Shifts in the spirits at Daves- a request to ponder

HI, my point was that we have been losing contacts with some folk who have been here awhile and have added a lot to the dg family.; due to negativity "going around". They have left (hopefully just for a bit) or are are not posting anymore, -I miss the sharing and the banter.
With all that is going on in my life, it is nice to have a place to come and share and relax. ( I see it as a positive selfishness).
I would like to share that I saw the first swan of the season-would love to see the look on the Charlie's face if he saw the Big Bird.
May all your gardens bloom forever.

Me...? Out here and clueless. Everyone has been fun, supportive, informative....and I love the bird!

Can I get a bird for SABE?
((( PLease)))

It has been seen many times before....some people just read to much into certain posts and or emails. At least in my opinion.
I love the bird too....it looks like my Quaker Walter ( he passed away 2-17-02....I miss him SO much)

HAHAHA! You folks kill me! I am SO sorry about your Quaker Rikerbear!!! I had one many many years ago before I had the sense to take care of a bird. I ended up giving him away and have regretted the rest of my life... They (from my limited knowledge) bond so closely!!! :--((

Imzadi - maybe I should post him over in the health forum - the new diet plan! Diet your tail off! LOL

Nicole

Just a tip for those folks who mentioned the spell check problem:
Type your DG message into a word processor program that most folks usually have on their systems – such as Word or Word Perfect (there are other less expensive word processors as well that offer this basic feature). Then highlight all the text and do a spell check if you don't have spell checking already turned on to check as you type, then, when you are satisfied highlight the entire text and copy it as your DG message. This approach works for all E-mails as well. It also gives you a chance to print out the message before sending it, so as to rethink it at bed time, while waiting in the doctor's office or wherever, or while in your garden -- then, perhaps reworking it before submitting it. It also offers you the option of putting it in a pending file on your hard disk or floppy to be sent another day, or not sent at all.

Remember though, If you mean "through", but type "threw", most spell checkers are not going to give you a chance to recognize your mistake -- as your recipient(s) might or might not do, and you may miss your target.

Hope I'm not being too pedantic about this -- just trying to be helpful.

shakemh

Well done, ncgardenaddict!

You certainly have turned this thread around with your bird.

:-)

haven't seen the nasties in my short time here but should they exist, I agree they should be revealed. There's no time or room for that nonsense.

The only counter attack needed is to giggle and laugh in groups. It'll drive them nuts because they'll just KNOW they are the subject... in their own small minds.

I love this shot but will never tell you what they were cackling about..

I bet it was the Bocci game!! Saw my neices and nephew ( and great nephews-ahem) play the game. These ladies probably did a Whole lot better, than my family did. They probably won the cup for "Those who enjoyed the game the most".
RikerBear-sorry to hear of your loss of Quaker. I have enjoyed playing with my sisters budgie-has to be in her house; the dat and dogs would Never understand my reasoning.
Nicole-maybe it could be one of thse "All over diets?"

8ftbed-that is a wonderful picture! A moment of true enjoyment and company captured.

thank you and it lifts my spirits everytime I look.

would you believe cancer survivor on the left (via chemo) and her older sister on the right also cancer survivor via mastectomy (Mom). Kind of like laughing at the nasties, they were laughing at cancer and had been using the weight balls to replace what they lost.

Great picture, 8ft... NOTHING beats a truly joyous laugh!

Probably a request for a rematch.

Smile, giggle, SNORT...and I don't even know what they were laughing at! How cool that smiles are so contageous.
Pati

Like I said: "Steel Magnolias" . Im with Pati, big smile just to see such laughter.

Didn't take this don't know who did - friend e-mailed to me for smiles one day. So here's for your smiles.- I captioned it "It's mine!"
You caption for fun. ~Blooms Ps I'd shrink the pic but don't know how.

love you all .

Hey y'all, just be happy that the good far outweighs the problems here. It doesn't take away the sting entirely, but it sure lessens it when you think of the big picture and how much enjoyment we derive from this community.

