60 years today!!

If my parents were living they would have celebrated 60 years of marriage today. As it is they only made it to 37 as Mom died at 58. I always remember their birthdays and wedding anniversary and the dates of their deaths. Anybody else remember these days after loved ones have died?

Yes, remember all the birthdays, have to stop and figure out how old they would be today.

Joann, even 37 years in today's world is quite a feat!! I wish you another wonderful memory of your parents!!

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I'm terrible with dates ... even my own anniversary. Don't tell DH that I have to look it up every year - cuz I ALWAYS give him he** when he forgets it.

I ran across this thread. Lenjo you made me cry. My mother is 57. Hearing your mother died at 58 makes me sad and afriad. I'm the only child, and very close to my mom. Even though I turned 30 last year, she still worries about lots of things for me. I love her as I love my children, more than I love myself.

My parents would have been married 69 years if they were still alive. I have tried to make holidays special for my daughter when she was growing up but now that she is grown I don't get into them as much.
The holidays just doesn't seem the same without my mother, she died when I was 18 so to me holidays are just another day.

My parents were married 60 years last November. Such a long time. They were lucky to see their children marry and have kids and become pretty much what we will be in life. They also saw their 3 oldest grandkids turn 21 this year. My mother can't believe we are all so old now. Neither can I! LOL

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Windsurffer, I can understand your sentiments, I miss my parents yet even though they have been gone a long time, I especially missed them for Katy's wedding.They both loved gardening and weren't aware of all that Oregon could grow as they weren't natives to here.

Kell, I am with you too , I just can't believe I am the age I am.
Farmerpickle, I am sure you are wonderful mother and daughter. And that gives your mom great happiness.

Hi Joann...My parents were married 52 years when my dad died 14 years ago. Yes, I remember their anniversary and dad's birthday, and sadly, the day he died. But at least they are good memories. I had a GREAT childhood. :-)

Yes, I too remember.

parents would have been married 58 years now, and Daddy would be 94 !

I SOOOO miss him. Wish I could tell him just how much I love him , tell him about all the things I NOW understand but didnt when he tried to teach me, and would love to ask so many questions about life and everything.

Isnt it a shame we dont appreciate our parents enough until it is almost too late or TOO late !

I remember the dates.......
We lost dad April 10, of '88. He was 9 days from 65. I remember thinking all the way to the hospital that nothing could happen to him that day, because it was the second anniversary of my maternal grandmothers death. April 10 was also the due date of my first son in 1966, though he arrived the 13th. His daughter arrived April 9th of '99. I was thankful for my mom that it wasn't the 10th. I know it's a tough day for her still.

Lenjo my mother was the gardner and dad was the best cook. My mother died when she was 45 she had a heart attact and my father died of rectal cancer when I was 24 years old. I thank God for every year I live. Since heart trouble has taken so many of my mother's family I am surprised that I live so long. I wish she was here to tell me what she thinks of my garden, of course she would find something that I am doing wrong and would set me straight lol. She didnt know the Latin names of plants but there wasn't nothing she couldn't grow. I remember the neighbors talking about my mother's garden and how huge the tomatoes where, not to mention the Kentucky Wonder beans.
Even though my mother has been gone a long time, it seems like yesterday when I use to steal tomatoes out of the garden.

Oh my, I lost both parents within 10 months of each other last year... First mom, then dad. I remember all these things and more...sometimes with a smile, sometimes with tears, and usually a combination of the two. They married late in life because of WWII. Couldn't have children of their own so adopted me one year and a sister for me the next... How great a gift and how much I miss them...

Connie

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Connie my heart goes out to you, I do understand your pain. I know it's hard to loose someone you love and within such a short period of time, God bless you and give your heart ease.

Windsurfer, Thanks. He does bless me and continues to do so even when I tend to forget sometimes all He has done. I think it is a good thing to remember...

You are so right and as long as we remember them they will always be with us.

It is so wonderful how God works by even resurrecting this thread so much later. Being able to talk and bring these out is a healing process and I am glad that you are all able to do this. Connie, you will never not miss your parents but knowing they are still close is helpful and we can look forward to seeing them again can get us through some hard and dark times.

Tomorrow, July 15, my Joe will be gone 11 years. He was 40 when he was killed by a drunk driver. It's impossible to believe that I've lived 11 long years without him; yet it seems like yesterday I watched him fillet fish out in the back yard, and watched his eyes dance as the told about the big one that got away. I wonder if the memories will ever stop being so very painful, and the loss so huge.

Yes I remember the dates........

I am so sorry MossRoss. What a terrible tragedy.

What amazes me is how time just keeps going by even after a horrible event. I have been thinking a lot about time. You would think it should stop for some things. Day after day whizzes by, making it longer and longer since part of your family died even when you do not want the world to pass your loved one by as if they never were here.

I guess I am having a hard time expressing myself.

MossRose it is very hard to have someone you love taken from you and in such a way that is so tragic. I know that he wouldn't want you to be sad but to live your life until you two meet again.


No Kell your not having problems expressing yourself because we do understand what your saying. It is ironic that once our loved ones are gone it's almost like they never existed. Don't be so hard on yourself they are always with you even if time goes on, they are there.

I lost my mom first after she had her legs amputated at age 62 and my dad died of a broken heart less than 2 years later. He was so lost without her. Three years later, I lost my brother at age 55.
My blessings to all of you in your times of loss - I just keep remembering all those fond memories. I must say it bothers me that they all died so young, I wish my mom could see my gardens, of course, I am sure she up there smiling and telling my dad "Ken leave that girl alone" LOL!