Coffee and......May 31

Dear, dear Darius, I'm so happy for you! So it's back to the mountains? With that covered bridge, spring house and root cellar it sounds like the perfect spot for you. Remember this song?

There's a long, long trail a-winding
Into the land of my dreams,
Where the nightingales are singing,
And a white moon beams.

Sounds like your journey down that long trail is ending.
((hugs))
Pati

Yipee for Darius! Hope all goes well until your final closing.

Had a good holiday weekend, but not very relaxing with DGS and stepdaughter along. She needs to learn to get off her butt and attend to her son instead of sitting in a chair and hollering for him. Did have fun with DGS catching his first fish and entering the boat races in the creek. One of the guys camping with us is an engineer, so Jay had lots of help with his boat. Did pretty good for a first try.

McCool - What an adorable kitty. You are an angel for saving his life. I don't know what gets into people thinking pets are just disposable like garbage. Make me sooooo mad!

Sarv - You have been busy havn't you! Slow down! You're making me feel like a slug.

Elaine - I did get one of the books your mentioned. I have CRS right now and can't remember the author, but the title is "The Preachers Daughter" May be a while before I get to start reading it, but they look like great stories.

M5- You're getting another kitty? Oh that is great! Sammi will be so happy!

Mary - Glad our nighttime temps are higher now. I love sleeping with the windows open. Except when the fox comes around. I don't know if they are hunting, or what, but he seems to choose our bedroom window to be under when he starts yapping. Has anyone here ever heard one? Kind of an ear pearcing yap.

No time to address everyone. ~~~~~ to the rest of you. See ya soon!

Okay, I'm being serious for a min. When meeting someone for the first time would you prefer them to tell you they were disabled ... or would it matter to you? Please honestly tell me? I need to know if you'd be uncomfortable. We are suppose to come here and share, right?

Elaine, Yes I'd tell them if they couldn't figure it out immediately by themselves.

Elaine, upon meeting a 'disabled' person for the first time I wouldn't think it necessary for the person to explain their disability. At such time as it became obvious that there was a problem an explanation might help, such as 'would you please speak slower, my hearing is not too good', or whatever the difficulty might be. Most disabilities are evident and do not require explanations. At least that's my view.

I'm sorry ... guess I didn't make myself clear. I mean when you've met someone over the internet but not in person. Should you tell them first so they know?

Elaine, I would think that would depend on the relationship. If it's just a casual passing conversation I don't see why it would be necessary. In a group like this where EVERYTHING is discussed ad infinitum, our disabilities are just part of our personalities. I don't think anyone feels uncomfortable about them.
Pati

This message was edited May 31, 2006 6:33 PM

well now as one them does not bother me to be asked some cases though you just know..they are just like all of us something happened they became disabled either due to health, accident or?. have same feelings we all do i think, or I believe.. they don't like having them but things happen.. My son in law could not get belt on ac so i drove in 93 heat thought i was melting each sweat bead..lol.. and power sterring must be pump so struggle to drive it but if thats what got you can manage. i have to..i thought i had all figured out he just could not get belt on drat.. There is 2 things that put me in mood no one wants to be aroun no vehicle and broke but after the 2 yrs now broke don't matter but now the vehicle it Does big time..my husband told mech. the one who tried to cheat me, that he had to have it fixed right now .. i was not ever that bad... ah well... have good eveing all..

Twyla

Elaine - I feel that in situations like DG (online internet) it helps me if I know some things. If you had a disability that kept you from hearing, then it probably wouldn't matter, but since it is your sight, then I know to try to remember to explain pictures to you. I'm not bothered by it, just feel more comfortable with the whole subject by knowing that you yourself are comfortable. I have always been more at ease with anyone with any kind of disability if they themselves are comfortable. While I realize it isn't easy to be "different" from what is considered "normal", if the person can accept where they are it makes it easier to relate for all "able" people to deal with the difference. To me a person is a person, therefore a child of God. I can't demean His love by being short sighted. I would rather know than have to figure it out and maybe hurt their feelings before it all clicks in my brain.

If the disability is obvious, nothing needs be said, if it isn't, let me know. It could save all parties involved embarrassment in the long run.

I can't inmagine how it would make a difference in how I feel about you one way or another, but with someone I meet for the first time, I would prefer to know because I think it would make all future meetings easier for us all.

I know I'm not wording this very well. I know what I want to convey, but can't seem to get it down on "paper".

Hope this helps you
ginni

Segue... My sister is acting up again. Way too much stress coupled with drinking all afternoon to relieve the stress. Right now she's threatening to throw me out. Of course, I have nothing to fall back on. I can only hope and pray she'll get over it.

Dang fingers. I hit something and POOF......

I did answer most if not all things. So now it is going to have to be short as not to miss dinner put had to make a couple important comments. I will try to come back and re do the rest.

Darius that is wonderful news. I had the last piece of the cake in honor as I was reading. I am so happy that the stress has a finish line finally.