I *love* that shot of the laughing women -- wonderful! :D

Blaine, that is a truly awesome pic. It's just as much fun to imagine what they were cackling about ~ and you know it was a good one!

Glad you liked and hope it puts a smile on all who see it. Of course I didn't ask Mom, Aunt and DW if they wanted to be on the internet. My life span may be very short.

I may try to paint those smiles, thank you very much. I don't see that happening for some time though. Lots of labors of love on the list right now.

Guess I've been lucky, regarding DG as a MeanFree zone, haven't gotten any of the nasty emails, but since I'm not an active trader-seedswapper maybe that's why. I've been so impressed as a "new" member with the helpful, thoughtful and wise people here, I feel like my day hasn't started until I have my morning "chat" at DG. I've mentioned the site to other gardeners and with the broad range of interests shown by all the members, even non-gardeners would have fun and get smarter ! We can only hope that the people who send nasties to others will stop and consider what the effect is on the recipient...or perhaps review what they are sending and realize that without voice inflection and facial expression, it may convey a different meaning than they intend. If you've gotten one of those nasties, consider the source and avoid contact with the sender. In the meantime, have Happy Holidays and treat yourself well!

There are always a few bad apples in every bushel. So goes life. I say that we should just ignore the bad and appreciate all of the good and all of the friends that we have made here and be thankful. I love this place and that is what I intend to do.

Grinning ear-to-ear on that photo, Blaine! And, Pati, you're absolutely right....completely infectious.

Just to add my $.02.......

No matter what I'm feeling each day, whether that is joy and elation over some life event, sadness and sorrow over a loss, pain and frustration, anticipation, or eagerness - I find just exactly what I need here at DG every day! It is a rare gift to receive such steadfast companionship.

Thank you all for being not only my friends, but my mentors, my support group, my celebration party in all of my life's events.

{{{{{{{DG Subscribers}}}}}}}}

Brenda

langbr, DITTO!!!!! {{{{{hugs}}}}} back at'cha
Pati

A backlit sunflower, the smell of lavendar, russian sage and petunias in the evening, the songs of robins and cardinals through the window on spring mornings...

the complete joy a loving hug brings.

Those are my warm-n-fuzzies and I've found some of that here in DG as well.

I hope this isn't too dark and you can share the smile on Autumn's face (the little girl). It's good to be cuddled by Grandma.

Just my 2 cents;
I haven't encountered any mean spirited people here but if it happened to me, I'd forward all correspondence to Dave & Terry for them to see for themselves wether this person is just a trouble maker or not. Atleast this would alert them to a problem and if this "problem" person persists on being a problem to others, then Dave & Terry could take the appropriate action. I don't believe that one persons opinion or dislike for another should get them kicked off like it happens in that other place thats why I feel that forwarding all correspondence unedited would be the proof Dave & Terry would need to make the right decision if the same person keeps causing problems.

I realize at times, we are more sensative than others and may even take what someone wrote the wrong way when it wasn't meant to be like that. Sometimes it helps to have someone else step in and tell you if what you understood is true or perhaps you misunderstood the person. I don't feel there is any reason for someone to be mean to another especially if they are getting something for nothing. The giver has the right to state his/her conditions and if the would be taker doesn't agree then they should request. Sorry to hear this happened to you but those "meanies" are just a handful, don't let them discourage you and keep you away from the rest of your garden friends.

Gemila

I keep going back t my request to Dave to enable "Smileys"... maybe we could more appropriately tender how our words are to be taken...

Thanks, Pati, I needed a hug today!! See! That's what I mean. Got exactly what I needed to day right here in "the Garden".

TG I have not seen a lot,............. but still too many underhanded jabs contained in a post with a lol added .

Don't think smileys would be any different. No matter how many lol's or smileys, the sting will still get through to the targeted person.

IMO , Just put that bad person on your iggy list.

