know he's tired and he slept all afternoon, but he was leaving for work as we were leaving, helped put my saw/tools in car...would have thought he could have said, thanks or looks nice or I appreciate it..but no...Not looking for pat on the back but manners go a long way...

Maybe I'm just tired...boys are upstairs, grandma's having her bath and then we're all of to bed with a day full of great happenings tomorrow..going to visit God...

Betty that floor looks great, can you come do mine? LOL

I've sworn off wood floors actually, next house will be all carpet (except kitchen and bath) I hate to mop so no more pergo floors for moi!

Best thing about today is we got our new electric lawn mover

worst thing is DH won't let me pull it out of the box and play with it!

What I've learned never go grocery shopping on Father's Day weekend...it was only Friday and already it was packed!

evening all,

best: pool up and running,having 80-90 temps
worst: dead at work its so boring when its slow my boss told me enough already,the reason being i was so board i went outside and washed the windows
learned: there's always something to do even if its not in the job description..lol

betty, come put mine in too, its been in the garage for a year now

wonder , glad things are good for your daughter that was good news
ves, great bio
judy, i hope your felling better
hellenz, oh im so sorry

well everyone have a wonderful evening liz

Oh I didn`t mean I think my kids are sociopaths. lol MY MOM DISOWNED ME AND TELLS EVERYONE i AM A SOCIOPATH AND MY SISTER TOO. i THINK PEOPLE, ESPECIALLY MOTHERS GET MAD WHEN mom SAYS SHE DOESN`T TALK TO US ANYMORE AND HAS NO REASON ANYONE WOULD UNDERSTAND(ESPECIALLY FOR A CHRISTIAN FAMILY), so i think she says, well if your dd was a sociopath you`d get it?(An old friend of mine more or less told me that is what she said.

I would never disown my kids. I love them, though they test my strengh but never. I wrote my Mom a letter about a year ago and she said, never again, you are a sociopath and really thinks it now my sister said. She sent me all my childhood pictures back and of my kids too.

I`m overwhelmed today sorry not to comment on anyone, I need to get off and sit mindlessly in front of the boob tube. Lessons on a better day. ;)

Remember the saying: when it rains it pours.....well here is my Day one of the miseralbe weekend story:
Daughter in florida, flying into Nashville, called from Orlando, Mom, I fell and have really hurt my foot. Am calling your local med clinic and will go there straight from Nashville.
OK, I said....and off she went. boyfrind driving. 2 hours later, Mom I am near the clinic, cn you come? so off I went and met them at the clinic. Top bone in her right foot is broken, I would have been screaming in pain by then, but she was hobbling around while late on a friday afternoon we rounded up lidocaine patches, ace wraps, and an air cast. Got home, raised foot up, iced it down, and off to bed for her.
Midnight, my son and ethan get home. ethan asleep in back seat, son left the truck running while he got him out of the carseat...walked around back of truck reached in to turn off key, truck made a scrapy noise and started rolling backwards. i grabbed both Ethan and son, and said let it go. our drive is on incline....it rolled back across the street and into the little trailor attached to the vehicle of the man across the street. Hardly any damage at all, but very scary.. BTW, vehicle and trailer wer parkd on the street....illegal.....but it stopped the truck from rolling into their living room.
So.....Ashley has a broken foot and is on crutches. son has a scratch on his truck, no other damage that we can see, ethan slept through it all.......

worst: broken foot and truck that took off on its own
best: daugher is in no severe pain, and the swelling is going down....she'll be uncomfortable ut fine, AND there s no damage to eighbors property
what I learned.....best laid plans and all of that.....
surely the rest of the weekend will be better11
Nite, folks.