Elaine, if the disability would cause for misunderstandings to develop then yes I would tell them. It wouldn't have made a difference to me if I had never known you are blind, knowing did help us in allowing for us to describe pictures, but I wouldn't care for you less over it. Just dont tell me that you have warts all over you now from the frog. Why?? Who said something and do we need to ship the 4X6. I will help you with the aim if need be.

Darius, give her some more alcohol and tell her to take a nap. I hope that she comes to her senses soon.

Thanks Genni. That has helped me a lot. You are a sweetie. :) I'm meeting someone tomorrow and don't want to make her uncomfortable. You helped to put things into perspective. :) Love ya!
~Elaine~

darius, you are right. The house does not look like a trailer at all. If everything goes OK, and you get there, I am overrun with Heritage Raspberries and will be glad to send you some.
If a round-up is repeated in Boone again, perhaps I'll get to see you again..

Okay, I'm back.

Darius ... how can that sis of yours be sooo mean!!! Good grief! I'm sending the 4X6! Give her some more booze and then hit her over the head. When she wakes up she won't know why she has a head ache ... but you'll feel a *whole* lot better for it. LOL LOL

Well, I know y'all are thinking I'm crazy ... but well, I'm meeting a new DG friend tomorrow and we've only just talked. Never thought to mention anything ... but then got to thinking ... how would she feel tomorrow? I don't know. I just sort of got nervous. :) Guess I just needed some advice. Didn't want her to get out tomorrow and feel uncomfortable or anything. I just love everyone and want them to be *right* at home!

Elaine, Ginni hit it right on the head. I am sure the new friend will feel right at home and you are going to have a wonderful time!! Now I just have to remember to give a few more details on things when I post.

Darius, I hope things clear up for you and your sis finds better ways to relive stress. Hope you have'nt come down with the bug your DS had. LOL I'm with Elaine and the 2x4 idea....

Twyla, I hope you get your car fixed and soon!! I can get pretty onery with out mine even tho I don't drive that much just like the idea that it's there when I want to go......Hugs and Love to all...Lauri

Elaine, you are a warm, kind and caring person. I am sure that the DG person already knows that. Telling them that you are vision impaired will just help them in knowing that they need to look for you and that you may not realize that they are who they are until a voice and words are exchanged. Stop stressing and just be you. I am sure that you are going to have a wonderful time and will be fast friends. And your disability has nothing to do with it. Oh and have a great time.

Wow, not much activity here. Gives me a moment to catch back up.

Hope, give those kids a kick in the butt. Or just be late with the snacks and they seem to realize that you are the mom. Never really worked for me but sure sounded good. LOL

Patti, you are a gem. I had forgot all about my tetanus update shot. Better get my butt in there and I will be sure to drag the family with me to be sure.

So Bal, I was thinking, when the time comes how would you feel about a SC vacation to help with gate construction. I have shown yours to all my friends and they all are very impressed.

Suzie, good to see you. Glad that you came in. Sorry that your vacation had some flaws. Lazy parenting is a big issue with me. I see it all day long. Far to common then what should ever be accepted. Hard for me to keep my mouth shut at times at work.

Mary, I was glad to read that Patches was doing better this morning. Hope that it continues and he is up to norm quickly.

Joy, I love the weeping willow tree. DH has plans for at least two the first break of spring we get after moving. They are his favorite tree.

Sarv, I give up. You exhaust me and I am younger then you. Stop that....

Defoe, when my DS was little he kicked me so hard that I had a bruise in the shape of his foot on my thigh for weeks. That was the last night he fell asleep in my bed and stayed.

Molly, I hope the rain stays away long enough for you to complete what you need to get down. After that I hope you get a good watering for all your plants. I love reading all your updates on your thread about the orchid house. I am watching closely and learning lots.

Meezer, have you decided on a name for the new addition? I know Sammi is going to love having someone to pounce on.

WS, glad that the library is still bringing you such joy. I still have it marked on my list of things to see. Hopefully I will see you at the same time. Maybe lunch....

I know I have missed some, so waves to you ~~~~~~ and to all those that are lurking mostly, step in a say HI more often. We love hearing from you.....

Darius, I lived with a drunk for 25 years. Tomorrow your sister will either have forgotten her comments or pretend she didn't make them....IMHO. Alcohol lowers inhibitions and puts that little brain censor to sleep that tells us when to shut up, and people who change personalities under the influence reach that point easily ...I feel for you in this situation as there isn't much you can do to influence her behavior. Your best option is possibly to hop in your truck and take a short drive to a spot where you can lower your own stress level, and hope that she goes to bed before you get home. At the risk of repeating myself, get your living agreement in writing, so that your hard work and contributions are not lost, in case the worst happens. Self destructive people love to take those nearest them down with them.

Elaine, we all have something wrong with us, what 's important is what is on the inside, and your new friend already knows what's in your heart. We grow old, infirm, lame, deaf, bald, pick your infirmity and each of us has something going awry, yours just happened at an earlier age. (Anyone here who is perfect, feel free to speak up....and count your blessings. ) OK now somebody help me down off this soap box because my knee is acting up again.!

