How would you handle this??

What would you do if you had written a e/mail to one of your dearest friends, and when you opened your address book and clicked on the address, you accidently clicked on the wrong one...therefore sending the e/mail to someone else? (which you had only talk to about a plant trade)
As the reciever of this wrong e/mail what would your responce be?

that happened to me one time. i had to apologize to both, immediately after realizing my mistake. i was lucky both parties understand the situation. that happened to me when i am too tired. boy, did i learn from that lesson. this time, prior to writing an email, i try to be sure i got the address right prior to writing. was i embarrashed when that happened. hope never again!

If I got the wrong message (it has happened to me, not often, but sometimes) I forward it back to the originator with a message that I got it instead. Usually good for a laugh.

I have written to the wrong person (a total stranger) instead of the correct person for about 3 months (blush). After a while this person wrote me back saying (nicely) that I was writing to her instead of my niece. I felt stupid, but at least understood why I hadn't heard from my niece!

If you have done it, don't feel bad. We all do, occasionally.

Kathy

As I recall, someone did send me a message meant for someone else. The first thing I thought was that it meant their computer was infected. But I think, don't quote me as I am trying to recall accurately, that I wrote and asked about it, as I was totally puzzled. Got back something like, "sent wrong, don't worry about it." So I forgot about it, as you can readily see. I feel sure it was sent to its intended recipient, whose name is lost to me along with most details.

Yep, I'd just reply back with the original note attached and add a little *giggle* to set them at ease. I don't think I've ever done this, but if I have or ever did I would sure like for the receiver to let me know! LOL!

hehehe, just don't hit "reply" instead of "forward" Yep, I've done it, and boy was I red-faced (shoot, I think I was red down to the tips of my toes.)

Yes, the person sent it back, and yes I wrote an abjectly apologetic note back to them. Because (of course), what I had added to the original email was never meant for them to see.

As we used to tell employees when email was still a new tool: before you send an email, does it pass the "three-person test"?

1. Would you be embarassed if the company president received a copy of it? (Because he/she might); and
2. Would you be embarassed if the person being discussed received a copy of it? and (maybe the hardest test)...
3. Would you be embarassed if your mom received a copy?

Answer yes to any of the above, and you might want to tweak it before you hit "send" :)

OK now, let me give you all some more info on this incident.
The person that recieved my e/mail was someone I was in the middle of a trade with. This person knew of my hard times and even posted to my prayer request. This person knew I was unable to finish my end of the trade b/c of my dh being out of work now for about a month...well, I was told in the return e/mail from this person, that "their name wasn't ______ it was so and so and they are the ones that sent me a $8.00 box of plants and got nothing in return! it went on to say something about me not even having 50cents for the cost of the stamp!!!! I was sooo hurt by this b/c I have been soo low on money that the cost of a priority box full of plants has been out of the question for me. As if I didn't feel bad enough about not being able to send it, I had it rubbed in my face once again. Sooo as bad as I felt, I started scrapping up change and pennies out of the sofa and I got the box of plants sent off to them! But then I had to more or less hide it from my dh that I even had this money b/c afterall it would have bought a loaf of bread. But anyway the box has been sent and I hope that this person NEVER has to deal with the kind of hardship that me and my family have been thru this last month, and I really hope the person who recieves the plants will be happy with them too.
Sorry to unload all this on ya'll, but after seeing how you all would have responded to my e/mail that was sent asstray it makes me feel like this person surely didn't "think" before they clicked send!

Oh MollyBee, that kind of response to a errant email is simply uncalled for, but knows what might being going on in that person's life to cause such an unkind reaction. Try not to take it too personal. You never know what might be going on in the background for that person and maybe they were just lashing out at a safe target. I've received emails meant for other people quite a bit over the years. I just reply back to them that they have the wrong person. I never thought about adding the *giggle* - that's a nice touch.

(((Molly)))

I'm so sorry this happened to you Molly! I am praying that things get better for you soon.

Molly, I would have probably done just what you did and sent the package. It just shows what a good, honest person you really are to fulfill your part of the trade under such a financial hardship. On the other hand if I was the person on the other end of the trade and was aware of your situation I would have told you not to worry about your end of the trade and someday when you were back on your feet you could send me those plants. Unless someone has had to scrape up change to buy bread or milk and wonder how in the world to pay the electric bill, mortgage, household bills and still have something to eat when you know the money just won't stretch that far I'm afraid that they just won't understand the severity of your problem. I went through a similar situation three years ago and almost had a nervous breakdown.I can't even imagine having to worry about sending plants through the mail before buying food to eat.