Sad but true, we can forget a persons cruel words but we never forget how they made us feel. It's just human nature.

This is the main reason I will not post on the brugmansia forum anymore...I am not part of the in group there so it is okay to be rude to me when I ask a question...I don't need that.

earthling sweetie, ask away directly to me if you have a question.

I have noticed intolerance at brug and other forums for newbie questions , mostly from members that expect you to go back and find a thread from 2 years ago.
Even I can't do that !

One of our esteemed experts told me they will not post any more because of too many people jumping on them all at once when they show up. (about questions they have answered over 'n over 'n over .) Some are downright demanding !

Mostly if one has a question in a running thread, the best thing to do is "Read the thread first, before posting the question" More'n likely the answer is already there.


It's a real shame that DG's instant e-mail service can be abused by some members.

It's a great new toy and I absolutely love it.

Only problem is , you can not put a 'BLOCK' on an antagonizer's email.

Actually, I think all of us in DG are doing quite well, considering the only thing we know we all have in common is a love of gardening! :-) What's the odd skirmish now & then between friends? Even devoted lovers behave poorly to each other now and again - the key is in your underlying respect, the ability to make up, and in our case, thinking before you type! :-)

Shannon

Dg is a family and the spats are not near as mean and nasty as some of my "real" family's spats. I visit DG alot and read alot of the posts, of course , I don't read them all. I was totally clueless as to the negativity in our habitat. I have commited some real blunders here and someone should have informed me about them. When I realize how stupid I have been, I wonder why someone didn't yell at me and tell me to get my act together or get off DG. But we have the greatest group of all here, Gardeners. No one has been mean or nasty(maybe because you shouldn't yell at an old woman.LOL) to me , but if they are, I can handle it .Thanks for all the great posts, trades, pictures, ideas, and inspirations that I have received here. Lou

Gosh...I haven't found anything "untowards" on DG. Some folks just have more direct ways of imparting information and that's OK too... Nice to be able to air it all out, tho'... Carol

Well add me to the clueless list, because I have no idea what is going on. But maybe sometimes it's best to leave a old dog sleep.....My experiences with Dave's have been positive. I can not believe how many caring and amazingly talented people we have here. I learn something new everyday I come. When I worked, (am retired now from Marriott Hotels) I went to a seminar, it was something about conflict. I remember the speaker saying...."Don't play with the pigs in mud, cause the pigs are gonna love it, and your gonna get dirty"...I have remembered that slogan in alot of conflicts I have had in life. It works, and so maybe we just should ignore them. You know what always say...."Ignorance is Bliss"...........

Deann

I think the best way to let these things die is just to ignore them - as my Mom used to say, "The more you stir a cow pile, the more it stinks". If there is no reply, there is no argument!

Exactamundo, PJ!!!

"eyes"

I have read over this thread a few times and taken much time to consider what has been said. All the while I have felt a bit bad for Marcia because most of the replies have been either turn the other shoulder, or missed the whole thing. I am one to forgive and forget. My feelings too, have been hurt a few times and I am sure I have hurt others too. I have seen many people come and go in the time I have been here and even seen a couple go and never return. People have to do what they need to do in order to be happy. Recently I have seen long timers leave, as even I myself have considered and it makes me sad. I am really not making any ding against this site or against people new or old. Things are just changing as things do and I guess it is not so easy to accept some changes. Some people come on stronger than others and some just seem to post with wreckless abandoned. I guess we all just to remember we are actually posting whatever our little fingers pound out and realize that a real person is going to be reading it. We were not all raised the same. We do not all live the same. We do not all have the same finances or living arrangements. I guess in the end we just need to all recognize that real people are reading what we write. If I have offended anyone, I would just hope they accept my apology and know that most of the time, I post with half of my brain and all of my heart. :) I have met both Dave and Trish in person and I truly believe they are good and nice people that put up with an awful lot so that we can play here.
Michele