What do you normally do when ..

.. when you are angry at something or someone? Control it or go through its entire course, throwing things or shouting......?

I never shout Dinu.. Im not that kind of person. Wish I could sometimes though. I generally close my eyes and count to 10 and try to stay calm if possible. Then either try again or walk away......

Someone told me that folding the tongue and touching the roof of the mouth from its underside while closing the mouth calms down the anger! I used to throw things when young but with age, temper has mellowed a great bit! Now, I'm not given to too much emotions, be it happy or otherwise. But there are some occasions, rare ones, when the blood gets hot and ....

sometimes it does us good to let rip. I do very rarely but it seems to clear the air somewhat. Often when I am in a deep depression I throw things but that is more out of frustration than anger :(

Hmm- I usually hold it all in. Then my anger normally fades and I don't think about it anymore. Probably not healthy though,hehe. Now if someone is really bothering me..and holding it in is just too hard- I'll normally tell them in a very calm voice how ignorant,selfish and worthless they are. Then I smile and walk away. :D But, that's probably not healthy either.

Sit down with a pen and paper and write all the things you want to say or need to say and get it all out. Then shred the paper or burn it, whichever makes you feel happy. Sometimes all you need is to free it from your body. You could just walk outside and let out one heck of a gut wrenching yell or scream. This usually ends with you laughing which will make you feel better anyway. If something in particular has hurt you or made you angry, I hope it passes soon. ;)

I hold most of it in, I dont throw things but sometimes I sure have wanted too, but I always think "dang Im gonna want that later". When Im super po'd I clean, I mean I scrub, move furniture to vacuum, wash walls you name it.
I do have a tendancy to yell when it gets real real bad but usualy I try to get it resolved right then and there. Unfortunatly I can hold a grudge but it has to be a really horrible bad offense for me to do that, but if the person(s) has the decency to apologise to me then I can let it go.
I have never been angry enough to say something mean in my anger to say something hurtful tho, thats a thought that never enters my mind to do and even if it did I couldnt bring myself to do something like that.

Hey Janet, can you come to my house and let me tick you off really much? The house and some of the walls could use the attention and I'll GIVE you the toaster! LOL

It takes an awful lot to make me truly angry, I tend to let a lot slide, but when I reach boiling point, my Irish temper blows & it is a fierce heat. I don't scream, hit or throw, I just get it all out & I sometimes regret things I say, because they cannot be retracted, but they are ALWAYS true.
But once I get it all out, it is over & I don't usually give it another thought. I just don't hold grudges.
DH is completely opposite. He blows up loud & long & does not let anything go. He can stay mad for days. You make him mad, and he will never forget it.
My 2 favorite rules:
1- Don't sweat the small stuff
2- It's all small stuff

I learned very early on in my marriage not to throw things. When you throw things, they break, and then you have to clean them up. :-)

A good brisk walk usually does it for me when I'm very angry.

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This message was edited Feb 10, 2004 3:27 PM

I seethe inside and think bad thoughts about the offending person. I don't have an agressive cell in my body, which is no way to be in this world, but that has always been my nature.

Very often I head out to the screen room and while watching the birds royally let the offending party have it with both barrels. Anyone seeing me would know I had lost my marbles talking to "myself" in such a way...needless to say,I'm usually alone. LOL

Trust your instincts ..they are usually right. It took me a long time to learn this. Anger often stems from a feeling of being controlled or powerless. Confrontations are never pleasant but it can be very freeing:) State your position in a calm but firm manner and be at peace with your inner convictions.
Peace,
Ladibug

LOL Chele, the last time I got that mad DH got scared and asked me to go shopping with him, I told him youll have to wait till im done with this wall and then I haveto move the sleeper sofa back and vacuum there too. LOL I ended up getting my long awaited tree frogs that day and everything they needed. You would think I had sparks flying from my eyes and smoke and fangs showing. That was about 2 years ago.

These things come to mind: "Cool cucumbers"... "Beware the fury of the patient man". My mother's father used to throw and hit with things during anger bouts. He had mellowed with age too. Controlling anger (or any emotions for that matter) is bad to some extent and the experts support this. Why do we get angry? Isn't there any other way of viewing things? I know a few people who never get angry for any reason. They are the ones who meditate regularly and they say that is the secret of having a balanced mind. Almost automatically, they seem to handle things in the right manner! A decade ago, me and my boss had a fight. He too was short tempered. He reacted in a manner unbecoming of a leader and I got angry. I shouted and slammed the door behind me. But then, I knew he was amidst tense days (as he was convening a big international convention) and later we slowly got around and I had to tell him certain facts about his behaviour (I was much younger to him). He took in the right perspective and I could see him gradually change his mannerisms and his temper. In two-three years he was a softer person.