Coffee and...For Friday, Jan. 6, 2006

darius, you make me feel tired with all that you do. Don't know how you do it. I could never build structures like that.

Susan, don't minimize the importance of your own problems. I don't think I'd have the courage to have that surgery with your past medical history.

Maria, it really has been remarkable, the change in your outlook since Samson came along to join you. Maybe you were ready to climb out of the dark hole, but I think he helped a lot.

M5, sure hope your insurance situation is resolved. That would be a large bill to have to pay.

Kelly, I'm with you on the thoughts re grandpa and the twins. To be fair, he DID take them out in the back yard to build a snowman. and we all 4 of us (yeah sure) shovelled about 5 inches of heavy wet snow off the driveway.. I helped shovel since I'd skipped aquafit, but opted out of the snowman building. But guess who got nominated to make hot chocolate when they came in. LOL But isn't it just like a man to be blind to the preparations that should be going on?

Better go. I think I left the iron on in the basement. that's why I bought one that turns itself off. I've got a couple of old family linens that I use in various spots when I have a big party and then don't iron again until the next big party.

Ann

That is what I wanted to say, one has to walk in his or her shoes to understand how painful and complicated ones problem really is.

Now Snowcone is sick. I am so worried, he is just laying around and he feels warm and won't eat.

He has an appointment at 8:30 in the morning. He is just a 'baby'. He is a year and half. I haven't heard from the vet about Pepper's numbers yet. That worries me too.

My daughter called and said she saw the doctor and her thyroid (goiter) has doubled in size and she has to have an ultrasound next week. If there involves surgery, I won't even be able to go up and be with her because of my stupid shoulder surgery.

AND the shoulder surgery sounds worse than I thought. Not the surgery itself but the recovery period. My arm will be immobolized for a week and then I can only use the hand/wrist and not lift anything for eight weeks. After 8 weeks, they will teach me how to lift my arm again, in the meantime they will teach me how to use other muscles to do things. This means my poor DH will have to do everything, and I do mean everything around the house. He says he doesn't mind, and I know I would do it for him, but it just upsets me that I can't do anything.

I have to find a way to get on here or I will really go crazy.

I am sorry to go on and on. You guys are very good 'listeners'. I DO appreciate it.

Susan
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((((Susan))))))

I do hope all gets better !!!

Anne

I agree with the general consensus here as far as problems go,,,when we're going through them, they are bad,,,maybe we don't think they're as bad as someone else's,,,however, they're bad for us.

Different people are at different levels emotionally and spiritually,,,the problems some have, they can handle,,,others wouldn't be able to and vica versa (sp?) Most of the time,,,we feel we barely make it through. However, I truly believe If God leads you to it,,,,He'll lead you through it.

Ann,
Well, if you don't get everything done,,,we'll help when we all get there,,,LOL

Kelly

Oh Susan,

I sure hope Snowcone is O.K. ,,,,Pepper too.

You have to think positive about the surgery,,,,it'll take awhile for recovery,,,but after that you'll feel so much better. Your DH will take care of things and you just have to learn to let him.

Prayers for both the furkids and you,
Kelly

Well, the nieces are gone. such a joy. Had pizza and I made some CD's for them while they watched a DVD.

Susan, I wish there were some words of comfort I could give you right now. Just please know that I'm saying prayers for your surgery and also for the furbabies. I truly know that sometimes it's sooo hard to depend on those we love ... it can make us feel like such a burden. But just remember how you feel about the DH and then you'll know that he *really* doesn't mind helping you at all. Just be glad you have each other to lean on. I will be praying for your DD, also. Just seems like you have an awful lot on your plate right now.

Maria, hope you don't mind ... but you summed up my feelings exactly so I'll just quote you ...

"one has to walk in his or her shoes to understand how painful and complicated ones problem really is." :)

Hugs to all ... Elaine

Susan, don't be sorry, spill it out, I know I did just to be able to talk about problems helps a lot, after all why do some of us go to see psychiatrists? You have suffered a lot of pain , don't for one minute think we don't want to hear about because I know it will feel good to complain about it , It helped me quite a bit.

