I wanted to let you know that my mother, Diane/Makshi, passed away this morning.
She loved this Forum, and cared about many of you.
She has been sick for a while.
If this is posted in the wrong area, could some please place it where it needs to go?
If my mom owed anyone product, postage, etc., please e-mail me at masinindy@aol.com.
Thank you for making her life better. :)
Her son,
Andy Simmons
Andy,
I'm so sorry to read of Diane's passing.
I was fortunate to have her as my 'buddy' in a swap.
Sending you and your family my thoughts and prayers during this difficult and sad moment.
Jaye
I think we still have a Memory Garden forum for friends on DG who have
passed on. You might contact Admin to get that entry made for
Diane/Makshi.
I am sorry, Andy, for the loss of your mother.
Not in the wrong place. Thank you for letting us know. She'll be missed. ;-(
Andy,
I'm so sorry for your loss, my prayers are with you and your family.
Cedar
Andy,
I am sorry for the loss of your mother. It brought tears to my eyes to see that you understood just how much joy her flowers/plants and this forum brought to her. It takes a very good son to post on here and offer to tie up the loose ends, tho I doubt very seriously that anyone here would want to you worry about any loose ends. Our friends here are normally very good people, as your mother was. She will be missed and I'm grateful to know that she had you in her corner.
Tracey
so sorry for your loss you and youe family are in my prayers
Andy, thank you for letting us know about your Mom. Your news makes me very sad - she was a beautiful lady and well loved here at Dave's. She will be missed. I pray for healing for you and your family during this sad time. You're a good son I'm sure she was very proud of!
Kelly
This message was edited Jul 31, 2010 10:43 PM
Here is the link to the Memory Garden.
http://davesgarden.com/community/forums/f/deceased/all/
When And and his family are ready, this is a lovely way to
establish a memorial on Dave's Garden for a loved one who
had many friends here over the years.
So sorry to hear of Diane's passing. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Debbie
I'm so sorry for your loss ,thoughts and prayers are with you and your family ,Thank you for letting us know please take care ...Sharon
I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your mom, Andy. I treasure the lovely flowers I got from her a few years ago. She will be remembered with great fondness for her generosity, courage, and her wonderful nurturing spirit. Bless your family.
Bev
Andy,
I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your Mom. Please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Debbie
I'm so sorry for your loss. Thank you for letting us all know. We were happy to know your mother and will keep you all in our prayers.
Kathy
i traded with makshi years ago and i still remember how generous she was. she will be missed. andy, i too am impressed at what a fine man she raised.
Prayers being said for your family during this difficult time. Thank you so much for letting us know.
May God hold you in His arms and grant you peace.
genna
Thank you guys.
It is so hard, she is the first person I realllly knew who passed away, and I am 40!
I lost my grandparents, and I Loved them, and my father, who I had very minimal contact with, but no one as close to being part of my heart and soul as she has been.
I am cleaning out the house slowly, and I find things she swore I had put in storage or placed somewhere, and they were in her dang bottom dresser drawer! LOLOLOLOL
I laugh at that stuff.
She was a good woman, and a GREAT person.
Thank you all for the love you have shown for her.
I just wonder how long before I feel like my soul and heart aren't being ripped out of me.
Andy (pic of mom and sister Becki)
I've been thinking about you, Andy. It's good that you're keeping busy and can find moments in between the tears to laugh. Your mom would want that.
I don't think there's any loss quite like losing a mother.
Kathy
Andy,
my prayers and thoughts have been with you during the last few days.Your mother was a most wonderful person which many members enjoyed including me.It hurts like nothing else when one loses a mother. I can totally relate and feel for you.Take care,
Brigitte
PS:
My mother died several years ago and I was just asked yesterday in the new lily co-op interest thread about my screen name and that's what I replied today.