Morning everyone..boys are up - already asking how much longer before we leave...lol...so we'll catch up later and I can give you Part 3...
Have a great day.....

good morning all,

well off to work today

hellnzn, pray for her soul, my sister and i had to deal with ours who is the most misserable person we lost out father in 1968 i was 9 and my sister was5 she tolds us he died after he was burried,i never forgave her for that. after that time she was so verbally abusive and beat me the most, i promised myself i would never bear children nor would i ever be like her. she told us if we looked up my fathers side then we would be disowned,she portrayed all of them as loosers and live on the otherside of the railroad track, when i got my drivers licence i went to go see what they were all about they were wonderful people... friendly, and very loving people
this angered me so, well she found out... the threats came along again at 18 i finally said by see ya and hit the road i lived with my grandmother who was more like a mother that my own.
then my mother has a issue with her brother so we were not allowed to speak to them i told her where she could go and didnt speak to her for 4 years, i talk to her every sunday but there is nothing good that she has to say i let her talk but i just pray for her that someday she will finaly have peace, my poor sister got a divorce 6 years ago and her and her son live with my mom so i still hear the horror stories through all of this i stuck to my vow to be nothing like her to socialize with my family do things with them and just enjoy life for all it has to offer, sorry for rattling on but you hit a spot i that i put on the back shelf.

betty: lol..lol so do's that mean part 3 in in the working?

everyone have a good day today liz

sharran oh you poor thing, you need a day to relax im glad the kids are doing ok now

Well, just dropped Braedon and Caleb to play with my other 2 grandsons Kyle and Noah..all about same age...spent the day at Martyrs Shrine and Indian Village..not only am I tired but have headache..Greg came over while I was in town, got air conditioner working and put up my clothes line that I had to take down during construction phase...bit a a headache so I'm off to lie down for a half hour or so..think Greg's taking all the boys to the movies...so, probably have the rest of the aft. and early evening...

Maybe I'm tired because I danced the dance of 'women' with the tribe...almost like step dancing lol and I'm good at that....
Will show you a few photo's of our outing....

Grandma in teepee...

Long house...danced with the tribe...

Shrine..people come from all over the world to tour the shrine...

And we thought we had it bad...boy are pouncing corn to make corn meal for bread...

Not a good day Shar and I hope that the worst is over. You have enough stress ahead ofr one person. Aunt B, what little angelic looking kids. I doubt they are always but they are real cute. Proud grandma.

Liz your story and mine parelell on many counts and yours reminded me of mine in so many ways that it is a little freaky. I do pray for her, I need to more regularly, but i hope she`s crazy and maybe not accountable. I think some part is crazy and another is an angry unforgiving, judgmental, control freak.

I didn`t get to pick who she slept with,
She married him but I must suffer over it. hmm????She did me a favor actually. I would be a real beaten down person with her and of no mind at all.

Best thing is having a fun filled day today..it was Aboriginal Day at the Fort..we made corn husk dolls/dream catchers/corn husk feather toys etc. then off to the movies they went and other 2 grandchildren decided they would love to spend the night as well.


Worse thing today, my cat Riley is still missing since Wednesday...never stayed away from home for more than 1 day...

What did I learn..it's 10:24 pm with 4 grandsons - ages 8-9-10-11 full of sugar and energy lol...I usually fill them up with treats and send them home, didn't realize they'd all be sleeping over..now I'm going to pay the piper...lol..

You said it , that is their Mom`s poetic justice.

Betty,
the memorial service is at sundown tonight. i am pretty calm, considering.....being with ethan has that effect on me. Keeps my mind centered on one moment at a time. will try to post after the event, but it will be late tonight. Enjoyed your pictures, I needed to visit DG today to regain some solace, you know? food for the soul.
I am on CDT so no matter what it says on your computer the time is now 1:05 here, you can figure out when my sundown is. Actually the service starts at 7:30 here.
I know you all are with me, and will feel your prayers. thank you for everything.
Be sure to share this with Kay and the others, because I won't post anywhere else until tonight.
Hugs
Sher

Thoughts are with Sher and her family tonight...

Best thing...almost thought it was 'Mother's Day' rather than 'Father's Day'..had 2 sons, 4 grandsons and daughter here most of the day...really enjoyed but am I tired...

Worse thing..still going outside calling for Riley....sure hope someone took her in - don't want to think the worse...

What did I learn...that looking after 4 boys is a lot of work...they were up till after midnight, running/laughing/playing....grandma went to bed!

Grandma was invited out for supper tonight but toooo tired....lol..
hope you all enjoyed the day with your families..for those of us who no longer have father's and/or husband's it had some sad times.....

Night all

I only imagine that to be true.

