You and your family arrive home late one night to find your puppy messed in his kennel, you know you have to get the kids to bed but you need to clean the kennel and give the puppy a bath. You're a little ticked at the puppy but is it really his fault he couldn't hold it for 5 hours? I mean come on he's only 4 months old...anyway.....your spouse takes the initiative to clean the kennel...
so you choose to????.......
A) Give the puppy a bath
B) Get the kids ready for bed
C)Watch your spouse do all the work
D)Do nothing and go to bed
Would like to hear how you would handle it.
What would you do?
age of Kids? See if they can start getting ready & bathe puppy. Can't put dirty puppy in a clean kennel or job has to be done over again.
Kids are 6 and 2.
How old are your children? Can't you tell them you have a situation and they need to get in their pj's themselves for just tonight, and that you will be up to kiss them in a bit? If your husband is doing the gucky kennel, seems like you could pitch in and do the puppy. So the children's pj bottoms may be on backwards for one night. I don't think they will feel neglected or unloved. And I don't know how big the breed is, but I can wash my retriever in the shower in about 15 minutes. This doesn't seem like a huge deal.
Ok since I'm getting so many questions...here's the deal....
I did it all my hubby did nothing said good night and went to bed!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Obviously a 2 yr old has to be put to bed by Mom. Sorry you had to do all the work. next time out could you have someone puppy sit?
This is the 1st accident the pup has had in weeks so it was a total surprise. We just won't stay out so long next time.
So when hubby said "Good night" I called him a donkey's butt and then he doesn't get me anything for Valentine's Day!!!
Can you believe this guy??? What the heck???
Don't worry--DH never gets me anything for Valentine's Day, just another day for him. He would have cleaned the puppy, though. His parents raised Labradors.
hee hee
Some men just aren't perfect. If it were me I'd of preferred DH go to bed. He woulda made a bigger mess cleaning the kennel or the dog.
3g what do you mean men aren't perfect? just ask us we'll tell you :)
jen sorry about your fight - he should have leant a hand
The weird thing is that I should be mad at him and he's the one that doesn't give me something for V-day. I don't get it???
You never will, you never will...
^_^
Your husband and I would not get along. He would probably hate me :-) You know the song Blondie song.....
One way or another, I'm gonna find ya'
I'm gonna get ya', get ya', get ya', get ya'
One way or another, I'm gonna win ya'
I'm gonna get ya', get ya' ,get ya', get ya'
One way or another, I'm gonna see ya'
I'm gonna meet ya', meet ya', meet ya', meet ya'
One day maybe next week, I'm gonna meet ya'
I'm gonna meet ya', I'll meet ya'
what did you give him for Valentines?
and that's the reason I won't have kids... I would be doing both as well
You should have wrapped up the uncleaned kennel and given it to him on Valentines Day.^_^
bring the puppy to bed and tell DH to sleep in the kennel? that sounds fair to me!
seriously though, I would have been very po'd if my husband pulled something like that -
if I asked for assistance and he went to bed without helping.....he's definately sleeping in the kennel!
I would have put the kids to bed. To me that is most important.
Jen, does he resent the dog? the kids? Or is he just incredibly selfish?
Most men have come a long way.
sorry for your trouble.
dave
Paul and I don't have kids, but we do have 4 "fur"kids. Until I switched over both dogs to a raw-prey model diet, if Theta ate something she had a lot of gastric upset, if Iris at something she would have the same laxative affects...we later found out that both dogs have a gluten/corn allergen. A number of times we would get back from dinner, or visiting with family...and the odor would hit us as soon as we walked through the front door. Paul would take both dogs out, I would clean up the crates, and then Paul would hold the dogs while I administered the pups medicine. We worked as a team on this. Personally, if Paul went to bed and didn't help, he may have rolled over to a very, um, "sweet" smelling surprise!
Side note, since switching the dogs diet to the raw-prey model, no future outbreaks (pun intended) have occurred!
I think my DH would have opted for putting kids to bed in that situation. He's not good with gross stinks and messes. Mom's seem to have a better tolerance for bodily fluids up to a certain point.
I'd certainly kick his behind for not helping you! I think he owes you BIG TIME!!!!
Deb
jen - do not let him know about all this advice your getting - it can only make the situation worse.
Did you actually come right out and ask for help? Most couples make one big mistake at the beginning of their relationship. I am among them although it was many years ago and we have corrected it. There is a good rule to go by: the other person cannot read your mind. I have found this particularly true with those of the male persuasion. (Sorry guys) This does go both ways however and you must tell them you need help. You must tell him it bugs you that you get no V Day present. Gathering up all these little slights or perceived slights can be very bad after a length of time. Do not discuss these little annoyances when you are angry and spout a list of grievances that happened months earlier. Basically talk to each other. For what is worth that is my advice. Now if you ask for help and the answer is no, then a nice hard wamp with the pillow is certainly justified and a reissue of your request made, maybe not so much in the form of a request.
good advice - however i have one correction it is the women's mind that can't be read and this is proven fact :)
Ha Bill, that's what I meant. You guys are not wired to do that. You are problem solvers, but we need to tell you the problem. Sometimes however we want you to just listen to how we feel and agree. Distinguishing between the two is the trick. :)
this morning my wife tells me that her tub did not drain from the night before - i go in there while she is having breakfast and just open the drain again and it drains - i go take a quick shower and she pops her head in and says thanks!! - she goes off into her bathroom - i get dressed and ready to leave for work and step in to give her a kiss goodbye - and she says thanks again FOR TAKING TOO LONG IN THE SHOWER - go figure - it cracked me up though
Ok Yes I guess I made the mistake of not outright asking him to help, but when I asked "you're going to sleep???" I have to work in the morning was his reply....
I gave him a card with a coupon for a back massage.
flowerjen - I have the opposite problem - my DH wants to help with everything . . . basically he treats me and the girls as though we are mentally deficient.
Clearly, there are times when this is advantageous. For instance, DH assumes we are not competent to paint a wall or put up wallpaper. No problem. He does it all. He also does all the vaccuming and washes the floors. Apparently, whatever we do isn't good enough. Now, he isn't mean about it; he doesn't belittle us or anything - though his kindness does come off as rather patronizing.
On the other hand, it always amazes him when we (I and/or the girls) actually get something right that he gets wrong. It's pretty funny. Once I tried to explain to him an easy way to match coving (decorative wall trim) at a corner. He had tried several times to cut the ends at a 45 degree angle - but you really need a coving saw for that. Anyway, he only decided to use my solution when he saw it on the internet ('cause a solution on the 'net by a total stranger clearly has a better chance of being practical than anything I could suggest!)
Even funnier is when he starts lecturing me about certain social phenomena - and I have to remind him (1) I have a Ph.D. in the subject, and (2) I teach it to college students every day.
What's a woman to do????
On the other hand - he always buys me chocolate at Valentine's Day
I'm perfect ;^)
lol Seandor....I had to buy my own box of Harry London chocolates today...half off!
Which half?
Dave would your wife agree?
ha ha
No!
But she loves me anyway.
I have met Dave47- he is very loveable.
Hmmm.