I went for the gaud. LOL. My DH even told me to go nursery hopping, a first. So I went to my favorite place and bought whatever I wanted. The nursery always has the most perfect plants but they always charge double or triple what any other nursery would. So usually I just look. When I got home my DH asked me if I had found lots of fun things, and I said YES I DID!!! Fun and loud things. LOL His asking in such a nice way was a first too!!
This hibiscus was too spectacular to even look at....all that beauty.
I have never seen such hot PINK like this hot pink before.
And once I had the pink I had to get the red!
I had seen this very pink rubber tree last year at a nursery and regretted not getting it. I have been looking ever since.
Ok maybe I am missing something, but what was the sad part? The plants are beautiful! I have been tempted by that pink rubber tree, let me know how it does!
Right, April....what's so sad here.
Kell, are you keeping something from us?
Hap
Wow, awesome. That looks like stuff I would buy. I hope it brightened your day.
Oh Kell, those will look so beautiful on you. :) Hope you are all smiley now.
It did cheer me right up or at the least get my mind on PINK!!! LOL.
Oh the sad part was before the PINK plant part. The PINK plant part was the cheer up glum chum part. LOL! I had gone for my first visit to a grief counselor, being pushed to do so by husband. The visit had brought up so much sadness that I have been trying to push past and in the end it was a silly visit. The whole purpose was to evaluate you for pills, which I didn't realize before I went. Though the sales job on the pills was pretty good! They supposedly make you feel energized, stop you from eating much, have you sleep well, and feel happy. Heck, I may change my mind and say YES! YES! YES! LOL!! What was I thinking saying no? I bet they are PINK pills too. LOL
The coleus was one I have never seen before. I need to figure out which one it is.
hope you stay feeling cheery. You have had a rough 2 years but it will get better ;-)
And the name of that pill is????? Your flowers are gorgeous!
I'd like the name too.
Donna, your last 2 years have been pretty bad too! I hope you are doing much better too!!!
LOL. Prozac. This psychologist said Kaiser starts out everyone on Prozac. Wasn't there a book called Prozac Nation? I wonder if it really does all that? If it does, than just on general principle I should go on a high dose. LOL Anyone know if they are the color PINK? I wonder if grief can really be taken away by pills. Or is it a cheap way for an HMO to send you on your way with the least amount of care?
nope green or blue lol
Well that settles it then...no PINK, no pill. LOL
LOL Kell @ the no pink, no pill!!!
You came home with some beauties too. I'd sure be happy if I were nursery shopping and found all of those....you lucky girl. And to have a DH that loves you so much too. Time does heal all wounds.....it's just getting through all that time that is so difficult. I think of you so often and how things are troubling you and I'd just like to send you this
((((((Kell)))))
xoxoxoxoxoxo
Kell, there is a pink feel good pill similar to Prozac. Side effect.....most people gain 50-60 lbs on it. They're no longer depressed about whatever was making them sad, but now they're depressed about the weight gain!
That yellow hibiscus is sooooooooo pretty.
Ahhh, Kell, I was thinking of you, knowing that your visit to 'talk' was approaching. The blues usually send me in the garden, at least for that time, the colors and beauty of the things growing are a delight.
Friday I made 2 wedding bouquets, 8 flower hair arrangements and 16 bootineers for a wedding yesterday, what a joy to work with such beauty and create something from them. So at the wedding, I focused on my pretties and not the young couple that made me feel old....sigh.
PINK cheers to you!
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Kell, you got the very best cure for the blues at your favorite nursery. The plants are beauties. I just looked to see where you lived and see that we share the same birthday. Think mine was a number of years before yours, though.
By the way, I've used "pills" from a nursery for the same purpose.
It's a shame the names weren't on the plants. Sometimes the nurseryman will get them for you if you ask.
MotherNature
Hmmm. Feeling a little "blue" today since it's the holiday weekend and missing my hubby even though it was almost 4 1/2 yrs since he passed away. I think I'll get in my car and go to Home Depot and look for those "pink" pills. That should do the trick!
Hope your spirits are better now, Kell.
Barbara
Oh Kell, Talk to those plants instead, IMO pink plants are always the most comforting. Some cases are tough and may require a few more plants to truly help the patient feel better.
Seriously, I hope you can take comfort in knowing you have a lot of caring and understanding friends in the Garden. a
PINK sensations! Eye popping colors!!
Listen to ardesia, Kell....You know were are right here.....always.
Hap
Thanks everyone!! Lots of my most favorite people came to visit me on this thread too!!! It means a lot! You guys have been so supportive of me all year and I so appreciate it.
Oh Barbara. I bet you are so sad. I am so sorry. I can't give you any advice as I am failing miserably at this loss thing but I sure hope you are climbing out of the sadness hole. I keep reminding myself how great my life really is. I just need to let go of this for I can't change it. I hope you are at a point where you can enjoy your life again too, Barbara. I can't wait till I get back there.
