9-11 suggestion

In honor of the people who died in the towers last year and to take time to reflect on the past event and the past year I would like to suggest that come this 9-11 we break from the usual and NOT POST any questions or answers that day on any of the forums. Take the time to spend with family and/or friends,enjoy each others company. If you have no family or friends to spend the time with maybe just use the time to relax and read or phone a long lost friend or family member and say I LOVE YOU.

This is just a suggestion.

I do know 1 thing Tom........I am totalling ignoring all media driven events on that day. This wound is still smarting and will forever. I have no plans to reopen it!!

"eyes"

Tom, that's a wonderful suggestion. However, I can't. Please understand, if it weren't for Dave's, I don't know what I'd have done that day. We were all here and it was everything to me. The people here really are my family, I know we all say that, but for many of us it's very true. For some of us, this is the almost only contact we have with other people. I will be here, but I won't have forgotten.

davesgarden people are part of my family, and all of my family will be at school or work that day. I like tig was here that day with my garden family.
I will be reflecting and remembering that day and all that was taken.

Ditto tiG! I would be lost without my family here! I can't say that I will post, but I can't say I wont post eaither. I guess the only way to be for sure is if the site is down and not working. Sorry. It's a good idea and all but I simply can't make you any promises.

We are never going to forget. It will be a hard day for everybody. I know there have been all kinds of emails etc saying to wear red,white and blue and I intend to do so. I will be at work that day but so many will be home as they where on the that day. DG was an outlet and a release for them and me.Dave opened the chat room that day. It really helped maybe he will for 9-11 too,this would be a great way to help out everybody. I know you all think I am nuts for wanting the chat room when things are wrong. But it really helps to have your family and friends around then and that's what everybody here are. Just my 2 cents for what it's worth!

Tom, I understand how you feel, but I came into Dave's Garden on Sept. 15th....was so down from the 9-11 happenings, and having a terminially ill husband....it was like finding a beautiful sunny day in an otherwise drab, cloudy world....so I want to be right here on that anniversary of such a sad day...I'm just sorry I didn't have DG to help me on the original day! I don't think I even want to watch the media hype either. Jo

I spent many of those long awful hours/days/weeks/months after 9/11 in my garden, seeking solace. Whether or not I post isn't the reason for my response here - but simply to state an affirmation of what time in the garden does for me.

We're having a community "prayer service", just like we did the night of the attacks. We had people in our church from at least 3 neighboring churches, which is all-too-often unheard of. It was very touching. All that day, we're also having a blood drive. In honor, in memory and because it's always needed.

Smilin...that souds like a very good way to show our love and rememberances. Jo

Tom,

I think your idea has merit, but I think that many people will reflect on that day, and may need to talk things out with others.

Perhaps, if someone does take a break from Dave's, even if only for an hour or so, he or she could find a local blood drive and donate their blood, or volunteer their time at a nursing home, or tutor a child in a school, or write a card to someone who needs encouragement....or....a host of things....

Can you imagine what this world would be like if each person took an hour per week to do something positive like some of the ideas mentioned above?

Just one hour....

I'm sure I'll be here, off and on anyway. I remember how many of us grouped together in the chat room that day. If it doesn't open then maybe folks could post words/thoughts and/or what they're doing or how they're dealing with it.

I first heard about the attacks here at DG and turned on the news. The people here were comfort in a time of stress and a reminder that there was still good in the world at a time when it seemed otherwise, I gave blood last week since it is my hope the blood banks woll be inundated on the 11th. But your idea was sweet and thoughtful. Sorry but I too will still be here to remember with my friends that no matter how horrid the hate can seem out there it cannot conquer the people who care.

We might not have an option, since the web will probably be strained to keep up with the traffic, but the garden is the best place to be in times of private and public turmoil. Here, you will find wise people, warm people, needy people, helpful people, sensitive people, practical people, funny people, brave people, well, people! At a time of such widespread emotional clamor, we need people. I live alone, and I like it, but at times I come here just for a hug. Or to find someone who needs one. It really is like being in a huge garden with friends who are constant and loyal. I rarely turn on a television, and this is where I am informed of events all over the world. If I ever decide to get something like Roadrunner for going online, it will be so I can keep DG on all the time. On 911-02, I might wear my grubbies, which have no particular color, but my red white and blue will be shouting from my core. I will probably do nothing in particular to mark the passing of the day, but I will be acutely aware of what it stands for, and to me, that says America, its people and its friends around the globe standing together, united in the eternal struggle for peace and good will. If we are to win against evil forces, it will be because we all communicated and shared our deepest fears and our highest goals.

Be sure to put your flags out, too. Everyone ought to have a flag and it needs to be flying HIGH.

We're Air Force, so I believe rather strongly about this.

Flag rules...
http://www.treefort.org/~rgrogan/web/flaglaw.htm
http://www.pueblo.gsa.gov/cic_text/misc/ourflag/titlepage.htm

Got mine ready, Carla!!! I fly it for all occasions...and for my granddaughter who is aboard the USS Abe Linclon right now. Jo

I know that I will want to be here, even for a short time, on September 11. But, honestly, I don't know whether I will be able to. The pain goes very deep. Like many others, I knew (casually, from work) one of the victims who crashed in PA, and I know my thoughts will be of her, her daughter and young granddaughter who were on the plane with her. But mostly I will be thinking of, and praying for, the survivors; the survivors of the attack; and the victims' family and loved ones who are left to carry on without them.