"Becky,you made a remark somewhere above about liking my name.Eglantyne is a English Rose by David Austin and my mother loved that rose so much before she died so I decided not only to grow that rose always but to use this on here as my screen name and my email.She died several years ago but I still miss her dearly "
Andy,
Many of us are praying for you as you go thru this difficult time......I lost my father 12 yrs ago and my Mom 8 years ago .....and I still miss them so much!! IF ONLY there were phones in heaven so we could at least talk to them (well, and HEAR a reply)..... I will not be one who tells you that time heals the pain, but I will say that with time, you become harder, or more immune to the pain. Personally, I think the pain is always there, but it is like a bum knee or a ache ....you just get used to it and it becomes part of who you are and isn't quite as sharp. Not sure if that makes any sense, but I still have days where I completely fall apart....... but most days, things are better.
May God hold you close during this difficult time and grand you peace. You definitely have to laugh at somethings to help overcome the pain.....
Blessings to you,
genna
Thank you for the support guys.
I am going through all kinds of emotion; from having cheerful moments where I do not think about her for a while (the GUILT involved when I realize this is horrendous!); 1am walks with my moms' 17 year old Rott/Dobie mix, Amy (my mom got her when she was 10 weeks old), where I want to just rip my face off and throw myself in the street, I miss her so much; just a roller coaster.
Days I look forward to the future.
Nights I BEG god to let me die in my sleep.
It is awful.
I should be okay, but it hurts so much sometimes, it is not fair.
I know she wants me to be happy, and she would occasionally say I would be better off when she was gone because I would be able to "get on with my life".
I will never be "better off" without her. Period.
Thanks again for the love,
Andy
Pic is of mom and my sister Becky.....
Many gentle hugs, Andy. I went through ALL those emotions, too, when my mom passed away. I still miss her terribly but I have made a place for her and she's with me every day whether I think of her or not.
There are no SHOULDS, Andy. What you're going through is very similar to what others have gone through. Do not feel guilty for getting through this; it's what you're supposed to do and it doesn't mean that you didn't love your mother with all your heart.
Just remember to breathe and try not to judge yourself and others too much during this time. Grief doesn't make sense - it's just something to get through.
I go through the same every day - cry when I least expect it and then find myself laughing later and wondering how I can laugh when my heart still hurts. You're not alone.
Thank goodness we have pictures and memories.
Hugs to you.
Thanks guys.
I will go for long periods not thinking of her, then feeling guilty for not being consumed with thoughts of her constantly. :(
I cannot look at pics of her without crying, and that makes me feel bad too, hiding all of her pictures.
Andy,
I know that it's only natural to grieve and grieve hard so soon after a loss like this. Guilt is part of the grieving process unfortunately, however knowing the kind spirit and generosity of your mom I know she would want you to enjoy your life. I hope that you can find a support group around to find others experiencing what you are so you will know that this is personal and normal. Grieving a loved one is a process, not an event. Peace to you.
Bev
Go easy on yourself. Guilt accomplishes nothing.
You were a good son and you loved your mother wholeheartedly. That was all she wanted from you and that was what you gave her.
Remember, she has lost loved ones too, so she knows how you feel. And she doesn't want you to create guilt where none is necessary. She knows that it's important for you to start to feel better.
Remember to keep checking on the good things. There will come a time when you're not so numb and when the flowers smell good again, puppies are cute again, music makes you dance again. That's okay - that's how it's supposed to be.
It doesn't mean you loved your mother any less.
Hugs,
Kathy
My mom had been gone for a year when I decided to go through some old papers of hers. I thought I had the whole grieving thing behind me. Inside the box of papers was one of her old ankle socks. I pulled it out and immediately began to cry again.
I made a memorial garden for her and my dad and DHs parents and I go there everyday and talk to them. It helps. A few days ago, I took my new granddaughter out to meet them. I don't know how she felt, but I felt they were watching.
Don't beat yourself up. Your mom knew you loved her. She knew then and she knows now.
We need "like" buttons for posts . . . :-)
You made me smile. ^_^
Good. ^_^
DITTO!