Best thing today: visited Daddy at the cemetery and had a nice talk "with" him; seeing my children get so excited to give Dad his Father's Day presents; being able to visit my father-in-law in Father's Day and he was in such a great mood (in spite of the chemo); I GOT AHEAD IN MY ASSIGNMENTS

Worst thing today: missing Daddy on Father's Day

what I learned: Life is what you make it. I was expecting to see my father-in-law weak and quiet. Instead, he played with the children by having his dog do tricks and then having them participate with the dog treats. He was full of humor. I was so glad to see him so positive and happy.

Part 2 of family history:
My mom was the 6th and youngest child of my Granny and my PaPa. Granny came from a family of 12 children. She was born in 1904. She had her first child at 12, but it didn't survive. She married her first husband and they had 2 children. They divorced and she was ex-communicated from the Catholic church, but to her dying day, she still practiced her Catholic beliefs. She met my PaPa and married him in spite of the fact that he had cut his first wife's throat! Oh, yes, very interesting. He was a drinker and often became violent. One night, Granny got enough and beat the #*&@ out of him and he never touched her again. PaPa spoiled my mom so badly that he didn't make her go to school her first year. She went one day and didn't want to go back, so he didn't make her go. She grew up throwing temper tantrums and getting her way from PaPa. When moma found out she was pregnant at 16, they refused to allow her to marry the father of the baby (who was known as a womanizer and was 10 years older than my mom). My mom never got over "what might have been," but I explained that earlier. Mom and Daddy met in 1963 and married in 1964. They had me, then my brother a year and 3 days later. Moma says PaPa spoiled us badly, but I don't remember him because he died in 1966. My sister was my Granny's favorite grandchild. When my sister married, my Grandmother gave her land to build a house. When my sister had her first child in 1981, my Granny was ecstatic. She doted on my niece and spoiled her. My niece was only 7 months old when Granny died. It hit me pretty hard because she was the only grandparent I really knew. Anyway, my mother went into such a depression after my Granny died that she tried to commit suicide. Thank God, she realized that she wanted to live after all and called my dad home from work. He had to take her to have her stomach pumped. That was over 20 years ago, and Mom is doing very well now. She 's a wonderful grandmother to all her grandchildren and I love her so much.
Part 3 tomorrow. love, julie

interesting Julie, I wait for it.
Well i had a surprise from my biological father yesterday, he showed up, we all went out to breakfast and I didn`t remember that today was Fathers day and dh didn`t pay for his breakfast. Later I said, I was shocked that he didn`t and he said, Yeah it was awkward, i should have but I didn`t even remember that it was fathers day, gosh Thank God I remembered today so I could apologize and say happy fathers day, that was the best and worst I guess.

Tomorrow dd is having surgury and I have to get my records for the surgeon and do alot of errands early so i may be absent for a day, depending on how Alysha is doing, the computer is in the room she stays in. hugs all.

morning all,

hope everyone had a good weekend

sharran, i hope you got some rest
hellnzn, i'll be sending praryers your way
julie, look foward to part 3
betty; what a busy weekend for you i bet you had a ball, what a interesting place that indian village looks like is that near you?

best: got to soak in the pool finally
worst: oh bad carma..lol i overkilled my stay im suffering with a nice sunburn
learned:when they say use sunscreen they mean it!

have a wonderful day all liz

Liz, yes, about 5 miles from home... this site is about 30 years old...they dug up ruins and rebuild each and every element same as it was back then, last fall they had a fire that burnt 2 of the buildings...under restauration right now...so much for children to do at each building..got a kick, in the kitchen one everyone was dressed in their period costume, kids helped pound the corn to do corn bread, everything being used was antique and lo and behold out came a lb. of Tenderflake Lard...I should call the lard company and maybe they could do an add...saying " before our time they used...tenderflake" lol ... they had another Indian Museum in town and it burnt down about 1 month ago..so very sad to loose all those pieces...

Nice that you got to relax in pool and you are correct, better start wearing sunscreen...
was invited for a swim and supper at Greg's...only 2 minutes away but this poor body couldn't do one more thing..thank goodness it's Monday and I can relax here at work...

Have a great day