I am going to spend some time at one of our city schools that day; the school will not allow any of the children to participate in the moment of silence that has been publicly requested without an authorized adult to sign the child out of school, then back in afterward. So much for the freedom to allow children to participate in our nation's remembrance.

Tom, I would like to say something. I understand your intent, it is what you would like to do on that day to show respect.
I may be lurking more than posting here as of late due to pressure on my own personal time. I was here on 9-11 of last year. And Dave opened the chat room we all were there together, consoling one another. It was the first time that I reached out online to make some sort of sense of the terror I felt that day. I will always remember Dave , for having that option open to us that day.
Maybe we all need to deal with it in different way.
I found it to be the case on that date of last year.
Michele

Tom, you are certainly free to voice your opinion and do as you choose, but I, too, was here last year on September 11 and it was very comforting. Correct me if I'm wrong, but didn't Dave keep the chat room open for several days following the attacks? And yes, it is comforting to be with family which is what the DG folks are to me. And I agree with you Peggy, I think it's wonderful when Dave opens the chat room during stressful times so that we can be together. Right now, I have no specific plans for the 11th but I'm sure I will be here at some point. My thoughts this week have been and will be with the victims families. I cannot imagine what they must be going through at this time. My flag flies everyday, weather pending, and has for years. God bless all!

I wasn't here (at DG) that day, but was at work with people that I don't really feel close to. It will be heartwarming to hear from friends I've made at DG on the anniversary of that day. I will be sure to have some quiet reflective time of my own, but I think I will appreciate being surrounded by caring friends that I've met since then at DG. I remember the day after, I was moving from my home of 25 years. (due to a divorce) I was packing up and watching the TV and crying for myself and for everyone that suffered that horrible tragedy! I believe that we find comfort in each other and will be thankful for it.
Love to all of us!!!

I'm sure everyone will choose their own personal way of spending this anniversary of tragedy and heroism.

Personally, my TV will be turned off.

I listened to the tragedy unfold via radio at work. I watched the heroism unfold when I returned home. I watched until regular programming dared to resume. I watched and read updates for 12 months. I was reminded of the loss with Diane Sawyer and the babies.

I've cried..Oh how I've cried.

I can't watch this happen again.

Shurrlebunny, I know exactly what you mean! I don't want to forget that day but I don't think that would ever be possible any more than I could forget hearing that Kennedy had been assassinated or seeing the first moonwalk. but it will take many years before I will be able to remember it without the pain. It is just too soon to look upon those images. Like the grief of losing a loved on needs time to heal, so do we as a nation need time and each of us must learn to handle our grief in our own manner. Some will choose to relive it and others will shut off the media and try to get through the day in as normal a fashion as possible. For me it will be the latter.

I will be at work on the 11th,, but we will have the TV in the coffee room on all day for us to go in and out. We talked about this, and came to the conclusion that we, as government employees, need to see the updates and progress that's been made in the last year. This is still unsettled, and we cannot let it become a distant memory, since Homeland Security is very much an issue that our country is still dealing with.

Please don't misunderstand me Joan, and others. I keep up with the current news. I just don't feel the need too actually SEE it again. That image has already been burned into my memory.

Oh shuttlebunny, I didn't misunderstand you, and I can see your point too. I was just stating what I will be doing and why. If I wasn't a government employee, I would probably not want to watch it either.

I almost never watch TV; my father had been listening to the radio when the first plane hit. He asked me to turn on CNN to find out what was going on; the radio didn't make a lot of sense to him. I was one of the (apparently) few who was watching CNN at the time. I also can never forget what I saw. I can hardly bear to think of it.

The newsreader was talking to some idiot, making inane comments about how the first plane to hit was probably due to pilot error, and here came the second plane, right in camera view. As this newsreader was blathering on, the second plane hit. It took several long seconds for these "experts" to figure out anything else was happening; they were more concerned with trying to assure everyone that the first plane was not anything major. I immediately turned over to CBS. I was crying, horror-stricken, and in a state of numb shock. I continued to sit there most of the day, my arms around my mother, we desperately tried to comfort each other. The world didn't end, but the way that I looked at the world changed slightly that day; a few days later when I realized that someone I knew had been on the PA plane changed me even more.

I need others around me that I can help. I also need others around me that can help me. I hope Dave does open the chat room the whole day Wednesday, and maybe Thursday. I know that I cannot bear to watch any of the images again on TV; I saw a few seconds of it this morning when my Dad was watching the national news, and it devastated me again. Just too raw. Joan, you must be so strong to be able to go to work Wednesday knowing the images are going to be there all day. I will be praying for all my friends that day, especially the ones here. I will do my best to check in at least once, but I know for myself that I will best handle my pain by doing something to help others. We all have to find the best way of coping and going on.

I also am going to be doing a lot of special praying for military and their families. Many of my friends are family of military, active and reserve, who have been sent overseas in the past year. And also to the rescue workers who know the possibilities they face every day and still face them. For us. Very special blessings on all of them, also.

I to will be on and off, DG has become a big part of my healing durning this last year and I can't think of a better place to be.

Everyone here is my family, that will never change, and what a way to spend the day than to be with the ones I hold dear to my heart.

I'm alone this year for September 11th so this will be home, for prayers, a shoulder to cry on if I need one.

Your idea has merit but holds no water for me, DG is the place to be.

Your gardening friend Mike