My thoughts are....why couldn't it have been one of ya'll? one of the more understanding ones, that wouldn't have been so ugly about the whole thing? I guess maybe there is a lesson to be learned here for the both of us, I just hope they have learned their lesson the easy way instead of the hard way like me. I truely feel for people who don't have it made in the shade as some would say, b/c I am there now and I tell ya it ain't no picnic! This was the only trade that I had ever not been able to follow thru with and I tell ya, it was really getting to me. I mean I couldn't even come here and see the name without feeling guilty about the whole thing...but the trade is complete now and I am going to take a break from any more trading for while. and if that person is reading all this, let me just say again I am sorry that I couldn't and didn't fill my part of the trade sooner.

This reminds me of a girl that i worked with that sent a "when you get home i'm gonna do this to you" kind of letter, right down to what she was going be wearing when she met him at the door (nothing)...she accidentally sent it to her pastor, rofl..

Woohoo! I hope he didn't take it to the pulpit, but kept it to himself. Several errant messages have reached me, and I always think it's a test of my honesty which I don't want to fail. Fortunately, a poor memory kicks in and I don't have to work at forgetting it entirely. What a thrill for a man of the cloth, who usually sees only the virtuous side of his members.

MB don't worry yourself about it, you know what they say...what goes around comes around.
I am so sorry that you had to experience this type of thing, and if you had sent that to me I would have done as the others and sent a message back to you letting you know that you sent it to the wrong person.
I know what you mean by hard times and please just let this go, it won't do you any good to let this person hurt you so. Just pray for them and put it in God's hands, I promise you he will handle it for you.
(((BIG HUGS)))

Thank you so much Kit, you're such a sweetheart.

(((((((Mollybee))))))) I wish too that it had been somebody who was more understanding that sometimes things happen that are beyond our control and that you would make good on it later when you are back on your feet. Please don't let it bother you any more because she or he isn't worth worrying about. AND now they have their plants too. Wish I could help you more because I know that this time too will pass. My DH was laid off for more than three years in the early 80's and couldn't even find a job pumping gas. So I certainly know how it is to have to stretch every penny. Just realize that you are not alone in this and many of us are praying for you and yours. With Love from your DG friend, Lani

((((((((Mollybee!)))))))) Bless your heart! I wish it would have been mistakenly sent to one of us, too! Just take heart in knowing that you did nothing wrong, girlfriend!

Ya'll are soo sweet and understanding. I guess venting all this out in the open has made me realize that I did the right thing and I will let it pass now. Thank you all for being so kind and understanding of me, ya'll are the best!!

Honey we do understand and wish you nothing but the best.

*Ü* Thank you wind! you're a sweetheart!!

Any time and your welcome.

Molly try to put this out of your mind and just pray for the person. ((((HUGS))))

O trust me I have, I think that once I got it out in the open and saw how other people would have responded, it took a little bit of the edge off of it for me.
Thanks (((Ruth)))

I am really sorry that I spotted this post. The content is not completely accurate. This trade was conducted weeks and weeks ago before any tragedy. I sent the plants and quite some time later I inquired and got a lengthy e-mail about problems with the neighbor. When I inquired about a week later I got an abrupt reply with the prayer request hyperlink (to which I responded). I understand hard times as well as anyone so I stopped inquiring about the trade. Then I received the mysterious e-mail to which I took offense because of its content and language. My response to it was not mean but I was a bit sarcastic at that point. I advised that she had the wrong person and I didn't appreciate the language and she should be more careful in the future. By the way, I still don't have any plant.

Ya know my "tragedy" has been happening for quiet sometime now, and YES it was during the same time as our trade was in process. There was a problem with the neighbor and when I told you about it, you seemed to understand. "The content and language" of my mysterios e/mail?? First of all the ONLY word that might have been used out of content was the word "p***ed off" and I wasn't talking to you when I said it. Its not like the e/mial was sent to you on purpose, it was by mistake!!!!!!! And YES your response to my "mysterous" e/mail was mean and sarcastic. Your plants were mailed last week and you should recieve them soon.
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