Yes, Ann, Samson is still helping me in many ways, I needed something to take care of and not be so alone though my children are very thoughtful but they do have their own lifes to live.

Darius, you are so very busy and Molly too which is good in many ways, but I miss our chats

Well, I see life goes on, even if I have been disconnected. Let me update you, DML, started to feel better immediately after the fluid was drained from her lungs. There was approximately 700 cc in each lung. She even sat up and ate lunch. Felt well until about 9:00 tonight, and started having the laboured breathing again. They are going to put chest tubes in, may have already done so. I picked up DH at 5:00 this afternoon, and he is in bed trying to catch up on the sleep he missed last night. Barring any midnight crisis, we will be going to the hospital in the morning. The food I prepared today, was really "funeral food", as the situation sounded so bleak. I knew that we would be running in and out and needed something that would sustain us. I made the ham, baked beans, and potato salad. Those are things that can be eaten almost instantly. Now, I guess it is "visiting the hospital" food. What ever, I have stuff in the fridge to get us through. Satelite man came installed the new dish, thought I understood how to operate the remote, then spent the next hour reading didn't get it to work. When DGD arrived at 6:00, gave us a 2 minute tutorial, and now understand it completely. Computer savvy kids, what would we do without them. She is 9 years old, and can do everything concerning computers!! Maybe on Spring break, I can get her to teach me how to post pics. LOL.

Mary's horse's foot is healed, Those were great pillows, was that you meezer? Susan, trivial problems, not when you are facing some serious surgery and recovery. Until I have been there and done that, I don't critize any ones problems. I have been with DH through 5 shoulder surgeries, and I am sure, that he would do the same for me. One time he had just had surgery on one shoulder, and the other one dislocated. He ended up in slings for both arms, I had to feed, bathe, dress, and wipe mouths, and butts. Talking about true love, I told him that he had just experienced it.

I made new year's resolutions this year, and resolved to spend time with people I enjoy and less time with those I don't. And the next one I didn't share, because I thought it was sort of silly. DH is not a demonstrative person, and has limited conversational capabilities, but I resolved to give him a hug and kiss every day. Maybe by the end of the year, he will be willingly returning them. Well tonight after supper, I hugged and kissed him, 2 times, once for yesterday, since he was gone, and once for today. DGD, piped up and said, "who's going where?', as she sees this hugging and kissing when someone is leaving for an extended period of time. I told her later about my resolution, and she just rolled her eyes, and said "good luck mamaw". You see I have always waited for him to initiate the physical contact, and I decided, if I was going to get the affection that I need, I might just have to change my way of thinking, and be the initiator for the next 41 years. LOL.

Maria, I don't want to make light of your serious depression, after your husband passed, but aren't you glad that you thought enough of your daughters to live. And what joy Samson has brought to your life. I dare say that you may have stayed in your house with little outside contact with others, now just think of all the work he creates as therapy. Loving puppy therapy!!. Pets are good.

Our 19 pound calico cat who has been with us for 5 years, as a present from DGD, has just been transferred to her house, as her mom promised her a kitty for christmas. Since she is house broken, and just a joy, I offered her to go live with DGD. We are making this a test. After a reasonable length of time, if it doesn't work out, we will take her back.

Oh to update you on DM's blood pressure. I had a talk with her last night about taking her meds upon arising, and taking her fluid pill faithfully. I am having a hard time making her understand how important that fluid pill is. She hates it so much, as she is on a walker, and feels like she runs to the bathroom all day. But she took her meds at proper time, and the fluid pill, and her blood pressure was 157/77 at noon. So, (on my band box here), if prescribed, take it as directed to get the maximum effects from the meds.

Well, I am off to bed, hopefully to not have phone calls during the night. We will be going to the hospital early in the morning, so will post when I have a chance.

I know that I have said it many times, but want to say it again, I/we really appreciate all your prayers and thoughts through this trying time for DMIL. I really don't know what I would have done without you all. Love each and every one.

Night Night.

This message was edited Jan 6, 2006 11:18 PM

Hi All,
Tomorrow's Daily is up
http://davesgarden.com/forums/t/566426/
Here's the link if anyone needs it.

Nightie Night,
Kelly

{{{Bonnie }}}
... Elaine