Major crisis!!!!!! please read

Well, to tell the truth, I'm not sure what I'm going to do right now. Not sure if staying here is such a good idea after all. There's no medical attention I can seek here like there was in Ohio. They will not give samples here for meds and resources for housing are very slim to none in this town since the military base is here. There are over 100 pawnshops at least but do you think there would be resources for people who need it? Not really. I'm debating whether to go back to Ohio and see if I can get into a shelter for short term or something or at least sign up for something to maybe be closer to my children also. I know I will be able to get continuous medical care in Ohio and will be able to continue my medication. I'm so confused I just don't know what to do. Of course that would also mean not having a computer or a phone so no contact with any of you here who have helped me so much and have stood behind me and kept me strong. I'm just really lost right now. And Aimee, if you're reading this, don't be surprised if one day I will stand infront of your door...........LOL. I guess I can go to the bathroom in the woods if I have to.........LOL

Sometimes when I don't know what to do, I feel frozen into inactivity. I'm unable to move, to decide. If I begin to take action, I start to get a feeling as to whether I'm making the right decision or not. If you need care, making some plans to go to the most caring place is probably a good thing. Try on ideas, like you try on clothes in a dress shop. See what fits, what looks best, what's comfortable. I'm glad to see you are investigating the practical aspects of things, but don't overlook your need for support until you are back on your feet.

I know what you mean and that's why it's so hard for me. I know I can get medical help in Ohio and although Jim doesn't want me to live with him because he has a hard time dealing with his own depression he has offered to help me in any way he can............but then my mom is 450miles away from me again. So I have my mom here but no resources and have the resources there but no place to go. Very confusing indeed. I will have to talk to someone I know where I had worked at the Mental Health place about housing resources when I drive up there this week to get the kids. I don't know whether to pack more things and bring them here or whether to leave them there for now. I'm just totally lost

Flowox - you have mail...

Susan, I'd keep it as simple as possible right now. It's fortunate that Jim is being agreeable now. If you feel your things are safe there, I'd only take what you absolutely need or what gives you comfort, and leave the rest until you've truly become settled. Yes, tap all those human resources that may be able to give you good information. Problems always seem greater when you don't have the proper information to analyze them.

Well, I do have to give him credit for still caring in a way. I mean what other man would let you take the car and still pay for it, still pay for the insurance. He's going to put brand new tires on it for me when I get to Ohio and do an oil change so the car is safe for me. He bought the computer that I'm using and is still paying for it but he said I could have whatever I wanted. My things are safe, I know that. The biggest problem with him and I were my children (well, my son, who can be pretty bullheaded and tempered). Anyways, I still have a key and can go there whenever I wish and get whatever I want to take. He's even still paying the chiropractor for me even though I'm not there and said whenever I come to Ohio I can go anytime. He misses me too, we talk on the phone. He just couldn't live that way anymore, it got too much for him and I kinda understand. My son can be a handful and I don't know how to control him :(
One of these days things will get better for me. I still want to look into realty school and maybe that will be something for me since I like working with people one on one and not in a crowd and people seem to have a really easy time talking to me. Somehow I will get through this. I'm just really scared right now

Sure, you're scared. It really sounds like there's a good chance to sort this out with Jim. It may not mean being together, but sometimes not being together is caring too. Once, when I was going through a rough time in my life, my family doctor told me life is like a long road. When you begin vearing off the road, you begin to feel anxious, but when you get back on the road, you feel better. Feeling anxious is nature's way of telling you to get back on the road. You've just got to find it first@

thanks bunches Weezin.............you know, I've been thinking about you too though........how's the greenhouse coming along? I wish Alaska wasn't so far away. I just can't get used to it over here. It's so big. You can drive from one end of Germany to the other in about 9 hours, here it takes you days :o(

Sending my thoughts and prayers your way, flo.

Susan, I too have been popping into this thread to keep an eye on you :) I didn't have more to offer than my prayers which you continue to have. When you mentioned the tension your son brings to the relationship you have, I can completely understand! There is hope! When my mother (also on meds for deression now and then) was married to my step-father, there were five kids in total; his three and myself & my sister. Five teenagers! As hard as my mom & my step-dad tried, their relationship was too difficult with the stress created by the kids. They ultimately divorced and were both so sad :( But, after we had all moved out, they were soon back together dating and spending weekends with each other. They eventually married again and they have been together in their second marriage for seven or eight years now. It's not always easy for them, but they have many common interests & love each other. Please stay strong!

Hi Susan

My heart goes out to you, Can sure relate to all your going through.

Sorry I hadn't seen this sooner, My work schedule has been a killer and I haven't played on Dave's much.

I hope to see you at the Round-up and give you a big hug.

You will be in my thoughts and prayers.


Try to keep your chin up, things will work out for you somewhere down the road.

Things have sure turned for me, and I have all of you my family here at DG to thank for that.

Mike

Forgive, starting a new thread since this one's starting to load pretty sluggishly. Here it is: http://davesgarden.com/showthread/268416.html Please post to that one now?