And Hap I have thought of you often too, you had such a huge loss so recently. I hope you are doing OK too! Sadness sucks lemons.
Oh Sue, as if you are old, you young thing you! Did you take pictures of your creations? I bet they were all stunning. You have such great taste. And thank you for the great flower, as usual your picture is just gorgeous.
We will have to cybercelebrate this year together MotherNature. You know Sue here also was born on February 9th. How odd is that with 3 of us on this thread?
Thanks Ardesia too for your kind thoughts. Susie, another 50 pounds and my knees would collapse.
And who could stay sad with Brinda sending so many hugs and kisses. What a pal!!
Shirley, they are all so bright, I couldn't believe it!
Kell I got robbed at gun point about 8 years ago. I couldn't stop crying. I cried for days and weeks. The Dr. gave me Zoloft. It was pure heaven. I didn't have a care in the world and even lost 10 pounds without even trying. I never knew I was depressed untill I started taking them. I stopped taking them after a few months since you totally forget you had a sex life too ROFL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I did take Prozac to for a while on and off after that. I really should have gotten some after Katrina.
Things are slowly getting better for us I think.
My OB, some 46 years ago, advised some medication for me. I refused. He said, if I broke a leg I would use crutches, but when the leg healed, I would not need them. So use this crutch until you don't need it.
He was a very smart man....it is so true. An injured mind is taboo, but we think nothing about an injured leg!!! Think about it.
I am doing OK. Daddy is constantly on my mind and I am forever wanting to call him, which is strange. He has been deaf for years and I have not spoken to him on the phone for about 6 years. So why do I have this sudden urge to call? (Where are my Pills?) lol
We love you Kell.
Hap
Oh Happy, it must be so hard. You want to reconnect. Death is so final, it is scary. Makes me think I should get up and do something wonderful while I can. And thanks Hap, you know our talks always leave me in a better place.
Gosh Donna, sounds good. LOL. But my main concern is when you stop taking them too. All of a sudden would you get so depressed because you are not chemically being made to make endorphins or whatever mood elevators do to make you happy? I normally am such a happy person, I sure do not want to screw that up. My brain chemistry is pretty good normally. I never knew what a special gift I had before when I would wake up every day happy and so cheerful. I think that is what my husband misses most, my cheerfulness and sheer happiness to be alive. I am normally an enthusiatic person, ready for fun. I truly never knew what it meant to be so earth shattering sad before my Mom died.
Oh Donna, you have been thru so much. I do not know how you cope at all. But you keep going and make something good out of all the bad that has happened. You really are an inspiration!
Kell, I think you have a misconception of the pills. They do not Make you happy, they allow you to cope with your life better and dull some unnecessary pain. With all the nonsense gone, You make You feel happy. They get you on the right track and motion forward. Don't be afraid of a sudden let-down, your doctor would not allow that for that would put in right back where you started....Not Good..
Give them a chance....what do you have to lose? The doctor will start you out on a low dose and then increase as/if necessary. If you have a reaction, then he will take you off and perhaps try you on something else. There are many medicines out there for this type of problem. One may work for me and not for you. There is a certain amount of trial and error, I know from personal experience. Just don't get discouraged.
My prayers are will you.
Hap
Kell once you take them you will know if the depression is returning. You will know what it feels like and when you need to get back on them for a few months. I took them for about 2 years. Then went off for about 6 months back on for a few months. Did that on and off for about 2years and have been off for them for about 5 years. Don't know how I have been through all I have been through without going back on them but I made it through. Kept telling myself I was going to go get some after the hurricane but just never made it to the Dr to get them lol. The worst is over now so just praying everything is up hill from here.
Good luck to you Donna. Depression is a horrible thing.
Kell, have you seen the ad/commercial or whatever it is about Depression Hurts, on TV. There is a link to go to, depressionhurts.com. Give is a shot.
((((((((((((((((( KELL))))))))))))))))))))
I am so sorry about your loss, I didnt know know you losing your Mom.
Kell what you are going though is normal after you lose someone you love, some days you will feel good other times, all you want to do is cry ,etc it took me over a year to get over my brother death. I lost my mom and dad as a little girl of 5 when I lost my mom 6 when I lost my dad.
Now with my strokes I was real depressed and the doctor gave me some pills which I think now I should have been on since my6 1st stroke in 1999 .
I have been on this pills for 1 1/2 years and the girls (my 2 daughters) say how wonderful it is to hear my happy voice once again, they said I had sounded so sad for the last 5 years since my 1st stroke. I know I would cry over everything and anything. Now when I had this stroke Easter Sunday
I wasnt crying like before. Go talk with your Pastor at church that helps also.
