Sad about moving?

Hey guys. I just moved out of my parents house this weekend, and I thought I'd be really excited about it and ready to be out, but now I'm out and it's really pretty sad. Anyone have any experience with this? How long will it take for me to not be homesick anymore?

I mean, I am still excited somewhere inside, but I lived with my family for 24 years, so I miss them. I'm only 20 miles away, and I get to see them pretty much whenever.

Anyway. ANY advice about any of this would be very appreciated.

Thanks,
Deanna

Missing your parents and barely moved out...goes to show you how much you think of them..moving out 'sweetie' doesn't mean you'll never see them, of course you'll be lonesome..it's a whole new ballgame..

Because they live to close, look forward to visiting them a few times a week or having them over at the beginning so that transition isn't as you seem to think, 'cut and dry'..they miss you as much as you are missing them...

Don't know the telephone system, if it's long distance where you live, if not, call on a regular basis just to say 'hi'...it will make their day as well as making yours...

See what you can do (minimal cost) to make your place feel more like home..photo's of your family, photo of your parents/sibblings...give it a few weeks and you'll be fine...just don't think because you are now to your way of thinking 'on your own' because you children are never ALONE ... we parents regardless of what you think or see, are always in the background checking up on YOU..lol...my boys will be 39 and 40 this year, married, children of their own, but I'm still checking...

Know I didn't offer any earth shattering suggestions, but am sure it will help..

P.S. and you've got us just at the tip of your 'keyboard....'

Deanna,

My heart goes out to you!

I have had a experience that was not the same but I think the feelings are quite similar.

Moving from a state that I had lived in for 23 yrs (as an adult) to a whole new state. This took a giant leap of faith on my part. I was moving into the unknown. I was by myself, first time in my life also!

Mixed feelings!! Excited, sad, lonely, you name it.

BUT....it does get better. I think it's kind of a grieving process. It's part of 'growing up'.

Give your family a call, you can be sure they miss you terribly also!

carole

Thanks Carole and Betty. Things like this are exactly what I need to hear... more along the lines of this is normal and it will get better. I know my friends and boyfriend have told me that, but hearing it from people who have been there, done that is really reassuring.

We're not long distance phone-wise. We've talked on the phone several times and text messages too. Plus, I went home yesterday to watch my brother compete in a skateboarding competition. I'm planning on seeing them at least a couple of times a week.

I have some photos too, I just haven't gotten them all unpacked yet. :) Hopefully tonight.

Anyways,
Thank you.

I have to say your post made me smile. To be your age again and have such problems! But seriously, it's one of those rare moments in life when you can feel your life changing. That doesn't happen too often, changes are usually more subtle.

If you need to furnish your new place, call your parents and ask them to start setting aside things that they don't need and that could be useful to you. Then you will have some items with memories of home attached.

And don't worry about seeing the younger sibs. An older sibling with their own place attracts them like flies. Even when mine lived halfway across the country I would have them turning up on my doorstep unannounced well into grad school.

Get out your camera and take some photos of your old room, the house, the places you hung out. I wish I had done this when I had the chance. I have photos of the people, but not the spaces. (But I am very into spaces, that may not be interesting to most people.) You can scrapbook or frame them for your walls. Then it all won't be so far away.

Start getting into your new space and occupying yourself with that. Wander the neighborhood, introduce yourself to some neighbors.

I bet it's harder on your parents than it is on you. It's always easier to be the person leaving a situation than to be the one left behind.

Deanna, thought I'd check in on you to see if you are settled and doing well..am sure you've got the place almost looking like home..decorated with family portraits and your favorite thing...

Hey Betty. I'm getting better. I had a bad night last night, but it's improving. I have pictures hanging, and I got more frames last night to hang a few more photos.
It's really weird adjusting from living with parents, even as a 24 yr. old I still had rules, to all of a sudden being able to do anything and everything I wanted. It's weird to be able to not come home, or leave at 4 in the morning, or sit on my butt for 24 hours straight and have no one say anything to me. I still feel like I need to call my moma and tell her what I'm doing! Hahaha.

And thanks Andi. My new room is mostly like my old one, just a different color, with different colored bedding and missing a few pieces of furniture. And you're right about the changes. Everything usually happens so gradually that you don't really notice it's changed till it's done. Graduating college was kind of hard for me too, cause I went from a student to a grown-up in like 5 seconds. I've adjusted to that though :-P
Thanks for your thoughts!

Sounds as they you are adjusting..that's wonderful..actually it's kind of nice doing what you want to do when you want to do it without eye peering..funny thing is though, you still remember all the rules and regulations and what your parents taught you and you will still walk their line..

Enjoy..