Dcat you can start with my curio cabinet which needs windex, and then the bathroom windows which have lots of little glass knickknacks that could use a good cleaning. That will take care of the first week.....LOL
I think I mentioned once before that a bunch of us, young mothers at the time used to do round robin cleaning of each other's houses, because it's easier to clean some one else's house. NO distractions, no phone calls, no visitors, no kids... it was kind of fun. Well, as much fun as housework can be.

It was just beautiful here today, blue blue skies, fluffy clouds, cool breeze ..I finished weeding the side garden, so tomorrow we'll put down the landscape fabric after I give it a good dose of Preen, and one major task can be crossed off our list. Picked up the crate from DD, and we can put a little shelf in it for the new baby. Right now it is being thoroughly inspected by the cat patrol, wait until they see the occupant! Souky just caught a moth, managed not to knock the lamp down and is as pleased as punch with herself.

I can't think of what else I wanted to comment on, which doesn't mean I didn't have a comment (I'm never at a loss for words, am I?) it just means I can't dredge it up ...Oh, yah, we're going to HD tomorrow, stopped there tonight and DH noticed they had trees, red oak for $30 about 15' high, but we had the little hatchback so tomorrow he'll go with the gashog truck and pick up a couple. I got two hanging baskets for $5.99 each.

see you tomorrow...

Sheila

I started a thread in Pets for New Kitty needs a name, here's the link if you want to check it out. DH and I are still snickering over Soo Shi.

http://davesgarden.com/forums/t/609094/

To comment to the most important issue, I01, knowing you, and your sweet ways, it wouldn't make any difference if you had horns growing out of your head. I think people automatically pick up on the "vibes" that you send. If you are comfortable, then you make them at ease. I don't have any time for people who consider the "dis" ability, before they consider the person. If they are shallow enough that they are uncomfortable, then they are not worth wasting breath on. If I met someone and the disability is obvious, and I perceive that they would rather not explain, it's fine with me. I try to be as sensitive in these situations, as I would want someone to be with me, were I in their shoes. Meet the person, and put your comfort level in plain view, and if they are uncomfortable, then it is they who has the problem!! Hugs, my friend.

Darius, tell that sis, if she doesn't straighten up, and quite terrorizing you with her threats that she will have to deal with this whole gang. We can come in masse, or do it one day at a time. Either way, don't think she would like the results!! Wish you would really consider your piece of mind. Would it be better to live in a lesser place and be content, or live in a "dream come true" and be on edge wondering when the next tantrum would strike. To me, a tent at the side of the road, by myself would be much preferred than constant tension. Why does there have to be "difficult" people in our lives? And don't tell me that it will make us stronger, I am as strong as I want/need to be.

susieq, glad to see you back. Just thought you were having a busy week at work. The camping trip sounded like fun.

hope, car trouble is the pitts. We have been dealing with a contrary mechanical problem, and DH has dealt with some "shade tree" mechanics, who have only made the problem worse. Finally, after 2 of these jerks, it is in a "real" garage being worked on now.

Joyous that pick up duty sounds like too much work for me. But I do think they are so graceful looking.

Sarv, glad you didn't have a big area to paint. Glad it finally got covered.

Well, we got home from church about 7:30, and DH headed to one garden, and I to another. He picked peas, I picked strawberries. So have spent the night shelling peas, and capping strawberries. I had about 1 1/2 gallon strawberries, and when shelled, about 5 quarts of peas. He had also picked cherries this afternoon, and had to pit them. So I have about 2 quarts of cherries. We are going to a pot luck supper tomorrow night, so have all the ingredients for what I will be taking. A cherry cobbler, and creamed peas with new potatoes. Yum, I am making myself hungry.

It just now dawned on me why I01 always refers to green peas as English peas. LOL, she is southern and there is the black eyed pea variety. Aha, funny how that didn't register until I was typing this. I will eat black eyed peas ocassionally, but they are not something I would want often. Some folklore says for good luck, eat cooked cabbage and black eyed peas on New Years Day. I think there is something about putting a "silver dime" in the pot the cabbage is cooked in also. I would have to have that dime soaking in disinfectant for a long time, before throwing that in the pot!!

Well, since I have not done anything to the house this week, tomorrow is that day!!. I have the laundry caught up, and have had decent meals this week, but you can write your name on every piece of furniture in this house, plus the cat hair and dog hair, is beginning to form balls, when you walk across the carpet. I had a sick animal, (don't know which one) but fortunately, this was a very tidy sick animal, as they upchucked on 2 different throw rugs while I was out today. They were put out on the deck, until I could get them in the washer, and we had a downpour tonight, so they are already pre rinsed!!.

Well, I intend to clean the house and do some weeding tomorrow, as the rain will make that chore easier.

Okay, going to check our some other forums, and may be back.

Meezers, I added my vote to your kitty thread in pets. You know me ... just had to vote! LOL
I want to thank each of you for your many kind words tonight. I *really* do appreciate each of your friendship. It means so much to me. I don't know why I got so uptight, but I feel better and will let y'all know how things go. :)

I'll be starting the daily just as soon as I figure it out! LOL

Hugs all way round.

~Elaine~

Okay, if I did this right ... here's the daily for tomorrow. Y'all hold your breath!
http://davesgarden.com/forums/t/609687/