update on mama

as many of you know mama, my mil, is dying with emphesema. she had to be put in the hospital yesterday and the time has come that she no longer can do for herself, not even bathroom duties. dh has gone to her house to help with the arrangements of putting her into a nursing home as none of us who would be willing to take on the job are in physical shape to do so. this is really a hard thing to do. my sil and her dh are both disabled as dh and i are and they are not able to pull and lift on her either. please remember us in your prayers and hopefully the Lord will take her home peacefully in her sleep as she is suffering so much.

Oh, Janet, I know how hard this must be for you. You're a giver, through and through. I'm praying for mama and for your family. That's rough. (((hugs)))

Praying for Mama and the whole family.

Adding my prayers for you all.

Something my mother told me was that if there ever came a point in her life when she needed to be in a nursing home she wanted me to make the decision without feeling guilty. So, don't feel guilty for not being able to take care of her yourselves. Not many people are able to take on such a huge physical load. Appreciate the remaining time you have with her and don't add the burden of feeling like you should have done more. The Lord expects us to do our best and then have faith that He will take care of the rest.

May you, your family and mother in law feel peace at this time. And when it's her time to go I pray that you and your family will know she's continuing her life closer to Him.

Claire

I can hardly believe she is still with you as sick as she has been for so long! May GOD give all of you strength to do what must be done and guide you thru all the details of the move. This has been a really long and trying time for your family. Perhaps now you can relax a little and regain some of your own strength. Do keep an eye on the home you put her in and visit as often as possible but not on a set schedule. Insist on being allowed to visit at all hours of day or night.

GOD bless and keep all of your family.

well she is home and spry as ever. her stamina for life is unreal. as long as she will leave her O2 on she is fine. so we are going to try and make her keep it on and let her stay home for as long as possible. this has been a long journey for all of us. when my own mama had cancer she was fortunate not to linger in pain too long. less than 6 months in the bed and all. she died at age 50 with colon cancer. mil is 73 and up to last october she could work circles around us all. it is really hard seeing her deteriate so much. she was an avid gardener and loved to work in the yard and now she can barely get from the recliner to the dining table 10 ft away. i love this woman so much. she could have never been a better mil. she has been my mama for 23 yrs and i love her dearly. thanks all of you for listening.

((((Janet)))) You're so fortunate to have her. God bless you guys.

well just heard she is going home today. she is quite confused and all so we still have to decide on a nursing home. the shame of this all is that she has another daughter and several sons who could take care of her but the refuse,

JCF. Many hugs and prayers to Find strength and set your , yours and mums heart at ease.

jcf, what's the latest on your MIL? Have I missed something?

she is still hanging in their. still able to get around with walker. getting weaker each day though. requires round the clock help.

I'll be keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers, I know you've had quite a year.

Janet, my heart aches for all of you. I understand this situation to a degree because Jack and I have both lost both parents. Only my father went suddenly. The other 3 had a longer time of it. It is so sad that the others in the family won't help out. I hope they don't expect any rewards when it is over. May GOD richly bless you and your family and keep you uplifted above all the depression, anger and bitterness that could so easily take root in this situation.

leaflady you hit the nail on the head. her sons and daughter who had nothing to do with her for years are now holding out their hands.

isn't that always the way?! I'm praying your heart can hold what it must and that you are greatly blessed with grace.

May God be with you, help you cope with everyone and give you a clear head to handle the situation. Any update in the past few days?

janet you are in my thoughts and prayers.