But what you need most of all is time to heal your broken heart from your loss.
Elva
Elva, you have been through so much. But you gave Kell some wonderful advise. Kell, sweetheart, are you listening?
Hap
Kell... Pink hugs to you.
A month ago I wouldn't have understood as well how bad grief can be. Since I lost my brother I have a lot of those days when I need to go shopping. I never know what is going to bring on the tears.
But I am happy that I loved him enough to cry.
I know the hard days will get better for each of us who has suffered the loss of someone we loved so much.
Mother has been on Paxil for several years and it has made a world of difference in her emotional health
Hugs to you.
Betty
You guys are all the best. I really appreciate all your stories and advice. I guess how you cope with loss determines how good your life is going to be. Hap and I have had this conversation in the past.
When my Dad died 3 years ago June, I did OK. I think the difference here is the way my Mom died and why she died. Sheer malpractice over and over again. 3 months of torture. I keep reliving it over and over again, wishing I had somehow grasped the big picture at the time and acted accordingly. I would do anything if my mother had died right away and not gone thru it all. My husband says there is nothing to be changed so I need to stop dwelling on it. But it was so horrific I just can't. I keep seeing her whether my eyes are shut or opened. My biggest regret is I didn't intervene in a meaningful way, though at the time I thought I was.
Though thru sheer malpractice, her premature death was made inevitable a year before she died, so really the main things I could have and should have done for my Mother was insist she be transferred out of that place or at least be well medicated so she would sleep thru it all but instead I listened to their reasons why she shouldn't be.
I think there is a difference between great sadness and being depressed, but I am not sure. I am also very angry over what happened, no living being should ever have to suffer like that over such a prolonged period. My only comfort is that my Mother finally did die and escaped from that hospital and from those people. She was 87 and was ready. Every time I would go home to stay with her before the doctors got her so sick, she would say she hoped she would die during my visit so I could be with her. How I wish she had.
Anyway, I think I will reconsider but I am still not sure how it changes things once I stop taking it. But maybe enough time will have passed that I will not dwell on it all as much. I will tell you I need a break from it all and so does my husband. He feels helpless that he can't help me. This should be the happiest time of our lives, everything is going so right. We have no problems and no worries at all. And you know that blessed state will not last forever!
Betty, I am so sorry you too are so sad. I hope you can find some peace. That flower is one of the prettiest I have ever seen. Thank you for sending it my way.
And Elva, I hope you recover completely soon. I am so glad you found medication that really helps your outlook. You have been thru so much. Thank goodness for your 2 girls. Your whole life must have been so tough losing your parents so young.
Kell you need to make a trip to Mississippi in November lol. Kick back on the porch in the rocking chair or swing, relax, and watch all the woodland creature go by
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Yes Kell we had a very poor and hard upbring we were blessed to have had grandparents (on my mom's side) that raised all seven of us the youngest being 2 years old when my dad was killed crossing the street by a 18 wheeler who's driver was drunk and didnt make the stop sign.my Mom died from burns she recived when our house burned down as did a little 3 year old sister. she saved me and my 2 brothers.
Your case I beleive isnt so must depression as it is grief and feeling helpless and the anger also is part of the griefing..thou I know its too soon, talking to a pastor and talking to friends , just venting and that anger will leave , but as in all things we must be able to forgive , as hard as it seems when my brother was killed (shot to death) in Houston ,by a burlger I felt so much anger towards this person and even God at the time I was mad at just about everyone,whomever it might have been as of now they havent a clue as to who did it. but in my heart and though prayer I forgave this stangter whomever he may be and my life changed for the better. I never took any meds at that time either.. It was only after my 2nd stroke that I started taking this tho I have had 2 more strokes since than (last one was Easter Sunday) my emtions were more under control as you now with stroke our emtions are all messed up and we cry at the drop of a hat.
Time will help and your DH can help by just being there to listen when you feel like talking or just to hold you close when you dont feel like talking and just need to be understood .. it will work out Kell , I will pray for you. But only forgiving will help you to be yourself. grieving is very hard, but be thankful you had your mom for 87 wonderful years..grieving has so mant stages you have to go though but you will one day at a time.
May the Lord give you the stenght to get over your loss.
Elva
WOW, this is some thread. Soooooo much love here.
I have been on Prozac since 1991 and I has been a life saver for me. I have tried all the others and nothing works except Prozac. I asked my therapist if I would have to take this for the rest of my life and she sort of looked at me and asked "are you going to suddenly stop being bipolar one day?" So I probably will be on it and several other medications for various reasons, but it does make my life much better and I know that. So I have decided to live with that and take my meds. If I don't I would never get out of bed.
I'm sorry that some of you have lost your dear loved ones and I hope that things get better for you soon.
Jesse
Thanks, Jesse.
You keep well, too.
Hap
